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How To Stop Watching Pornography

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As I was listening to a radio broadcast of a “Bible answer man,” no it’s not Hanegraaff, it was someone else. A listener called in to get answers about how to stop watching porn.

Watching porn is still a problem among believers today.

The majority of men that teach the Bible may not have gone through a personal situation where in their own lives, they’ve watched porn.

Not every man watches porn, but it’s sure close.

You could tell when a person watches porn, the Lord sets them free, and they humbly learn how to help other men get the freedom they cry for.

Then there’s the Bible teachers that never get enough information to help men get free. As I’ve said, not every man watches porn, but I am aware that not every Bible teacher knows how to minister grace and truth.

It’s very easy to give off the cuff answers when you haven’t gone through the process. This isn’t to say that this Bible answer man on Talk Radio on Sirius Radio, never went through an encounter of porn.

The other danger is that there’s plenty of Bible answer teachers and preachers that develop an arrogant, prideful, and haughty spirit.

I know.

I was one of them.

Just a few weeks after being delivered from porn, an “I’ll teach them” spirit came and then my accountability partner from “Setting Captives Free” gave me a very humiliating lesson.

He said to me, in words like………“Don’t teach me Bible knowledge.”

You see, it’s very easy to come off like you know all the Bible answers. And sometimes, we truly think we do. And come to find out that what’s in our head never matches what’s in our hearts.

Over the course of time, I began to see that we try to think we could help people and find that we’re inadequate, ill-equipped, unteachable, and at times, very nasty and angry.

This Bible teacher didn’t come off like this at all.

In fact, he was very kind, very careful with his words, very humble. He wasn’t prideful, arrogant, or nasty. He was very good in sharing with that man the forgiveness of sins.

He is to be commended for calmly talking about the aspect of forgiveness.

It’s very difficult to minister to men trapped in porn so what we need to do is gather as much information as we can about porn, but also arm ourselves with Scripture. Then we need to learn from those that were trapped in porn that broke free. We also need to learn from those that were never trapped in porn and how they worked with the Lord to stay free.

Too often, we just get a one sided view of dealing with pornography. What I mean is that only those that’s been in porn know how to deal with it, and nothing could be further from the truth.

Just as the Lord told Elijah, “there’s 7000 that never bowed their knee to Baal.”

It’s very difficult to admit that you have a porn problem.

90% plus of men will never admit they have a sins of the flesh problem.

And roughly 10% either initiated or completely fulfilled their desire to be free and even less than that remain free to this day.

You may ask, “Where did I get this figure from?”

A couple of years ago, I looked on “Setting Captives Free” to see how many people, male and female, attempted to deal with porn addiction. At that time, around 2011 or so, over 2 million clicked the sight but only 200,000 attempted to go through and complete the course.

I am an alumnus.

As with any addiction, sexual addiction in particular, it’s a very dirty, filthy habit. It destroys the morals of man, chokes off his relationship with God, and if he’s married, with his wife, cuts off his ministry, takes all his money and his time.

His life evolves around porn. If he’s not in his house watching porn, there’s plenty of substitute porn in the streets with scantily clad women in stores, restaurants, malls, church, work, and other places.

His mind is consumed with watching flesh.

And even if women are dressed modestly, he knows how to use his imagination to sexually objectify her.

The core of all porn is the lust in the heart of man.

“Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of God abides forever.”

James 1:14-15 (NKJV) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

The desires within a man is what drives him to make provision to fulfill these lusts lurking within his mind and flesh.

Romans 13:14 (NKJV) “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

As long as man never addresses the lust in his heart, it’s very difficult to fight the urges and impulses lurking in his flesh.

Granted, some women do not make it easy but they’re not the core of the problem.

How does a man get free of porn?

Sadly, the images are filed in the mind of a man. From time to time, if we don’t “bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ,” these thought or fantasies easily emerge. If we dwell on the thought instead of subdue these thoughts, sexual arousal will take place.

If we’re in the privacy of home, the job, in the car, it’s very easy to go from thoughts to actually stimulating ourselves. That is, to manipulate our sexual organs.

Sexual tension is on an avoidable collision course to be released.

The rest is history.

We go to John 5 with the man at the pool of Bethesda.

Jesus approached a man that was lame in his feet for 38 years, and asked him a very simple question. “Do you want to be made whole.”

To be whole means to be sound or to be restored to health.

While this is about the lame man’s physical condition, the same question could be asked about sexual addicts.

Those that are trapped in the clutches of porn.

Do you want to be sound? Restored to health?

Many men willingly acknowledge that porn is an issue but this question demands that you look at the condition, but few look beyond the condition to see that this will be a life long battle to maintain health after being made whole.

And if we were really honest, we will also admit that masturbation is inextricably connected to porn.

Men do not sit there, watch porn, and then shut off the show of flesh.

Men engage in make believe sex to satisfy the lust in his heart for that flesh.

It’s the one thing that keeps a man coming back for more porn.

And this is the core reason why many men, well over 90%, never be free.

The self satisfaction is of too greater value to walk away.

Romans 6:12-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”

If you’re not prepared to cut off, in a radical way, the “ritual” of making provision “to fulfill the lusts of the flesh,” this is what brings men into a place of self imposed hopelessness and helplessness.

They abandon themselves to live a life of sexual sins that usually takes them further than where they’ve intended to go.

Sexual predators, serial rapists, child molesters.

Finally, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”

As long as men aren’t afraid of God and His commandments, sin is easy.

God gave Cain the answer he needed to conquer sin in his life….

Genesis 4:7 (NKJV Strong’s) “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

You can rule lust in your heart.

But you can’t do it alone.

You need the help of the Holy Spirit.

Lust Is More Powerful Than Pornography

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Lust is more powerful than pornography?

Prove it.

James 1:14-16 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.”

Pornography is an accelerant. It’s just a tool to tempt you to fulfill the lust in your mind and flesh.

Romans 13:13-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

Ephesians 2:1-3 (NKJV Strong’s) “And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience, among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.”

Lust originates in the mind and fulfilled in the flesh.

Matthew 15:18-19 (NKJV Strong’s) “But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

Making provision is no different than Dr. Carnes’ addiction cycle.

1. Thoughts/fantasy.
2. Ritual.
3. Acting out.
4. Remorse.


It’s in the heart and mind of man where arousal begins.

Mental sexual arousal then searches out.

Whether it would be walking in the grocery store, movies, TV shows, the Internet, Walmart, Shopping Malls, beaches, the subway, riding around in your car, in church services, and other places.

Anything that looks beautiful to a lust hearted man, or any man that turns their head to look at you.

The venue doesn’t matter.

It’s the heart of men and women where the search for sexual fulfillment begins.

Pornography is an accelerant.

It’s the place where, in secret, and all alone, a male or a female uses sex tools or other fetishes to sexually satisfy themselves in masturbation.

The screen where the images become a tool to reach orgasm is idolatry.

These victims are Secret Sexual Sins victims.

Used over and over again in a vain attempt to feel loved, or sexually fulfilled or both.

Last count, there’s well over 289 million Internet porn sites, and growing.

Our iPhones and other devices is the place where men and women view porn or hook up for a sexual encounter. Texting locations such as homes, hotels, motels, and other places to rendezvous for sexual immorality.

Then there’s the criminal element in prostitution/human trafficking for the sex trade. There’s been an unending quest to engage in sexual immorality.

Professed believers are caught in the middle.

Some have given in to this world to attempt to feel sexually satisfied or loved.

There’s no satisfaction in sin.

But the rewards are never received.

Sin never rewards.

Romans 6:23 says “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

When self sex (masturbation) is fulfilled, the conviction of sin hits the heart.

Arriving back at the bottom of the sexual addiction cycle, remorse, not repentance, sets in.

After recovering from the conviction of sin through remorse, the mind and body experiences a reset. The sexual urges and impulses return. The cycle starts all over again. We’ve learned how to suppress the conviction. We’ve learned how to overcome the voice of the Holy Spirit to seek the Lord in the time of temptation.

But people and even professed believers don’t care.

We walk into Walmart, the Mall, the movie place, and the look of and for lust returns. Or the wardrobe to turn heads is put on.

We rush right by the Holy Spirit to chase after a fantasy that will never be fulfilled. We go back to that image or that feeling of feeling loved, and start the process all over again.

All the while, we deliberately suppress the Word that the Holy Spirit speaks to our hearts and minds.

“Come to Me all you that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me. For I am meek and lowly in heart. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.”

There’s only one purpose of pornography.

To engage in Secret Sex with that person or persons (whether homosexual, bisexual, or monogamous sex) on the screen in the fulfillment of self pleasure (masturbation), without dealing with the person in a relationship in marriage.

All in a pursuit to fulfill lust or to be loved, or both.

But what is it that males and females are really after?

John 4:1-42, in particular, verse 24, gives us all the answer.

You could ready the story from Christian Post here

The Allurement Of A Cover & Its Relation To Pornography

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The saying goes,

Never judge a book by its cover.”

The flirty dirty cover.

But when it comes to porn and lusting after the flesh, the only concern is the cover.

The cover is what attracts the eyes.

It’s the deception that within the beauty of a body, there’s nothing wrong.

The beauty is PERFECT!!!

That’s the world of porn.

But it’s may also be true for marriage.

Men get attracted to a beautiful woman. They both play nice to a degree, and as soon as the marriage ceremony seals the deal, the book is open and the real story is read.

Porn operates the same way.

The cover lured you and you become a part of her book.

The bad part.

Granted. Not all books are bad.

Both the man and the woman did their due diligence in opening up the book to read what’s in it. Granted, the book of people’s lives is on going. We may never read it all. Sometimes, life does happen, but if you could get to the intent of the book as much as you can, the bad things that can and will happen could be mitigated.

But every now and then, the cover obscures the trap.

They don’t call it the Venus fly trap for nothing.

In marriage, after consummation, the story comes out.

All the things you thought you knew begin to unfold.

The wedding wasn’t the issue. You may have had a little spat, or many spats, but you were able to suppress it and compromise. But sometimes, people do go overboard. It gets ugly. In some cases, so ugly that you call off the wedding.

You’ve tried desperately to compromise but the anger and fierceness of the moment or moments was just too much to bear.

What does this have to do with porn?

A lot.

Men are driven into the bosom of another woman over such things.

Men rarely investigate past the cover. Men rarely see something and say something about it. But on the other hand, some do. They see tendencies, habits, and other issues that could make or break a relationship.

The one thing that chase some men away from some women is the controlling and manipulation.

Don’t think for one moment that men don’t control or manipulate.

In some cases, men may be worse than women.

Each one want something and in order to get it, they will use control and manipulation to get it.

In a pre wedding situation, certain tests should take place.

Boundaries, territories, pro’s, con’s, likes, dislikes, attitudes, mind sets, religious beliefs, foods, drinks, child raising, living habits, hygiene, education, jobs, finances, attire, recreational habits, and other areas.

They all get tested.

The key is time.

Few people are willing to take their time and examine carefully a person.

Some go as far as private investigations, background checks, family visitations, friend visitation, employment visitations, etc.

You want to know what you’re getting into.

But the cover masks all these areas until the test comes.

The sex (whether moral or immoral) is what you wanted and got but you didn’t count on the story. The drama. The hidden agenda. The controlling. The manipulating. The anger. The frustration. The constant bickering. The boisterous mouth. The lying. The cheating. The put downs. The smile as the blade pierces your back.

The one place where men are driven to when they’re hurt is porn and masturbation. Pretending to have sex with that woman on the screen.

Deeply fantasizing having sex and not dealing with the relationship.

But even if there’s no drama, over time, the cover loses its attractiveness.

When a couple get passed a certain safe zone, their physical attraction is less important. After the wedding ceremony, you got what you wanted. For the man, sex. For the woman, marriage. Then there’s no need to “upkeep” especially after having children.

For the most part, the cover lost it’s beauty, and for the male, he loses his strength. But he never lost the ability to look and be stimulated sexually.

But over time, eventually, his ability to perform in the bedroom slows down.

As you age, you adjust.

It’s called settling down.

However, the gym can do wonders for both the male and female.

Maintaining the cover is a life long pursuit.

This one act of maintaining the cover of the book could save many marriages.

Vitality will be lost one day, but you could slow down its affect.

The winds of destroying marriages are around.

Many believe that when you age in marriage, it doesn’t matter about the cover.

You have a right to that thought, but just imagine if you did your part to maintain the cover for as long as you could?

It may save the marriage relationship.

So, the cover to attract is there as well as what’s in the book.

Giving In To Lust Is Easier Than To Flee

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Many pastors and leaders face the fight of lust in the heart.

Paul tells us to “Flee also youthful lust.”

2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV Strong’s) “Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

See, it’s not enough just flee lust, but you must pursue “righteousness, faith (moral conviction or fidelity), love, peace……

Most young pastors more than likely are struggling in their marriages because of lust in the heart. More than likely, a “flame” came into the congregation, and he set his sights on her.

It happens all the time.

On the other hand, that “flame” came in to passively hunt for the pastor.

The combination of the two takes place.

One is hunting for the other and eventually, adultery is committed.

Usually, the male pastor is sexually dissatisfied with his wife and looks to spice things up with another woman.

Or the events in the marriage came to a tipping point where the male pastor had enough. Events in a marriage does have an affect.

As I was sharing with a couple, you should never allow events in a marriage divide the relationship. Usually the disconnect is intentional and it’s just a matter of time before adultery is committed.

As I read this article from CP (Christian Post), I began to see that this young pastor struggled with personal obedience to his Lord and Savior. Obedience to the Scriptures.

The Lord Jesus told us that “If any man desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”

Lenard Ravenhill once said, that we “…came to His cross. Now get on yours.”

We must understand that lust must be kept crucified.

He shared that he couldn’t continue. Most stories like these end with the young pastor apologizing for not keeping the Scriptures he taught. For “faking it until he made it.” For living a hypocritical life. Then they depart, leaving a trail behind for the Lord to clean up.

Most people in these congregations that suffer in their marriages make for the exit. They were looking to their leader to hold fast to the Scriptures and then he makes an exit from his Lord.

Folks, the devil is not just after destroying marriages. He’s looking to make sure you spend eternity in hell with him.

We don’t seem to believe this anymore because we’re so detached from the fact that one day, we’ll stand either before the Judgment Seat of Christ as believers or stand before the Great White Throne Judgment before the Judge of all the earth as sinners.

The moment of self satisfaction in porn, masturbation, adultery, fornication, or homosexuality blinds us from the eternal consequences.

We ignore the dangers of judgment.

For this young pastor, it seems that he used means and traditional methods to address a situation in his marriage that many men and women experience.

Usually when we use counseling, books, and other tools to help us deal with a situation within our marriage, we seldom see their prayer lives, their obedience to the Scriptures, their love for Jesus excelling over their lust, problems, and marriage situations.

They no longer fight for their relationship with the Lord and their wives but easily give in to lust.

The god in their lives commands that they walk away and not fight, and these young male pastors obey. Some obey quickly.

Years ago, I shared that many will fall. And it won’t be the last.

Fighting lust is very tough.

And all it takes for man to fulfill his lust is when a flaming hot young lady walks in the door of the congregation. Or he searches for a flaming hot young lady, willing to sexually satisfy his flesh.

One moment of pleasure isn’t worth an eternity in hell.

Behind every hot flame is a pack of demons of lust.

To destroy or frustrate the plans of a flaming hot sexually immoral woman is to avoid them at all costs. The moment you intend to create an opportunity of contact for connection, is the moment all bets are off.

You avoid them by returning to the Lord in prayer and fasting, seeking the face of the Lord every moment. By cutting off every angle of attack when they make the move to get close to you.

When they want to “see the pastor,” you send your wife or a trusted elderly saint to run interference. You put people in place to protect the zone.

You never put yourself in a position to be ambushed by their schemes.

You never counsel them alone.

Let them walk away frustrated.

If you’re looking to get into sexual trouble, we pray that the Lord would interfere with your plans to sin against Him. If you look to circumvent His intervention, it will be to your own peril.

It takes a solid prayer and Word life to recognize that the plans of the devil is to destroy you.

This young pastor made a reversible choice.

For now, he chose to depart but he can return in repentance.

But you fight to stay pure and holy before the Lord.

Fight to stay right with the help of the Holy Spirit.

You could read the story here

XXXChurch. When Dope Smokes You

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Years ago, when the Lord delivered me from pornography, I came across many sites to help me understand my former addiction.

I came across a different article called The Seamless Fabric, parts of which could be read here

Somewhere in my blog, the full article is available.

Drugs is connected to sexual immorality.

In many of my blogs, I’ve shared how porn stars/prostitutes would use drugs and alcohol to help them cope with the on-going sex acts, or the next shooting scene.

The women would be raped or knew that they would be severely sexually abused and they needed to place their mind in “suspended animation” to get through the utter humiliation.

Craig Gross, according to this article reported in the Christian Post, demonstrated that other forms of addiction and justifying it with the use of medical marijuana, is cool.

Cigarette smoking is the gateway to the drug culture. We all know this.

But what’s disappointing is when we offer deliverance from pornography and support the use of drugs, seamlessly connected to porn, to be a part of a person’s worship, it’s sad.

XXXChurch does fall under the guise of Catholicism.

That’s one thing I’ve noticed.

It’s clear that when there’s a clear confusion and massive conflict of theology, sooner or later, the underlying things come to the surface.

My point is not to blast Craig Gross, but to help expose underlying issues.

Complete deliverance is what we need.

Not excuses and extra Biblical justification that clearly conflicts with the harmony of Scripture.

Such as…………God made weed so since He made weed, we can smoke it.

God may have put the plant in the earth, but man, in his fallen condition, extract it from the ground to abuse (abnormally use) the element.

God didn’t roll the joint and handed it to you.

Just because marijuana, heroin, meth, cocaine, and other drugs are found in the earth, these elements, when used improperly, in the hands of mixed up, sinful man, is deadly, addictive, and dangerous.

Chemical dependence is just another chain to keep man bound.

To worship the Lord declares that you’re no longer dependent upon yourself to make you happy. To worship the Lord means that you’re a “living sacrifice.”

Like Paul said, “I die daily.”

The Lord Jesus said “If any man desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”

IF you can’t sacrifice marijuana or any addiction, it will inevitably sacrifice you.

Your body is offered as a living sacrifice that you may “…prove what is that good, acceptable, and perfect will of God.”

John 4:24 means what it says.

John 4:24 (NKJV Strong’s) “God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”

We don’t use natural means (dope) to enhance communing with the Lord.

Some will argue that we use musical instruments.

Can an instrument, by itself, enhance worship?

No.

It takes a person, skilled in music, to be used by the Holy Spirit, to play or sing skillfully.

It’s called Divine Inspiration.

Therefore, the HOLY Spirit will not inspire a person to use a substance, known to impair a person’s judgment, to enhance a person’s worship of the Lord.

Such inspiration is DEMONIC INSPIRATION.

God doesn’t authorize the use of drugs to worship Him.

He uses us as He pleases without controlled substances.

In the book of 1st Samuel, we see the sons of Aaron misuse the Altar of Incense.

We don’t speculate what they’ve done.

However, we see that any misuse of the OT temple artifacts can be costly.

Nadab and Abihu decided to abuse the temple and it cost them their lives.

We are in the NT and we are the temple of the Holy Spirit.

1 Corinthians 3:17 still stands.

The absurdity of smoking dope to enhance a person’s worship of God is an open invitation to keep many seeking deliverance from porn to remain trapped in marijuana, or other forms of drugs and alcohol.

The Christian Post article could be read here

I Want Jesus & I Want Sexual Sin

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Make no mistake about it. If you ask most professed Christians whether they want sin and Jesus at the same time, the answer would shock many of us.

But it shouldn’t because all we need to do is check the way we’re living.

We want sexual sins and we want righteousness.

We want homosexuality and we want God to accept our choice to keep sin.

We want adultery and we want to keep Jesus.

We want fornication and we want to keep Jesus.

We want bisexuality and we want to keep Jesus.

We want sex with animals and we want Jesus.

We want porn and masturbation and we want Jesus.

We pretend that we could be saved from sin but our actions show that some of us aren’t as saved as we claim to be.

Christian music or a “worship” experience can have a “positive” affect but when temptation comes, that “religious” feeling goes away and we find ourselves yielding to sin without putting up a fight to stop ourselves.

The very thing we’ve “repented” of invites us to be controlled by it.

The Lord confronted me and said “You’ve never repented.” “You don’t repent and then change your mind about repentance.”

Repent means to change your mind.

You don’t change your mind and then change your mind back.

The devil never hits you and I with truth. God hits you and I with truth and awaits our response. satan keeps the lies going and when we want to give ourselves an excuse to violate God’s Word and be lawless, we close our eyes, become blind and deaf, ignore or deliberately suppress the truth, and yield to sexual sins.

Paul mentioned that apostasy would take place in the last days, and then the “Day” of the Lord would come (see 2 Thessalonians 2:1-3.

It’s a deliberate renunciation of the Lordship of Jesus and the sovereignty of His Word, and completely surrender to the sin that easily beset us.

Some of us have gotten to the place where we’ve declared ourselves hopeless, and completely allow ourselves to come under the power of sin. We deceive ourselves, we’ve convinced ourselves that we’re no longer redeemable, condemning ourselves to the prison house of bondage to sin.

We give ourselves over to our urges and impulses with lascivious (absence of restraint and discipline) living.

We beat ourselves and then we reward ourselves with the pleasures of sin.

In every denomination, people are abandoning the true teaching of the Lord because of a thirst for sin. The believers watch too much of the world, allow the seed of the world to enter their hearts, and allow their sinful reasoning to overwhelm them.

When we watch too much of the world, it’s a matter of time before we become so consumed in our minds with the affairs of this life.

People are walking away from Jesus.

We’re not talking about people outside the assembly of the righteous.

We’re talking about people that were once overwhelmed with the love of the Lord. Overwhelmed with Jesus in their lives. Overwhelmed with living for God. Slowly, they drift away. Sometimes family and friends are used by the enemy to slowly suggest alternatives to the Word. To get them to “excuse” their sin.

Little by little, we find ourselves agreeing with what they do against the Lord, and we find ourselves compromising, capitulating, and surrendering to the madness within their fallen minds.

And that’s what satan was waiting for.

We give in because we either don’t want to fight, or we grow weary of fighting our mind and flesh.

This is what we’re seeing in many denominations and non denominations.

We quickly give in to our urges and desires to satisfy the flesh.

Not realizing that many people within and without the assemblies of the righteous, are flowing in that direction of apostasy.

There’s a difference between struggling with sin and calling it quits with the Lord, however, when we habitually fall into sin, it’s just a matter of time before we find ourselves on the brink of making a decision to walk away from the Lord for good.

Hebrews 6:4-6 (NKJV Strong’s) “For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted the heavenly gift, and have become partakers of the Holy Spirit, and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come, if they fall away, to renew them again to repentance, since they crucify again for themselves the Son of God, and put Him to an open shame.”

These are consistent end time signs.

People are permanently walking away from the Lord.

It’s been reported that 20% of people in the last 2 decades have ceased coming to a local assembly. To put it in perspective, just because a person goes to a local assembly, it doesn’t mean that they know the Lord.

So going to a local assembly is a poor indicator of kingdom growth.

In that same statistic, more people in the Catholic religion leave their Catholic assemblies than people that attend true protestant assemblies.

But again, we should take this with a grain of salt because we don’t know where people stand in the Lord, whether saved or unsaved.

Those that commit apostasy will never be allowed to come back according to Hebrews 6:4-6.

Salvation was never meant to be a revolving door.

You can’t play for two teams. You can’t deal for satan and deal for God.

Pick which way you want to go.

We need to make up our minds to never put our hand to the plow and look back.

We need to not look back as Lot’s wife, and turn into a pillar of salt.

STD’s On The Rise/Flesh Eating Diseases

It’s been a long while since the last blog but it’s good to take a break and then resume as needed.

No, I never relapsed into porn. So now that’s kicked to the curb, we see that a lot has transpired in a while.

According to Fox News, by way of the CDC, STD’s in America and perhaps it could be said, around the world are on the increase.

The preaching of “safe sex” isn’t working because when you’re in the heat of passion, to stop to put a rubber on destroys the moment.

As far as Christians that are married, conception is expected.

But for the world, we know that it’s a set up.

In one of my past blogs, with first hand information, we know that the condom manufacturer is in bed with the abortion industry to ensure condom failure to increase the chance of a pregnancy, thus, increase the chance to perform an abortion to harvest body parts for money.

According to a Medical Research group that used hidden recording to discover this horrendous practice, we now see that sadly, nothing goes to waste…….except the life of that child, brutally murdered in the womb.

On another front, STD’s is also a lucrative business for the medical field.

In another one of my past blogs, we’ve discovered that in Puerto Rico, a strain of STD’s mutates to defeat the medicine.

Hence, the purpose of this blog.

One thing always leads to another.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases will continue because of the lust in the heart.

Porn or fantasy sex by way of masturbation, for some gets old and the need to “connect” with a body ensues. Then once you’ve had him or her, you look for others to increase the excitement.

The CDC has already put the warning out that multiple partners increase the risks of acquiring STDs, including AIDS.

But in England, there is news that flesh eating diseases are emerging. It won’t be long before it turns into an epidemic.

And chances are, so far, there’s no reports of it in the United States, but it’s a matter of time. Or worse, it’s already here and the media, like other STD reports, isn’t reporting it.

So if you insist on fornication, this consequential judgment is waiting for anyone willing to ignore self discipline.

Many males and female have said, “It’s never gonna happen to me.” And then you sense something wrong in your system, you go to the doctor to get checked, or worse, you don’t go at all. Suddenly, your statement comes to haunt you.

Self discipline can’t be done on your own.

You need the Lord Jesus in your life. You must be born again. It’s only by repentance of dead works, and faith towards God, through our Lord Jesus Christ can one exercise self control to avoid the consequences of sin on the earth.

But worse, is should you die before you make Jesus Lord over your life, it’s too late and the “Wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

You can read about these things in the links below.

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Porn, The Movies, & Avoiding Provocative Women In Church

Since covering the porn scene among professed believers and coming across mind numbing statistics, we see that nothing’s changed in terms of believers decreasing their exposure to sex filled movies, shows, and skin exposure in church services.

Porn watchers are enslaved to the images and enslaved to sexually manipulate him or herself in masturbation to satisfy themselves.

Porn is only an accelerant. More on this later.

The ability to be immodest is continuing in church service. The deliberate lack of discerning certain shows that what we expose ourselves to, is rampant.

In other words, we dethrone God to enthrone sin.

First, to address the modesty issue.

Men and women are exposing themselves to wearing certain articles to attract the opposite or same sex.

We all know that it’s summer time out there but it doesn’t give anyone the authorization and blatant excuse to wear things that we know are sexually provocative.

If you have to pull up your blouse to cover your cleavage, you know that this is a red flag. If you have to pull down your high skirt, you know it’s a red flag.

When you have to wear a cover to cover up your legs in church, it’s a red flag.

Now, this is not wrong to cover up in and of itself. At least you recognize that too much flesh is showing. It should be a very loud indication to you that perhaps your dress is a little too short.

Modern dressing doesn’t allow to look “old fashioned.”

It’s not fashionable these days. But holiness is the requirement when entering and participating in the holy worship of our Holy God.

As I was going street preaching one day, I walked by a “Seventh Day Adventist” Church and observed these red flags. I’m not an Adventist, so scratch that thought. I was walking by that church.

They appeared to be attending “church” but looked like they were going clubbing for men. Legs and cleavage.

A few years ago, I was listening to an interview of a believer interviewing a former prostitute. She said that in a well known mega church in California, female prostitutes would enter the service and sit in close proximity of their “client” while the client was sitting next to his wife.

She also said that there was no fear of God in the house of worship because the preacher would never preach on holiness.

Let me say this, that even if a preacher were preaching on holiness, for some, it will not make a difference.

If a person is bent on sinning sexually, only their death would stop them, unless they catch themselves and repent.

In the book of Numbers we see a story of Zimri and Cosbi.

Zimri was a leader and brought a Gentile woman into the camp against the commandment of the Lord. He and she walked by the Lord, the tabernacle of meeting, Moses, Aaron, and Phinehas.

At that time, the plague was moving throughout the camp because of sexual sin with the Moabites. Phinehas picked up a javelin, went into the tent where Zimri and Cosbi were, and killed them with one thrust of the javelin.

It stopped the plague and Phinehas was blessed by the Lord because the zeal of God within him judged the sin.

This was the “example” that Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 10.

In many of our regular Christian services, woman are wearing less and less. They are pushing the boundaries and men that aren’t disciplined will look at them lustfully.

Now we know that it is one thing to come to church sexually provocactive but when a man has lust in his heart, he doesn’t care what a woman is wearing. So there is two sides to this thing.

It’s not always one sided.

Intentional sexual dressing for church service to immorally tempt a man is more than provocative. It crosses the line of modesty where men, who are struggling to maintain their consecration to God are doing everything in their power to ignore them.

Feminine power to sexually influence a man immorally is demonic. It is passive manipulation. On the other hand, lust filled men is demonic and it is active manipulation. The collision course of the two brings death in their lives.

Most men do not know how to “bounce” their eyes to avoid looking at deliberate sexual provocation inside the service or outside as they are walking the streets.

But the sexually disciplined man will find a way to completely ignore these immoral women.

Not every woman that comes to church is immoral or deliberately intend to entice a man. There is holy women that come to church for the right reason and there are men that come to church, walking in wholehearted consecration and dedication to God.

But let’s face it.

Sexually immoral women will do everything to attract the attention of a foolish man.

Proverbs 7 speaks a such a man that went looking for sexual sin. The married, spiritually speaking adulteress found him and coerced him into her house.

It’s the same in today’s world of church service.

More and more, we are seeing an abandonment of morals and men diving into their house to commit adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, and fornication.

But the door into sexual immorality has always been that the sexually suggestive tv ads, movies, and shows that introduce porn. The internet always have teaser ads next to the articles that you are reading. Reading the internet news is no different. The sexually suggestive ads draws a man’s attention. Photo shopped pictures increase the attractions in making pictures appear larger than normal.

Provers 27:20 says that “Hell and destruction are never full. So the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

The Lord said to me as He was instructing me….”No sense in looking at someone that you can’t have. If I can’t have her, there is no sense in lustfully looking at her.”

Makes sense to me.

The basics of temptation are recorded in James 1:14-15.

A man is enticed when he is drawn away with his own lust-filled desires.

In other words, the moment he desires illegal sex, the enemy sends the enticement.

The enticement is a direct suggestion (temptation) to pursue that which is not lawful.

Sin is conceived in the desire to fulfill an evil fantasy. Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.

That’s why in the church service, you have to be very careful not to allow your eyes to “travel” from the presence of the Lord.

Which brings me to emphasize again that the purpose of porn is no different than an accelerant for fire. When evil passion is in the heart of a man, he will go to places to fulfill that evil passion. Acting out sexually in adultery, fornication, bisexuality, homosexuality, and masturbation, or all of the above.

So be careful about the movies that you expose yourself to.

Radical amputation is the ability to cut off the right hand and pluck out the right eye to avoid sexual sins. If you are not willing to do without movies, you run the risk of being so overwhelmed with lust that you deliberately fall into sin.

This article on “Game of Thrones” is powerful.

Please click the link here.

Trey Pearson: Christian Music Artist – Practicing Homosexual

 

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Another “artist” has come out of the closet.

Doing what most people do, hide their homosexuality behind a marriage with two kids.

More will follow him out of the closet because there are many people that claim to be a Christians that is hiding their sin. Waiting for the “right” moment to announce their vile sin.

And that’s what we have.

There are two kinds of people in the church said the late Leonard Ravenhill.

People that are dead in sin or dead to sin.

The people that are dead in trespasses and sins do not know the Lord but they borrow the label “Christian” to pretend that they know Jesus.

Matthew 7:21-23 answers that question.

Christians produce good fruit. John 15, Galatians 5:22, Luke 8:11-15.

Practitioners of sin produce bad fruit. 

You can’t be in the light and walk in darkness. You can’t be born again and practice sin. 

Either you know Him or you don’t. 

Notice that it is only on good ground in the parable of the sower that produce real fruit with persecution and patience. The other three grounds do not produce any fruit and according to Jesus in John 15, any branch that does not produce will be cut off, bundled up, and burned.

We wish this on no one but the Vinedresser is very serious about maintaining His True Vine’s health. Dead branches are cut off so that the rest of the True Vine doesn’t get infected.

The answer to understanding his sin is very simple.

He refused to submit to God in order to resist the devil. He refused to control the lust in his heart. He was wearied of the constant temptation bombardment of the devil and he gave in to obey his flesh.

Most men that struggle with the lusts of the flesh will do everything else but fast and pray, seek godly council, and abstain from masturbation. Some try to marry a woman to chase away the “gay.” 

But it’s a longing for intimacy with God in righteousness and true holiness, through prayer and fasting.

The enemy’s power is temptation, lies, half truths, and deception.

The defense is the secret place of the Most High, with the media distractions off, soaking in the presence of God with a heart prepared to obey God and His Word. To increase your love and devotion to God.

Your only proof of the love of God in your heart is unquestioned obedience to the Word of God.

It’s a moment by moment battle that is waged.

Paul said in Ephesians 4:27, “Neither give place to the devil.”

In 2 Corinthians 2:11 Paul said, “lest satan should take advantage of us, for we are not ignorant of his devices.”

When you read his story, you will see that a lot of his deception is for one reason.

To fulfill the “…lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.”

This is the one part that would not be discussed in the Washington Post.

The media celebrates this and chalk it up as a loss to Christianity.

Well, that is if Trey was a Christian to begin with.

True believers learn to honor and love God. Carnal believers are caught between loving God and loving their sin. In this case, two persons cannot sit upon the throne. Either God is completely Lord and Master, or you are as you are dominated by sin and satan.

It took me over 33 years to move out of carnality Christianity.

I pretended that I loved the Lord. I pretended that God was on the throne of my life. I pretended that He forgave me and washed me clean.

But I never laid aside the sin that so easily beset me. I never lay aside the filthiness and overflow of wickedness. I never receive with meekness the implanted Word that was able to save my soul. I never obeyed the Holy Spirit to escape the temptation or to count it all joy when I fell into temptation. I never truly loved the Lord in obedience to the Scriptures.

As quickly as I asked God to forgive me, was as quickly that I fell back into sin in my heart.

The very thing that Jesus died for I willingly continuously engaged.

Porn and masturbation had a stronghold in my life.

I tried to live with God and live with these sins. The warfare was intense. I didn’t care about my relationship with the Lord. I cared more about getting off. I deceived myself into thinking after each sin session that God would forgive me. This deception cost me and it might have cost me eternity with Jesus.

SO if you are reading this, and you are caught in the same world of sin, there is hope and deliverance. But you might not make it so long as you assume that you have time to give it up. Or perhaps, you think that you could have Christ and satan at the same time.

2 Corinthians 6:14-18, 1 John 1:8-10 answers that question.

Do not let deception rule your mind.

Break away with God’s grace. Get to the throne of grace. Find grace to help in the time of need.

The story about Trey Pearson could be read here.

Adultery: When Restoration To Ministry Is Too Quick

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Pastors and ministers that operate covertly do so for one reason, continuation of their Secret.

Galatians 6:1 says  “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.”

To get to the gist of this, the debate is more about how soon should a pastor or praise and worship leader, or any minister be restored to minister?

While there is no Biblical example of a timeframe in which a person could minister again, we know that the current examples set the bar very low as to how soon one could be restored.

First things first.

Each person’s temperament is different, but the Lord and His Word is the same.

When it comes to Secret Sexual Sins, this is where it all must begin.

It was once said that a person shouldn’t be too transparent.”

We all know that if we are going to kill something, full disclosure is required. To leave out any details, sensible details lacking salacious statements, is the kind of concealment that most men and women depend on.

A balance has to be struck as to what is reasonably transparent and sharing declaratively forbidden salacious details.

It’s in the secrecy of a thing that a person could easily return to commit sexual sins. Therefore, it must be noted that for any one to recognize contriteness of heart, the degree of a person’s divulging of his or her heart, fully opens up the heart to receive the healing touch of the merciful love of God.

Psalm 40:11 “Do not withhold Your tender mercies from me, O Lord;
Let Your lovingkindness and Your truth continually preserve me.”

We ask the Lord to do this for us but what are we willing to do to receive all of it?

James 5:16 says, “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”

Notice that “trespasses” is plural. Now the argument that will be stated that James didn’t say “confess ALL your trespasses…..” 

The price of receiving His lovingkindness and tender mercies may require that you confess your trespasses to one another.

The power of the disease is not just the sexual immorality committed in the life of a pastor and his adulteress partner.

It’s in the secrecy.

John 3:19-21 says “And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”

This is true for believers as well. Believers that desire to commit sin will work secrecy in the same manner. But to work the works of darkness, a believer must come out of the light and leave holiness at the door of the house of sin.

Secrecy is the mode of operation because if few to none know about what went on, you can continue to minister like nothing happened. But few of us read the story of David. Or we totally ignore it.

Especially when the prophet, by the Holy Spirit, revealed David’s sins, hidden in secrecy.

While I was in the Secret Sexual Sins of porn and masturbation, I rarely, if not at all, mentioned holiness, sexual sins, unless it was just homosexuality, and deliberately avoided my own personal life.

The purpose was that if I didn’t own up to these sins, I can continue in the sinful pleasures of the world. I would quickly ask God for forgiveness, in vain, preach, and then go back to the vomit. I suppressed the convicting power of God for that two hours of being in church.

One of the things that you are aware of is that you know you lied to God. I wasn’t serious about repentance. It was all a hypocritical joke. My life busted the sides of the devils as they were laughing at me about how I was running my life.

Today, the Lord showed me what these devils were saying about me. No one likes being laughed at like a fool.

“If only he knew how he could be free.”

To be free, I must give up ALL MY SECRETS.

I must expose what I’ve done in darkness.

Paul said in Ephesians 5:11-13 “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.” 

I had to painfully expose these areas in my life in order to be free.

Psalm 90:8 “You have set our iniquities before You, our secret sins in the light of Your countenance.”

It’s not that the secret sins were freshly discovered. God knew about this before I was born. He was just waiting to see if I would decide to keep myself by His grace, or fall into sin. He was prepared to go in either direction. Because He knows all things.

It’s only until a man or a woman Come Clean and put it all on the table that restoration may be fully extended.

Of course there are many variables and accountability patterns that must be initiated and set up for the rest of his or her life, but until the secrets are revealed in confidence and safety, to even consider restoration to the pulpit is folly.

The path to the restoration of ministry is blocked until there is a restoration of the relationship a man had with God.

God has to to trust you all over again but from the secret place in prayer, fasting, repentance that sticks, to establish righteousness and true holiness. With no exits to sin against God again.

For they will fall again if pastors are not serious.

The power of the enemy is deprived when the secret is out. And the secret will come out, one way or another.

Restoration to the ministry should be a zero factor until things are properly set in order.

Just like when president Obama announced a date for troop withdrawals from Iraq and Afghanistan, the enemy just waited for that date to come.

Hence, the emergence of ISIS.

It’s the same with sinful ministers that love their sin more than they love God. Devils wait for the day you return to the ministry, and they bring their best sexual sins tools to tempt you to sin again.

Because the devils know that you haven’t killed Goliath in your flesh, but it’s not so much the devils. It’s you. Your thirst to fulfill lust in your mind and flesh.

The whole purpose of keeping the secret alive is to continue in sin.

Why?

If we look forward to the day of getting back into the pulpit, then we are missing the point.

A pulpit without God is no different than hell without God.

God will not partner with a preacher that is intent on keeping his sins.

This is what secrecy is all about.

The ability to continue in sin while pretending that everything is all right.

Finally, accountability teams are great and very helpful to ministers caught in Secret Sexual Sins, but if it is to get to the root of the problem, tough love accountability must be instituted from start to finish.

The sinning minister must not have control over establishing any date of return to the pulpit. Should a sinning minister refuse to endure the entire process and submit to Biblical accountability, there is nothing that anyone, including God could do.

Besides, what more important is not the pulpit but his heart.

If his heart is not right, then he is abusing the grace of God and there is no mercy available until there is a “confession and a forsaking.” (see Proverbs 28:13).

Make no mistake about it.

One moment of sin is not worth an eternity in hell.

A fallen minister must be broken before God. The fear of God must be restored. The contrite heart must be the lifestyle for the rest of his or her life.

And secrecy must be destroyed.

There can be no exceptions.

An article regarding Billy Graham’s grandson and his sexual immorality apparently spurned by his wife could be read here.