Women are unfairly blamed for a lot of things in the world and the church. However, the Bible is clear about the kinds of women that desire to use their femininity to sexually trap men in the church. Not all women are this way. Many seek the Lord and remain holy throughout their lives. But there is the hopeless, desperate, and connection deprived women that no longer hold out.
I can’t help but underscore a woman’s discipline to abstain from sex for 15 years before yielding to her sexually immoral predator pastor and received the death sentence of HIV/AIDS.
“In your patience possess ye your souls.”
Very few churches these days escape the sex scandal. There is always two sides to every story.
When a pastor gets up before the congregation to announce his Secret Sexual Sins, it is the most devastating time for the future of the congregation.
Equally, it is the most devastating time for the wife and family of the pastor. Very few know the pain, anguish, and suffering a wife goes through. Very few understand that way before adultery, the sin of adultery that the pastor fought long and hard to avoid occurred in the secrecy of his private life.
But very few discuss the kinds of women that come to church. Some come with the intent to seduce a pastor, or any male that would look their way. Some are desperate for male companionship that to fulfill connection needs, they offer their bodies as a sacrifice to males. Sometimes break up after break up, women give up being holy and chaste, and “turn the tables” so to speak.
Very few are willing to discuss the breeding ground that led to the sex scandal in a pastor, praise and worship singers, musicians, and other leaders in the church.
Men watch women lustfully, file images in their minds to masturbate off of those images, and then they take it to the next levels in sexual addiction.
Thousands of porn images.
Then when they had enough of fantasy, the select a body. Whether they come through the doors of the church, or pastors and other church leaders engage in prostitution, strip joints, or escort services, it doesn’t matter as long as he gets a body to “cooperate” to fulfill his sexual sins.
It’s in his private life that these things have a place to be sinfully nurtured. Yes, it is premeditated. The lines he said he would never cross, eventually gets crossed.
It’s just a matter of time.
There is no question, that in the church, women out number males. And there is no question that the availability of single males in the church is significantly diminished.
There is no question that not everyone that comes to the church, comes for the right reason. That goes for men and women. Behind our worship lurks the sins of the flesh and spirit, or the mind and flesh.
For the most part we know that married and single males are always on the look out for “strange flesh.”
But strange flesh comes to church and the unsuspecting male, married or single, need to pay attention. Married women in the church need to pay attention to protect their husband because in a flash, an immoral woman will make a play for your husband.
Before I go further, let me reiterate the fact that pastoral sex abuse is no longer the exception. It is common. Pastors use their professional position to take advantage of emotionally unstable women. Male pastors that are smooth with their words and hands are quick to take advantage of unsuspecting, God fearing women that come for counseling and end up in the bedroom.
That’s what’s happening in the church. There are also staff pastors, elders, bishops, deacons, and such that cannot discipline themselves. So we know that this activity is out there.
How do the sexual immoral women come?
Proverbs, as I have stated before, is a handbook of wisdom for boys that are about to become men. There is no question that ladies can learn a thing or two from the book of Proverbs, but, it was written basically for men.
Solomon learned much about women. At the end of his reign, he had 1000 women.
The Bible tells us that “he loved many women.”
There is no question that he had sex with every last one of them and perhaps even more.
But here is what we can learn.
There is the “type” of women that come to many churches. And do not sit there and think otherwise. We must remember that not everyone will come to the church as saved as you think.
Let’s not be naive here.
Another thing not to be naive about is that not all preachers are as clean as you think.
Preachers need Jesus. Sinning preachers need to repent and get right with God.
The kinds of women that come to church, other than the married and single, holy women of God, are called five things.
1. Evil woman. 2. Seductress. 3. Harlot. 4. Adulteress. 5. Immoral woman.
If you are not one of these five, then you have nothing to worry about. But please read on because if you are a married woman, you need to pay attention to these kinds of women that will make a play on your husband. Your husband will not see it coming, but you do and you are his only set of eyes that see beyond the innocent “hehehe’ laugh of women.
We do not put these things out to degrade women. The Bible is clear that when women of this kind comes, it is important for the male to get wisdom from God and avoid her. In Proverbs 7, her house is called, “the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.”
In Proverbs 7, she also has this spiritual aura about her….“I have peace offerings with me, today I have paid my vows.”
According to Adam Clarke’s Commentary, “peace offerings were offerings the spiritual design of which was to make peace between God and man, to make up the breach between them which sin had occasioned…’much light is cast on this place by the fact that the gods in many parts of the East are actually worshipped in brothels, and fragments of the offerings are divided among the wretches who fall into the snare of the prostitutes’- WARD’s Customs (quote).
Sort of like the prayer that most people in silence make.
“God, forgive me for the sin I am about to commit.”
Key Scriptures to help you identify The Five Kinds Of Sinful Women.
1. Her words of seduction.
Proverbs 5:3-6…“The lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword. He feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell, lest you ponder her path of life-her ways are unstable; you do not know them.”
When you fail to keep this Scripture and go for sinful woman, this Scripture is applicable to you…..
“For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.”
2. Her beauty.
Proverbs 6:23-25 says…..
“For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”
Proverbs 7:10 says this…..
“And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart. She was loud and rebellious, her feet would not stay at home.”
Women dress to be noticed. Women wear make up to enhance her natural beauty. The right combination guarantees attention. All shapes, all sizes. The right combination is what gets results. But when you want red flag attention, cleavage, high and tight, and hair just right.
Then there is the loud and rebellious kind that is part of the make up of The Five Kinds Of Sinful Woman.
They hate male authority and it is indicative of hating God’s authority. No matter what you tell them, they will do it any way. And nothing stops them except death or mercifully, the power of God. The obnoxious sister that comes in every Sunday to look for trouble falls in this category. Any way to get some attention.
Yes, avoid her because you know they are trouble.
In 1 Peter 3:3-4, Peter, a married man, said this about the dress and behavior of married women…..
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward- arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quite spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”
It doesn’t matter whether it’s the bar or church. When they want to get noticed, it’s an all out intentional cat walk or red carpet actions that gets a man’s attention.
And sadly, when a married woman doesn’t get her husband’s attention, she will dress to provoke the attention of other men.
So brothers, pastors, all men, whether that’s the intention or not, do not fall for it.
Here is a Scripture (Proverbs 4:25-27) that will help you….
“Let your eyes look straight ahead, and your eyelids look right before you. Ponder the path of your feet, and let your ways be established. Do not turn to the right or the left; remove your foot from evil.”
Did you notice “and look at your eyelids right before you?”
That means look at your eyelids. Or close your eyes and let your eyes look at the backside of the eyelids instead of her backside.
What is the price if you fail to take heed? Proverbs 6:26 says….
“For by means of a harlot, a man is reduced to a crust of bread and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life…”
So males, to be men, you need to apply your hearts to the wisdom of God and avoid The Five Kinds Of Sinful Women that come to church.
If you don’t, I hope you like crusts of bread and I hope your nights in hell will be easy.
HOW CAN WE PREVENT SEXUAL SCANDALS?
There is two ways that scandals could be prevented. Willful disclosure of hidden sexually immoral behavior according to Ephesians 5:8-14 or prophetic exposure according to Luke 12:2.
In both cases, God is looking to help man out of sin by any means necessary.
It is difficult to stop men of God that are bent on circumventing any principles of morals to fulfill the lusts of their flesh but God will do everything in His power to get your attention.
Sadly, every scandal from here on is only another indication that we are deep in the age of apostasy. The sins of preachers is only getting worse and it will lead many to hell on earth and a much more terrible hell under the earth.
Sadly, the people in the church will sit there and drink with these preachers. Becoming co-conspirators and cheerleading followers of their vile affections (see Romans chapter 1).
They will drink deeply of the sinful waters of sexual perversion.
Any sins committed by pastors and church folk will make the world blush in pride.
There is a problem with pastors living up to the standards of the Word of God.
Pastors that work independently and pastors that work under a ecclesiastical jurisdiction set up rarely have a place to go to to air out what is harboring in their hearts. Many pastors frown upon “inquisitions,” “personal accountability inquiries,” or other forms of measurable accountability because of what it can turn into.
When you are in sin or you have a problem with sexual addiction, you will not be quick to run to sit with somebody to ask you questions about your personal life. It is a very fearful thing to put your life out before people because your image is at stake. What people think of you determines your total outlook on yourself and ministry.
To put out your life before an accountability group requires that you be comfortable and safe. Otherwise, nothing deeply embedded in the soul will be shared. The fallen pastor must have people that either maintained the standard of holiness in the fear of the Lord or was once in the life of sin but gained victory.
Many will say that a couple of years out of sin is pretty much the standard. The more years the better because then the fallen pastor will be exposed to hear about certain tendencies and what to look out for.
At this point, never mind the self image you may have had or lost. What’s more important is what the Lord thinks about you. Can He use you or not is dependent upon how clean you become.
Coming clean about your sex life is the only way that you can be mightily used by God in the future, should you choose to accept long term measurable accountability that works.
Secret Sexual Sins is about how much sin you can commit while keeping it a secret.
If nobody knows, nobody gets hurt.
But God knows and He is already hurt if you continue to keep it a secret.
It is very easy for a pastor to hide and not be found. When it comes to men, apart from ministry, men believe that they can fix things by themselves.
In other words, male pastors go it alone.
This always leave the potential to sin and try to fix the sin by personal repentance alone. Personal repentance is fine if you are sincere about leaving sin alone, once and for all, but it is not true repentance if you return to commit the same sin over again. That’s why it is important for you to have someone to talk to or someone that can call you and see where you are.
If you go it alone, you are only opening the door for dealing with Secret Sexual Sins through remorse, not repentance. Remorse is about feeling sorry for yourself that you were caught in sin. It’s also called revolving door repentance.
To stop revolving door repentance is the ability to stop treating sin like a kid’s game.
WHAT WILL IT TAKE?
Let’s talk about..
Preventative And Measurable Accountability
It starts with an Accountability Group.
Someone that you willing submit to that will lovingly and uncompromisingly hold you accountable for your sexual integrity. Someone that can vouch for your life. Someone that can speak truth into your life whether you like it or not. Someone that can help you along the way, see ahead of you, and warn you of the dangers ahead.
Not many pastors are interested because of the price of transparency. However, if we are going to defeat sexual immorality and preserve our marriages, family, and ministries, we must leave no stone unturned.
Prevention is not a great subject these days. Too often nothing is done to prevent an accident but when an accident occurs, heaven and earth is moved to prevent another one.
Silly, isn’t it.
Sex scandals have continuously rocked the church for centuries. Yet, there has been no insistence of “measurable accountability.”
Partly for two reasons.
1. There is no contingency or template in place (bylaws-elder boards) when a scandal takes place.
2. Pastors refuse measurable preventative accountability and they refuse or circumvent remedial help or counseling after the scandal.
Sometimes, these fallen pastors impose upon themselves their own “accountability” rules.
They impose upon themselves that the ministry cannot continue without them and return too fast to the pulpit. If a child is born out of the adulterous relationship, and they do not have a job outside of pastoral duties, they will fight to stay on salary so they can be prepared to pay child support.
This is in addition to any divorce proceedings, if it goes in that direction.
They fail to spend time getting before the presence of the Lord and allow seasoned men of God to take them through the process of healing.
They fail to take the time to see to his wife’s healing, leaving her in a daze of confusion, betrayal, and embarrassment. They fail to help or get help for their suffering children and families. The church enters into an array of emotions but they hang between opinions governed by their denial and what is factual.
There is usually one reason why pastors return too soon to the pulpit.
They have their eyes on themselves and they want to save their “empire.”
The pastor takes the church and turns it into his own personal empire.
Two concepts of restoration comes to mind.
Not many fallen pastors will do what it takes to restore personal integrity. However, if you are going to come back to the pulpit, you must be willing to do the following.
1. SPIRITUAL RESTORATION
Too many pastors do not return to the Lord. They return to their ministries first, and second, they walk away from God and their wives. The first level of restoration begins with getting back in the face of God to seek His love, compassion, and grace. Too often, we run pass the Lord, and look to get back to doing what we do best.
Preaching and ministering to people.
This should be the furthest thing from your mind. God loves you. Not what you do (as far as preaching is concerned).
Yes, He called you to preach, but He called you to relate with Him.
When was the last time you were touched by God? The Lord said this to me during my season of Secret Sexual Sins. “Never forget how to be touched by God.” This didn’t ring true until there were times that the Holy Spirit brought me through seasons of repentance. The godly sorrow for sin finally hit me because I hurt God bad.
He was grieved.
False intimacy is devotion to devils at the altar of sexual immorality. There must be a serious reconnection to the Lord. A fallen pastor falls out of love with the Lord and must reconnect to the Lover of his soul. Yes, it is time to fall in love with the Lord all over again.
Otherwise, restoration in the other two areas will never happen.
2. FAMILY RESTORATION
After restoring your relationship with the Lord, your family is the next important priority, not your ministry.
You must do everything in your power to do what is right for your wife and kids. The church will go on without you, one way or another. You must get help for you and your wife, otherwise, no restorative process is worth the trouble. You are just wasting time, energy, and people’s lives.
This is a lengthy, time consuming process and it should never be rushed.
After this process of family restoration, your restorative group will recommend the next step.
3. MINISTERIAL RESTORATION
1. Submit yourself to some form of restoration process that takes control away from you of your ministry.
You cannot survive without God. Your ministry can survive without you.
2. Submit to some form of counseling. Be it anger management, sexual addiction (or any other addiction in connection), and family counseling.
3. Be prepared to share as much about your past as bearably possible. The links to your past is a track record that may reveal why you did what you did.
4. Submit to ongoing random spot checks by men of integrity. These are men that you trust your life with. Men that you confide with. Men that will hold your feet to the fire. It is painful but if you are serious about returning to the pulpit, your life needs to have measurable transparency.
These men will endorse or denounce your ministry effectiveness.
YOU ARE POWERLESS TO SELF IMPOSE A RETURN TO THE PULPIT.
Only the men that you are accountable to may recommend a return to the pulpit. Otherwise, it’s a farce.
It is very easy for a fallen pastor, after a brief absence from the pulpit, to resume ministry. He really feels he could continue to minister to others. It is a pompous display of pride and arrogance that got him into trouble in the first place.
It’s like driving a car full of explosives. It’s just a matter of time before they will blow themselves up. And inevitably, he will.
STARTING ANOTHER CHURCH OR ASSUMING THE PASTORATE ELSEWHERE
While there is no template or something etched in stone when it is feasible for a fallen pastor to return to any pulpit, there should be a reasonable time established. However, to start another church or to consider moving to another town to assume the pastorate elsewhere is not a good idea within the early stages of the restoration process.
Such a return timetable must be approved by those who hold him accountable. They must ensure that he and his family are well on their way to recovery. They must ascertain that the will of God require his restoration.
How is this done?
Gauging the health of their relationship with the Lord and his family.
Signs to look for.
1. Broken and contrite heart.
3. Willing to put off a return to any form of ministry until those involved in the redemptive restorative process see a clear display of humility or humbleness of mind.
4. Whole hearted agreement from the wife that he is ready to resume the minstry. If you do not have your wife’s unconditional support, it’s not worth the risk. That’s why family restoration will take longer than the other two areas of restoration because a breach of vows, confidence, and fidelity is not that easy to get by.
If there is anyone that should be able to vouch or question your return to the pulpit, it’s going to be your wife. She has to have confidence that you are not going to go down the path again. You owe her that much to see through the process of family restoration for as long as it takes.
God resists the proud but He also gives grace to the humble.
It is very easy to fool some of the people some of the time but God is never fooled, and God will bring certain people in your life to let you know that you can’t fool them either.
When a fallen pastor continues to speak his spiritual cliche or “anointing,” it’s a clear signal that they are not healed. When a fallen pastor speak “Biblelise” and refuse to entertain though provoking questions designed to determine where you are in the Lord, it is very plain that they are avoiding the issue.
In order to deceive, one must be deceived themselves.
Ministry is all that some pastors know. But they need to be certain that they are ready to properly balance family and ministry. Otherwise, another scandal is in the making. Most fallen pastors insist that they are ready. It never should be up to the fallen pastor to say that they are ready. It must be up to those who hold him accountable and his wife.
Anything less is failure on everyone’s part.
It is very easy to preach but it is difficult to be a child of God. Like me and every other preacher, we can preach at the drop of a hat. But can we live clean and holy before God and His people after the preaching is done?
When a fallen pastor says that they are ready, they are not.
How do I know?
If you are honest about your self assessment, you will never self rubber stamp your redemption. It is better to have others give you a truthful assessment. Self certification is a clear dis-qualifier.
Lasting redemption and restoration is an ongoing work that must have tough safeguards in place to prevent relapse. Sexual relapse is serious as a cancerous relapse.
Relapse happens in the smallest ways. During the restoration process, everyone must be on guard to address these mental and spiritual relapses. All it takes is one thought. One self sexual act to get the ball rolling. What Jesus did on a regular basis is “watch and pray.”
However, you need to have people watch and pray with you.
Everyone remembers the story of Cain and Abel. When Abel brought the sacrifice that God required, Cain brought fruit. Cain was upset that God, not Abel, rejected his offering.
God asked Cain a serious question.
“Where is your brother?”
Can answered, “Am I my brother’s keeper?”
Cain threw the question right back at God.
The answer to accountability is Cain’s question.
We are our brother’s keeper or guard.
We are expected to help one another steer clear of sexual immorality by employing tough, measurable accountability.
Sadly, many pastors will live in the arena of regret.
Especially during the judgment.
But we all have a chance to deal with this issue through meaningful, loving, non condemning accountability.
By Fred C. Rochester. Copyright 2011. All Rights Reserved.
A FALLEN PASTOR’S TRUE PLACE OF WORSHIP
In front of the people in church, lust filled pastors appear to worship God but their true god is their libido.
In recent times, high profile pastors are found bowing at the altar of sexual immorality. They worship their urges and impulses. They worship their lust. They worship what their eyes are lusting after.
We must address this on a national level. If we do not, then we are not going anywhere as a Body. This is not the time for popular messages. This is not the time to mirror what the prominent preachers on TV are preaching unless it is the un-compromised, unadulterated Word of the living God.
This is war and it is time to fight back because the church is under attack.
It is time to use your weapon. Stand up and fight.
This is the hour for unpopular messages on sanctification, holiness, and righteousness. This is the time for the “no name” preachers to emerge from the side lines and preach the true gospel of Jesus Christ with holiness power from on high.
If we do not, then we are a part of the problem and never a part of the solution.
If we fail in this moment, it’s because we’ve become worshippers and priests of the altar of sexual immorality.
How can we stop this or at the very least, deal with the issue?
PREVENTATIVE ACTION FROM A PASTOR’S WIFE
The moment a man or woman comes before a sexually addicted pastor, their sexuality is aroused. The sexual immoral woman can always tell when a pastor is crossing the line.
It’s called, “The look,” or “The wandering eye.”
Pastor, your eyes tell the kind of heart you have (see Matthew 5:27-28 and 6:22-23).
Sadly, the immoral women that sit in these churches make it very easy for a pastor to commit adultery. Sometimes, they leave nothing to the imagination. They come in with cleavage and high heels. Tight fitting or flirty looking dresses. They come prepared to steal the husband from their wives.
Yes, it’s a battle.
A pastor’s wife is still in competition for someone that is off limits.
The pastor’s wife lives in fear that someone will come in and take her husband.
A pastor’s wife will be wise to these immoral women and set the watch. Pray that the immoral woman be exposed and the hand of the enemy bound, in Jesus’ name! Pastor’s wives should no longer take it for granted that every woman that comes to church is for God.
As a pastor’s wife, you can no longer afford the luxury of assumption when your gut feeling is that something is wrong with your husband. Your intuition is telling you one thing but your mind is playing with you. When you catch your husband’s eye “wandering,” it is a clear indication that he has a sex problem.
Err on the side of suspicion and be on guard. You do not have to be on a witch hunt. Remember, all wives have that eye for the “other women” and she can discern the motives of immoral women quickly.
It doesn’t take much and it doesn’t take long to see the ulterior motive.
You do not have to be paranoid or behave irrationally.
Just your constant presence by your husband is more than enough. Coming over and interrupting the conversation between your husband is more than enough. You do not have to behave frantically. Just use common sense, wisdom, and tact.
Every now and then, you will have to let other women know, in no uncertain terms, that you see what is happening, and you will not stand for it. It’s not about a fight or competition. It’s about staking what God gave to you and it is about territory.
Most of the time, innocent conversations between male pastors and females operating undercover can be moments of a moral let down in the mind of male pastors. She is testing his stronghold to see if there is any vulnerable places. The sides of the strongholds is not what the immoral woman is targeting.
She is going right through the front door.
That’s why a male pastor will not see it coming.
His mind is so in the clouds that he will let his guard down and be completely mesmerized by her charm, good looks, and sexuality. Before you know it, he is dreaming about her in bed. And do not be surprised if he filed her body like a sex poster in salacious magazines to gratify himself off of later.
The married pastor is no longer single and available.
Yet, the immoral woman ups the ante.
WHAT HAPPENS AFTER A SEX SCANDAL?
After the sex scandal, he leaves or “steps down” from the ministry for only a few weeks or months and then return to the pulpit as if nothing happened. They stand before their congregations and say key phases such as…
“I had an indiscretion,” or “I made a mistake,” or “I fell.”
They seldom say that they sinned or say that they committed adultery. These words are too strong and embarrassing. However, if you are serious about coming back to the pulpit after a “beyond reasonable” absence from the pulpit, you will identify that you are the one responsible for committing Secret Sexual Sins.
You will Come Clean about your Secret Sexual Sins.
What was done in private is now exposed in the open. Everything should be put on the table. Porn, self gratification, commonly called masturbation, and the lustful, adulterous eye.
Not many pastors will agree to do this because they have an “image” to protect.
What about the image of God?
By our “misdeeds,” His name gets dragged in the mud again.
Because of our sins, God looks bad again. “He can’t control everything and everybody,” says the world.
Sexual sins will always continue because the situation is deeper than that, but the other side of the coin is even more troubling.
You have gullible people inside the church that defend this sinful behavior by saying…
“We are all human,” or “Touch not mine anointed and do not judge my pastor, we’ve all fallen short.”
We never understand the heart of the Father. He was wounded and hurt by our transgressions and we have the nerve and audacity to defend the very thing that He sent His Son to die for?
I know what it is to fall into Secret Sexual Sins on the level one of sexual addiction. I hurt God and my wife every day like a prodigal or wasteful son. But every day, the Lord looked down the road to see if I would repent and come home to Him. He didn’t like it but He knew that one day, I would return.
Carnal Christians in the Christian church have lost their ever living minds.
We must never excuse sin because God doesn’t excuse sin. He condemned sin in the flesh of Jesus (see Romans 8:1-4). This is not about the letter of the law here. It is about upholding and maintaining the standard of the Word of God.
If they would study out Psalm 105, you will see that the anointing was not placed on the nation of Israel because they were in sin. The holy anointing is placed on holy people determined to do God’s will.
Numbers 19 through Numbers 25 was a classic display of God’s power. As long as Israel walked in righteousness, no nation would survive. When sexual immorality came into the camp, their winning streak ended. No longer would Israel experience victory on this scale unless they stayed holy before God.
1 Samuel, chapters 1 through 6, was about taking the anointed presence of the Lord away from Israel because the leadership committed sexual immorality and perverted the entire land of Israel.
Does this sound like you and your church? Experiencing victory and then defeat?
As long as the pastor and God’s people stay holy before God, victory is guaranteed. No man or demon would be able to stand before you.
Many wacky Bible knowledge-less Christians site David’s fall from grace as an example of not being judgmental of other fallen pastors.
How silly is this?
While David was a man after God’s own heart, yet, he was able to kill one of his most loyal soldiers to cover his adultery.
It’s sad that you would stoop so low as to put your fallen pastor in league with David’s sin.
The baby had to die because God was not about to endorse the act of a murder for cover, let alone adultery. David’s warped mentality caused him to fast and pray for the love child. David didn’t let it go. David errantly thought that God would change His mind.
David’s rationalization was, “Why take it out on the child for my sins? The child didn’t sin or made the ‘mistake,’ right?”
True in conception, warped in thought!
God was not about to let David get away with it and God took away from David any form of sin justification. Otherwise, everyone in the future would be able to justify murdering someone for their wife.
That’s covetousness of a perverted manner. Granted, David didn’t actually kill him but you can’t say that the thought didn’t pass his mind. David just found another hand to do the job for him.
For the rest of David’s life, he had war within his own family. The only consolation was Solomon. And Solomon didn’t enter finish well either. As a result of his sexually sinful actions, the nation would be divided, 10 to 2.
We have seen consistently in the Scriptures that whenever a sex scandal takes place, an exodus will happen. People will not stay.
This is another level where people that are searching for answers must begin with the only answer to the situation. While the Lord is in control, I cannot answer for my pastor. I must render an account for my own life and I choose to live by the Word of God.
If your church is involved in a pastoral sex scandal, I recommend you pray the following prayer.
Father, I choose to uphold the Word above my pastor. I pray for him, his wife, and his family. I will not excuse his sin. I will forgive his sin when he satisfactorily repents according to the Word of God. I will not hold his sin against him. I will pray for the pastor’s wife that she be surrounded with God’s wisdom, love, and grace. That the pastor’s wife receives the strength she needs to meet the challenge of her life. That she be restored and valued as a human being. I pray for the mistress. That she repents and receives the help that she needs to turn her life around. I pray for the church that we receive comfort, grace, and love in out time of turmoil. In the name of Jesus, amen.