As I was listening to a radio broadcast of a “Bible answer man,” no it’s not Hanegraaff, it was someone else. A listener called in to get answers about how to stop watching porn.
Watching porn is still a problem among believers today.
The majority of men that teach the Bible may not have gone through a personal situation where in their own lives, they’ve watched porn.
Not every man watches porn, but it’s sure close.
You could tell when a person watches porn, the Lord sets them free, and they humbly learn how to help other men get the freedom they cry for.
Then there’s the Bible teachers that never get enough information to help men get free. As I’ve said, not every man watches porn, but I am aware that not every Bible teacher knows how to minister grace and truth.
It’s very easy to give off the cuff answers when you haven’t gone through the process. This isn’t to say that this Bible answer man on Talk Radio on Sirius Radio, never went through an encounter of porn.
The other danger is that there’s plenty of Bible answer teachers and preachers that develop an arrogant, prideful, and haughty spirit.
I was one of them.
Just a few weeks after being delivered from porn, an “I’ll teach them” spirit came and then my accountability partner from “Setting Captives Free” gave me a very humiliating lesson.
He said to me, in words like………“Don’t teach me Bible knowledge.”
You see, it’s very easy to come off like you know all the Bible answers. And sometimes, we truly think we do. And come to find out that what’s in our head never matches what’s in our hearts.
Over the course of time, I began to see that we try to think we could help people and find that we’re inadequate, ill-equipped, unteachable, and at times, very nasty and angry.
This Bible teacher didn’t come off like this at all.
In fact, he was very kind, very careful with his words, very humble. He wasn’t prideful, arrogant, or nasty. He was very good in sharing with that man the forgiveness of sins.
He is to be commended for calmly talking about the aspect of forgiveness.
It’s very difficult to minister to men trapped in porn so what we need to do is gather as much information as we can about porn, but also arm ourselves with Scripture. Then we need to learn from those that were trapped in porn that broke free. We also need to learn from those that were never trapped in porn and how they worked with the Lord to stay free.
Too often, we just get a one sided view of dealing with pornography. What I mean is that only those that’s been in porn know how to deal with it, and nothing could be further from the truth.
Just as the Lord told Elijah, “there’s 7000 that never bowed their knee to Baal.”
It’s very difficult to admit that you have a porn problem.
90% plus of men will never admit they have a sins of the flesh problem.
And roughly 10% either initiated or completely fulfilled their desire to be free and even less than that remain free to this day.
You may ask, “Where did I get this figure from?”
A couple of years ago, I looked on “Setting Captives Free” to see how many people, male and female, attempted to deal with porn addiction. At that time, around 2011 or so, over 2 million clicked the sight but only 200,000 attempted to go through and complete the course.
I am an alumnus.
As with any addiction, sexual addiction in particular, it’s a very dirty, filthy habit. It destroys the morals of man, chokes off his relationship with God, and if he’s married, with his wife, cuts off his ministry, takes all his money and his time.
His life evolves around porn. If he’s not in his house watching porn, there’s plenty of substitute porn in the streets with scantily clad women in stores, restaurants, malls, church, work, and other places.
His mind is consumed with watching flesh.
And even if women are dressed modestly, he knows how to use his imagination to sexually objectify her.
The core of all porn is the lust in the heart of man.
“Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of God abides forever.”
James 1:14-15 (NKJV) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”
The desires within a man is what drives him to make provision to fulfill these lusts lurking within his mind and flesh.
Romans 13:14 (NKJV) “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
As long as man never addresses the lust in his heart, it’s very difficult to fight the urges and impulses lurking in his flesh.
Granted, some women do not make it easy but they’re not the core of the problem.
How does a man get free of porn?
Sadly, the images are filed in the mind of a man. From time to time, if we don’t “bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ,” these thought or fantasies easily emerge. If we dwell on the thought instead of subdue these thoughts, sexual arousal will take place.
If we’re in the privacy of home, the job, in the car, it’s very easy to go from thoughts to actually stimulating ourselves. That is, to manipulate our sexual organs.
Sexual tension is on an avoidable collision course to be released.
The rest is history.
We go to John 5 with the man at the pool of Bethesda.
Jesus approached a man that was lame in his feet for 38 years, and asked him a very simple question. “Do you want to be made whole.”
To be whole means to be sound or to be restored to health.
While this is about the lame man’s physical condition, the same question could be asked about sexual addicts.
Those that are trapped in the clutches of porn.
Do you want to be sound? Restored to health?
Many men willingly acknowledge that porn is an issue but this question demands that you look at the condition, but few look beyond the condition to see that this will be a life long battle to maintain health after being made whole.
And if we were really honest, we will also admit that masturbation is inextricably connected to porn.
Men do not sit there, watch porn, and then shut off the show of flesh.
Men engage in make believe sex to satisfy the lust in his heart for that flesh.
It’s the one thing that keeps a man coming back for more porn.
And this is the core reason why many men, well over 90%, never be free.
The self satisfaction is of too greater value to walk away.
Romans 6:12-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
If you’re not prepared to cut off, in a radical way, the “ritual” of making provision “to fulfill the lusts of the flesh,” this is what brings men into a place of self imposed hopelessness and helplessness.
They abandon themselves to live a life of sexual sins that usually takes them further than where they’ve intended to go.
Sexual predators, serial rapists, child molesters.
Finally, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”
As long as men aren’t afraid of God and His commandments, sin is easy.
God gave Cain the answer he needed to conquer sin in his life….
Genesis 4:7 (NKJV Strong’s) “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”
You can rule lust in your heart.
But you can’t do it alone.
You need the help of the Holy Spirit.
Cutting to the chase, once again, the Christian community, online newspapers, and other outlets identify that there’s a huge problem with Christians viewing pornography.
Pastors and believers all across the United States, and the world, are heavily involved with no apparent slowing or stoppage.
The Internet and our personal devices are great tools but they’ve been used consistently to view porn anywhere and at anytime.
But is porn the problem?
It’s only part of the problem.
It’s the bait on the hook. Or more so, the incremental increase to take things to the next step.
As one person puts it, it’s an accelerant.
When you want a bigger fire, you get more wood, gas, or other fuels to increase the fire.
Lines that pastors and believers says they would never crossed are easily crossed.
Look at James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.’
Within the heart of sinning people is the lustful desires lurking in the mind and flesh. It’s the desire to gratify themselves that takes them to places where such satisfaction could be achieved.
Paul told Timothy “Flee also YOUTHFUL lusts.”
Having said this, what lures men and women to watching porn?
Enhancing or accelerate the process to perform solo sex or masturbation.
When people watch porn, it’s not like sitting in a movie theater and eating popcorn. It’s about participating in sex without the physical partner there. In other words, it’s fantasy or pretend sex.
If you read these Christian articles about believers watching porn, you will notice that nothing or very little is said about masturbation or fantasy sex.
But this is what believers do that Christian Post, Charisma, or other Christian news outlets deliberately omit.
Perhaps, the reason why is when you talk about solo sex, fantasy sex, or the “M” word (masturbation), because the Bible is silent in its prohibition, it’s determined to be permitted.
It’s also possible that people that write about porn participate in masturbation.
They’re too ashamed to reveal the combination for fear of discovery of masturbation in their own lives.
Paul told us in Ephesians 5:11-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light. Therefore He says:
“Awake, you who sleep,
Arise from the dead,
And Christ will give you light.”
Just because it’s a shame, it doesn’t prohibit one from discussing it.
Discussing just the fact that masturbation is the reason behind porn is shameful. What’s prohibited is the play by play description or instruction on how to masturbate. That’s beyond shame.
It’s sinful and incites a person to participate in Secret Sexual Sins when a person read sex stories out of Hustler or The Forum.
As I’ve said before, just because the Bible is silent on a subject, it’s not to be taken as permission to engage.
When the assumption is taken to masturbate, this subject will not be addressed.
Self discipline is one of the fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22-24).
IF you’re crucified with Christ, then you are dead to sin. In fact, as Paul said……“dead to sin but alive unto God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Dead people don’t respond.
Therefore, if you’re dead, as far as we know with certainty, dead people don’t respond to lust in their heart, mind, and flesh to masturbate.
So the lust in the flesh and mind places a demand to fulfill desire to achieve sexual satisfaction apart from marriage to the opposite sex.
There’s numerous reasons for this as I’ve written in the blog to explore the reasons why men and women masturbate, but as long as there’s a refusal to address the reason why believers watch porn, it’s no different than a dog chasing its tail.
You can read the article from Christian Post here
Many pastors and leaders face the fight of lust in the heart.
Paul tells us to “Flee also youthful lust.”
2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV Strong’s) “Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
See, it’s not enough just flee lust, but you must pursue “righteousness, faith (moral conviction or fidelity), love, peace……
Most young pastors more than likely are struggling in their marriages because of lust in the heart. More than likely, a “flame” came into the congregation, and he set his sights on her.
It happens all the time.
On the other hand, that “flame” came in to passively hunt for the pastor.
The combination of the two takes place.
One is hunting for the other and eventually, adultery is committed.
Usually, the male pastor is sexually dissatisfied with his wife and looks to spice things up with another woman.
Or the events in the marriage came to a tipping point where the male pastor had enough. Events in a marriage does have an affect.
As I was sharing with a couple, you should never allow events in a marriage divide the relationship. Usually the disconnect is intentional and it’s just a matter of time before adultery is committed.
As I read this article from CP (Christian Post), I began to see that this young pastor struggled with personal obedience to his Lord and Savior. Obedience to the Scriptures.
The Lord Jesus told us that “If any man desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”
Lenard Ravenhill once said, that we “…came to His cross. Now get on yours.”
We must understand that lust must be kept crucified.
He shared that he couldn’t continue. Most stories like these end with the young pastor apologizing for not keeping the Scriptures he taught. For “faking it until he made it.” For living a hypocritical life. Then they depart, leaving a trail behind for the Lord to clean up.
Most people in these congregations that suffer in their marriages make for the exit. They were looking to their leader to hold fast to the Scriptures and then he makes an exit from his Lord.
Folks, the devil is not just after destroying marriages. He’s looking to make sure you spend eternity in hell with him.
We don’t seem to believe this anymore because we’re so detached from the fact that one day, we’ll stand either before the Judgment Seat of Christ as believers or stand before the Great White Throne Judgment before the Judge of all the earth as sinners.
The moment of self satisfaction in porn, masturbation, adultery, fornication, or homosexuality blinds us from the eternal consequences.
We ignore the dangers of judgment.
For this young pastor, it seems that he used means and traditional methods to address a situation in his marriage that many men and women experience.
Usually when we use counseling, books, and other tools to help us deal with a situation within our marriage, we seldom see their prayer lives, their obedience to the Scriptures, their love for Jesus excelling over their lust, problems, and marriage situations.
They no longer fight for their relationship with the Lord and their wives but easily give in to lust.
The god in their lives commands that they walk away and not fight, and these young male pastors obey. Some obey quickly.
Years ago, I shared that many will fall. And it won’t be the last.
Fighting lust is very tough.
And all it takes for man to fulfill his lust is when a flaming hot young lady walks in the door of the congregation. Or he searches for a flaming hot young lady, willing to sexually satisfy his flesh.
One moment of pleasure isn’t worth an eternity in hell.
Behind every hot flame is a pack of demons of lust.
To destroy or frustrate the plans of a flaming hot sexually immoral woman is to avoid them at all costs. The moment you intend to create an opportunity of contact for connection, is the moment all bets are off.
You avoid them by returning to the Lord in prayer and fasting, seeking the face of the Lord every moment. By cutting off every angle of attack when they make the move to get close to you.
When they want to “see the pastor,” you send your wife or a trusted elderly saint to run interference. You put people in place to protect the zone.
You never put yourself in a position to be ambushed by their schemes.
You never counsel them alone.
Let them walk away frustrated.
If you’re looking to get into sexual trouble, we pray that the Lord would interfere with your plans to sin against Him. If you look to circumvent His intervention, it will be to your own peril.
It takes a solid prayer and Word life to recognize that the plans of the devil is to destroy you.
This young pastor made a reversible choice.
For now, he chose to depart but he can return in repentance.
But you fight to stay pure and holy before the Lord.
Fight to stay right with the help of the Holy Spirit.
You could read the story here
It’s been a long while since the last blog but it’s good to take a break and then resume as needed.
No, I never relapsed into porn. So now that’s kicked to the curb, we see that a lot has transpired in a while.
According to Fox News, by way of the CDC, STD’s in America and perhaps it could be said, around the world are on the increase.
The preaching of “safe sex” isn’t working because when you’re in the heat of passion, to stop to put a rubber on destroys the moment.
As far as Christians that are married, conception is expected.
But for the world, we know that it’s a set up.
In one of my past blogs, with first hand information, we know that the condom manufacturer is in bed with the abortion industry to ensure condom failure to increase the chance of a pregnancy, thus, increase the chance to perform an abortion to harvest body parts for money.
According to a Medical Research group that used hidden recording to discover this horrendous practice, we now see that sadly, nothing goes to waste…….except the life of that child, brutally murdered in the womb.
On another front, STD’s is also a lucrative business for the medical field.
In another one of my past blogs, we’ve discovered that in Puerto Rico, a strain of STD’s mutates to defeat the medicine.
Hence, the purpose of this blog.
One thing always leads to another.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases will continue because of the lust in the heart.
Porn or fantasy sex by way of masturbation, for some gets old and the need to “connect” with a body ensues. Then once you’ve had him or her, you look for others to increase the excitement.
The CDC has already put the warning out that multiple partners increase the risks of acquiring STDs, including AIDS.
But in England, there is news that flesh eating diseases are emerging. It won’t be long before it turns into an epidemic.
And chances are, so far, there’s no reports of it in the United States, but it’s a matter of time. Or worse, it’s already here and the media, like other STD reports, isn’t reporting it.
So if you insist on fornication, this consequential judgment is waiting for anyone willing to ignore self discipline.
Many males and female have said, “It’s never gonna happen to me.” And then you sense something wrong in your system, you go to the doctor to get checked, or worse, you don’t go at all. Suddenly, your statement comes to haunt you.
Self discipline can’t be done on your own.
You need the Lord Jesus in your life. You must be born again. It’s only by repentance of dead works, and faith towards God, through our Lord Jesus Christ can one exercise self control to avoid the consequences of sin on the earth.
But worse, is should you die before you make Jesus Lord over your life, it’s too late and the “Wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
You can read about these things in the links below.
Obviously, there is sadness in the Playboy world.
But we have to put things into perspective.
It’s very easy to condemn people but we also must understand that the Lord Jesus said that they are condemned already.
Jesus said in John 3:18-21….“He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”
You can’t condemn someone that is already condemned.
Today, many preachers live in hypocrisy like I did.
That one peek at a Playboy magazine aroused our flesh to view porn on scales unimagined.
I’ve read about a story of a pastor robbing banks to be able to by porn on the internet or PPV cable or satellite. Of pastors using their computers to finish their sermon in their pastor’s study, tell their secretaries to go home, and click on to site after site of porn in the house of worship.
No doubt, masturbating in their pastor’s study while watching porn.
That’s what sexual objectification does. It’s idolizing a woman’s body, pretending to have her sexually. Not realizing that you’ve worshipped her body as if her body was god. You bowed down in sexual worship, not realizing that behind every lustful eye, you are worshipping demons.
That’s why what Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-30 is there. The right eye lusts for her sexually, and the right hand engages in solo sex or outright touching another woman in adultery or fornication.
Many would love to think that Hugh Hefner is in heaven. Many will joke and say that he will be in Playboy heaven with angelic bunnies. Far from reality. You see, there is no sin in heaven. There’s God forgiven, sanctified, blood washed saints that were sinners in heaven.
But for certain, sinning in heaven is not happening there ever.
And there is no sinning in hell either.
Jesus said, “There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”
You will be too involved seeking to get out and too involved seeking relief from the pain and misery associated with the condemned place of the abode of departed Christ-less spirits.
Meaning that the pain of torment will be beyond what a person will be able to bear.
There is no Playboy mansion in hell. There aren’t any bunnies there either.
The pain and misery of hell will pale in comparison to the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.
Just imaging being responsible for plunging many men and women into hell by way of sexual immorality. Hugh Hefner will bear his own sins but he will also bear the responsibility of facilitating sexual immorality to plunge man people into hell.
We all know that there is a slight chance for everyone to get saved but when you live an unrepentant lifestyle, the odds of heaven for the unrepentant are very very slim.
Remember, the thief on the cross next to Jesus got saved moments from his own death. That’s why there is a very slight chance. But how many sinners would seriously look to the Lord when they are moments away from death themselves?
The Playboy mansion and its wicked activities drove men and women into the abyss of sexual immorality, leading down the staircase into the chambers of death.
And if that isn’t enough, countless men and women, perhaps, were infected with STDs and some women got pregnant.
I dare say that many of them killed their babies in abortion.
But this activity wasn’t just in the mansion. All across the world, their connections is apparently obvious. PPV cable or satellite, Playboy magazines, iPhones, CD’s and DVD’s made it possible to participate and be connected to viewing fornication on demand, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
This, and his death, is nothing to celebrate but the world will do everything in its power to celebrate this man and applaud his sexual empire. That’s the way the world works because it is, as Paul said, “the course of this world.”
My exposure to this wickedness started with 42 Street in NYC. While going to see decent movies along the route, there would be movie theater after movie theater of sexual immorality. Porn shops by the dozen. It was a haven for all manner of crime, adultery, fornication, bisexuality, and homosexuality.
The newspaper stands would be filled with Playboy magazines that tempted the imaginations of man. Fantasy sex which leads to pornography, and leads even deeper to act out sex in masturbation, adultery, fornication, and other forms of sexual immorality.
Trapping millions into the slave trade of sexual immorality.
Entrapped in this sin were billions of men and women, searching for intimacy, or to get a quick pick me up. The pleasures of sin dominates the fantasy world of men and women around the world.
There’s no question that Playboy played a central part in opening up the way to further sexual immorality.
The pursuit of the pleasures of the lust of the flesh, the eyes, and the pride of life intensified.
Playboy wouldn’t be enough. You go further into hard core porn and tap into the area of criminal sexual predation. For most men, the insatiable desire takes a man further than he is willing to go. Takes a woman to do daring things too. Some women are just as trapped as men.
There is nothing to celebrate here.
But Jesus can free any man or woman, but they must desire to leave their thirst for the flesh behind. They must cry out to God for His true love that will never be found in flesh. The Son can make a person free if they want to.
You can’t make people be free. They have to want to be free, and then there is the fight to stay free from every contaminating influence and every enslaving yoke of sexual immorality.
This happens when you find in the Savior all the love you will ever need for the rest of your life.
So what will it be?
Continue in sin, or to be free from it?
It’s not worth going to hell over.
The choice is up to you.
The death of Hugh Hefner could be read here
There’s many professed believers, even in matrimony, that believe that oral sex is no big deal.
In this report from FOX News, even in monogamous relationships, you could acquire the Human papillomavirus (HPV) disease.
Which further emphasizes the fact that STDs is there for a reason.
Many will defend oral sex and that’s expected.
Sadly, to their own peril, but at least you know that you could have avoided it if you’ve exercised sexual discipline.
Whether you’ve watched porn, then introduce what you’ve seen into your bedroom, we should never sin against the Lord and against our own bodies in the fulfillment of the lusts of the flesh and mind.
Many will argue that what goes on in the bedroom is your business.
But when the Lord institutes STD as consequential judgment against sin, God was already in your bedroom judging your sin.
A man walked across the street while I was waiting at the light with a shirt that said….
ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME
I said, yup, He sure will judge you.
Shirts like this is just a spin on Matthew 7:1.
When a person is convicted of sin and attempts to make arguments to continue in sin, shirts like these is a clear attitude of deliberate intent to defy God and His Word.
For the record, there is no specific verse in the Bible that declared that oral sex is forbidden. There is no specific verse that declared that masturbation is forbidden.
The other argument is that if the Bible is silent on these areas, we should be silent too.
On the contrary, just because the Bible is silent, it doesn’t give you permission.
Because there is no specific verse giving you permission to engage.
God put within us the ability to discern right from wrong.
When we’re asking questions to obtain permission, it is a search to justify sin where the Bible is silent. The Bible’s silence demand you come to the conclusion that you do not have permission, and therefore, you do not have God’s authorization.
PLUS……since STDs are associated with oral sex, or sexual immorality as a whole, it is further evidence that it’s prohibited.
If we were smart, we would see that STDs are only associated with lawless sexual acts and do everything in our power, as true believers in the Lord to be obedient and abstain from the very “appearance of evil.”
In normal sexual relationships, within holy matrimony, you are practicing safe sex. Besides, if you truly love your wife or husband, you would never introduce things of the world to do harm to them.
But, like I said, people will disagree.
The reason for such disagreement is that they’re experiencing a world of pleasure that they’re unwilling to give up. And that, in and of itself, is a bondage which hurts you in the long run.
If I am legally married, will oral sex send me to hell?
Absolutely not, unless you’re presently engaged in fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, zoophilia, and other forms of sexual immorality, those sins are hell bound sins.
SO if oral sex in a monogamous faithful husband and wife relationship will not send me to hell, then why bring this up in the first place?
We see that STDs is connected to oral sex.
IF you want the HPV disease that is associated with oral sex, by all means, continue to engage in the act. It’s a matter of time before the results manifest. Just trying to get people to see that there’s certain things that could be avoided. It’s a clear warning to you.
Now if you want to ignore this warning, then it’s on you. You were aware of the risks and decided to continue in this behavior.
Proverbs 14:18 says……“The simple inherit folly, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.”
Proverbs 22:3 says…….“A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”
Oh, btw, this HPV disease isn’t one of those things that flare up until perhaps months or years after acquisition. That is, if you continue to engage in oral sex, the possibility of it flaring up is inevitable.
All the more incentive to abstain from this behavior that opened the door to the disease in the first place.
Psalm 107:17 says, “Fools! Because of your transgressions and because of your iniquities are afflicted.”
You do not have to be afflicted.
Meaning……you are a fool when you open yourself to sin and reap its rewards.
The FOX News report could be read here
Since covering the porn scene among professed believers and coming across mind numbing statistics, we see that nothing’s changed in terms of believers decreasing their exposure to sex filled movies, shows, and skin exposure in church services.
Porn watchers are enslaved to the images and enslaved to sexually manipulate him or herself in masturbation to satisfy themselves.
Porn is only an accelerant. More on this later.
The ability to be immodest is continuing in church service. The deliberate lack of discerning certain shows that what we expose ourselves to, is rampant.
In other words, we dethrone God to enthrone sin.
First, to address the modesty issue.
Men and women are exposing themselves to wearing certain articles to attract the opposite or same sex.
We all know that it’s summer time out there but it doesn’t give anyone the authorization and blatant excuse to wear things that we know are sexually provocative.
If you have to pull up your blouse to cover your cleavage, you know that this is a red flag. If you have to pull down your high skirt, you know it’s a red flag.
When you have to wear a cover to cover up your legs in church, it’s a red flag.
Now, this is not wrong to cover up in and of itself. At least you recognize that too much flesh is showing. It should be a very loud indication to you that perhaps your dress is a little too short.
Modern dressing doesn’t allow to look “old fashioned.”
It’s not fashionable these days. But holiness is the requirement when entering and participating in the holy worship of our Holy God.
As I was going street preaching one day, I walked by a “Seventh Day Adventist” Church and observed these red flags. I’m not an Adventist, so scratch that thought. I was walking by that church.
They appeared to be attending “church” but looked like they were going clubbing for men. Legs and cleavage.
A few years ago, I was listening to an interview of a believer interviewing a former prostitute. She said that in a well known mega church in California, female prostitutes would enter the service and sit in close proximity of their “client” while the client was sitting next to his wife.
She also said that there was no fear of God in the house of worship because the preacher would never preach on holiness.
Let me say this, that even if a preacher were preaching on holiness, for some, it will not make a difference.
If a person is bent on sinning sexually, only their death would stop them, unless they catch themselves and repent.
In the book of Numbers we see a story of Zimri and Cosbi.
Zimri was a leader and brought a Gentile woman into the camp against the commandment of the Lord. He and she walked by the Lord, the tabernacle of meeting, Moses, Aaron, and Phinehas.
At that time, the plague was moving throughout the camp because of sexual sin with the Moabites. Phinehas picked up a javelin, went into the tent where Zimri and Cosbi were, and killed them with one thrust of the javelin.
It stopped the plague and Phinehas was blessed by the Lord because the zeal of God within him judged the sin.
This was the “example” that Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 10.
In many of our regular Christian services, woman are wearing less and less. They are pushing the boundaries and men that aren’t disciplined will look at them lustfully.
Now we know that it is one thing to come to church sexually provocactive but when a man has lust in his heart, he doesn’t care what a woman is wearing. So there is two sides to this thing.
It’s not always one sided.
Intentional sexual dressing for church service to immorally tempt a man is more than provocative. It crosses the line of modesty where men, who are struggling to maintain their consecration to God are doing everything in their power to ignore them.
Feminine power to sexually influence a man immorally is demonic. It is passive manipulation. On the other hand, lust filled men is demonic and it is active manipulation. The collision course of the two brings death in their lives.
Most men do not know how to “bounce” their eyes to avoid looking at deliberate sexual provocation inside the service or outside as they are walking the streets.
But the sexually disciplined man will find a way to completely ignore these immoral women.
Not every woman that comes to church is immoral or deliberately intend to entice a man. There is holy women that come to church for the right reason and there are men that come to church, walking in wholehearted consecration and dedication to God.
But let’s face it.
Sexually immoral women will do everything to attract the attention of a foolish man.
Proverbs 7 speaks a such a man that went looking for sexual sin. The married, spiritually speaking adulteress found him and coerced him into her house.
It’s the same in today’s world of church service.
More and more, we are seeing an abandonment of morals and men diving into their house to commit adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, and fornication.
But the door into sexual immorality has always been that the sexually suggestive tv ads, movies, and shows that introduce porn. The internet always have teaser ads next to the articles that you are reading. Reading the internet news is no different. The sexually suggestive ads draws a man’s attention. Photo shopped pictures increase the attractions in making pictures appear larger than normal.
Provers 27:20 says that “Hell and destruction are never full. So the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”
The Lord said to me as He was instructing me….”No sense in looking at someone that you can’t have. If I can’t have her, there is no sense in lustfully looking at her.”
Makes sense to me.
The basics of temptation are recorded in James 1:14-15.
A man is enticed when he is drawn away with his own lust-filled desires.
In other words, the moment he desires illegal sex, the enemy sends the enticement.
The enticement is a direct suggestion (temptation) to pursue that which is not lawful.
Sin is conceived in the desire to fulfill an evil fantasy. Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.
That’s why in the church service, you have to be very careful not to allow your eyes to “travel” from the presence of the Lord.
Which brings me to emphasize again that the purpose of porn is no different than an accelerant for fire. When evil passion is in the heart of a man, he will go to places to fulfill that evil passion. Acting out sexually in adultery, fornication, bisexuality, homosexuality, and masturbation, or all of the above.
So be careful about the movies that you expose yourself to.
Radical amputation is the ability to cut off the right hand and pluck out the right eye to avoid sexual sins. If you are not willing to do without movies, you run the risk of being so overwhelmed with lust that you deliberately fall into sin.
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