10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Falling Into Secret Sexual Sins: Failure To Develop Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, and Physical Strength Resistance.

As time progress, leaders must be watchful in all things. When coming out of the snares of sexual sins, they must learn themselves in the natural. As long as we are alive on this planet, it is a smart thing to learn your sexual tendencies, habits, patterns, practices, rituals, and routines.

The smarter you become about how you are tempted, the better you are able to develop resistance against the next level of temptation. As you have engaged in sin, you have incorporated unhealthy sexuality. Now that you have come from the darkness into the light of Christ, you now have to incorporate healthy sexuality in terms of choices and decisions.

As The Preacher said, “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven…a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing.”

The half brother of the Lord Jesus, James, tells us that we are to “Submit ourselves therefore to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

Peter says, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, stedfast in the faith…”

As you put distance from the last time you’ve grieved the Lord, you should not waste time waiting to be tempted to get ready. As soon as the last sin is over, your mind and body is planning a comeback. When habits, patterns, and routines aren’t broken, then the mind plans another round of sin.

That’s where you will find that your repentance has sticking or staying power or you were just playing.

Repentance is always the starting point after sin, but very few make an aggressive plan to fight the next temptation. When your sin is still “fresh in you flesh,” these are the most difficult moments to make a stand. That’s why you have to identify “trigger mechanisms” that set things off in your mind and flesh to start you down the path of resuming business as usual.

If you are married, porn and masturbation went from recreation to “can’t live without it.”

So, lets start with breaking this sin first. You repent. You sensed that the Lord forgave you. You receive forgiveness and you feel like a new man. You promise not to sin that sin again.

Now what?

You now set yourself to keep that promise.

Psalm 119:9-11 says….

“How shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your Word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh, let me not wander from Your commandment. Your Word have I hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.”

How are you going to stop from breaking your promise to God?

The question is answered with a question.

“How shall a young man cleanse his way?”

The response is simple, yet, profound.

“By taking heed according to Your Word.

From the point of the promise to never sin that sin again, you have to cleanse your way.”

In Matthew 7, Jesus likens a person that hear His sayings and does them as a wise man that builds his house on a rock. As long as you hear the Word of God and then do the Word of God, the house you build is secure. Now mind you, the storms of life will come. Rain will descend, floods will come, and the winds will beat upon your house, BUT…..it will remain standing because the foundation is solid. You built your house on a rock.

Doing the Word after hearing the Word is the building of the house upon a rock.

James tells us to….“Be doers of the Word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.”

Here is a key…Do the Word and not do porn and masturbation.

Paul said this in Romans chapter 6…..“And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.”

Paul also said this in the 12th chapter of Romans…..”But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lust.”

Instead of making provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lust, make provision for the spirit to worship God in spirit and in truth.

We easily submit to the heated sexual moments that run rampant through our minds. When this occurs, this is the opportunity to remember the promise you made to God not to sin that sin again. This is the moment that the Holy Spirit will work with you in your weak moment to give you strength to overcome temptation. Sometimes you do not have to go places to be tempted. All you have to do is remember habits, rituals, cycles, practices.

I find that when I do remember these sinful habits, the Holy Spirit brings to my attention 1 Corinthians 10:13 and 2 Corinthians 10:4-5.

So I submit to God. 

If you hesitate, that’s the ill fated moment the devil was waiting for.

During my time of subsequent relapses in mid 2012, it’s those moments that I let my guard down (not porn but masturbation).

When the situations of life come at you, you think about relief and feeling good, sex will do that according to Dr. Archibald Hart who wrote the book on The Sexual Man. When life comes at you and you are not vigilant, that’s when the flesh and mind wanders from the commandments of the Lord. When you are not practicing the presence of the Lord, your spirit man is weak.

Proverbs 24:10 says…..

“If you faint in the day of adversity your strength is small.”

So how do I build my strength up to withstand in the moment of temptation?

Prayer and obeying the Word. You must be ruthless on your flesh and mind (see 1 Corinthians 9:27 and Colossians 3:5).

If you practice His presence within you, you will “take up your cross and follow Him.” Living the crucified life requires the measure and level of Paul’s life. “I die daily.”

The urges and impulses that operate within you were put there by the Lord, but when Adam fell into sin, they became perverted. After being born again, the mind and flesh now has to commit to doing righteousness. Spirit, soul, and body must now work in unison with the Holy Spirit to obey the Word of God on a moment’s notice. The enemy will not waste time with you. Each moment counts. When you submit yourself without hesitation, that means you have put on the armor of light and you are ready to do battle.

Submission is where it all begins. Submission to God through His Word.

Afterwards, you must be vigilant. You have to watch your every thought. You have to watch where you put your hands at night. You have to do what is necessary to keep your promise not to grieve the Lord in sin. Then, you have to spend time strengthening your heart, mind, and flesh to withstand temptation.

This is accomplished by a variety of means. Very few will win the battle against temptation who constantly feeds on the world and starves themselves of the Word. The more Word you feed on, the more of the world gets starved out of you. Remember, your heart is like a field. Whatever seed is planted, that is what will manifest as a harvest.

Paul said this is Galatians 6……

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.”

That’s the difference between victory and defeat.

Whatever you feed on is the difference. How much time you spend in either will be the difference. As you feed on the world your spirit man grows weaker and will never be able to withstand in the evil day. As you feed on the Word, your spirit man grows stronger and will be able to withstand in the evil day.

Paul also speaks of renewing the mind and the spirit of our minds. If you preoccupy your mind with things of the flesh, your mind will resume habits, rituals, cycles, and practices. To break these things, you must renew the mind. Renovate the mind. Redo the mind with the Word of God.

You have to make a conscious decision to put into practice having the mind of Christ. As long as you do these things, you will master the mind and flesh, and victory, by the help of the Holy Spirit, is achievable.

LGBT: Marriage Equality?

It is amazing how America and the other nations have decided to go against the Word of God. You have the Queen of England making a declaration for marriage equality and soon, the SCOTUS will decide on Proposition 8. In this YouTube presentation, something caught my eye as I was driving.

If you’ve seen this YouTube video, pass it along. If not, take a look and then pass it along.

A simple bumper sticker. Click this link and take a look……

http://youtu.be/qDOV58GEEgI

The real reason for marriage equality is to legitimize the sin of homosexuality. It is important for those that truly believe in the Lord and His Word to never be deceived by those that are sadly deceived. Sin is never on equal footing with righteousness. Just like night and day cannot be on equal footing.

Pay attention to what the Lord said in John 11:9 and 10…

“Jesus answered, Are there not twelve hours in the day? If anyone walks in the day, he does not stumble, because he sees the light of this world. But if one walks in the night, he stumbles, because the light is not in him.”

The Bible tells us that….“All things were made by Him and without Him was not anything made that was made.”

So the Lord Jesus made 12 hours of daylight. Which means that there is twelve hours of darkness. The point is a figure of speech. As long as we are in this world, the sun will give light to the earth for twelve hours and the world revolves around the sun, the other side of the earth will experience darkness.

This means that, spiritually speaking, there is a time when darkness will come but for a limited time.

We all know what the Bible says about marriage. This will never change no matter what laws permitting the sin of homosexuality are decreed and passed. No matter which way the Supreme Court goes, the Word of God stands true as God’s wisdom to man. The moment man departs from the wisdom of God, consequential judgment will always fall.

We all know that within the confines and boundaries of marriage, STDs cannot happen. For a sexually transmitted disease to be contracted, a person must engage in sex outside of marriage.

This is called adultery. When a person engages in sex before marriage, it is called fornication.

Both of these sins carry a consequential judgment.

When it comes to the sin of homosexuality, the consequential judgment is STDs, including HIV/AIDS.

The sad thing about LGBT is that they continue to thumb their noses at the wisdom of God.

I am quite sure that you have noted the comments under my YouTube video. It amazes me that people involved in the sin of homosexuality believe that we are forcing something upon them. To force something on people means that a person has no choice in the matter. It was the person’s choice to view the video. This person didn’t have to view my video. Yet, this person did.

On the other hand, we have LGBT forcing upon the righteous the sin of homosexuality.

By establishing laws and decrees that homosexuals be recognized as legal couples. LGBT is constantly pushing to silence the preaching of the Word of God so that their sin could go unchecked, however, the Lord is constantly raising up voices to speak the Word of God fearlessly, regardless of the cost. If LGBT is pushing to pass laws to have the sin of homosexuality accepted without righteous opposition, and should they be successful, then they would be happy.

However, we know that this will not happen.

Even should homosexuals be successful, they will never be truly happy so long as the light is in the world. The light of the Word of God brings conviction to sin that’s done in darkness.

The Lord Jesus told the people to be the light of the world, a city set on a hill that could not be hidden. We are to be the light of the world and not hide our light under a table. We are to put our light in top of the table so that everyone that comes into your room can see. If you decide that you want to sit in a dark room, it is up to you. However, when someone has light, it is instinctive for a person to walk out of a dark room to find a room where the light is.

So it is with sin. When you are ready to come out of sin, the room that has the light of the true Word of God is where you should go. Please note that no one is forcing you to come to the light. No one is making you receive the light. You can sit in darkness all you want. It is your choice.

We know that should LGBT be successful, the people of God will enter into an era of time when what we say will be severely censored and declared as hate speech.

Be it known to all that regardless of what laws are passed, I have a responsibility before God to stand and preach the truth regardless of the cost to me. For God I live and for God I die. Besides, on the day that the Lord called me to preach, I didn’t hear your voice.

Marriage equality of the world is unequal with the Word of God.

The point is not to make you mad but to share the truth of the Word of God.

Get mad, upset, frustrated, agitated, because the reasoning of LGBT is discombobulated. One of the things that we know is that LGBT loves to blow smoke. To get the world to believe that what they are doing is without consequences. All you have to do is look to the Center Of Disease And Control And Prevention, look at the statistics regarding homosexuality and lesbianism, and you will get a reminder of the cost associated with all sexual sins.

Nonetheless, the will of God has stood the test of time and any measure to soften the fact that sexual sins exact a penalty is wishful thinking on the part of the agenda drivers of LGBT.

You can throw the world’s money into AIDS awareness and prevention, as notable a cause it is, but look at the cost to keep sin alive? Look at the cost to the medical world, that’s in the trillions of dollars? With the highest cost that can never be paid by sinful human blood. A human life that needlessly enters the den of death by making a decision to sin against God and His Word.

Yet, the one Person that shed His blood to redeem man from sin is always there to help you to abstain from all sexual sins and to redeem you from sin once you completely yield to Him for salvation. It’s your choice. You can either continue in sin, or you can stop. It is entirely up to you.

But know this…..no matter what man does to legalize the sin of homosexuality, the consequences can never be legislated away.

10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins: Deliberate Avoidance Of Confrontation

So far, we’ve covered 5 of the 10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins.

#5. Pride and Arrogance.

#4. Failure To Take Heed.

#3. Compromise And Conviction.

#2. Candid Camera.

And the first one….

No Real Relationship With The Lord.

So here we are with #6, Deliberate Avoidance Of Confrontation.

In one way or another, we all avoid the place where a good spanking is coming for us. As kids growing up, we want to do our thing and get away with it. We know that sooner or later, it will catch up to us, and like clock work, the dinner bell of judgment comes.

The Lord confronted the sins of David by sending the prophet Nathan. The Lord Jesus met the woman at Jacob’s well. The Lord Jesus had a woman caught in the act of adultery brought to her. The Lord confronted Cain concerning the murder of Abel.

It is apparent that the discovery of a secret is the most feared aspect of Secret Sexual Sins.

Notice what the Lord Jesus said in John 3:19-21….

“And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”

Notice what Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 5:4

“But you, brethren, are not in darkness, so that this Day should overtake you as a thief. You are all sons of light and sons of the day. We are not of the night nor of darkness. Therefore let us not sleep, as others do, but let us watch and be sober. For those who sleep, sleep at night, and those who get drunk are drunk at night.”

When Paul speaks of those that sleep at night and get drunk at night, and when the Lord said, men loved darkness rather than light,” it is a clear indication that concealment depicts secrecy.

When you want to commit sin, it’s the works of darkness that gives you the false sense of security that you can get away with it. But the reality is that works of darkness are done in the dark. It depicts the sinister nature of a person bent on sinning against the Lord. We must remember that the Psalmist in Psalm 139, said of the Lord that “the night and the day are both alike to You.”

In other words, God doesn’t care if you believe that you can hide under the cloak or cover of darkness. He can still see you. Sometimes, we act like He doesn’t see us.

Remember, sin is an act of defiance against the known will of God.

Now look at what Paul said in Ephesians 5:11-13…

“And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.”

The intent of light is to expose the secrets of darkness. Confrontation is designed to shed light on what we may be doing in secret so we could avoid more judgment. Confrontation is part of the “chastisement of the Lord” (see Hebrews 12:4-17). If the Lord didn’t love you, He wouldn’t bother to shed any of His light on what you are doing in secret. He would let you do what you do and still judge you, based on His righteousness.

When you are hiding something, you have no confidence before the Lord, and no confidence before men. However, we must never allow such confidence to take us over into the area of pride, and false humility. As Paul admonished, “Take heed, lest we fall.”

John, the beloved apostle of the Lamb said these words in 1 John 3:19-22…

“And by this we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him. For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”

When you do not have confidence, you hide. Just like Adam and Eve did when the Lord came to confront their sin.

The Lord already knew they had sin but as a loving Father, He was not going to let what they did go.

It must be confronted.

I thought that confrontation takes place when a person sits down with another individual to delve into their lives. Sort of like, spill your guts and tell me everything that is going on in you, and if I find anything, I will lay you out. In other places, this may not be the case where consent is given. However, when it comes to discovery, sometimes, this doesn’t work because of fear. Even when there is nothing at all to discover, the fear is sometimes too much to overcome.

This kind of discovery tactic intimidates everyone. Little do we realize that this is the fear of God at work. Besides, God is more interested in the heart coming to Him than sitting down and digging up a person’s hidden secrets. Do not get me wrong. The Lord will resort to this when your sins are blatant and you show no serious indication that you will relent. When it comes to an individual bent on sexually sinning anyway, sometimes, truthfulness and honesty is a fleeting thing.

Some men and women are great liars. That’s what hypocrites do so well. They play the part of another so convincingly that to detect who they really are is almost impossible. However, it doesn’t matter what role you play before the Lord because He is God. He is omniscient. Even when the Lord confronted Cain, Cain was determined to kill Abel no matter what God said.

Cain was already in the depraved indifference state of mind. In other words, he didn’t care that the Lord said something to him. That’s the way it was with me. I didn’t care about what the Lord said. My sin was more important than the Word of God. My sin was more important than my relationship with God. My sin was more important than my love for my wife and daughter.

Sin’s acronym is Selfish Individual Needs. 

This is not the way that every person should order their lives. To attempt to pattern after something that may not work for you, only invites future shipwrecks. However, in living before God, we are to walk “blameless unto the coming of the Lord.”

The key phrase is the coming of the Lord.”

It is clear that everyone will not be ready at the coming of the Lord. The point of blameless is to be ready when He comes. Blameless is the only position of readiness. You cannot commit sin and be ready for the coming of the Lord. When the Lord confronts you about any sin, it is so that you would enter into repentance, receive forgiveness, and from that point, learn to walk blameless before the Lord.

I often thought….what would happen if I am watching porn and masturbating. Would the Lord accept me into His kingdom? Am I walking blameless? Am I walking in the light as He is in the light? Am I in fellowship with the Father through His Son, the Lord Jesus? Am I like the five wise virgins or am I like the five foolish virgins?

When it comes to confrontation, it may come in many forms. The Lord would send people in your path to distract you from making provision to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. The Lord may have you switch, unknowingly, radio stations to hear an important message from Him. Confrontation comes is various ways, designed to keep us off balance.

Off balance in the sense that you do not know when confrontation will come. Unpredictability has the potential of keeping a person honest. Then again, unpredictability of confrontation is no incentive at all for some bent on not being blameless before the Lord. Nonetheless, confrontation is there to protect us from impending judgment. Especially when we are entertaining the thought to cross the line we said to ourselves that we wouldn’t dare cross.

Finally, in Dr. Mark Laaser’s book on Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Addiction, I believe he talked about a story about a married, father of children pastor that robbed banks to feed his sexual addiction habits of porn, masturbation, strip clubs, Internet porn, and prostitutes. At the end, he was tried and convicted of armed robbery and served time. He lost his pastorate, obviously, and he hurt his family and children. At the pinnacle of this were layers of neglect.

The intentional disregard for the confronting power of God to save him from this pinnacle event.

When we refuse to even consider that the Lord is speaking to us in His still small voice, a much distinguishing, loud, impossible to ignore voice speaks to us. It could be that when we are about to cross a line, the voice of the Lord comes when the police comes. The voice of the Lord comes when the judge imposes a sentence for an avoidable crime. The voice of the Lord comes loud and clear when an STD of an incurable nature comes.

Yes, the voice of the Lord comes in many ways but it is prudent to listen to the voice of the Lord when we are still tender in our hearts and minds. The Lord knows how to salvage the unsalvageable. The Lord knows how to redeem the unredeemable. The Lord knows how to take a broken life, pieces all over the place, and one by one, put our lives back together again.

When the confrontation comes, let’s not run, but let’s embrace it.

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