Stop Playing With Yourself: Worshipping At The Altar Of Lust

Growing up as a kid, you hear things that made you think.

Statements like “go play with yourself” had that sexual overtone that everyone knew what it’s about. However, after a while, you find yourself doing masturbation more often than you realize. Until it becomes second nature. The muscle memory and the false pleasure of having sex with someone that isn’t there became more than just “playing with yourself.”

It turned from pleasure habit into a bondage that is no different than nicotine, cocaine, or alcohol dependency.

It’s addictive. Voyeurism, exhibitionism, and other obsessive forms of sexual immorality is not that far off. That’s because with self sexual foreplay, people that are not in control will engage anywhere.

The false pros of masturbation is no relationship with another person. No STDs. No pregnancies.

You schedule your day around it.

In 1 John 2:15-17, John, the beloved apostle of the Lamb said, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of the Father abides forever.”

Lust is the law in the flesh of fallen man (male and female).

The law of lust is what’s behind masturbation.

The law of sin and death (see Romans 8:1-2) demands that lust be fulfilled, but we all know that lust is never fulfilled. It remains dissatisfied forever. Anything that is not ordained by the Lord is of the devil. The devil’s desires will always remain insatiable. Hence, the fallen state of man, these desires, unless put to death, will remain insatiable.

The corruption of flesh demands satisfaction.

The flesh demands to recharge to re-satisfy itself.

In the normal concept of sex, the reset to do it all over again is to be tempered or self controlled.

Lust is never controlled. It must be put to death.

In the last 6 years, masturbation was the most difficult thing to break. After 33 years from 1975 to 2008, a week wouldn’t go by unless I engaged in masturbation. At first, it seemed normal and innocent. Afterwards, I was hooked and developed a list of reasons to keep doing what I wanted to do. Even after marriage, I found myself engaging.

Lust after women “enhanced” this pursuit of sexual satisfaction. But satisfaction was never achieved. Even with introducing pornography in 1998, the satisfaction was never achieved.

Little did I realized that not only was I breaking God’s command about the sanctity of marriage according to Genesis 2:24, far worse, I idolized my desire to have self or solo sex.

It became my god.

The Lord God said to Moses in Exodus 20:3-6,

“You shall have no other gods before Me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image —any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them.

For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”

To put it as bluntly as allowed, getting off was worshipped.

At this altar of sexual immorality, I paid homage to the god of lust. The second god or idol was my sexual organ. What kept me worshipping at this altar was the dopamine. The drug of fulfillment and satisfaction.

This infatuation of getting this drug in my blood stream had me coming back for more and more every time.

All it took to get me started was touching myself sexually. Or a combination of things. Lusting after the flesh. The sexual objectification of a woman’s anatomy. At the end of the day, there’s no question what was going to happen. From 2008 to 2011, the grace of God enabled me to completely abstain from masturbation.

It was a great 3.5 years of learning how to control myself.

Dr. Mark Lasser really taught the lesson on self control. He asked the greatest question I’ve ever heard.

Can you do without sex with your wife and masturbation?

The answer is yes.

Hence, the definition of addiction recovery.

“To control, manage, or stop using a particular substance, thing, or activity.”

There are many advocates that encourage masturbation as a healthy sexual practice. This would fall under the category of “control or manage.”

However, if it is being worshipped, it must stop because God has no rivals. If God is enthroned on your heart, there can be no other gods.

In reading many books that reason with making seemingly viable excuses to continue masturbation, many men will accept these arguments and stand their ground when they are challenged.

Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”

James 1:14-15 says, “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

So the end is always death. What kind of death? Death in your relationship with the Lord. Broken fellowship with God.

It seems right to justify sin but it always end in death. You are tempted, you fall into temptation, you yield to temptation. The desire has conceived (egg – sperm unites). Sin is birthed. Death is the result.

In Matthew 26:41, Jesus said, “Watch and pray, lest you fall into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak.”

Even with watching and praying, lust was lurking within me that I feared greatly.

The urge to touch myself sexually got stronger and stronger.

Mind you, I was praying. I had an accountability partner. I was teaching the men how to overcome.

Then the moment of truth came. After a setback at an event, discouragement zapped me so bad that I fell into the trap of touching myself sexually.

From 2011 to early spring of 2014, I found myself back into “playing with myself.”

To even try to deflect how I got back into masturbation or to attempt to minimize the fall is the worst thing in the world you could do. That’s because to falsely justify sexual immorality is a deception not worth going to hell over. Even to count how many times I masturbated to give a minimal number to minimize the blow is folly.

I also found out that you can’t preach effectively to sinners if you are in sin yourself. You are disqualified.

Since returning to the streets to preach, the reason that kept me from preaching in the streets was directly tied to sexual immorality running rampant in my life. There is no anointing in sin. God never anoints what He never appoints. Sin and holiness can never mingle. God’s temple cannot be full of idols. Jesus and satan can never have communion, fellowship, or unity. Darkness cannot co-mingle with light.

Ineffective living always leads to ineffective preaching. If you cannot live to obey the commands of Jesus, you can’t win a soul to Jesus. The crucified life demands denying yourself, taking up your cross, and following the Lord. Many desire to follow the Lord, but they never deny themselves (see Mark 8:34).

You deliberately cheat or defraud yourself from achieving a false pleasure to gain the highest pleasure.

Pleasing God.

You can’t talk about taking up your cross unless you deny yourself.

In other words, you stop playing with yourself.

Most ministers are ineffective because of the refusal to deny themselves.

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 9:27, “But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

Jesus said this in Matthew 5:28-30, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

This is not a stretch of revelation but you and I both know that the Lord covered masturbation because it takes an eye to lust and the hand to play. There is no question about it and to fool ourselves into thinking that the Lord wasn’t talking about self sex is foolishness and deliberate deception.

As Mike Cleveland of Setting Captives Free said, this is “radical amputation.”

If you refuse to cut off anything that is leading you to masturbate, notice what Jesus said….

“…for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

Will a person go to hell over masturbation?

Are you willing to let masturbation rule you like a god? And are you willing to risk it?

Remember what Revelation 21:8 says.

Remember also Hebrews 12:4.

“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

And NO. I am not telling you that you need to butcher yourself to stop sinning.

What is it that you are willing to do to stop sinning?

How far will you go?

Are you willing to pull out the TV?

Are you willing to give up your mobile device you use to spy out flesh to masturbate off of?

Are you willing to give up your passcode to your computer to an accountability partner and or your wife?

Are you willing to get off of FB or all social media?

Are you willing to walk across the street when a hot looking woman is within your periphery?

Are you willing to look in another direction when she is trying to get your attention at the magazine stand?

Are you willing to change channels if you keep your TV?

Are you willing to get up out of bed, pray and seek God when you are sexually aroused at night?

Are you willing to call your accountability partner to get prayer in your hour of temptation?

Are you willing to pick up the phone when your accountability partner calls on you to check up on you?

Are you willing to stop being evasive when asked the tough questions?

 

So let’s sum this up.

1. Lust must be destroyed. In fact, lust was destroyed on the cross of Christ according to 1 John 3:8.

But is lust destroyed in you? Colossians 3:5 is the answer.

2. God has no rivals. Exodus 20-3-6.

3. Excuses seems right but frivolous justification always lead to death. Proverbs 14:12, James 1:14-15.

4. Watch and pray. Matthew 26:41.

5. Discipline yourself. 1 Corinthians 9:27.

 

The Pink Cross Foundation – Porn And Pancakes – A Serious Dilemma

Back in 2008, by the grace of God, the Word of the Lord came to me. The Holy Spirit spoke to me while in the middle of watching porn and masturbating these Words.

“Is this what you do to Me after all the good I’ve done for you?”

It was then that I was done with porn.

I was going to make this short but that is not the case.

I searched for help on the Internet and came across many sites. Pastor Roger Jamison, pastor of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY steered me to some sites where I could get additional help on porn addiction.

“The Pink Cross Foundation” headed by former porn star Shelley Lubben was not one of those sites, but I happened upon that site and it gave me additional information about what went on behind the set of porn shoots.

She testified before Congress and other places about her participation in the porn industry. She shared passionately about women being abused sexually and really laid it on the table what was done behind the scenes of pornography. It was clear in my mind that she struck a cord with many about the things done on the set.

As some of you know, women would travel miles to California to star in movies. When they do not make it, some of them resort to class B movies, porn, strip clubs, escort services, and prostitution to make money and some how get noticed. But to no avail, many of them get trapped in doing porn and never make it.

I understand that porn is a very dangerous, dirty place where drugs and alcohol would be available on the set to help the women cope with the rape and abuse that men and other women would do to unsuspecting aspiring actresses. Some of them never make it past the first day because the abuse would be devastating, and they would never return. To make things worse, there would always be the fear of contracting STDs, including HIV/AIDS. A few have even committed suicide because the shame, stigmatization, being diagnosed with STDs, loneliness, hopelessness, and other emotionally traumatic events would be too much for them to bear.

The Pink Cross Foundation is a site that attempts to reveal what really goes on in porn, however, as helpful as some of the information is, some of the pictures and stories are a bit over the top.

In other words, the pictures displayed on The Pink Cross Foundation are racy.

Even I had to refrain from looking at that site because it is sexually provocative and obviously explicit.

This is not to say that these stories are not true, or juiced up to gain more attention. It is to say that when a man goes to this, or similar sites, it’s almost like looking at porn all over again. Many will argue that it’s not the site that’s the problem. It’s the man with unbridled lust in his heart and mind.

That’s partly true and many will disagree, but the problem is twofold.

ONE: According to Dr. William Struthers “porn hijacks the brain.” 

He shared that when a man looks at porn and masturbates, he is pretending to have sex with the person. While a man doesn’t need porn to masturbate, his mind goes through a ritual of search and discovery, meditation or fantasy, and then he engages. Sometimes one picture could set him into search mode and then he “locks in” on what he wants sexually, to act out sexually.

The photos on The Pink Cross Foundation could be one of these pictures that would set a man off sexually. Just like a supermarket magazine stand. A woman on a street corner, a movie with soft porn sex scenes, a man could be sexually influenced to pursue porn and masturbation.

Porn is the fuel or accelerant of the sexual immorality world. No man watches porn and doesn’t act out sexually in masturbation, adultery, fornication, bisexuality, or homosexuality.

The lust in a man’s heart is what must be addressed. It is addressed on the cross. Jesus died for our sins to set us free from sin but also to appease the wrath of God. The wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all unrighteousness. Jesus paid that penalty because God pour upon Jesus, His wrath.

Therefore, because of Jesus, when we repent and turn from our wicked ways, we, by the help of the Holy Spirit are capable of walking in obedience to the Word of God to abstain from the very appearance of evil.

The power and guilt of sin was removed. In the presence of sin, we walk in obedience to His Word to never let sin have dominion over us. It’s a work of His grace not to continue in sin, but to live free of it.

It is true that man needs to be more disciplined to ignore what a woman is wearing, however, some women wear certain clothing to be sexually noticed. Sexually immoral women will make a calculated maneuver to attract male attention.

That one moment of flirt, to her, is her power over man.

I’ve said all this to agree with EX Ministries that “The Pink Cross Foundation’s intent, yet, as long as the gospel is absent, is undoubtedly involved in the transmission of sexually provocative material.

Please observe this YouTube for consideration.

http://youtu.be/TLXxDnuLdzs

TWO: When we were involved in porn, we men would sometimes read “Forum,” “Hustler,” “Playboy,” and other sexually explicit reading material. There would be racy stories that would get our “engines” running. There is some material that lead men back into the world of porn. For those of us that were delivered, we are on the lookout for anything that would tease us to go back and “investigate.”

Even on FB, there are female pictures that stimulates the minds of men to investigate.

The face, the hair, the clothing, the position, the smile.

Men are easily seduced. On FB or other social medias, all it takes is a captivating look and a man is easily swayed to look lustfully at a woman.

“Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.” Proverbs 27:20

Any website that uncovers the underworld of porn that is absent of the gospel of Jesus Christ is just another substitute porn site.

It is a very strong statement but here is the reason.

“…the gospel of Christ…..is the power of God unto salvation….” 

This is the cut up version of Romans 1:16.

Women that explain the dangers, perils, documented stories of the sufferings of women in porn are to be commended, however, when it fails to point people back to the cross of Christ, it is very troubling.

EX Ministries with G. Craige Lewis and Tetaun Moffett has done a remarkable job in pointing out the fact that the gospel of Jesus Christ is central to a man’s deliverance. And that this gospel is absent from The Pink Cross Foundation. I fully understand that the intent of The Pink Cross Foundation is to reveal the dark side of porn so that men and women that deliberately watch porn would be shocked to the degree that we would never watch another women get harmed. However, the gospel must be at the top of the list. Man is incapable of delivering man from sin. If we were capable, the death of Jesus wouldn’t have been necessary.

We all know that women are victims.

Then again, there are some that do not know.

We get it.

However, when we point to ourselves without pointing to Jesus, we make things complicated. Complicated?

We say that they are doing a good work of exposing the dark works, but do we do an equally good job at pointing to the Only One that can fully and completely deliver? The Scriptures tell us that “He saves to the uttermost.”

I also understand that it takes courage beyond courage to address sexual immorality, but we must point to the Savior to ensure that He gets the full credit and not make it about ourselves.

Years ago, I tried to do the same thing. I made “Come Clean” about ME and MY deliverance and it failed miserably. I was selfish!

Why?

I wanted disciples to follow me.

God has no rivals. He alone saves. He alone gets ALL the glory.

Yes, God uses us but we turn it all to God and keep none for ourselves.

God had to destroy the work of my hands so that the work of His hands would emerge. Anything that man does, apart from the Lord, is a work that must be destroyed because God is God, and no one shares His glory. He has no rivals. Every rival failed, and every rival must fail.

At the same time or more so, what must be paramount is a pointing back to the gospel as the “…power of God unto salvation.”

Without the power of God to save, deliver, and set free men and women that are held captive, we invite men to return to the vomit from whence they came.

Having said this, I would strongly urge a change in our approach to deal with porn.

1. The gospel of Jesus Christ is the only way to deal with sin.

While it is important to sound the alarm about women as victims, when the gospel is absent, deliverance must be absent. God’s terms isn’t negotiable.

2. Throw away the gimmicks of men.

Men are deliberately evasive.

Paul said, “And my speech and my preaching were without enticing words of men’s wisdom…” and “We have renounced the hidden things of shame, not walking in craftiness nor handling the word of God deceitfully.”

The world and some church circles loves its gimmicks.

EX Ministries mentioned “Porn and Pancakes.” The subject of porn is a very avoidable subject when it comes to menI know that men will not come to a meeting when it’s just about porn. Pancakes is a gimmick. But at the end of the day, will it be pancakes that deliver, or the power of the gospel as a person repents? While the Bible has a history of God using items to attract men, (burning bush – Jesus and divine healing, casting out devils, etc.), ultimately, we must understand that the Spirit of God always speaks before God uses an item to attract.

When Jesus preached His first major address, He didn’t have pancakes.

“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

There were no pancakes served that day.

Jesus pointed out the origin of porn. Lust in a man’s heart.

But we do not need to use gimmicks to try to pull men to talk about this subject.

Just the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Nothing more.

 

 

Spirit Of Harlotry Temple Of Worship


Hosea 5:3-6 says,

“I know Ephraim, and Israel is not hidden from Me; For now, O Ephraim, you commit harlotry; Israel is defiled.

“They do not direct their deeds toward turning to their God, for the spirit of harlotry is in their midst, and they do not know the Lord.

The pride of Israel testifies to his face; therefore Israel and Ephraim stumble in their iniquity; Judah also stumbles with them.

“With their flocks and herds they shall go to seek the Lord, but they will not find Him; He has withdrawn Himself from them.

Thankfully, I haven’t come across a church that has this name stated in the title of this blog, but in some places, it might as well be. The condition of some places in the corporate church is what it is. To be in denial is to look at God, spit in His face, and call it rain.

Thankfully, there are pastors that are making great strides in dealing head on with this issue of sexual immorality in the church. Over the years, there has been an effort to talk about the Goliath of our times but when you take a closer look, it seems that we haven’t gotten the message.

One of the things that I learned while taking the course on Way To Purity by Mike Cleveland’s “Setting Captives Free” is that we must be vigilant.

Paul said in Colossians 4:2, Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it with thanksgiving,”

Peter said in 1 Peter 5:8-9a, Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith.”

To be vigilant means to “keep awake…give strict attention to, be cautious, active to take heed lest through remission and indolence some destructive calamity suddenly overtake one.”

One of the things that we sometimes neglect to understand is that sin brings destructive calamity.

We don’t see it this way because the pleasures of sin or the pleasures of this life obscures the real intent of sin.

When it comes to sin, we reach a point of no return. Meaning that we cannot stop what comes out. Meaning that we are so far along in the process that to stop now, it would rob anyone of the euphoric reward.

Remember what James said in James 1:15, “Sin, when it is finished brings forth death.”

Paul said in Romans 6:23, The wages of sin is death but the git of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

 No matter which way you look at it, sin brings death. Death is the end result after a destructive calamity. But we do not see it this way because of this Scripture in Ecclesiastes 8:11 (NLT).

“When a crime is not punished quickly, people feel it is safe to do wrong.”

Sin is a crime against the righteous and holy God. When judgment doesn’t fall swiftly, we foolishly assume that it is safe to sin again and again.

However, we know that a crime against God was committed because the conviction of the Holy Spirit immediately reminds us of the wrong we’ve committed.

Jesus said in John 16:8 “And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment:”

The word convict” means to convince the world of sin.

Paul said Romans 8:1, There is therefore now no condemnation to them that are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit.” 

The opposite is true. There is condemnation for those that walk after the flesh and not after the Spirit.

Paul said that if we would judge ourselves, we would not be judged so we wouldn’t be condemned with the world (see 1 Corinthians 11:30-32).

Then John said in 1 John 3:18-22, “My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. And by this we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him.

For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things.

Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”

When we pay attention to the inner man being affected by the way we treat the Lord, when we become sensitive to the Holy Spirit, we will do everything possible to avoid feeling condemned. When we refuse to repent, we are deliberately suppressing the convicting power of the Holy Spirit to turn from sin.

One of the things that I’ve noticed is that when we stop talking about this area, we find ourselves indulging in it, bit by bit. That’s what the enemy is searching for. He is lurking to see who is not watching diligently. The devil is waiting for that one moment when you turn off or temporarily suspend watching.

Just because we rest, it doesn’t mean we turn away from God. When we take a rest from God and His Word, we make the mistake of resting from the work of the ministry and include resting from obedience to God and His Word.

One of the things that I’ve learned when I stood watch in the Navy on board ship is that at anytime the enemy can come. They “case the joint” to see how you are watching. They are looking at your habits, patterns, and cycles of watch standing.

Over the course of time, the enemy already knows your preferential sins. He sets you up with a series of small tests to see if the last level of diligence is the same. When you are regularly watching, it gives the enemy no place. It’s the moment that we stop watching that he detects an opening.

Inconsistency is what he is counting on. That one moment when you sneak a peak at a woman’s breasts and behind. Checking her out and lusting after her beauty. That momentary lapse of judgment is the door he’s been waiting to walk through. For women, it is no different. When you are checking him out sexually, you are doing the same thing. When you dress provocatively, you are opening yourself up for sins of the flesh.

Seductive dressing is a fatal attraction for men and dressing that way is an open invitation by you for him to lust after you. What you are doing is part of the spirit of harlotry in the Christian church. Passive hunting is part of the feminine power executed by sexually immoral women to exercise sexual power over weak willed men. To be in denial about this is a curse of epic proportions.

Before you know it, you are back to your old tricks and habits. Porn becomes easy to watch again because you’ve had enough of substitute porn on the magazine stands. You’re back to releasing sexual tension through masturbation or committing adultery, or soliciting prostitutes. It turns into a large scale conflict where the Spirit lusts against the flesh and the flesh wars against the Spirit.

Returning to sin deliberately is an indefensible position allowed by a willingness to compromise the Word of God.

You search for younger and younger flesh. You even consider homosexuality to satisfy a seemingly insatiable desire to fulfill the lusts of your flesh.

It turns into suppressing conviction because of losing the small, low intensity battles of compromise that easily flares up into a major theater of operations. The objective of darkness is to reestablish a better, defensible evil stronghold.

As soon as it is reestablished, the enemy raises his flag over the newly established stronghold and calls it “The Spirit Of Harlotry Temple Of Worship.”

Is there any hope of a return to righteousness? Is there any chance of returning to the Lord and remain faithful to Him forever? Can we see that sin hurts the heart of the Father? Is there any way that we can recover from the snare of the enemy?

The answer to this question is always “Yes!!!”

We must change the way we do business.

We must recognize that we are weak and powerless without Jesus and His Word. We cannot survive, let alone overcome when we open ourselves up to the small little foxes that spoil the vine.

Diligence can return when we repent and seek the Lord diligently. Yes, we can overcome and triumph when we make a stand no matter how deep in the pit of sin we are.

If sin is like dog’s vomit, would we eat it or pass up this nasty meal? If sin is like a nuclear fallout zone, would we breathe its deadly air? If sin is like sewage, would we swim in it?

Let our houses of worship be a righteous temple of the Lord. Let our physical bodies be the temple of the Holy Spirit, bought and washed by the blood of the Lamb. Sanctified, tried and true for the eternal habitation of God through the Spirit.

Photo above is courtesy of Rhett A. Butler, copyright 1994-2006. (It is not to be connected or assumed in any way that the image above is actually the Spirit of Harlotry Temple of Worship, neither is it to be assumed that the image above is a place of Christian worship). 

Just Can’t Seem To Quit Self Gratification

Oh, heaven NO!!!!

No relapse on my part. Not on your life because we are getting too close to the finale. I know that’s it’s been a while since my last blog. However, this is not a report of me backsliding kind of blog.

The trumpet will sound and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we that are alive and remain will be caught up together in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

To stay holy is my one goal. I do not plan to be fulfilling the lust of the flesh and satisfying myself when Jesus comes.

Some of you may recall the 10 virgins. Five were wise. Five were foolish. When the bridegroom came, it was time for them to go to the wedding. The five wise had enough oil for the journey in the night and the five foolish did not. The five foolish asked the five wise to spare what they had, and the wise ones declined.

The five wise told them to go and buy for themselves. So they went out to buy oil for themselves, and they found some, but by the time they got to the door, it was shut.

They knocked on the door and the bridegroom did not let them in.

It was too late.

There are many incentives to take advantage of to quit sexual immorality, however, very few will incorporate such incentives.

The pleasures of self gratification can be overwhelming because of the rewards it offers. However, the reward of heaven with Christ outweighs the pleasures of self gratification. There comes a point in your walk with the Lord where masturbation is something you do not need.

Dr. Mark Laaser, who wrote a book on Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Addiction, did a course and placed a powerful lesson on Sexual Addiction on CD. He asked a question, “Can you do without masturbation and sex with your wife?” That’s radical. Because he continued and said, “If you can’t, you do not have full control and you cannot manage your sex life.”

The release of sexual tension is powerful. However, there comes a point where these pleasure of life must come to an end one way or another. Either through self discipline or when the catching away of the people of God takes place. Even after that, people will still engage in some form of releasing sexual tension. Even then, it’s just a matter of time before it all comes to an end.

NO MORE SEX!!!!! FOREVER!!!!!!

For many people, a sense of hopelessness and shame clouds the mind. Hopelessness is the fog of war in the mind and flesh.

As long as this feeling of hopelessness lingers in the mind, the attempt to break free is the light at the end of the tunnel that is seemingly a fleeting thing. Many men and women have dashed their hopes because the urges and impulses dictates their every move.

In my studies about sexuality, I learned that many people plan their day around sex. It usually is at the expense of a marriage, their job, and ultimately, their relationship with the Lord. It was true for me too. The obsession, infatuation, day dreaming, open minded thoughts of reading a newspaper, magazine, women watching, and porn. My whole day was planned around an orgasm.

All these things and the true worship of God takes a back seat. In most cases, a relationship with God in hypocrisy is better than no relationship at all. As ridiculous as this sounds, this is where many of God’s people are. I can identify with this because when you refuse to equate the sin of self gratification as part of the religious ritual of false penance, it is easy to think that you are just as close to God as if you never sinned.

Like John, the apostle of the Lamb said, “If we say we have fellowship with Him and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.”

I know you are not going to let me off the hook about calling masturbation a sin because there is no specific chapter and verse that declares that masturbation is a sin. However, where the Bible is silent, it is never to be assumed that it is safe to commit an act. Besides, not many people will agree that since Jesus didn’t do it, neither should I.

This stops all of the pretense.

I mean, we are to be like Christ in every way? Right?

If this is so according to, Romans 8:29, and if we are to prove that good, acceptable, and perfect will of God, to yield our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is our reasonable service according to Romans 12:1, then we should be able, at least consider the fact that the Lord desires for sin to not have dominion over us according to Romans 6:12.

The majority of the time, we are always looking for a reason to continue in sin that grace may abound” according to Romans 6:1. When we get to the place where we desire to please the Lord, we find ourselves looking for reasons to continue in righteousness so that grace may abound. We look to cut our hands and our eyes, we look to strive against sin even to the shedding of our own blood to stop sin.

No, put the Rambo knife down.

Jesus and the writer of Hebrews spoke of entering a place of radical cutting off of the instruments and members so that we would stop sinning.

Paul said, by the Spirit of God, “The body is not made for sexual immorality.” 

The physical body was made to be indwelled by the Lord. The Lord desired to inhabit man and the body is not for fornication (pornea).

As long as we make provision to fulfill the desires of the flesh and mind, we will never break its cycle.

Millions of men and women throughout the world masturbate every day. For reasons that range from sexual perversion to fulfill lust, to releasing sexual tension is a major problem. It seems like marriage, which is the answer to stop masturbation is no longer the answer that man wants to accept. Additionally, self control, a fruit of the Spirit according to Galatians 5:22, is cast to the side.

The parable of the sower is the most powerful parable that Jesus ever spoke. In that parable is the answer to handle the problems we face in life. It also serves as the gauge or measuring tool to locate where you are in your relationship with the Lord. Producing fruit is the thing that most concerns the Father. Galatians 5:22. John 15:1-5 confirms this and Jesus further confirms this when He said that we are known by our fruit.

Man will stand in four places. Good ground, wayside, stoney ground, and thorny ground.

The last ground, thorny ground speaks of people that are trapped in cares, riches, and pleasures of life. 

The pleasures of this life come with a price. If we are unable to cast aside the pleasures of this life, we may never be free. But thank God your failure is not final. While there is still time, you can enjoy freedom in Christ from the powerful urge to masturbate. You can return to experience a healthy sexual life with your wife or husband if you are married.

Most importantly, you can be restored in your relationship with the Lord in righteousness and true holiness, laying aside every weight and the sin that does so easily beset you, to lay aside every filthiness and overflow of wickedness, to cleanse ourselves from the filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

Hopelessness is coming to an end for you. New life in Christ is at hand for you.

10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins. #5 Pride And Arrogance

Proverbs 8:13 says, “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.”

Pride and arrogance is always at the root of a fallen leader. In most cases, a sense of invincibility comes into the mind of a man and you begin to have a false sense of security. Security in the sense that you believe nothing is going to happen to you, or that you would not get caught.

There was once a king in Africa that was married. He had sex with a prostitute that was HIV/AIDS positive. While there is no such thing as unprotected sex because you either have sex or you don’t. Any way my point is that he wore no condom. Even condoms fail but the failure is not the point. Where your hands travel and where your penis goes, penetration is not necessary for infection.

That’s my point.

However, this king decided to have sex without a condom. A few years ago, on the continent of Africa, many people were ignorant of the transmission of diseases (STD). So, they would engage in sex and today, the pandemic of AIDS is an international crisis. This king of a nation thought that by taking a shower and washing his genitals, he would not get infected.

Pride and arrogance, when not removed by humility and wisdom is part of a male’s inability to guard against urges and impulses, which, in turn, dictates choices. When you got your flesh and mind set to engage in sex with a person, wisdom is thrown to the wind.

Psalm 107:17 says “Fools! Because of their transgressions and because of their iniquities are afflicted.”

The word “fools” means “to be perverse,” and it also means “one who despises wisdom.”

When it comes to sex, males will bypass every alarm just to engage in sex. When pride and arrogance kicks in, there is nothing that may stop him except if something happens by way of divine intervention.

Asa, king of Israel comes to mind when it comes to pride and arrogance.

However, let me share this. No matter the denomination or non denomination, when a leader becomes full of himself or herself, it is very easy to make a series of decisions that lacks basic judgment. When you see that a leader fails to operate in good judgment, it is a matter of time before they will make the ultimate decision that will cost him or her the pulpit.

We leaders sometimes forget that we operate under delegated authority. Leaders are not absolute authority. The measure or rule of authority is defined by the boundaries of the Word of God. To exceed the boundaries established by the Lord in His Word is extremely costly, and deadly.

Asa became king over Judah and Benjamin. In the 14th chapter of 2 Chronicles, Asa made a series of reformations that virtually destroyed idol worship and sexual immorality in the region. However, Asa left one thing undone. The high place remained. Anytime you leave something undone, it is indicative of not fully walking in obedience to the known will of God. If you are going to clear the deck, make every effort to clear the deck. Otherwise, it will come back at you in a very bad way.

Asa was tested. The Army of Asa was only 580,000 men. Then the Ethiopians came against Asa. 1 million men and 300 hundred chariots. Asa cried to the Lord and Judah prevailed. The Spirit of the Lord came upon Azariah the son of Oded and gave Asa the Word of the Lord (see 2 Chronicles 15). When you get to the 16th chapter, that’s when Asa lost it. He made a treaty with Syria to prevent Israel from from boxing in Judah. Israel was defeated by the Syrians but the Lord rebuked Asa for trusting in his own wisdom to get out of a situation.

The prophet Hanani gave Asa these words from the Lord.

“And at that time Hanani the seer came to Asa king of Judah, and said to him: Because you have relied on the king of Syria, and have not relied on the Lord your God, therefore the army of the king of Syria has escaped from your hand. Were the Ethiopians and the Lubim not a huge army with very many chariots and horsemen? Yet, because you relied on the Lord, He delivered them into your hand. For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him. In this you have done foolishly; therefore from now on you shall have wars.”

Asa was so furious and so full of himself that he put the prophet in jail.

Note also that the prophet said that “In this you have done foolishly…”

Do you recall Psalm 107:17?

The opposite of foolishness is wisdom.

Asa failed to call upon the Lord and called upon Syria. In the same manner, the deliverance would have been assured. God came through against 1 million men and 300 hundred chariots. To come against the Syrians would have been the same results. The end for Asa was tragic. Asa was diseased in his feet. To me, that signified Asa will walk the earth no more. Asa sought relief from the doctors and never thought to look to the Lord, first to repent, and second to get healed. Mind you that at any time, Asa could have repented and cried to the Lord to be healed, but pride and arrogance led him to his grave.

Asa sought his own means and look where it led him.

To his grave.

So it is with Secret Sexual Sins.

There are four things that is associated with pride and arrogance.

1. Elitism. 2. Empowerment. 3. Entitlement. 4. Expediency.

When you believe that you are elite, you will feel empowered to do anything. When you believe within yourself that you are empowered, you will deceive yourself into thinking that you are entitled to any man or woman to have them sexually. When you believe you are entitled, because of a lack of wisdom, you will do anything, including break the Word of God and the laws of man to achieve your prize of orgasm, hence expediency.

Sadly, many men (including myself) have fallen for this. In various ways, we have sinned before God because we thought that we were invincible. That nothing would happen. That we would get away with it.

There are no winners with pride and arrogance. The devil is the biggest loser of them all. Sadly, many men and women that were to be of God will lose with the devil. It doesn’t have to be this way.

“Humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God…”

The pulpit is the second most powerful place in the world. The place of personal prayer in the life of leaders and believers is the first most powerful place on earth. The grace of God is there that permits us to speak the Word of God. The oracles and ability comes from the Father. We somehow, deceived ourselves into thinking that it’s all about us and the next thing that happens is a series of deliberate decisions to satisfy ourselves sexually.

The only way out of this is humility.

I’ll leave you with this.

Humbleness of mind and humility, once acted upon, will prevent humiliation.

10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins. #4 Failure To Take Heed- P4CM

The aftermath of the former leaders of P4CM is disturbing but somewhat expected. As with all leaders that sinned, the killing field is filled with leaders that fail to take heed. We are all good at killing Goliath, but we are not that good at killing our inner Goliath.

Secret Sexual Sins.

Leaders are more susceptible to fall and relapse into Secret Sexual Sins because leaders live in the place of hiding behind their persona.

The anointing doesn’t cover a leader. The anointing is to break or destroy the yoke (see Isaiah 10:27; Luke 4:18, Acts 10:38).

Hence, the anointing eventually exposes a leader.

The mercy of God prevents what a leader rightfully deserve. Somewhere and somebody in heaven and or earth were praying for the mercy of God to cover them until they repent.

Accordingly, they have been restored, but just after 6 months?

Do not get me wrong.

Everyone of us doesn’t deserve a chance to be in the kingdom, let alone to be His minister. Though David was still king after Nathan exposed him, for the rest of David’s life, he was chased by his sons. He never finished well. The second king of Israel was finished because the secret sins in his heart, his real Goliath, was never defeated.

With returning to some measure of leadership and ministry, 6 months might be too fast if they are a little immature. Especially for young preachers. I do not believe that young preachers need to be imprisoned and exiled. It’s a judgment call of those to whom they’ve submitted themselves to.

In my experience as a pastor, I took a look back at what I was preaching while I was watching porn and masturbating. I observed an individual that didn’t know God. Never mind the message I was preaching at the time. It meant nothing to me because my only concern was to get church over with so that I can resume my sinful pastime. In looking back, I should have been fired. I violated the sacred duties of a man of God.

However, I wasn’t exposed but I knew that I was about to. I came clean about my life and exposed myself so that the Lord would have no story to tell. I never committed adultery except with my eyes and my heart in just level one sexual addiction. I should have taken time off to get myself together, however I didn’t. I kept on preaching.

You are saying that what I am saying is hypocritical, and I can’t agree with you more.

I don’t know if I ever would have returned to the pulpit had I relinquished the pastorate. I probably would have abdicated and never returned, but I am still doing what I am doing, but in a deliberate diminished capacity. No man that has ever sinned before God in a blatant manner ever return to any measure of grace and power. God never rewards unfaithfulness. It would be considered an endorsement and a deliberate slap in His face of loving grace.

At first, I looked to make a name for myself when I came clean but the Lord wasn’t pleased at all. Anytime you try to turn something into a personal profit, you are still in the hunt in another way. My book royalties along the lines of Secret Sexual Sins go right to the account of the local church until my passing should Jesus tarry. I do not do Come Clean Conferences. On a limited basis, I only had three conferences and that’s all. I do not anticipate having any more.

This blog is my outlet along these lines. Hoping that somewhere along the line, some sex crazed pastor would get it.

I read the P4CM (Passion For Christ Ministries) statement about the two pastors, really young pastors, that fell into Secret Sexual Sins.

While reading this statement, I can’t help but see that it was mixed in to the other “happenings” of their ministry. It wasn’t the headline but it also underscores the way we do things in the church. While this was serious, it deserves the attention of seriousness. When you read the rest of the statement, the aftermath underscores the powerful demonic pull that immoral sex has on the people in the church.

We treat the Lord and sanctification as an elective.

When we feel like it, we will be sanctified. The heart and mind of Samson is evident in the church. We’ve cast aside our consecration and the locks of our head were snipped off a long time ago. Tied between the posts, dare we ask God for just one more anointing? Just one more move of God?

It is not known whether these two were involved in a homosexual relationship or engaged in separate incidences, nonetheless, they fell and the fall out was tremendous and anticipated.

Here is the link to the aftermath of their stories.

http://www.p4cm.com/justin-chris-restored

When you read the aftermath, it does us no good to rehearse or to rehash the incident.

What we do need to understand is that the aftermath generally pans out to be the same because the demonic objective is the same.

To destroy the viability of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

As I have always stated by the Spirit of God, “Just because people fail the standard, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the standard, in and of itself has failed.”

What happens in the open is because of what happens in secret.

As long as what is done in the dark remains in the dark, we can outwardly look holy, but inside, we are no different than an open tomb or sepulcher with dead men’s bones. It’s very hypocritical and the license to say that we are no different than them is issued without rebuttal.

That’s why they can blatantly and boldly develop churches for LGBT and dare us to blink if we hypocritically object. 

Because in what is supposed to be the real Christ like church wherein righteousness dwells, they know that inside these churches are bona fide hypocrites. Now all churches are not like this but I know that some of you know that you can name a few churches and people that worship like saints and live like sinners, masquerading as false bearers of righteousness.

We have homosexual musicians, promiscuous preachers, and male and female temple prostitutes all up in the church.

Several years ago, another pastor fell into Secret Sexual Sins and committed adultery. A person was told that after it is all said and done, the church will see a decline in membership. It’s a common occurrence. Such was the case with P4CM. Fortunately, all was not loss. The remaining leaders exercised some measure of good judgment and wisdom, and merged with another local church. Sadly, others walked away from the church, but hopefully they didn’t walk away from Christ.

As is the case with some that do not understand that it’s all about maintaining your relationship with Christ, many of God’s people in the church I mentioned were so shell shocked that they wonder from place to place, or they do not attend church any more.

The failure of leaders to take heed, lest they fall sometimes fall on deaf ears. Many maintain their marriages because “pastor” maintains his, but as soon as the pastor makes a break for it, every man that doesn’t have his hope built on nothing less than Jesus blood, and righteousness, they walk away from their wives too.

That’s because of the two most destructive sex activities in the hearts and lives of men.

Porn and masturbation.

Again, this is not true of every pastor, however, a great number of pastors will have some involvement in porn and masturbation.

Sadly, too many young preachers watch their pastor too closely.

When you fail to take heed to your life and what is actually going on in your life, you begin to accept things that should have been rejected. Many preachers do not take heed to where their eyes travel and what their mind thinks during the course of the day. Then there is the accountability landscape that is a very difficult place to navigate. It’s when the help you need turns into a problem of manipulation and coercion. We are our brother’s keeper but we are not our brother’s Lord. The one thing that a brother needs is to be watched, but a brother also needs the compassionate confrontation that ministers grace and the Word unapologetically.

Psalm 119:9-10 says,

“How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your Word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh, let me not wonder from Your commandments.”

Taking heed is not a Sunday morning service thing. Sunday is too late when you should have been taking heed during the week during weak moments. The dangers of falling into temptation are all around us and when we allow one sneak peak. One lapse of judgment in the smallest way, we open up a can of worms that can’t be returned.

Relapse happens in a small way and turns into a big mess.

Taking heed requires help. There are things that you cannot see that others readily see. Taking heed requires that you open up your life in measurable transparency. Taking heed requires that you have the ability to call someone when you need to. The minefield (mind field) of sexual immorality is not a small patch of ground. The field is too big and there are many trip wires along the way. The killing field is so vast and wide open that the fiery dart of the wicked one can pick you off easy.

The sniper’s nest is every where. If you are not taking heed to the Internet, the newspaper, the movies, anything can come at you and plant a thought in your mind. Before you know it, you are making preparation to sin. The very thing that you said you wouldn’t think of or do, you do it.

Taking heed requires not just deep prayer, but a deep Word to never violate your vow to keep yourself from sexual immorality.

Taking heed is work. Hard work. If you do not take heed, the devil will take advantage of your lack of vigilance and pick you off.

In the words of James Penn……“Is it worth it?”

10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins

Many of you have heard of the sex scandal of Sam Hinn, the brother of Benny Hinn.

For over a lengthy time, while preaching in the pulpit, Sam Hinn carried on in his ministry and life like nothing was going on.

The hypocrisy of preachers is one of the best deceptions the enemy uses to suppress the presence of God in the people of God.

I know what this is about, this hypocrisy thing, so I am not throwing stones.

Just go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/prevailingword1for my testimony if you think otherwise.

Many men and women in Christ and in the pulpit commit Secret Sexual Sins on a regular basis. It is a clear indication that we haven’t learned anything from the previous lessons of fallen leaders. We do not have to fall in sin. We choose to do so and explain it away as a mistake.

It’s not a mistake.

It is a calculated, deliberate act to defy the Lord.

A mistake is a wrong action attributable to bad judgment, ignorance, or inattention.”

Jesus and James, the Lord’s brother, defines sin as a deliberate act.

Matthew 15:19 and James 1:14-15 says….

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

In Systematic Theology, sin is the deliberate, intentional commission of an act of defiance against the Lord in three areas.

1. Thought

2. Action.

3. Words.

So when you call sin a mistake, it’s like we are telling the Lord, “O Lord, my bad. I miscalculated.”

The power of the devil is only as effective as we allow it to be effective. The power of the devil can have a zero effect on our lives when we cut off the avenues by which he operates. However, it starts with what’s in our hearts.

The originating point of all sin is in the mind. Once the mind is told something, the eyes see something, and the mind meditates on something, the course to fulfill the desires of the flesh initiates the urges and impulses to commit a deliberate, intentional act of defiance against God begins to run its ungodly, merciless course.

Notice what Paul said in Romans 13:14.

“But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

Now go back to James 1:14-15 and you will see that as long as you do not give in to the desires,” the devil’s enticements cannot overpower you (see 1 Corinthians 10:13).

Therefore, you instinctively make no provision for the flesh.

Flesh has a vision and it will provide to fulfill that vision.

So here are the 10 Deadly Sins. We will not get through them all in this setting but we will address each one in subsequent articles.

1. No Real Relationship With The Lord.

Jesus said in Matthew 15:7…

Hypocrites! Well did Isaiah prophesy about you, saying: These people draw near to Me with their mouth, and honor Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me. And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.”

In the service of ministering the Word of God, it is very easy to assume that your relationship with the Lord is ok. However, little things begin to creep in or perhaps, they are already in your life, but you never really took time to address these issues.

You started watching the news and this woman or man sexually appealed to you. You thought nothing of it, but every morning, like clock work, you just had to see him or her. These little things turn into big issues. You start seeing R Rated movies with a little soft porn in it.

One thing always leads to another. Next thing, the very thing you thought you’d never watch is on your TV screen or lap top computer.

Some pastors are daring. After their sermon preparation at home or in the church study, they click the links to free porn. This may not be true of Sam Hinn, however, we know that when a pastor is willing to commit Secret Sexual Sins, it’s a process that may involve porn and self gratification.

This is not true with everybody because to put a one size fits all on every preacher is unfair.

However, to carry on a Secret affair, is just another form of acting out sexually that was premeditated.

Remember, sin is a deliberate, intentional act to defy God.

When our lips truly match our hearts, it is a revelation of the kind of worship the Lord is getting.

Hypocritical worship or genuine worship.

Our worship of the Lord is one or the other because of our love for Him, or lack thereof.

Your relationship with the Lord is not just found in your time of daily devotion. In my own life, while I was in Secret Sexual Sins, I prayed and studied the Word of God. However, I still had sin in my life. The lusts of the flesh and mind, and eyes. Of course, I “repented,” but my repentance wasn’t real. It would be remorse, and there is a big difference.

Remorse is a “feeling of deep regret (usually for some misdeed).”

This regret is a sad feeling associated with having done something wrong.

This is what I was experiencing. No one really told me the difference. So right after I get over the sad feeling, the regret, the mind returns to the place where the pleasure of sin exists. Remorse takes you right back to the place where you think about pleasures of sin.

Like a dog licks its vomit up, so does a man return to his folly (see Proverbs 26:11 and 2 Peter 2:22).

We haven’t really understood that sin is folly. In Proverbs, “folly” means “foolishness.”

So the next thing that happens is that you suppress the Word of God within you. You suppress the promise that you would never sin that sin again. You begin to make provision. You sin that sin that you promised the Lord, your Lord, that you claim deliverance from.

The cycle continues again.

When all of us sinned sexual sins, we’ve experienced this revolving door experience many times and it gets to the point where we cross over from hope to hopelessness. That’s the least of your concerns. As far as Secret Sexual Sins is concerned, the deliberate, intentional commission of an act to defy the Lord takes on a life of itself.

This sin is what you live for.

You begin to schedule your every move around the sin you love.

Allegedly, Sam Hinn’s car was found outside the apartment of this married woman who was a congregant in his church. This is one of the ways exposure comes. The Lord loves us so much, that He gives us time to repent but when we do not know the difference, the cycle of madness continues.

This adulterous affair took time to develop and he made his relationship with God, his family, and ministry fit his time for his sin. The things that were important became secondary, if anything. God, his family, and his ministry were relegated to the back seat. Misplaced priorities always begin with a man or woman’s heart attitude towards the Lord.

That’s why it was easy to miscommunicate the commandment of the Lord. According to the accounts, the female that was involved in the affair was told by Sam Hinn that the Lord permitted this relationship. However, anyone with common sense will tell you that if you are a married or single woman, getting involved with a married pastor is a bad move with no justification.

The tradition of men, when it usurps the commandment of the Lord, it takes on a nature of its own making. If Sam Hinn was in a genuine relationship with the Lord, and if the adulterous married woman was in a real relationship with the Lord, it is safe to say that we would not be talking about this.

A real relationship begins and ends with Psalm 91:1-2.

“He that dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my Refuge and my Fortress. My God in Him will I trust.”

In a real relationship with the Lord, Secret Sexual Sins is off limits in the Secret Place of the Lord.

In a real relationship with the Lord, you begin to see that this is hurting the Lord.

Paul said…“And grieve (sadden) not the Holy Spirit.”

Real repentance understands fully that a deliberate, intentional act to defy God hurts the Lord on the level that Adam and Eve hurt God.

In a real relationship with the Lord, you understand fully that you do not want to hurt God like that.

All acts of betrayal begins with disconnection from the Lord. Not just in prayer, fasting, and the Word, but the Lord is personally betrayed when we walk away from Him to commit the very thing that would eventually hurt us.

We hurt the Lord when we get into the car and a good looking woman walks in peripheral vision range, and we just had to take a look at her sexually.

We hurt the Lord when we watch salacious movies. You know, those trailers warn you of the content, yet, you insisted that you could handle watching that movie but you really didn’t get it. The Lord is looking at that movie with you. His eyes is watching that movie through your eyes.

We hurt the Lord when our minds are not fully stayed on Him and we engage in deliberate sexual thoughts other than healthy ones as far as our wives or husbands are concerned.

These are the things, the little foxes that spoil the relationship with the Lord.

Why not take the time to really repent of the sins of allowing the little foxes in when they should have been chased. Take the time to understand the magnitude of how the Lord was hurt by your deliberate and intentional act of defiance. Take the time to fully feel the heart of the Lord. But also know that the Lord pities you. He loves you and wants you back. He knows that if you do not turn from your wicked ways, the devil will take you to other levels of sin.

In sin, it only gets worse but when you have learned to stop, you will see the Lord return to you to help you get yourself together.

Ultimately, the devil will pull you into the spirit and age of apostasy if your prodigal heart fails to catch itself.

We’ve prostituted ourselves long enough.

So repent, for real. And come back to right standing and right relationship with the Lord.

Isaiah 55:6-7 says,

“Seek the Lord while He may be found. Call upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, and He will have mercy on him; and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon.”

Is It Worth It? By James Penn

The I’m Free Project is the edge of the cut about dealing with the issues of sexuality and other critical themes confronting the church and this nation today.

The title above is an excerpt of this video that brother James powerfully presented. You will never be the same after listening.

From every corner of the United States, the Lord is raising up voices to speak the truth in love, Biblically, and prophetically to the hearts of people. This is not your average seminar class. God is looking to free His people and sinners by the proven power of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

James Penn and his wife, Angel Penn have really pull out the stops on addressing this critical issue.

In my short time of deliverance from Secret Sexual Sins, I have come across some tremendous people that have walked in the power of the Word of God. It is a privilege to be a part of the ongoing work of the Holy Spirit to minister freedom from all forms of sexual bondages and addictions, and to teach time tested principles of Healthy Sexuality, which brother James powerfully taught in this video.

This is a concerted effort to spread the Word of God without fame, fortune, or glamor.

It’s a team effort and only God is to be glorified.

This God ordained presentation speaks for itself….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3xBAENzCG8

Pastoral Moral Failure: All Too Common

Alas, another pastor that love and possibly, worship sex more than loving God and maintaining the sanctity of his call to the ministry.

Like many of us, we ruin ourselves in secret before we are exposed. In a chapter in my book called Secret Sexual Sins, there is a chapter called, “Come Clean. Or Be Exposed!” This is what the Lord said to me before I repented.

There are many pastors that live secret lives. Let me reiterate a statistic. There are over 300,000 churches in the United States. 50% of pastors struggle with porn. That means 150,000 churches have pastors that are living in Secret Sexual Sins.

I was one of those pastors until December, 2008.

My friend, Pastor DL Foster posted about another pastor falling (courtesy of Charisma.com) because of Secret Sexual Sins.

You can read the article by clicking this link.

http://www.charismanews.com/us/34772-pastor-isaac-hunter-admits-to-adultery-with-former-stafferavailable

A few of us pastors agree. It is now a regular occurrence. It’s been 4 years since the Lord delivered me from porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation.

Why do I mention this?

Few articles really get to the nitty gritty of a pastor’s Secret Sexual Sins. Many of you are so stunned when you read of a married pastor, with children, committing adultery, but rarely do we discover the fuel of adultery. Rightfully so, Pastor Foster points out that the root cause is the undisciplined pastor’s heart, also known as the fruit of the Spirit, called “self control,” as the root cause of moral failure.

What goes undetected is the Secret Sexual Sins occurring in the life of a pastor. The discovery of adultery is just the exposure of a deeper problem that rarely is discussed.

Porn and masturbation in the life of a pastor.

The other two things that is not noted is the sexual immoral woman that the book of Proverbs speaks of, and the wife, and kids affected by this momentary laps of judgment.

We are to avoid the sexually immoral women like the plague. Now, not every woman is sexually immoral, but there are predator pastors that take advantage of emotionally unstable women in church.

Then again, there are women that strategically, and deliberately intend to use their femininity to secure the love of a pastor. Not to mention that there are Jezebels on assignment to sexually sacrifice their body for church power.

In Dr. Betty Price’s book “A Warning To Ministers, Their Wives, and Their Mistresses,” she warned of the constant battle in the local church of pastors seeking illicit sex from women in and outside the church. In her book, she pointed out that there are many women that intentionally hunt down pastors. Sitting in the front row to intentionally get the pastor’s attention, sexually, in no uncertain terms, is one of the main ploys of sexually immoral women. In one instance, Dr. Betty Price told of a story of a woman that went right into Dr. Fred Price’s office on pretense of receiving pastoral counseling, and straight up solicited him for sex. Because of Dr. Fred Price’s spiritual discipline, being strong in spirit, he resisted her temptations.

That’s why as a rule for me, I never counsel women, and I never counsel women alone. I’d rather lose them to another church and pastor than to risk any appearance of evil. Suit yourselves but I refuse to counsel women alone. Brothers, you are not that strong and you should never fool yourself.

Dr. Betty Price shared that those that successfully engage a weak willed pastor, were mesmerized by the “anointing” on a pastor’s life and Dr. Betty Price indicates that this is the one thing that attracts women to a pastor. After these women have sex with a single or married pastor that one time, that mesmerization departs.

They are no longer infatuated with that anointed man of God.

But as with all women, connection and then to disconnect, unless you are a harlot, is not that easy. Dr. Betty Price counseled several women, caught in the web of sexual sins to leave that preacher. And they do not. Churches are left with a house of harlots with the pastor as the head pimp.

In the book, “Betrayal Of Trust,” the introduction in the book speaks of a Brooklyn, NY pastor in Brooklyn Heights, in the late 1890’s was accused of adultery. The woman lost her husband and it’s been a she said he said kind of issue. After accusations when flying, and a church meeting, the church sided in with the pastor that nothing went on. They swept the issue under the rug. And this is the long standing policy of churches. That when someone is verifiably caught or if there is a hint of sexual immorality, the issue is swept under the rug. The pastor remains in the pulpit and everything is “hunky-dory.”

Getting back to the book, one of the most outstanding observations is that pastors that are caught in the act of adultery are either predators or wanderers.

A predator is one that sexually hunts for one woman after another. No different than a serial rapist. Then the wanderer is one that strays from his wife for a one night stand. But even as a wanderer, solicitation of multiple prostitutes is part of a wanderer until it enters sexual addiction level three where the criminal element heightens the orgasmic experience. That criminal element involves being a serial rapist to child porn, to child homosexuality.

But few look behind the scene and discover a pastor’s secret life of porn and masturbation.

In the above story by Charisma, it may be possible that Pastor Hunter may not have been involved in porn and masturbation. We do not have the facts regarding this. But we know that in most cases, acting out has a starting point. And it usually is porn and masturbation.

The Lord Jesus reveals Secret Sexual Sins when a man looks at a women to lust after her, that he committed adultery with her in his heart (see Matthew 5:27-28).

In Dr. Patrick Carnes’ cycle of addiction, it all begins with “thoughts or fantasies.” Then it goes to ritual. Then it goes to “acting out.” Then it goes to “remorse.”

I mentioned this because the top of sexual addiction begins with thoughts and fantasies. I will point out that not every one is sexually addicted.

Sexual addiction is the inability to control, manage, or stop yourself from sex or masturbation.

When you cannot stop looking at a woman sexually, it is lust and it is adultery. Job 31:1 says, “I have made covenant with my eyes, why would I look on a handmaiden?”

When a man cannot stop looking lustfully at a woman, this is where the core or root problem is (see James 1:14-15). The lack of discipline in this regard is 100% behind pastoral moral failure. It is indicative of a lack of intimacy in prayer with God. The late Dr. Ed Cole, the father of the modern day men’s movement with the Christian Men’s Network, said, “Prayer produces intimacy with God.”

E. M. Bounds said, “A prayerless pulpit begets a prayerless pew.”

Preachers can act out ministerial at the drop of a hat. You can’t fool your way through prayer.

It’s the same with singing for God, or being a music minister for God, or being a church secretary for a pastor.

He is not the first and he certainly won’t be the last. With immorality overrunning the church where the demonic LGBT agenda is being swallowed whole by sinning pastors, helping to cause the church to renounce the righteousness of God, the more pastors fail the standard, the argument from the world holds a form of truth.

We are hypocrites.

Finally, the wife and kids affected by the adulterous pastor. It is clear that betrayal on this level has brought embarrassment and confusion to his family. The wife in the moment loses her self esteem, dignity, and honor. It will take time to ask God for grace to get through the initial and long term affects of her husband’s foolish act of sexual pleasure.

The wife will experience the devil bringing a lot of questions to her mind. The devil with suggest to her that she is not as beautiful as the secretary or porn stars he’s been watching. The devil will suggest to her that her bedroom inadequacy and unavailability for sex was due to her increased workload was the cause. The devil will bring up past arguments that led to a husband’s cold shoulder.

And more things like God is not going to repair the marriage. That God doesn’t love her. And on and on. But this is the moment where whatever is brought to your mind, is to be refuted by the Word of God. She will need to confide in another woman of God, in a safe environment, that will objectively deal with her in a compassionate manner. The road to her healing is long and difficult. At this stage, it is recommended that difficult decisions be put off and just get through the moment of the infidelity with the grace and love of God.

The kids need to be told the truth, depending upon their ages. They must understand that what their daddy did was sin and that it wan’t in God’s plan. That sexual sin is of the devil. If at all possible, they need to be cared for while the process is ongoing. They must experience some semblance of normalcy as possible. Professional Christian help is available and should be sought as reasonably quick as possible.

It’s not the end and God’s grace can get you through the moments. Wives that experience this horrendous act must never place blame on themselves. They must get through the moment and allow God to work with them where they are.

Church. Let’s do a better job in our sanctification. Let’s get closer to God in prayer and obedience to the Word.

This does not have to be common.

Nasty Pastors: Exposing Secret Sexual Sins

What is a secret?

“Something that should remain hidden from others (especially information that is not to be passed on).”

But it also means….“designed to elude detection.”

Men love to keep hidden their sexual preferences until they are with a male or female prostitute, a sexually immoral woman, or by themselves with self sex.

Many of us have things done to us in the past during our youth. Things that will go with people into eternity. The body may be placed in the box, but what was done lives on.

But while we are in this life, we either choose to keep it a secret, or we find someone in the flesh that we can trust to “unload” the burden.

That’s one reason…the burden.

It gets heavier because the pain of holding the weight increases. It pushes a person into a seemingly hopeless state.

The other reason is….to keep the sin going, no one must know. It’s devastating when news is released that reveals what you have been doing. You’ve reached the depths of sin, but when it comes to sin, the staircase continues downward.

Darker and darker into the abyss.

And that’s the dark world of sexual immorality. Watching and participating in the world of porn, self gratification, and other activities. No one should know what I’ve been up to. But God already knew what you did last night.

The power of secrecy keeps your sexual sins and activities, and your real dark personality anonymous. The darker, the better. Especially when you are ready to cross certain lines that you say you never would cross.

The successful concealment of past activities emboldens us all.

If no one knows about what I did, they must never know what I am about to do.

For some, secrecy adds to the adrenaline rush. That excitement of getting off adds to the sexual satisfaction. Anticipation, is making me wait.

And you intend to keep it that way. If no one knows, no one gets hurt. But there comes a point where you will make a mistake. Where you have already left a trail. Every man gets to the intersection of discovery.

The place where what you’ve successfully covered, inevitably, will be exposed.

Luke 12:2 says (NIV and NLT)….“There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known.”

“The time is coming when everything will be revealed; all that is secret will be made public.”

There was a Dateline Predator show by Chris Hansen done a few years ago. This show was about predators talking online with a decoy, pretending to be underage, and available for sex. The online predators would talk with them on the Internet, using undeniable explicit language and pictures, and then they would meet at a specified house for sex.

Homosexuals and straight men.

Some of them were married, with children, with great paying jobs. Others were out right criminals. Sexual predators and registered sex offenders. One case involved a person who is about to do time for being a sexual predator and was on his way to jail. But needed to make one more move before heading to prison.

Well, he was caught and arrested….again.

As soon and Chris Hansen introduced himself, he would tell these predators that they were free to go. Then, as soon as they made for the exit, thinking that they would evade and escape, the police would pounce on them.

Some of them cried like babies.

Some of them cried out loud, wondering how they are going to explain this to their wives.

In many of our churches, underneath the robe of pastors, are sexual deviants. One married with five children pastor allegedly did sexting to a 13 year old child. Technology is now the means of sexual predators and that, nasty pastors.

Behind the shout, hand lifting, “anointing,” and power of God, are preachers living secret lives.

The lust in the hearts of preacher is stronger than most could think. For the preacher, it is an advantage because……

“The anointing can dress up a bum.”

He doesn’t have to have Brylecreem or jehri curls to look good because the oratorical skills, his savvy way with words, and personality is enough to sway even the elect to engage in Secret Sexual Sins.

But the power to exercise some form of persuasive and seductive influence, the use of one’s professional position is enough to exploit the vulnerable. The innocent. The gullible.

What is behind all this sin in the pulpit?

The power of the secret.

As with all scandals that pastors experience, it goes much deeper than what took place, as far as the affair is concerned. The affair, excuse me… adultery, is just the revelation of a long list of Secret Sexual Sins committed by a person for months, maybe even years.

The lust that is in the hearts of men. The roaming of the eyes. The touching of one’s self sexually.

The desire to have sex is placed in us by the Lord but what happens is that because of the lie of dissatisfaction, engaging in dark places to let emerge hidden dark desires, compels a man to explore extramarital sex.

Proverbs 27:20 says, “Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

God designed sex to be enjoyed and experienced by one man and one woman that is married (see Genesis 2:24). Sex outside of marriage only invites judgment and death (see Hebrews 13:4 and James 1:15).

So extramarital sex is just a person that is out of control. For the born again believer, the fruit of the Spirit is self control. When we receive Jesus as Lord, we are now capable of self control. Whether we act on, or employ self control is completely a decision that must be made, before the next move is made.

Behind the secrets of men reveals a person that is not in control. To be in control means that you know how to subdue yourself and discipline yourself (see 1 Corinthians 9:27).

But it also means that exposure and discovery must take place (see John 3:20-21 and Ephesians 5:8-16).

We men are seldom honest about ourselves. We know that sexual sins stuff is going on in our minds and hearts, and flesh, but to tell someone about the reality of what our minds and flesh encounters, to keep that a secret, allows the world of fantasy to reign supreme.

Unchecked and unchallenged, we can look like we are thinking about God and harbor the sexual objectification shape of a woman or man in our minds. We can easily, and simultaneously suppress the conscience and the Holy Spirit’s convicting power to conveniently file that, and many other sexual images (see Galatians 5:16-21).

Now what if you are practicing these things?

Look closely at verse 21.

When you struggle and fail, you are not struggling, you practiced.

You see, there is a vast difference between the struggle and the practice.

When you are struggling, you are fighting not to let it overcome you, and you intend to win before crossing the line. Struggle and fail is not the goal. Struggle and win over the flesh and mind’s urge and impulses is the achievable, actionable goal.

For married men, it is about controlling sexual urges and impulses until it is time, within marriage, to have sex.

As far as masturbation, it is about shutting it down and declaring it as sin.

Masturbation is a selfish act that defies the purpose of sex as designed by God called the “one flesh” principle of Genesis 2:24.

Self sex is unnecessary if you are married.

For single men, it is called “abstinence.” 

So to move from abstinence to self control or managing sex, you need to get married to a woman.

On the other hand. There is no “struggle.”

There is just a willful desire to quickly subdue any attempt to resist false, or fantasy sex.

In other words, you’ve consciously made up your mind to sin.

That’s practice.

Speaking for me, for 33 years, there was no struggle.

There was an intentional, deliberate act to sin. The mind was made up. Provision to sin was already a done deal (see Romans 13:11-14).

When you are not willing to discuss with another trusted person or persons what is really going on in your heart, mind, and flesh, such refusal only opens the door for sexual trouble.

As always, one thing always leads to another.

The lines we say we would never cross, eventually get crossed. And we inherit the whirlwind.

So what are we to do?

Many men will keep their secrets. Many will refuse to tell a soul.

But some are ready to toss the secret for freedom in Christ.

“If therefore the Son shall make you free, you shall be free indeed.”

Wives will wonder why they are no longer sexually attractive to their husbands. Many will go for months without sex. Many will live with the knowledge of a man’s secret, and not say a word. Some (very,very few) will even go and do likewise behind their husband’s back- so few because most women want to maintain their marriages.

So how does a man break his secrets?

He must get the courage before he crosses another line. When a man knows that something is about to go down, it is his inner intuition, conscience, voice of his spirit and human reasoning, that when you are contemplating going to the next level that you begin to get warning signs that something is about to be set off.

Most men mistakenly bypass the stop sign and either hit something or they get hit. Failure to heed the warning brings the consequences to bear on a man where the cost is beyond what’s left in the account of grace.

Then again, the last measure of grace may be hidden in the backseat of a police car.

Or you, perhaps, ran out of grace and ran right into mercy. The prison house.

And for others, neither is available.

The mortician.

“You have set our iniquities before You, our SECRET SINS in the light of Your countenance.” Psalm 90:8-9

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