Notice what the Amplified Versions says….”You have not yet struggled and fought agonizingly against sin, nor have you yet resisted and withstood to the point of pouring out your [own] blood.”
Many have said that masturbation is either the beginning stage of homosexuality. Others have said that it is a form of homosexuality.
Simply because you are doing you.
Solo sex is homosexuality.
There were many days during the 33 years of bondage to self gratification, commonly called masturbation that I yearned to be free but I never got to the point of shedding my own blood to stop this sin of self homosexuality. Even after I established a date to remind myself of freedom, it became a date of governing my flesh. Not out of fear of God to live holy, but self glorification that “I” beat this Goliath.
After accumulating vast knowledge on sexuality and what made me do what I do, I found out that I was doing this in my own strength to glorify me.
After a discouraging men’s meeting on Secret Sexual Sins in 2012, I went back to my old ways and habits of self gratification.
It wasn’t as intense as it was before but it was a departure from keeping my word with the Lord.
After assuming that my deliverance was not going to be “discovered” and brought to the forefront with engagements to share my new found freedom, it was easy to get back into the ritual of self sex. There was that moment where I thought that there would be hundreds of men trapped in Secret Sexual Sins that would come and be free.
Not to be the case.
Men are more entrenched in Secret Sexual Sins than ever before. It appears that it is escalating in unimaginable undocumented ways.
Regarding my relapse, I didn’t need porn because it is very easy to fantasize about having sex with your imaginary bombshell. Besides, while every man will cross a line they say they wouldn’t, going back to porn would only open up a can of snakes that no one is able to put back.
Suppressing the fact that porn and masturbation is called “idolatry,” both of the male anatomy and the female figure as the object, returning to masturbation was easily achieved.
Then you hear the voice of the Lord.
While hearing that word, you could feel the smile of approval from the devil while your flesh is satisfied.
You see, the flesh doesn’t care about being a hypocrite because it got what it wanted.
It’s like stealing drugs from a pharmacy. The adrenaline, testosterone, vasopressin, then the reward drug after ejaculation or climax……
Then the heart offends God. Conviction from the Holy Spirit within you sets in, and BAM!!!!!
While this drug could be acquired with normal sex with your wife, the act of pleasing yourself the way you want to be pleased transcends a normal sex life because you are in control of every moment until climax.
The power of God was never intended to provide a loop hole to sin at will.
Remorse or repentance?
Which way will you go?
You know if you go towards remorse, it’s only because you got caught in eternity past but manifested now.
Be done with it. Confess and forsake masturbation to regain your relationship with The Lord.
There are consequences that’s connected to every act of sin.
There are many men that do not believe that masturbation is a sin.
While it is true that there is no specific verse of Scripture that condemns the act of masturbation, there is no specific Scripture to condone masturbation, barring conjured up inferences of Scripture.
Silence of Scripture is not to be perceived as permission.
Besides, if Jesus masturbated, then we can be like Him.
Get the point?
God never designed sex to be done as a solo act. Sex is to be a moment shared between two persons in holy matrimony. The “one flesh” principle as recorded in Genesis 2:24, gives man and woman the legal parameters for engaging in sex.
Masturbation circumvents relationship, marriage, and bonding with the opposite sex, as well as procreation. Just as sin separates you from God and joins you with the devil, masturbation also separates you from your wife. You might feel good for a moment because of the dopamine but it is short lived.
The conviction overwhelms you and you are back into the destructive cycle that only asks for more ways to be satisfied.
You find yourself no longer in control.
You find yourself back under the slave master of answering your urges and impulses instead of answering the call to prayer and the Word of God to fight against the flesh and mind.
Is it possible that the Lord wants us to shed our own blood? To pull our eyes out? Cut our hands off?
To do what ever it takes to stop sinning to ensure that we enter into eternal life maimed than to enter into hell whole?
I am not advocating the physical removal of organs, hands, feet, eyes, penis, whatever.
But I am advocating imposing stringent means and methods to prevent sin from reigning in our mortal bodies. No I haven’t shed blood but to what level of holiness are we willing to go to to be worthy of eternal life? If we try to do it for self glorification, we will never achieve what the Lord really wants.
A willing heart that loves Him more than we love our sin(s).
A mind that desires to be flooded with the light of His Word on a moment by moment basis.
A body that becomes a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God which is our reasonable service.
So how do we deal ruthlessly with masturbation?
1. You must “Submit yourself to God…..resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
Submitting to God requires abandoning all of the tricks of the trade and regurgitated justification arguments.
James 1:14-15 says “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”
Within all of us are things in our flesh that is subjected to temptation. satan knows what we like to see and do in our flesh and minds.
How do we cut him off? How do we shut down ourselves to submit to God?
2. You must avail yourself to use “The weapons of our warfare [that} are mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. Bringing into captivity to the obedience of Christ.”
The high place must be removed. In the OT, most of the kings failed to remove the high place. All the other reforms took place, but they’ve always failed to remove the high place. This is indicative of a deliberate act to return after a season.
To cast down imaginations or reasonings, we must give up attachments of sentimental value. If you value masturbation, the fulfilling of the desires of the flesh and mind more than loving God, your treasure is where your heart is. When something is valued higher than God and His Word, it is a matter of time before what you value is eternally dethroned. Taking you with it………….to hell.
It’s not enough to cast down imaginations. The next step is to bring it into captivity EVERY THOUGHT to the obedience of Christ.
It’s when we do the Word that the effects of the stronghold wane. The more we yield to the Lord, the more we put distance to things that are still fresh in our flesh.
3. You must learn to lean on the Lord to escape. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”
The way of escape is just as easy as the way into Secret Sexual Sins.
You must instantly obey. Choose to not instantly disobey. Every moment counts. God does send distractions. Will you obey the Lord when He sends the distraction? I find that when we deliberately get up from the bedroom, we easily shut off further escalating deeper into obeying the will of the mind and flesh.
Testosterone can be subdued. Go and work out. Clean the garage. Listen to the Holy Spirit. Go and pray. Read a non sexual book.
Anything to get your mind off of sex is a way of escape.
Finally, 4. You must be accountable to someone. James 5:16 says ”Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”
Confessing your faults is not easy. It takes courage to sit with someone you trust that will not condemn you but hold you accountable. We need feet to the fire at times to never allow sin to be safe. We need a safe, loving, but firm accountability place to submit to one another in a powerful environment to help us when weak moments come. Tears of sorrow leading to obedience is better that pride and arrogance that leads only into planning the next time to sin against the Lord.
Also, do not be quick to start teaching people early in your deliverance. This is where pride and arrogance will creep up and cause a false sense of security to invade your mind. You believe that you are invincible and then you begin thinking that you are an expert. You think that you are on top of the world. But that’s exactly where many, including myself, fell to the traps of darkness.
As Paul said, “Take heed, lest you fall.”
Every step of victory is not for the purpose of bolstering your position and the world’s greatest deliverance preacher or sexual discipline coach. Each step of victory is designed to keep you from death. Be mindful that as long you you humble yourself, stay in humility, episodes of humiliation will be avoided.
The door of the prison house of sexual immorality never closes behind you. Prevention from living like a slave is always before us. Being a slave of sin with the prison door wide open is the grace of God given to every believer to walk out. Never to return when we are finished with sin for good. The only time the prison door shuts is when we die in our sins according to Romans 6:23 and Revelation 21:8.
When we flat line, all bets are off.
It’s not worth it. Sin is never worth it.
Forget about glorifying yourself to be exalted because you did it yourself. Under your own power, you have to keep it up. Under God’s sustaining grace, you rely on the Lord to help you through to victory on a moment by moment basis, for His glory alone.
To be separated from Him is worse than anything else. We must never let the sensation of sexual pleasure drive up to the place where we will never enjoy eternity with the Lord