Ecclesiastes 1:9 says….“That which has been is what will be,
That which is done is what will be done,
And there is nothing new under the sun.
Is there anything of which it may be said,
“See, this is new”?
It has already been in ancient times before us.”
Many of you were surprised when they came out with this but anyone that has followed this alarming trend knew that it would be a matter of time.
Its purpose is so that one person cannot tell the difference of gender between another. So confused, a person will engage in sex with another person regardless of their assigned gender.
That’s the whole point.
Sexual immorality in a confused state of mind.
The deliberate engagement of sex outside marriage is just another form of perversion to keep men and women trapped in the lust of their flesh and mind.
And they will fight to keep their sin. As long as their emotional attachment to sin is alive, they will do everything to fight truth.
As Paul said in Romans 1:18….“For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness…”
The reason why they suppress the truth is because according to Paul in 2 Corinthians 4:4, the “god of this world has blinded the minds of those that believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel which is the image of Christ should shine unto them.”
The “god” of this world is no other than satan himself.
People could be so blinded that they will argue and fight to get you to accept a man as a woman. They will pass laws and decrees to force you to accept their surgically altered gender. And if you resist, heavy penalties, including possibly jail sentences may be imposed.
It will not be enough to go to Civil Court to sue a person that is against transgenderism. They will seek to take everything away from you, including your money and freedom. But we know that they will look to impose the death penalty to impose such a fear on you that you would capitulate and surrender to their will.
Sounds like Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah, doesn’t it?
The fear of death would make some walk away from Christ, saving their necks. But we cannot deny Christ because Christ will deny us if we do.
Jesus said in Matthew 10:32-33 “Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven. But whoever denies Me before men, him I will also deny before My Father who is in heaven.”
1 John 5:19 says “…We know that we are of God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one.”
This sway is the evil influence seeking to trap every human being willing to stay in sin and accept sin as the only way to go. To go against the trend of sin and its acceptance of transgenderism will bring great wrath upon those that preach deliverance in Jesus’ name.
Paul also said in Ephesians 4:17-19 that “…This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.”
We’ve seen transgender males surgically altered, transforming themselves into women. But one thing is interesting.
Surgical alterations, hormonal and testosterone injections NEVER altered their DNA or their male or female biological cells.
Things folks never tell you about for fear of the truth.
A female MMA fighter took on a transgender male and said after being beat that she never felt so “overpowered” before, or words to that effect.
A male transgender easily beat a field of women in a running race.
Bruce Jenner won the ESPY award.
At the place where they held the awards, everyone in that audience were looking at a surgically altered male but Bruce was a dead giveaway when he began to speak.
In California and NY, they’re getting laws passed to criminalize anyone that mispronounce the gender of a surgically altered transgender.
In other twist, the push to allow genderless to become legal is making huge waves.
Jesus spoke of the days of Noah and Lot in Matthew 24:36 and Luke 17:26.
In these two periods of time, the hearts of men and women were so dark that the Lord brought judgment upon them.
One by way of a flood, killing the entire population except 8, and the other by way of fire and brimstone, destroying those cities with the exception of 3 persons.
Their sins brought upon them the sore displeasure of Almighty God.
We’re headed in the same direction.
But before this happens, the gospel must be preached throughout all the world, and then the end will come.
So in understand the times that we’re living in, we can see that the culmination of all things is at hand. God is merciful and has longsuffering beyond imagination. He desires “all men to be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth.”
At the same time, satan is looking to trap more men and women in delusional perversion to fill hell with sinners.
With the deceptive, depraved acts of homosexuality, transgenderism, and all sorts of perversion operating in broad daylight, the true believers must put on the armor of light, discern the times that we’re in, and stay close to the Lord.
We must constantly warn the wicked and the backslider.
We must teach and live righteous lives before the Lord.
It’s just a matter of time before the Lord comes.
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There is a series called Conquer Series that is out to help men get delivered from porn.
The enemy is in fear of any man breaking free of the strongest stronghold in human history.
Sexual addiction to himself.
“Lovers of themselves..without self control…pleasures rather than lovers of God” as Paul said in 2 Timothy 3.
As I have stated, no one watches porn and never act out sexually in masturbation, adultery, prostitutes, homosexuality, or bisexuality, or bestiality.
Porn is “just the fuel or accelerant” to add to the fire of lust.
It’s not the porn that is the culprit behind your entrapment.
It’s your lust and the means to fulfill that lust by acting out sexually in the world of sexual fantasy.
You have to die.
Paul said in Colossians 3:5 that we must “mortify” or put to death our members. It is the crucified with Christ life.
Jesus said that if we desire to follow Him, we must…
1. DENY OURSELF. (Deprive yourself of power to live in sin).
2. TAKE UP OUR CROSS. (Prepare to put yourself down like putting down an animal).
3. FOLLOW HIM. (All the way, or no way at all).
If you refuse to deny yourself, you will refuse to take up your cross to die upon it, and therefore, you are disqualified by default from follow Him.
The pandemic of porn is effecting men at a much higher rate than 68% because of men that will not admit to sexual addiction. Why? The pleasure for some men and women is too much for them to give up.
But nothing is outside of the power of God to deliver anyone from Secret Sexual Sins (see 1 Corinthians 10:13).
One of the very things that men will be cast into the lake which burns with fire and brimstone for is “sexual immorality.” (see Revelation 21:8).
For so long you have thought that you wouldn’t be judged.
By God’s grace, you were given space to repent. The clock is ticking and God knows already what you have decided to do. Some of you, sadly, will not make it because your love for lust was greater than your love for God.
This is not hopelessness. Hopelessness is a selfish determination of a man or woman that refuses to escape a burning building when they had the chance. Do not yield to hopelessness. Yield to escape no matter what. Get to the place where you must do what you have to do to escape (see Hebrews 12:4).
No one is to blame but the man or woman that refuses to escape when he or she had the chance. The time for accepting responsibility and be accountable begins when you run out of the burning building, never to return.
Billions have missed the chance and are in hell awaiting the fate of fallen men.
It’s a fact.
Jesus said many will be on the road to destruction according to Matthew 7:13-14, but you do not have to be on that road. This will not be incentive enough for many men because of John 3:17-36. The love for sin and darkness outweighs the love for God and light.
But it doesn’t have to be this way for you.
It doesn’t have to end in the pit of fire for failure to kill lust in your heart, mind, and body.
One moment of sinful sexual pleasure is not worth an eternity in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.
At this stage of the game, we need every person that has kept themselves from Secret Sexual Sins and those that “escaped the corruption of the world through lust” to rescue as many men and women as possible before it is too late.
Whether Jesus comes or your death, whichever comes first.
Do what you got to do to escape before it is too late, or you will be numbered with the transgressors.
The trailer of Conquer Series is one of many rescue tools used by the Holy Spirit to pull men and women from the flame. It can be observed here.
“Finally, Zika reminds us that over and over nature is a formidable enemy,” he said. “We wish we knew more we wish we could do more. We know this is anxiety provoking for pregnant women and their families.”
Notice the phrase “nature is a formidable enemy.”
This is a direct source reporting on the new epidemic that is transmitted sexually.
While nature plays a role in infecting certain people around the world, we see that it cannot stop humans from engaging in illegal sex called adultery and fornication.
Now we are reminded that this disease can affect married couples that never engaged in illegal sex.
So what’s the point?
The point is simple. We know that people engage in homosexuality, bisexuality, fornication and adultery.
It’s a reminder that we need to abstain from sin.
It is also a reminder that these are the last days as the Lord Jesus told us.
Matthew 24:7-8 “For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. And there will be famines, pestilences, and earthquakes in various places. All these are the beginning of sorrows.”
Note Strong’s Concordance definition of the word “pestilence.”
g3061. λοιμός loimos; of uncertain affinity; a plague (literally, the disease, or figuratively, a pest):— pestilence (- t).
AV (3)- pestilence 2, pestilent 1;
pestilence a pestilent fellow, pest, plague
So if there is any question about the last days, look no further. Many more may be headed this way but it is a sign of the end times before the coming of the Lord.
As a note, earthquakes have occurred in Oklahoma on a regular basis. Japan has had an eruption recently. Nations are rising against nations. Just look at the on going battle in Syria, Ukraine, Iraq, and other places. Famine is still an issue around the world.
Jesus said that “All these are the beginning of sorrows.”
The additional definition of sorrows is as follows……“the pain of childbirth, travail pain, birth pangs intolerable anguish, in reference to the dire calamities precede the advent of the Messiah.”
Like a woman that is about to give birth, these signs are upon us. Whether they are occurring rapidly or with varying intensity, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is that it is happening just like the Lord said.
That’s what we should be paying attention to. Unmistakeable, undeniable signs that point to the coming of the Lord.
So if you are still caught in the web of illegal sexual activity, Revelation 21:8, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Hebrews 13:4, and Matthew 15:18-19 is looking at all those that run the stop sign of God’s Word.
This was posted on my FB timeline.
There was a man in a certain country that solicited the services of a prostitute. It would be his last sex sin. The paramedics had to place his dead corpse on a gurney with the living prostitute on top.
Evidently, his penis enlarged itself in her vagina and possibly rigor mortis set in where she couldn’t disconnect from intercourse. Or possibly, the man took viagra and blood settle in his penis, who knows?
But according to Proverbs 7, the prostitute, as an immoral woman, is the staircase, descending into the “chambers of death.”
Chambers is defined as an “apartment.”
This is where we get “prison cells” from.
This man committed adultery or fornication, died in bed, and went directly to his eternal “prison cell.”
Such a story resonates. But people will not listen. They will continue to seek pleasures rather than seeking God.
The Zika Virus story could be read here.
The dead elderly man still sexually attached story could be read here.
Brothers, watch where your eyes travel. Too much flesh on DailyMail.
Since exposing his pornography habits on Oprah a few years ago, we see that a “gospel artist” will do anything to make themselves bigger than life.
We all thought that Kirk was doing a good thing in revealing to the world that he had a pornography habit.
A bad mistake.
As Paul said about taking personal issues before the world to be judged, the principle is to be applied. We can’t lay before the world our issues because the world has no moral standard to judge a child of God by. And the world has no power to help a person who may be a sex addict to be delivered.
As one person puts it in Dr. Michael Brown’s book “A Queer Thing Happened To America,” “they are trying to get God delivered.”
The world, by way of the devil, is trying to convert God and the holy saints of God.
As I have stated, no one watches porn and not act out in masturbation, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, or bisexuality.
It’s no reason not to believe that Kirk Franklin has involvement in masturbation; masturbation is considered by some to be the beginning stages of homosexuality. And if my memory serves correct, I don’t think Kirk mentioned anything about masturbation when he revealed his porn habits to Oprah.
I could be wrong.
Plausible as well as controversial as this later statement is, we all know that in porn movies and instruction videos on masturbation, it is the last and most difficult habit to break. That’s why men and women who practice masturbation will reason, wrestle, and fight anyone to keep this Secret Sexual Sin at all costs.
If you love masturbation more than the Lord, your relationship with Jesus is questionable at best. To love anything more than the Lord is an indictment on your holiness. Having a form of godliness but denying its power (see 2 Timothy 3:5).
In fact, if you are bound to masturbation, that is, you can’t stop it, you are a slave to your lust to fulfill the desires of the flesh through solo sex (see John 8:32-36 and Romans 6:15-23).
The demons behind porn are some of the strongest ever. Sexual immorality is the one thing that few escape from. Obviously, the highest levels of demon power are operating in the sin of homosexuality and the abortion industry as far as child sacrifice is concerned.
The strongholds of this nature that are permitted to be built in the lives of people affects families, churches (rogue and righteous), communities, politics, and the economy.
We all know that when you go against homosexuality, you are going to a fight that may cost you.
Every time we see a gospel artist come out in favor of homosexuality and make the righteous church out to be the bad guy, we know that this play in the devil’s playbook came from satan himself from the Garden.
Kirk is not the first to claim to speak for the righteous church about “apologizing” to homosexuals. Granted, name calling is beneath a true child of God, but those that stand for righteousness according to the Scriptures have nothing to apologize for.
The name calling comes from intolerant of righteousness, sinful, disgusting practitioners of homosexuality to deflect the truth about their indefensible sin.
It would be in the Garden that the devil makes God out to be the bad guy and the devil out to be the good guy.
The people that do not know their Bibles will fall for this from Kirk because they are sympathetic to the sins of this world than they are to being obedient to God.
There is a reason behind their thinking.
Compulsive masturbation, if Kirk hasn’t brought it to a stop.
The love of sexual sin.
And then, there is Carlton Pearson who came to the rescue of Kirk Franklin.
There are a lot of professed believers that still do not believe that Carlton went off the deep end. In fact, many people believe that Carlton can still repent and come to the Lord.
The Scriptures on false teachers and prophets are clear.
That’s why I walk away from folk because where God is closed minded in the Scriptures regarding false teachers and prophets, we too must be closed minded. We can’t be like David who fasted and prayed all night long for a child, conceived by adultery and murder, to live when God already closed His mind about it.
When it comes to false teachers and prophets, 2 Peter 2, Jude, and when Jesus said about the Pharisees being blind and to leave them alone, we too must do the same.
Hebrews 6:4-8 “For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted the heavenly gift, and have become partakers of the Holy Spirit, and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come, if they fall away, to renew them again to repentance, since they crucify again for themselves the Son of God, and put Him to an open shame. For the earth which drinks in the rain that often comes upon it, and bears herbs useful for those by whom it is cultivated, receives blessing from God; but if it bears thorns and briers, it is rejected and near to being cursed, whose end is to be burned.”
Leave them alone in the sense that they made a decision to walk away from the Lord. When they come out with their statements, we need to attack it and bring the correct Scriptures to bear on what they say.
Have you ever noticed that none of them bring the correct teachings of the Scriptures to bear with their statements? It’s all said on their reputation because they, over time, became believable to certain people according to Proverbs 14:15.
Men and women who have a following can’t say anything wrong. And if you dare bring the correct Scripture and apply it to what they have said, you are “touching God’s anointed.” You are putting your “mouth on the man of Gawd.”
Folks that are gullible for this stuff are the worst offenders of the Scriptures. If they would make the time to understand that God is against homosexuality, and all sexual sin, there wouldn’t be a problem.
But because people are caught in sin, they will use the very Scriptures that denounce sin to announce sin……is all right. We make all sorts of excuses when we see men and women fall into sin.
Have you noticed that when a pastor is caught in sexual sin and is disgraced, the mistress is never mentioned?
Because a woman can do no wrong and she is just a victim.
What a lie from the devil.
Notice that the writer of Hebrews said, “it is impossible…”
That’s the closed mindedness of God.
No prayer can overcome what God declares to be impossible.
But didn’t God say that “with God all things are possible.”
When it comes to asking the Lord in accordance with His will according to 1 John 5:14-15.
This is not about prayer and seeking God about supplication and requests.
This is about apostates that turn their backs on God deliberately.
It is “impossible.”
Carlton Pearson is an apostate.
Regarding Kirk Franklin, James 4:4 is applicable here. When you are an enemy of God, you are against the Scriptures. When you are against the Scriptures, you are against the God who gave the Scriptures. When you are against the God that gave the Scriptures, you have no chair to sit in when the music stops. And even if the music is playing and you got a chance, it’s a false sense of security.
So let us not kid ourselves.
These are the last of the last days and more demarcation is taking place.
A clear indication that when people take the side of the world, the devil is about to take anyone with him to hell that is willing to accept the lie over the truth.
It’s time to move away from personality worship and get as close to the Word of God and God and endure to the end to be saved.
The deception will continue and strong delusion sent by God is in the atmosphere. To see who really wants God or foolishness.
By the way. What was it that we’ve known all along?
That sexual immorality in the lives of “gospel artists” is still a stronghold and that people that pretend to know the Lord are imposters.
The article from EXMinistries regarding Carlton Pearson and Kirk Franklin could be read here.
It’s part of the evil menu of satanic temptation.
Women that look to lure a holy man of God into the bedroom or hotel room which ultimately leads both of them down the steps into hell.
Many women feel that they are the victim all of the time. It is true that lusting pastors look to take advantage of an emotionally damaged woman but when you look at the other side of the situation, in her vulnerability, she will fall into temptation just as easily as a lust filled pastor.
While many will argue about it, it is clear that satan always look to use someone to trip up a pastor.
Especially holy men of God that is disciplined in the Word and the Lord.
And satan will use a perverted pastor to trip up a holy woman of God. This is a two way street.
What’s also lurking in the house of worship are homosexual plants. They too are on the lookout for lust filled same sex with people in leadership.
Sexual immorality is a critical sign of the last days. As Secret and Overt Sexual Sins increase in the world, where there is no discipline in the pastor and in people in the church, we will watch these things intensify. That’s why the pastor must take heed before they find themselves overwhelmed with sin.
It’s not worth going to hell over.
Being that this is the most prevalent sexual sin in the church that gets immediate attention, that is, seductive women coming into the church to take out a pastor or a pastor luring unstable emotional women, we see that we must institute absolute disciple to escape the corruption.
A male pastor, whether married or single, must enforce a strict discipline upon himself. We cannot stop women from coming to church, dressed provocatively. In most cases, we can’t prevent them from sitting in certain high visible places where there is a clear line of sight. We can’t prevent most after service contact or interaction between pastors and women.
Every male pastor is different. Some pastors allow themselves to be available to females for counseling and other forms of interaction. Some pastors interact with females after service during “meet and greets.” These seemingly innocent interactions are also potential seed planting grounds where “attraction and enticement” unsuspectingly takes its course.
If there is no caution, prevention, or discipline, it’s just a matter of time before innocent contact turns into deliberate sexual immorality.
But interaction and professional contact could be maintained.
Two elements must be discussed.
- Attraction to power.
- Attraction to beauty.
In many church services, the preacher is the main event. Sadly, his personality and emotional energy is an attraction to women. At the same time, some, not all women, preconceive in their minds what to wear to attract a pastor with her beauty.
A few years ago, I was attending a service and after the service, a young woman in a tight fitting, low cleavage, knee high dark blue dress walked up to a married elder in his church. He and I drove to his church that morning. I knew what this was. It was a set up. It doesn’t take much to see a trap walking.
How he handles his emotions after the service is the tale of the tape.
It is during these times that he is emotionally vulnerable. This is where he can forget that he just handled the Word of God. If he fails to maintain his holiness in the Lord, it is very easy to cross the line and engage in inappropriate behavior that leads to sexual sin.
The moments after the service is over is where he feels powerful. This is where the four “E’s” of ministry come into play.
It’s very easy to operate in the soul and transfer all that “power” into sexuality.
Male sexuality and male sexual drive is at its peak and if a man is not careful, it is not long before he will engage.
Let’s explain the four “E’s.”
When you have preached a message that is powerful, you feel that you are in an elite class or status. Top of the world, so to speak. This place of elitism is also called pride. It is there that women will applaud you or give you encouragement. Whether it is innocent or deliberate, you must guard your heart. This is not to put women down but it is meant to be on guard for the intent.
After receiving that “compliment” you feel empowered.
Like you are the most powerful man on earth.
Then you deceive your heart into thinking that you’re entitled to anything.
Then you operate in expediency – “(of an action) convenient and practical, although possibly improper or immoral:”
So when James 1:14-15 is in operation, it spells doom.
How do you avoid this?
It all depends upon you.
To what lengths are you willing to go to protect what God gave you?
Will you be Joseph or will you be Job? Will you be Ahab or will you be Samson? Or will you be like Jesus?
Joseph escaped but he was in the right place taking care of Pharaoh’s business but in close proximity to Pharaoh’s wife at the wrong time. Job said that he never lusted with his eyes in the 31st chapter. Ahab gave himself over to Jezebel, even though he was married to her. Samson had lust in his heart. Jesus had sexual disciple among women.
So how do you avoid deliberate feminine seduction?
If you are a single pastor and women approach you, if you have a trusted elderly woman in the house, ask her to deal with the younger women in church.
Notice Paul’s instruction to Titus in the second chapter of this epistle.
Titus 2:1-5 “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience;
the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things — that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
If the younger women insist that they see the male pastor, it is a signal that must not be ignored. Not every young woman is looking to “score” like men are looking to “score,” but it is best to err on the side of good judgment and as a male pastor, insist that she see an older woman for counseling.
Most pastors have female secretaries. This is where the most interaction gets very personal and close. And this is where the most trip ups occur. Depending upon the size of the church, the need for a secretary will vary but this is also the very place where more attention must be paid in terms of sexual discipline. Not every female secretary is looking to score. But when a lust filled pastor or secretary is vulnerable, they will attempt to take advantage.
It’s not always during church service that interaction is occurring. Seduction can happen during the week with staff people.
In closing, we need to pay more attention to our marriages if you are a married pastor. The enemy is looking to devour you and your family. It’s not just the pastor that the devil wants to destroy. The devil will destroy the mistress, the wife, and the kids. The devil is not satisfied until there is complete destruction. So be on your guard at all times.
If you are single, you need to pay attention to your surroundings and maintain your sanctification.
Otherwise, you are another sad story for others to read about.
1 Peter 5:8-9a “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith…”
November 2008 was the last time I watched porn and masturbated to porn. Being a hypocrite caught up to me as the Lord warned me on the last day to “Come Clean! Or Be Exposed!”
Psalm 90:8 says, “You have set our iniquities before You, our secret sins in the light of Your countenance.”
2 Chronicles 16:9a says “The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth…”
Hebrews 10:31 tells us “It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”
Of course this verse speaks about when the Lord issues vengeance but if you’re in the crosshairs of being judged by God, it ought to be just as fearful.
Q: What made you want to watch porn?
A: Around 1998, we had Directv installed. At this point I knew that the temptations were there but at that time, I purposed in my heart (deceiving myself) that I wouldn’t watch porn. PPV porn was already on cable but we never got cable. Instead, I opted for satellite.
When you are channel surfing, you will come across salacious titles.
On the 100 channels, PPV soft porn would be on these channels. And that’s where it started. But it really didn’t start there. The seeds for porn were deposited in my heart as a little kid. Underneath the seat of my father’s car would be a book on sexual positions. It was there that the seed was deposited. My next exposure would be the movie houses on 42nd Street in Manhattan during the 70’s, which were notorious for pornography in almost every movie house.
Before the main movie, they would show pornography. As a kid, we didn’t have money to go to the movies every week. At that time, I had only been to the movies as a kid no more than 2 times. My parents didn’t like for me to travel because growing up in NYC, it was very dangerous.
Then a few friends of mine would ask if I wanted to go to a friend’s house to see movies. I went and there was nothing but porn. Planted in my heart and mind would be pornography. Therefore, it was very easy to “cross the line” and order PPV porn.
Then when Directv came, it made it easier for me to access porn discretely, or so I thought.
For 10 years, I would watch porn.
Q: Were you ever caught when you watched porn?
A: During one night, as I was watching porn in the bedroom, it would be then that my wife knew that something was going on. She turned over and caught me and that’s when I realized that I had a problem. A caught in Secret Sexual Sin problem. We call sin “a problem” to minimize the fact that it is sin. But when it comes to being caught, the Lord caught you before time began. Sin had found me out a long time ago.
Few of us remember that to be caught by physical eyes is one thing, so we try to hide ourselves from being caught by other people, but God caught us before we were caught by other people.
There comes a point where a man doesn’t care about being caught. All he cares about is fulfilling his sexual needs. It wasn’t about anything else. There is only one goal to achieve. Fulfilling the lust of the flesh. The risks of being caught was part of the territory.
Q: What did you do after you were caught by your wife?
A: I did what most men do not do. I admitted it. When you are caught red handed, you can lie about it. You can defer it by raising another issue to distract your wife. Or you can come clean about it. We sat together. She prayed for me but I couldn’t walk away that easy from porn.
Q. What would you say was driving you to watch porn?
A: That’s an easy question to answer. Years later, after reading some material on sexual addiction and in particular, Dr. William Struthers’ book on “Wired For Intimacy,” it was discovered that the stronghold wasn’t the porn. It would be the combination of porn masturbation or solo sex that reinforced the stronghold of lust in my heart, mind, and body. After watching Dr. James Dobson interviewing Ted Bundy, the serial rapist/murderer Ted Bundy was asked a question.
“Was porn the cause behind the rapes?” Nonchalantly, Ted answered…..“Porn wasn’t the cause. Porn was the fuel.”
Pastor Roger Jamison, pastor of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY, for a season, was my accountability partner (words can’t express the gratitude for this man of God) and he said to me that you do not need to watch porn because you have porn all in your head.
So porn wasn’t the cause, it was the fuel to the fire raging in my heart. When your flesh and mind crave to have sex, you can come up with a thousand images. However, when you want the full effect of the fantasy, a man or woman will go to porn. Another thing that Dr. Struthers said was that “porn hijacks the brain.”
In other words, you give yourself over to watching porn and give porn permission to access the chemicals in your body. I’ll get to more on that later but when a man watches porn, or even a woman, you are pretending to have sex with that image and you begin to touch yourself sexually. The lust or the desire to have illegally that person becomes strong. So strong that you are operating on the level of lust possession.
We must remember that demons are operating among humans all the time. While that person is on the TV screen, in the realm of the spirit there is interaction with demon power. You are literally giving yourself over to the spirit of lust. Demons seek expression through humans and the commission of sin is the way they manifest themselves.
Q: You mentioned that porn gives permission to access the chemicals in your body? Please explain?
A: Yes, your body has chemicals that must be accessed to enjoy the full effects of sex. In my studies on Healthy Sexuality and Sexual Addiction from Liberty University, by the way, these courses are not college courses for a degree, but they are nonetheless great material to understand what and why you do what you do. There are four chemicals in men that is excreted into the blood stream.
The first three chemicals produce the erection, energy, and excitement. Men are sight oriented. So when a beautiful woman shows up, the first three chemicals are accessed. The last chemical is dopamine commonly called the reward drug. After orgasm (point of no return), this drug is the pleasure drug.
So when it comes to masturbation, you are accessing these chemicals. It’s highly addictive. And that’s why when it comes to porn, porn is the fuel. Once you start to engage yourself sexually, it is very difficult to shut down. The mind and body gets very frustrated if orgasm isn’t achieved because the body is after the chemicals.
Q: You have given us so much information to glean from. So tell me. With all of these things operating in you, it seemed impossible for you to break free? How does a man break this?
A: Jesus said “With God, all things are possible.” There was a time where I consigned myself to never be free. In other words, hopelessness had set in. There was a series of lies running in my head. One of the things that the devil did was to ensure that I would never have the Word dwell in me richly in all wisdom. That’s Colossians 3:16.
Even though I was a professed believer, I wasn’t a delivered believer. For if I were truly a believer, and I thought I was, His Word would be kept in my heart. Hypocrisy is more about having a form of godliness that denies the power of God. So hopelessness set in. But thank God for a praying wife. Do not get me wrong. God’s power can deliver but it also takes a praying person. Whether it is your wife, mother, family, friends. God needs a vessel to pray for an answer to manifest. In fact, every answer from God is waiting for someone to pray for an answer.
Hopelessness is loneliness. The devil isolates you and keeps your mind from escaping into the Word of God. To break the power of porn and masturbation, you need someone that is willing to pray to God. If the price of freedom is to be paid, it is paid on our knees to God.
2 Corinthians 3:18 says, “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.”
In that apartment we were in, the presence of the Lord was there. You do not have to feel that He’s there to know that He’s there. No man can break the power of demons in porn and masturbation by himself. In fact, this is the top area of strongholds among humans. Sexual immorality is the Goliath of our times. So we need the power of the Holy Spirit.
In that story with David and Goliath, we must understand that David did not win that battle alone.
That story is not possible without God’s power. When it comes to sexual immorality, we see that David had issues too. He was able to slay the Goliath on the outside, but David couldn’t slay the Goliath in his heart, mind, and flesh. A man can have access to the wonderful presence of God but until the Spirit of God has everything about us, those Psalms written by David really doesn’t mean anything.
It’s a tough thing to say about David because all of us have intentions on serving God but we really serve God in Secret Places. It is there that our true nature and character is revealed before the Father. It is there that the Secret resources of our hearts are laid bare before God. In front of millions, we can look strong, but when we are by ourselves, are we the same?
God knew that David would fall but He was waiting on David to make a decision.
Decisions Determines Destiny. If David had decided to go to battle with the kings, Uriah would have been alive.
Our prayers in public are only as good as our prayers in secret.
With the help of God, the prayers of others, and a willing and obedient heart, any man or woman can break free. In fact, the prison door was opened when Jesus died on the cross. There’s only one decision left after the question is asked of you.
Do you want to be made free?
Ephesians 5:18 says, “And do not be drunk with wine [porn], in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit…”
Several years ago, I was just starting my journey to the depths of sexual depravity. When computers came out, the Internet became the highway to information. But it also became the most powerful way to engage in sexual depravity under these conditions.
When it comes to Secret Sexual Sins, you do not want people to know what you are doing.
Especially your wife.
You do not want to be denied, so easy access is to your benefit.
You do not want to spend more than you could afford, BUT you will spend what you have and neglect any bills that have priority.
While on the job, on my personal laptop, I accessed sites anonymously, or so I thought.
I never used the company computer because it was against company policy for which you could be fired.
Why can’t we apply that policy from God on our personal TV’s and computers?
Just a thought.
But we all know that your identity is already known because every computer has a code that easily identifies you. So anonymity is out the window when you get on the Internet. For instance, when you visit certain sites and never make a purchase, today, when you surf the Internet, that site that you were on comes up without your help.
It’s so advanced that your iPhone knows what time of the day you go home and tells you, without you asking, how much time it would take to get home.
So forget about anonymity.
In fact, because I blog regularly about sexual immorality, salacious sites, texts, and emails are sent to lure me back into the dark world of pornography. At one time, because I talked so much about homosexuality, a site meant for another person was sent. It was a cruise ship proposal where homosexuals from all over the United States book a cruise to engage in lewd conduct.
Getting back to computers. While I was surfing the net for porn, site after site came up. It ganged up on me and overloaded my computer. Several times it froze to where I had to do a reset to get the laptop to work. When I went back on the site, it acted up again because it was big business. If they gained access to your credit card or debit card, the charges would clear out your account.
I had enough presence of mind not to give them access to my cards because it would be a money trail that destroys any sense of control.
The lure would be that they would show you enough free porn and if you want more, you had to use your card.
Also, a sudden fear came upon me that, if by accident, I clicked a site for child porn, it’s an instant invitation to the FBI. The last thing that I needed was for the FBI to come to my job and arrest me for child porn. It doesn’t matter if you click with intent or by accident. You will be arrested. So that’s when viewing porn on my laptop was a thing of the past.
Internet pornography is a trap for men that are not under control.
That’s why if you do not regain sexual self control, you will not stop.
Dr. Mark Laaser told a story in his book about a pastor doing armed robbery to pay for his porn and prostitution addiction.
If you do not control your sexual appetite, you will do things that will not make sense.
1 Corinthians 6:12-13 says “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”
When it comes to sexual immorality, you will not be under control.
You might think that you are controlling the circumstances but you are deceiving yourself.
There was a story in Dr. Patrick Carnes book about a man that went on the Internet to chat with an underaged girl. He contacted a friend on the Internet and they were chatting with the same “girl.” His friend decided to take things to the next step and made arrangements at a restaurant to meet with this girl. So this person that broke off the relationship decided to spy them out. As his friend got out of the car to meet this “girl,” police cars surrounded him and his friend was arrested for soliciting a minor for sex.
The MSNBC show “To Catch A Predator” with Chris Hansen, aired between 2004 and 2007, was an incredible show where men would solicit minors for sex. They would chat on line to set up the meet. Some predators would drive or ride their motorcycles for hours just to have sex with minors. As lawyers, doctors, mechanics, priests, and pastors from all walks of life, would come into a house, Chris Hansen would meet with them as the minor walked out.
As soon as they arrive at the house, hidden cameras were on and recording everything. A transcript would be made and Chris Hansen would read the predator’s real intent as the cameras would come out. These predators try to deny that they were after under aged girls and under aged homosexuals. After the conversation, the police would be waiting for them outside.
Pastor Roger Jamison of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY once told me that one person put it like this. Sexual “sin will take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, cost you more than what you are willing to pay.”
Sadly, many men will not listen. Even sinners with a dark heart towards God have a conscience. They hear that they should not do what they intend to do but they suppress it for the pleasure.
“The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the PRIDE OF LIFE.”
The pleasure causes a man to throw away wise counsel.
On that show, “To Catch A Predator,” a couple of men said that they heard something on the inside of them telling them not to go. A few persons told Chris Hansen that they watched the show before. Another predator was a repeat offender. Caught twice on the same show. This dude had already appeared before a judge for the same crime………………the week before showing up at this house.
There are many wives that are suspecting that something is going on.
That inward intuition is usually right. In most cases, she already knows. It’s just that she is processing the information because any act of betrayal is too hurtful for most women to confront. It’s when the full disclosure after discovery occurs that she is able to start the process of confrontation.
Most selfish men will apply blame on the wife and try to act more hurt than the wife.
Granted, both are in pain. The discovery was painful for the man because he was exposed and the betrayal was painful for the wife because she thought that her husband wasn’t keeping secrets.
How does a man bring himself under control?
Nothing will be right until he settles the debt with God.
No man can win the battle of sexual immorality without other eyes watching your life.
3. Catching Your Moments.
If you are not willing to submit to God every moment of your life, all it takes is one look, and you are back to square one.
4. Guard What You Are Feeding On.
“Neither give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4:27
“Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23
If you are not willing to guard your heart and close the door, the thief will come with his best to bring you back into bondage.
5. Fill Your Heart With Good Things.
“Who satisfies your mouth with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.” Psalm 103:5
You must be willing to do what it takes to replace what you were feeding on to be filled with God and His Word.
Freedom is not free. Neither is self control. You have to pay a price for freedom. You have to fight until Jesus comes or until you breathe your last breath.
You might be saying that you are not a predator.
That’s debatable because if you haven’t stopped, you may be a predator to yourself.
Every line you say you wouldn’t cross is a line you intend to cross. It’s just a matter of time.
As time progresses, the devil hasn’t brought out his best for you just yet. There’s always that one hot looking male or female that he has in reserves just in case you stay longer than you supposed to. And when you break free, the devil has a long list of his best that he will bring to tempt you. He knows that you are not in control.
But you can out smart the devil by living as a dead man.
Romans 6:11-14 says,
“Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
Yes, it takes time to get to this stage but the more you yield to God, the fruit of the Spirit called “self control” will govern you as you obey the Hoy Spirit and the Word of God according to 1 Corinthians 10:13.