Would you want Jesus to lust after you?
Sadly, eye candy is what some, not all women become when “Easter” comes around.
They shop for clothing that is not appropriate for any church service.
Body hugging, low cleavage, high skirt hemline.
Well, they are only dressing according to the goddess of fertility and sexual immorality. Is it any wonder that some women dress sexually provocative?
satan has always perverted the most holiest day of the year.
The crucifixion of the Christ took place, coinciding with the Hebrew calendar, on the month of Nisan during the time of the annual atonement and release from the house of bondage of the children of Israel. The month of Nisan is the first month in the year for the Israelites.
According to Exodus 12, the Lord instructed Moses to tell the people to kill a lamb without blemish of the first year, take its blood and place it on the door posts and lentil. They were to eat the lamb, burn its entrails and other non edible parts, eat herbs, unleavened bread, with their staff in their hand, sandals on their feet, ready to leave Egypt.
The death angel would come at midnight and “passover” every house that had the lamb’s blood on the door post and lentil, sparing the firstborn in that house. But Egypt’s firstborn would not be spared.
This was to be a time of celebration in awe of the great deliverance that God would give the children if Israel.
This would be a type or shadow of the NT sacrifice of the Lamb that take away the sin of the world.
It would be an unmistakeable sign to Israel that Jesus, the Messiah, had died for the sin of the whole world. But they’ve rejected this Man and the sacrifice.
Early church fathers would turn this sacred ceremony into a festival. With eggs, and today, chocolate bunny rabbits. In modern times, fashionable dressing also became a part of the festivities.
I remember growing up as a kid that my mom and dad would buy new clothes for us to wear during this time but I never connected the dots.
Today, we see that when people come to church, they don’t care what they wear.
Inappropriate dresses are dead give aways that all they have on their minds is sexual attraction.
Some will say, that it’s all in your mind preacher.
Well let me ask you a question?
When you have to pull up to cover up, or pull your dress down to cover down, do you think that this is normal?
Almost in every local church, some one will come in with cleavage, or showing a lot of body and leg. Making it very difficult for the heart of a lust filled man……….or theses days, homosexual women.
Then there is the praise and worship singers that wear inappropriate clothing while “ministering.”
And the pastors will not take appropriate action to stop them at the door. They’d rather have the crowd instead of correcting this behavior.
Summer is coming too and you know that when it gets too hot in a service, covering up is not going to happen. I’d much rather prefer that you ask the Lord if He approve of what you are wearing or not wearing.
It’s much better not to come to church and go to the bar than to make the church a night club.
Self control is all in the Bible and modest dress is also in the Bible.
We do not have “elderly mothers” to stop this madness at the door any more. If they exist, it’s extremely rare.
We are too afraid to confront, discipline, and when necessary, stop them at the door.
A parent is having a very difficult time disciplining her son about what he is watching on the Internet. She comes to church with a dress to attract men.
Well, what do you expect?
Next year, it will be the same thing in many places. And sadly, men will not concentrate and IGNORE the sexually provocative seductress that comes to the house of worship to be worshipped.
So if you are wondering why we are seeing what we are seeing, just look at the source of the trouble.
Easter is not about “PASSOVER.”
It’s about sexual immorality.
I find that dealing with the area of porn, it just leaves the impression that men and women just sit there and watch naked people commit the sin of adultery, fornication, bisexuality, and homosexuality, and then turn off the TV, cellphone, iPad, or whatever device they are viewing and that’s the end.
Nothing else goes on.
But those of us that have been bound to this know that when it comes to watching porn, acting out sexually is part of the package.
Whether we act out sexually with another person or masturbate, the heat of sexuality is ever present. There must be a release of sexual tension.
Charisma put out an article on their page regarding overcoming porn.
Every one of us that came out from viewing pornography applaud anyone that address this issue.
In most articles that Charisma posts, they usually leave a place for comments but evidently, they chose not to allow for comments. And that’s fine.
Thank goodness for bloggers that will reveal a lot more of what goes on with pornography so as not to cut corners or “sugar coat” the anti porn message.
Porn is not just a show. It is demonic activity. Pornography is an “accelerant.”
Lust is already in the heart and mind of a man or woman, and all they want is something a little extra to heighten and “hijack” the chemicals and emotions operating in the body to achieve orgasm or releasing sexual tension.
But on the spiritual side, a man or woman must defect from righteousness, operate in disobedience to the commands of the Lord to remain pure, obey the enticement from demonic sources to be drawn away to commit sexual immorality.
Demons are always involved in sexual immorality and it is covetousness, which is idolatry that takes place wherever and whenever porn is involved.
Men are sight oriented and women are touch oriented.
What is the combination that occurs in sexual activity?
Sight and touch.
What attracts men to porn?
What they see. Then the arousal process begins. Sight and stimulation.
In the case of men, manual stimulation while aroused by sight is what makes masturbation, that leads to orgasm, the number one reason why men are bound to porn. A man doesn’t have to mentally manipulate or coerce a woman into sex. He engages in solo sex without relational involvement.
According to Dr. William Struthers, “porn hijacks the brain,” and he engages in masturbation, pretending to have sex with that image.
He deliberately avoids the normal relational process because all he wants is sex.
In the privacy of his home or hotel room, he engages himself sexually, brings himself to orgasm, and it’s over.
According to a source, the average time a man spends watching porn in a hotel room is 12 minutes.
A man doesn’t need porn to engage himself in masturbation. His mental capacities can engage in solo sex because, again Dr. William Struthers, in his book “Wired For Intimacy,” said that a man is wired for sex. He’s done a case study of individuals regarding the effects of porn on the brain.
While I was taking a course from Liberty University on Sexuality, another person did a case study years ago on the effects of porn on the brain. There is scientific evidence that porn is dangerous to the brain and its objective is to impose and implant abnormal sexual behavior.
But these studies all come to the same conclusion.
Porn is just an accelerant.
In order for a fire to start, all you need is three basic components.
Fire, material, and oxygen.
Eliminate one of these three, and you cannot have a fire.
But a person isn’t satisfied with just the basic components.
To get a bigger fire you need an accelerant.
It’s not a bigger orgasm that will be achieved. It’s the way, methods, or instruments that you use to get to the place of no return.
The man or woman is bound to use this and other accelerants to achieve orgasm.
So he or she returns, day after day, night after night to achieve something that is illusive.
You could also factor in the emotional episodes that people go through during the day that ties into achieving complete human satisfaction.
It’s an acronym for H– Hungry. A– Angry. L– Lonely. T– Tired.
When any of these emotions surface, this is the place where sexual temptation is sure to come, but also remember what James 1:14-16 says.
“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.”
These things are always operating in the carnal believer until crucified.
Only those that respond to satan get resurrected from the dead to commit sin.
Remember what Paul said that we are to be dead to sin but alive to God.
We cannot be alive to sin and alive to God at the same time.
With HALT, we could see satan personally attacking the Lord Jesus in the wilderness. Jesus was Hungry. Jesus was physically Lonely. At the very least, two out of the four were present.
Remember. Jesus was tempted in all points like ourselves yet, without sinning (see Hebrews 4:15).
Now men are looking to be seduced and women and men (homosexuality) will use the tools to draw them from strength to struggle. They give in to the struggle because of the reward of orgasm, but it always lead to an empty feeling inside.
Sexual intimacy is to be shared with a person of the opposite sex within the confines of matrimony. Yes, it involves relational involvement so as not to cheapen the person. Hence, “Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled, but adulterers and fornicators God will judge.”
Above that is the fact that sexual immorality is an act of sin, which is an act of betrayal of the only One that could fully satisfy our every need (see John 4:1-42).
When a man or a woman engages in sexual immorality, he or she is seeking intimacy.
The highest form of intimacy is with the Lord in spirit and in truth, worshipping the Father. In the natural, the Lord provides for natural intimacy in marriage. And when the natural intimacy is achieved in legal matrimony, we go back to the Father for full satisfaction.
So when it comes to masturbation, achieving orgasm outside of the marriage, we are robbing ourselves of complete satisfaction as designed by the Lord.
You can read the Charisma article here
In Toledo Ohio, two men, allegedly involved in sex trafficking were arrested by the FBI.
One of the men arrested happens to be the pastor of Abundant Life Ministries.
Should the allegation prove to be true, there is nothing “Abundant” in his ministry except sin.
For the young ladies trapped in their illicit web of ministerial deceit, they were probably relieved.
It’s one thing for the allegations to be shared by church members but when the authorities report the incident, depending upon how they will defend themselves in court, there is little chance of these allegations to go away.
Until then, as they say, “Innocent, until proven guilty in a court of law.”
Paul shared a word in Ephesians 5:3.
“But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints;”
The word “named” also means “mentioned.”
Back in the day, the 70’s and 80’s, growing up as a new believer, certain local churches were “mentioned” as places of homosexual activity. In NYC, particularly Brooklyn NY, there would be several Baptist churches harboring practicing homosexuals as minister of music.
Or in other places, heterosexual activity with unmarried and married people in the local church would take place.
It’s one thing to mention true activity, but it is another thing to spread salacious accusations lacking evidence. The latter must be addressed so as not to slander the righteous. But when sin is mentioned in the house of what is to be a true worship of God, there must be a courageous act to deal swiftly with the activity.
Otherwise, it is not a house of worship of the Lord. It is a house of whoredom and homosexuality.
No different than a brothel.
In the OT, that’s what took place.
Many scholars try to write off the literal action of harlotry as just a spiritual description of the activities of the house of Israel. And to a degree this is true. But ask yourself a question.
What made idol worship so attractive to Israel?
What compelled them to leave the living God to serve dead gods?
Also, one of the gods that Israel would worship would be Molech.
It would be in the valley of Hinnom, which was located south west of Jerusalem, and would be used as the city’s incinerator, that children would be burned in the fire.
Where did the children come from?
As whoredom would be committed, the women would get pregnant from their promiscuity and they would sacrifice them at the altar of Molech. At the end of Solomon’s reign, Solomon would worship Molech. With 1000 women he had, is it no wonder? Solomon was a whoremonger and a murderer, with the women that he had in bed, they too would be whores and murderers.
This would be called out of womb abortion.
This area where child sacrifice would take place, would also be called the valley of Tophet. It would be there that they would beat the drums as they pass children through the fire to make the worship of this god tolerable. Drowning out the cries of the child in excruciating pain of the flames. Both Tophet and Hinnom would be types of Gehennah, descriptive of the realm of the unrighteous departed spirits.
Why the mention of these things? What’s the relevance?
Professed female believers today would commit sexual immorality with pastors and music ministers, and some of them, 49% of female believers would profess faith in Christ.
A true believer would never do these things but they do happen.
Today, believers are caught in the whirlwind of fornication and adultery that fuels abortion.
There is no question in my mind that some of those young girls that were trafficked by these temple pimps got pregnant and were forced to get an abortion and go back to work.
We know this is happening but we are unwilling to admit it, face it, and destroy it.
The sexual immorality that is plaguing the local church is still in full swing.
But this isn’t the real church.
The real church would never have a mention of fornication, uncleanness, or covetousness among them.
In many circles, deacons would commit adultery and never be disciplined, and thrown off the deacon board. The women in the church would never be chastised and disciplined. They would come to church as if no sin were committed.
There was no fear of God before their eyes. They wouldn’t be afraid to walk in the house of the Lord. For their protection, sometimes the Lord would remove His presence. Or His presence would be there in judgment as saint after saint, after taking communion, would get weak, sick, and or die before their time.
In most places, it may seem like the Lord is in the house with people operating in emotion out of their soul, but there would be no real repentance. No change of mind because a “sentence” wasn’t executed speedily (see Ecclesiastes 8:11-13).
When a person doesn’t get caught the first time, they erroneously calculate that the chances of them getting caught are slim, if they play the game right.
Sadly, folk do not believe that they were caught before they were born (see Psalm 90:8, 139:1-18). But many of them act like the Lord is blind and that He is not among us and can’t see what people are doing (see Ezekiel 8:12).
If the allegations prove to be true, God caught them before they were born. They were given space to repent and didn’t take the offer. Instead, the FBI caught them and now they face serious jail time. For the rest of their lives, if convicted in a court of law, they would have to register as sex offenders if they ever get out.
But worse, if they do not repent, they will experience their part with the transgressors.
Some of you reading this may have been given a final warning.
Take advantage. Because when the music stops, you do not want to be without a chair to sit in.
You’ve been warned.
The news report from Toledo OH could be read here
It’s not the first, and certainly, it will not be the last.
You kind of figure that after Eddie Long died of cancer, which, in my opinion, was directly connected to his alleged sexual encounter with males in his church, that the fear of God would sober up anyone.
A lot of preachers are still risking it all to have it all in the bed of fornication and adultery. It’s a clear revelation of who they really love more.
Jesus said, “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”
We’ve come to find out that such is not the case about the fear of God.
Paul quoted a Scripture about “There is no fear of God before their eyes.”
Many will disagree with me about Eddie Long, and that’s your right. But add it all up and if you’ve come to a different conclusion, again, that is your prerogative. I’m not in a quest to prove anything except that if you are serious about God, you will do what Paul said in Ephesians 5:3.
Don’t let a hint of immorality be found among you.
However, many have died untimely deaths when they’ve fell into sin.
It is a lesson to not be “numbered with the transgressors.”
This is not the only incident. There were and are many incidences of adultery in the pulpit that go unreported.
This one is reported because of the obvious connection to T D Jakes.
Now let’s set the record straight.
Jakes is not responsible in any way for the cause of this adulterous activity of Chris Hill. Many will say that since Chris came from Jakes, that he should have maintained some level of integrity and sexual purity. Sadly, being connected to any big named preachers will bring scrutiny to any young minister that came from their ministries.
You are more under the spot light than your “famous” teacher.
The wife of Chris Hill, Joy Hill, revealed to the public of this adulterous incident. And according to Joy, it wasn’t the first.
The allegations are serious and usually when this hits the public, it’s another example of the real Secret Sexual Sins that live in the lives of pastors whether well known or unknown.
Until soundly refuted, it leads me to believe that porn and masturbation may have been a part of Chris Hill’s life.
As usual, in this alleged case, a pastor and a married female church employee.
Sadly, the Lord Jesus, once again reveals the kind of environment we would be in for the last of the last days.
Luke 12:45-46 rings true.
“But if that servant says in his heart, ‘My master is delaying his coming,’ and begins to beat the male and female servants, and to eat and drink and be drunk, the master of that servant will come on a day when he is not looking for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in two and appoint him his portion with the unbelievers.”
The Lord delays His return and, like the children of Israel in Exodus 32, we make a golden calf, and set out to “play.”
Most scholars agree that the word “play,” which means to “make sport,” may have included sexual immorality.
We refuse to take seriously that we are to abstain from fornication and that we are “not to defraud a brother” as recorded in 1 Thessalonians 4.
In the Chris Hill allegation, he performed the wedding of the woman that was his church employee that he committed adultery with. According to the allegations of his wife, Chris was involved in this adultery for months. The question must be asked, where was the husband of Shirnae McFarlane, this church employee?
As the Scripture said in 1 Thessalonians 4, that “the Lord is the avenger of such.”
We are not taking seriously what the Scriptures teach and since the Lord delays His coming, we find ourselves divorcing ourselves from God to have the pleasures of sin for a season.
We are not reading the signs of His coming and we are ignoring, and suppressing the knowledge of the truth to have that one moment of immoral sexual pleasure.
To fall in sin is to fall out of love with the Lord.
You can’t commit adultery without spiritually committing adultery against God first.
Meaning that you have to disconnect from God to connect with the devil. To enter the domain of darkness to commit sin, you must leave your “this little light of mine” outside.
That one moment of sin can cost you. The book of Daniel tells us that God holds our breath and our ways in His hands. At anytime, Chris could have been called into eternity. And according to Hebrews 9:27, 13:4, there’s a good chance he might not have made it into heaven.
You might be saying that this is a stretch.
Are you willing to take a chance yourself to find out?
I thought not.
Now God is merciful. He offers forgiveness when we repent (change our minds). But this changing of the mind requires to put a stake in the ground, to never reverse the decision.
Chris Hill stepped down for a season, which is typical for most pastors caught in sexual sins. He will be back in the pulpit. That’s the going rate these days.
But before he returns, let’s hope that he make amends with God. A pulpit without God is no different than an empty tomb. His wife has been betrayed after God was betrayed. She is in pain and anguish. Most wives will do everything possible to save the marriage. But before their marriage could be salvaged, Chris’ soul must go through a thorough transformation.
His attitude towards God and His Word must change. Accountability must be rock solid. He must now be on constant watch to restore trust in his marriage. And restoration to ministry must be a distant thought.
But for now, those of you reading, and I myself included, must take heed, lest we fall.
Please remember to get your copy of Secret Sexual Sins and Secret Sexual Sins II MOAB- Mother Of All Battles. Secret Sexual Sins can be Kindled.
More details about this sad sex scandal could be read here
It was reported the vice president Mike Pence took the unusual step of honoring his wife by sharing that he would never “dine with women alone.”
Chivalry is vilified by the progressive left.
Just in case you do not know what “chivalry” means, according to one source……”courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.”
In the case of the vice president, his behavior honored his wife.
There is no doubt in my mind that this was a carried over policy that he instituted himself so as to honor God that brought them together and to uphold, without question, his faithfulness to his wife.
On a different note, I’ve instituted a policy a long time ago when my wife and I started pastoring.
I never counsel women alone.
Laugh if you want. Call me what you want.
Most pastors will counsel women alone.
That’s their prerogative. There is nothing in the Scriptures that declare that you have to have this kind of policy. But there is nothing in the Scriptures that says that you can’t have this policy.
To each his own.
My point is not to draft up a bunch of Scriptures to justify either point.
My point is to point out that the world (satan’s kids) will do everything in their power to trip a marriage up. But the progressive broad road that leads to destruction agenda is also designed to ridicule anyone that honor their female wives.
I believe that the vice president knew this and established a clear boundary that he will not cross.
Marriage has been under attack since the Garden.
Yup, now the Bible.
satan divided Eve from Adam and it cost their marriage. Since then, every marriage is attacked after their’s been a probe to determine how weak or how strong their marriage is.
Mike Pence did what was frowned upon by progressive ideology.
Honor the Lord, honor His institution, and honor his wife.
The world wants you to dishonor the Lord, the institution of marriage, and the wife.
Why? To discredit the Scriptures. To bring dishonor and shame on the Lord and to attempt to bring many people into the bondage of sin. It’s demonic alternative to trap many people.
The revelation of marriage is found in the writings of Paul.
The husband represents Christ and the wife represents the church.
Paul called it a “great mystery.”
Since the Garden, satan has been a terrorist on marriage.
Homosexual unions, bisexuality, bestiality, adultery, and fornication perverts the marriage institution.
When one male and one female unite in holy matrimony, and make a quality decision to honor their marriage, it reveals the kind of relationship that the Lord instituted and God is glorified.
But when we see the world instituting a substitute, it undermines the revelatory intent of God’s institution of marriage.
Just because two people fail in their marriage, it doesn’t mean that the institution of marriage is a failure and that demonically inspired alternatives are authorized.
satan always looked for every opportunity to replace anything of God, including God Himself. But we all know that anything that is created will never be greater than the Creator.
Mike Pence put up a firewall because he knows all too well the trappings of politics mixed with pleasure. The enemy already sent his “feminine agents” to probe the weaknesses of their marriage but they will find that the firewall is secure.
Even when a firewall is established, the enemy will continue to probe to attempt to gain access to destroy the marriage. Especially when the demonically inspired progressive agenda is out to pervert everything that it touches.
As long as the vice president is on watch and stays on his knees before the Lord, and keep his marriage strong, any attempts will be futile.
If married men would make the same pledge of this kind of policy, it will show that marriage can work if both the husband and wife stick together. As a team, they can withstand the traps and temptations of the wicked one. One can put a thousand to flight and two can put ten thousand to flight. A threefold cord is not easily broken. As long as they stay with Jesus, where there is two or three are gathered together, touching on anything, there, the Lord is in the middle or center of it all.
So when you see that “no weapon formed against us shall prosper” it’s because a man agrees to honor the Lord, his marriage, and his wife. He will do everything in his power to exercise “sexual discipline” in a sexually perverted world.
Now for other spiritually references, you could read, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-5, Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Revelation 21:8, the entire chapter of Leviticus 18, Romans 1:18-32.
After you’ve started going out with him, he shows that he is responsible. Has a good paying job. Equally important, he makes every effort to treat you like the woman he would want to marry. Over the course of the courtship, you’ve shown that you are a great help in his life. He trusts your “help” and you have been there, supportive of most of the things he purposes to do in life.
You’ve found that you compliment each other, and he finally reaches a point to where you are indispensable. He depends upon you and you depend upon him.
He takes his time because that’s the way it is with most men. Most men take more time than a woman is willing to understand. He is about to commit to one woman and for most men, it’s the most challenging aspect of relationships.
Marriage is a very important, life changing event.
He spent some time making up his mind. For most women, way too much time. He worked hard to muster up the courage to propose. He worked hard to give you an indication that he is the right man.
“Mr. Right” is hard to come by these days. But unbeknownst to women, with for every 3 or 4 woman to 1 man, Mrs. Right is just as hard to come by too.
Most women think that it should be an easy choice, but it isn’t.
The Lord said in the Word of God that “What God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Meaning that the union is part of the plan of God. However, the Bible also says, “He that finds a wife, finds good, and obtains favor from the Lord.”
The man must spend time finding the right one that is right for him.
Not every man is right and not every woman is right.
God certainly doesn’t join incompatible people. It doesn’t make any sense to get married, separate over irreconcilable differences, and later, end it all in divorce. Matthew 19:4-10 is a good reason why it doesn’t make any sense.
As a note, when you see two people constantly going head to head over major and trivial issues without reconciliation, it is a good indication that the signs of incompatibility exists and to ignore these signs is no different than reading a sign “DEAD END,” but you keep driving, disbelieving in complete ignorance what that sign said.
That’s what makes courting so challenging and in some cases, rewarding for both prospective couples.
Up to the last moment, before the proposal, he is still calculating, analyzing, and critiquing his decision. He wants to be absolutely sure that she is the one.
A man will go through a maze of certain aspects and questions that brings him to a decision or indecision. He becomes more deliberate in his deliberation. Sometimes to the point of second guessing and over-analysis that brings some men to a point of mental paralysis.
This form of “hesitation” is exhibited in a change of his behavior.
Over the course of the courtship, a few events will always transpire that will bring questions to each couple. So challenging that sometimes, Mr. Right and Miss. Right will question themselves if their relationship is wrong.
But this is where they begin to really see each other under pressing and stressing conditions. Whether they could weather through some turbulent times in just the planning of the wedding.
The woman is looking for her fiancé to approve the details of the wedding. Some men like to be that involved and others, for the most part, will not be as involved. It is not a sign that he is disinterested because he is probably thinking about other issues.
Where to live?
Will his job be enough to handle the addition of another person?
Children isn’t on his mind but in any marriage, children will add to the stress for both.
The wedding day is the most important day for a woman. For the man too but in a different way.
She meticulously plans every detail. She puts her every effort to make that day the most memorable moment of her life.
On that day, it’s all about the bride.
She accepted the proposal of her new male fiancé and in her mind, she releases her excitement. That moment becomes the pinnacle of her life.
After the excitement of accepting the proposal, with her new engagement ring to “flash” around to her girlfriends, she shifts gears. Or she is modest about it but other females begin to notice what’s on her left ring finger that wasn’t there yesterday.
She discusses the date of her wedding with her fiancé, which is normal because all other plans hinge on establishing the date of matrimony.
But what about her fiancé?
He is excited that his fiancé accepted his proposal.
With planning a wedding, many women want to know if her fiancé is equally excited about the planning aspect. She wants to feel that her fiancé is involved and interested.
It is here that many women feel that they are sometimes all alone when he seems disinterested.
Any feedback is met with a man’s “generalized” answers that seem distant, cold and disconnected. That connection that you once had when the proposal came, became a distant memory.
But is there a disconnection?
For most men, the connection is still there whether he says something or not.
He hasn’t changed his mind and is confident in his selection. Otherwise, he would not have proposed.
What goes on in the mind of a man when a woman begins planning the wedding?
As the day of matrimony gets closer, he is concentrating on what’s about to happen afterwards. While you are planning the wedding, you too are also planning for what is abut to happen afterwards, but it all begins with your arrangement of the most important day of your life.
The man is going through several things.
He is establishing his mentality.
What does that mean?
It means that he is mentally preparing himself to live with you. And you are already doing the same. Whether you realize it or not, as the day gets closer, the nerves get uneasy. It’s normal because neither of you have been this way before.
The “unknown” has a way of doing this.
It means that he is determining what needs to be done just like you are determining what needs to be done.
There is no need to “PUSH” each other and apply more pressure on top of the pressure each of you is experiencing.
It seems like he is going in the opposite direction but unbeknownst to you, it is in tandem with what you are doing.
It is here that attitudes will adjust or fly off the handle. Nervousness of the unknown, and “Murphy’s Law” will be in operation. While no one wants anything to go wrong, either with the planning of the wedding or the marriage, it is here that you may see the best bonding take place.
Spiritually and emotionally.
In the end, you will say “It was worth it all.”
You will have a wealth of memories and experience to pass to the next generation when you have children. You will see them go through the same thing and both of you will smile.
The challenge is to learn how to read each other in a caring way so as not to further frazzle each other’s nerves.
While the wedding planning is going on, it’s about perfection. But equally important, you are each learning about each other in ways never seen or experienced before.
To make the most of that day, look to not get on each other’s nerves by “walking in the Spirit and not in the flesh.” It is very easy to fly off the handle when things go wrong.
And they will go wrong.
How you take the pressure off of each other will go a long ways to bonding.
Learn to have each other’s best interest in mind instead of looking to let the pressure of the moment cause you to say hurtful things and make regrettable decisions that carry over into the marriage.
When you continue to bicker and fight over issues, the heat of anger could blind people. Almost to the point of calling off the wedding. It’s been done before.
Both of you are under considerable pressure.
The least you could do is exasperate the situation(s).
Sometimes, it could mean that each of you need a light moment.
A break from planning would be nice. Yes, you are under time constrains but never put more pressure on yourself than you need. You will find that it will all work itself out.
As a woman, you want your fiancé involved because you are about to bond. If it appears that he seems like he is not involved as you think he should be, just remember, he hasn’t changed his mind. To add more to each other’s plate is not the best thing to do. To establish “ultimatums” to get your fiancé to respond to you isn’t healthy either.
Remember, a man usually will not see things the way that you do, and it’s the same for the woman. Two different view points doesn’t necessarily indicate a rift in the relationship.
Are you willing to accept his view point?
Are you willing to accept her view point?
Is it grounds for postponement? Annulment?
Usually, it isn’t.
There is just as much pressure on him that it is on you. At this point, you do not think so, but just know that both of you are under pressure. What will you do to make things better as opposed to making things unbearable is up to you.
You could either put rocks in your bed and sleep in it or take the rocks out and sleep in a nice bed.
We all know the saying.
“You’ve made your bed, now lie in it.”
You’ve invited a lot of friends and what they see, or what you want them to see is that your husband to be is happy about his selection. You want everyone to know that your marriage will work.
Weddings are a show to the world that your marriage is of God, that it is right, and that it will work.
Take the time to appreciate the moment.
There will be tough times ahead, but there will be good times ahead that will make whatever bad times you’ve experienced something to look back on and smile as you age together.
Pastors across this nation are still struggling with lust in their hearts. The media is using all sorts of “tricks” to keep them bound and “tricks” to lure a pastor back from his prison break.
When using the Internet to read certain stories, the “advertisement” around the articles display nothing but tempting sexual images. For the “wandering” eye, all it takes is for a man to be captured by the traps.
Lust in the heart left alive will kill.
If a man refuses to exercise discipline, it’s just a matter of time before that which he once refuse to click, will click on to that image to see more.
The writer of Proverbs was not kidding when he said that the sexually immoral woman, her house is the way to hell descending to the chambers of death (see Proverbs 7:27).
You do not have to be in her house physically to be a candidate for the chambers of death.
Many men arrive in their house by way of chat rooms. Twitter, Facebook, and other forms of social media is the same house.
Many men do not believe that they are doing wrong because they are not there physically. Which is further proof that sin is a spiritual condition that demands physical expression.
And chances are, it is expressed in masturbation or solo sex. You are pretending that you are having sex with that image on the screen. Spiritually, you have joined yourself to that harlot.
It’s not name calling because when you see a person having sex that is not their husband, remember, porn stars are prostitutes performing on the screen. No matter the amount and the venue, they are still getting paid.
As one other blogger said, many men that engage in pornography are masturbating, not just to that image but to that demon of lust. The evil spirits that govern this high place is using the image to capture your heart and should you not repent, you will descend into the chambers or (apartment/cell block) of death.
Remember, “Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death,” and “The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
Paul said that “I will not be brought under the power of any.”
When you give yourself to the lust in your mind and flesh, you are turning over control of your spirit, soul, and body, to demonic control. The only way out is when you make a “quality decision” to leave sexual sins and never return. Sometimes it takes confiding in someone to confess your secret sexual sins.
This is not a prerequisite for deliverance but repenting, confessing, and forsaking is imperative according to Matthew 4:17 and Proverbs 28:13.
The longer you stay in your sexual sins, and keep it a secret, it jeopardizes any chance of you being free. Your prayers will not be heard according to Psalm 66:18 and you cannot claim sonship as long as you sin, bound as a slave to sin according to John 8:32-36 and Romans 6:16-22.
Freedom begins in repentance from dead works. Freedom is maintained in strict obedience to the Word of God.
“How shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereunto according to Your Word. O let me not wonder from your commandments. Your Word have I hidden in my heart that I might not sin against You.”
Most men remain bound because they haven’t grasped the fact that demonic power is behind all sexual immorality.
satan doesn’t love you and that carrot on his sexual immoral stick, you will never get.
In sexual immorality, there is no satisfaction. As Jesus said to the woman at Jacob’s Well, if you drink this water, you will thirst again. So why do we keep going back to a well where this water of sexual immorality will never satisfy?
It’s in hopes that one day, we would be satisfied. Which is a lie of the devil.
And be real.
Even if you had that image in bed, there is a good chance that it will not be anything that you’ve imagined. Sexual fantasy only leads you deeper into a depraved state of mind. And then when a man refuses to be free or obey the Lord, it reveals that he is obstinate. Stubborn. Unwilling to obey. As the Bible says, “Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft and stubbornness is as iniquity.”
In fact, the dirt and the filth that is attached to sexual immorality took away any pleasure.
No man that has ever masturbated has ever escaped the condemnation of the conscience. For you know in your heart that you have sinned against God, and your body.
The power of lust, when you give yourself over to it destroys any prohibition because the deception of obtaining a “reward” of getting your lust fulfilled, clouds all prohibition.
Just like the book of Proverbs describes a foolish or simple man given over to the words of a harlot. “Like an ox to the slaughter.”
No person that gives themselves over to sexual immorality has ever escaped the slaughter. Like the Scriptures said, “Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”
Here is the list of the “Dirty Dozen.” Please click, copy and past to see this list.