Battling Sexual Thoughts: The Real Spiritual Warfare, Part 2

“What are you doing with your moments, son?”

What you do with the time you spend determines what you are bound to or free from. The Lord asked me this question when I first came out of Secret Sexual Sins because my flesh demanded to know “what are we going to do now that you have stopped?

We are going to serve God in righteousness and true holiness.

November of 2008 was the last time that I watched porn and masturbated to porn but masturbation remained in me until December 3, 2009 with a few relapses afterwards.

Without going through a complete story (because I want to share with you what finally worked to kill and deprive porn and masturbation), masturbation, for me, was the most difficult habit to break because over the years, you develop a oneness or connectedness to a sinful habit.

Here’s the reasons.

1. Lusts of the flesh and mind.

James 1:14-15 says….

“But each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is full grown, brings forth death.”

1 John 2:15-17 says….

“Do not love the world or the things in the world, If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world- the lusts of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life- is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he that does the will of God abides forever.”

All things has a source. Sin always has a source. From within us abides the nature of the devil, if we are not born again.

If we are born again, we haven’t learned to deaden and deprive sin’s power by strict obedience to the Word of God. No other worldly psychological or physiological explanation is plausible, excusable, or is to take the ascendancy over the Word of God regarding God’s perfect explanation as to why man commits sin.

Sinning is a choice of the human will. At anytime you can stop.

If you are driving a car and you see a red light or a stop sign, you stop. Right?

When you are crossing the street and you see a car coming, you stop. Right? 

When you are full of food, you stop eating. Right?

You’ve just proved that you can stop.

It’s the same with sin.

You can stop.

God condemned sin in the flesh of Jesus according to Romans 8:3 to spiritually deprive its power to overcome man. Through the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ, when we obey the Word of God, we deprive sin’s ability to overcome us (see 1 Corinthians 10:13). So now, it’s a matter of obedience to the Word of God for those that are in Christ.

For the unsaved, it’s a matter of obedience to the gospel of Jesus Christ to repent and turn from sin, and be born again through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Therefore, according to 2 Corinthians 5:17, I am a “new creature in Christ.”

New creatures do not do old tricks.

2. Chemical Dependency

I was operating as my own personal pharmaceutical, looking to heal myself of soulish wounds inflicted by many people over the course of time. Self sex was a form of medicinal properties, that when I needed to love me or feel that I am loved, to excite me, to release sexual tension, I physically and soulishly “shot up.”

Pun intended.

Self sex became my way of being my own physician instead of relying totally upon God and His Word. It also became a way to express self love to me when I falsely believed that no one loved me. And in some ways or not, I thought that God didn’t even care, but deep down I knew that He did. I just didn’t trust Him to do what He said He would do for ME in His Word.

Sometimes you get so wounded that lies become truth and we know that all lies from the devil will never have an ounce of truth in them.

There are four chemicals that are connected to sex in men (of course there are others but we will stick to these basic chemicals).

Adrenaline, testosterone, vasopressin, dopamine.

Adrenaline and testosterone revs up the physical engines, vasopressin maintains blood flow to the penis to maintain an erection, and the final chemical, “dopamine,” is the pleasure or reward chemical. I was told by an EMT that vasopressin could make a rock get hard. It’s used to jumpstart the heart with heart attack patients. When climax by ejaculation takes places (coming), also known as the “point of no return,” dopamine is excreted into the blood stream and rapidly gives the brain what I call the “Ooooo’s and Ahhhhhh’s” of sex. The pleasure of pleasures.

3. Trigger Mechanisms

The episodes of life, when they happen, can trigger a man to retreat to places of isolation, separation, seclusion, independence, disconnections, and secrecy.

Proverbs 18:1 NKJ says…

“A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgment.”

Anger, bitterness, rejections, frustrations, disappointments, disillusionments, soul pain, mental anguish, monetary troubles, employment troubles, bad relationships, strained relationships, and the list goes on and on.

I’ve identified some of these in my own life and found that when these things happen, I want to feel good…quickly. So self sex became the way to deal with these trigger mechanisms.”

When the Word of God is not permitted to manage our emotions, the enemy knows how to use these mechanisms to get us to mismanage our soul and bodies.

So with these things in mind, the Lord pinpointed somethings that I was doing that kept the door to self sex open. The question that you read at the beginning of this blog is critical to any man’s deliverance.

If you are not paying attention to your life on a moment by moment basis, you are not going to be successful.

Remember what Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs or flows the issues of life.”

Sex was constantly on my mind. And the objectification of the opposite sex was my infatuation and obsession. But in reality, all of this were temple ornaments or trinkets. 

I was really worshipping my ability to get off.

I was worshipping the temple.

In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Paul said this….

“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have of God, and you are not your own?

When a man is not worshipping God, he will worship himself and self sex was my way of worshipping me. It’s crazy and it even doesn’t make sense, but look at what Paul said in 2 Timothy 3:2-3, partial quotes….

“For men will be lovers of themselves…without self control…lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God…”

Here’s another witness in terms of a different group of people Paul was ministering to.

Romans 1:22-23 from the New Living Translation, Paul says….

“Claiming to be wise, they became utter fools instead. And instead of worshipping the glorious, ever living God, they worshipped idols made to look like mere people, or birds, and animals, and snakes.”

The most detestable idol ever made was the Asherah.

According to 2 Chronicles 15:16, Asa made reforms and removed his own mother from being queen mother because “she had made an obscene image…”

Nothing is left to the imagination here.

According to Adam Clarke’s Commentary, we find these words based on the various translations and ancient commentaries. Please note the Rabbinical commentary of Solomon Jarchi.


“Besides, he removed Maacha, his mother from her kingdom, because she had made a high tree into an idol.” ARABIC

“Also he removed Maacha, his mother, from the kingdom, because she had made a horrible statue; and our rabbis say that it was called miphletseth (a fright or terror), because maphli leytsanutha, it produced wonderful ridicule; for she made it ad instal membri virilis, and she used it daily.” AUTHOR- RABBI SOLOMON JARCHI

Another definition from another source implies that it was licentious in nature. Licentious meaning, “lacking moral discipline; especially sexually unrestrained.”

The idol in question was part of sexual rituals because many commentaries insinuate or give to understand the fact that this idol was worshipped with “impure rites.”

In another commentary, many Asherah poles were “phallic” symbols.

Phallic, meaning erect penis.

Meaning that gross sexual immorality took place in the high places of the land of Canaan. The very people that Israel was supposed to completely annihilate so that their detestable sinful habits would not contaminate the children of Israel.

And you wonder where sex toys came from?

Remember, the Canaanites were descendants of Ham. Black folk. It doesn’t mean that sexual immorality started with Black folk because you have to go back to Genesis chapter six to understand that perverseness was found in every man until the floods of Noah.

If the stretch of the imagination is to be reached, she carved a tree into a terribly obscene sex toy. Should I be wrong, and I hope I am, then, this was a waste of brain power. But if this is true, just imagine the disgusted visage of God.

There is nothing more impure or obscene than sexual immorality. Nothing.

Men are stimulated by sight and is aroused to touch what he observes. Mind sex, also called lust and adultery, is just teasing the brain, and when there is no control, “provision” is made to release sexual tension.

And when a man is touched sexually, arousal takes place. With porn, it’s all fantasy. You are pretending to have sex with an image that is not there. But you begin to touch yourself sexually to make up the for the lack of another person touching you.

As a side note, married men masturbate more than singles. Most married men thought that since they are married, they could have all the sex they want and never have the need to masturbate.

Not true.

Married men want more sex. And when the wife is not at home,or she is not willing to give her hubby man some sex, or they had a fight or argument, or something bad happened to him on the job, or any where. Or when he feels he’s done a good job and wants to reward himself, he turns to the physical pleasures of all pleasures.


When he desires sex, he will do everything in his power to get it. And he may have a very pleasurable, rewarding sex life with his wife but does some extracurricular sex via masturbation to keep himself “happy.”

And he may even develop excuses like…

1. My wife is tired, mad, angry, away with mother in law, sick.

2. Masturbation keeps me from committing adultery (Matthew 5:27-30).

Sex was designed by the Lord to fulfill the “one flesh” principle in Genesis 2:24. Masturbation violates that principle because sex was designed to be shared with your wife of the genuine opposite sex (transgender is another subject).

This is sexual addiction level one.

Remember, you are only addicted when you cannot control, stop, or manage sex. Even if you can control and manage self sex, or when and how many times you masturbate, if you cannot stop, you are bound.

Jesus said, “He whom the Son sets free is free indeed.”

To be free from something means you have no desire or intent to return to the place of bondage. Paul said, “For he who has died has been freed from sin.”

Have you ever seen a prisoner, in the natural, complete his time of incarceration and return through the door he came out of? We know that after a while, he or she commits another crime and returns to serve time for the new crime, but we are talking about a person that committed a crime, did the time, walks out of the prison, and returns in a few seconds.

The same principle applies.

If you are free, you have no desire to return to the prison cell.

So the Lord asked me a question…

“What are you doing with your moments, son?”

The porn was very easy to stop but it is not easy to stop porn in the mind. After viewing thousands and thousands of sexual episodes, it makes it difficult to press the stop button.

Remember 1 Thessalonians 5:23?

Spirit, Soul, Body?

Two out of three is eternal.

The spirit and the soul of man.

Because of Adam’s transgression, the body is subject to die physically. But remember, Adam died spiritually first (see Romans 5:12). He was disconnected from God and his mind became a storage facility of perversion.

The Slice Must Be Fatal; Murdering Your Goliath

The spiritual murder of your Goliath must take place. Show no mercy to your enemy.

Some of us may remember the battle in the valley of Elah between the Philistines and the nation of Israel.

Just a little background.

Many do not know that the Philistines were descendants of Ham. That’s right. They were of African descent. Nonetheless, A champion came forward to challenge the children of Israel. No one in Israel was willing to face the greatest threat to Israel’s security.

Without getting into the details of the story, we see that David had the Word of the Lord for the time that he was alive and because he had practice with slaying a bear and lion, David was poised to kill Goliath.

Today, many saints are struggling with something within their minds and flesh that is more formidable than Goliath. Many saints look at this story and are willing to slay the Goliath of finances. Slaying the Goliath of sexual immorality is another thought.

Sexual Immorality is the most formidable enemy of the child of God for both men and women that profess the name of Jesus.

Some of you may recall when David didn’t go to battle and ended up committing adultery with Bathsheba and Bathsheba got pregnant with the help of David. To cover his sin, he called his most trusted and loyal leader from the battle to get him to resume sexual relations with his wife so that the child would appear to have come from Uriah, the Hittite.

And yes, the Hittites were of Hamitic descent too, meaning that Uriah was a black man.

David had lust in his heart when he saw Bathsheba taking a bath. And when lust was conceived in his heart, he needed to “act out” his lust. Afterwards, it became apparent that Uriah was too loyal to David and never went into his house to have sex with his wife. David instructed that Uriah be placed in the hottest part of the fight to be killed.

And so it was.

David is now and adulterer and a murderer.

The death of a champion.

You see, within every man that has never slain a giant, and David emerged as the greatest warrior ever to emerge, there is always another giant within.

With every great man, there is a battle that rages that if it isn’t identified and destroyed, it will not be long before the giant within will rise to slay them. That’s why pride and arrogance must never have a stronghold in the man of God. Not just in preachers but in all who call upon the name of the Lord.

Proverbs 8:13 says,

“The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.”

These two things, pride and arrogance has slain the mighty.

The four “E’s” of pride and arrogance are….

Elitism, Entitlement, Empowerment, and Expediency.

When you believe that you are the top dog, the best, you feel entitled. When you believe that you are entitled to anything, you feel empowered to get. When you are empowered, you will be expedient in your behavior. You will not regard the moral conviction demanded of leaders and believers in the Lord.

You will even entertain immoral ways to obtain the satisfaction of lust in the heart. The desire to obtain that which is prohibited overwhelms common sense and any law because once you have conquered something legitimately, the aura of invincibility sets in, blinds the mind, and a depraved indifference or an intentional or willful disregard, or neglect of care for a person and law sets in.

You have made yourself above the law. In the case of lust in the heart of a man or woman, you have established yourself above the law of God and moral conduct is suspended for the fulfillment of pleasure.

It was only until the prophet cornered David that he came to his senses. But too little too late.

But it doesn’t have to end there with you.

Like me, it took me a long while to look at my Goliath in the eye.

Like Saul, dismayed and terrified, I stayed on my side of the valley.

There comes a point where the fear of decapitating the Goliath in my flesh must be subdued by faith.

It was time to go to war with me and kill my Goliath within me.

Facing my Goliath within me was better than facing God.

It takes courage and faith within you to stand against you.

The you in you that defied God. The rebellious, defiant you that dared to look at God and walk by Him as you bring sin into His holy house.

It takes faith to work with God Who is able to do in me what needs to be done. Faith that God would be everything that I need from the point of Goliath’s death to my home going.

It’s time to stop living in misery and fear. It is time to face the urges and impulses of the flesh and mind. It is time to go down into the valley and meet my Goliath alive for the last time.

Only this time, the slice must be fatal.

To be satisfied with only a stone in his head is only cheating true victory.

The death of your tormentor is only fulfilled when the head is severed from its body.

From a distance, you threw your stone and it hit the mark.

It’s now time to get close to your enemy. Real close. Not to look at it but to do what must be done. As a heartless, careless murderer, you slay you and the members of sexual immorality connected.

Sexual immorality, Porn, Masturbation, Prostitutes, Adultery, Fornication, Homosexuality, Bisexuality, Bestiality, Catamites, Sodomy. Sight Adultery. Mental Adultery.

Without hesitation and before the giant has a chance to grab you, you pull his sword and with one blow, the head comes off.

The slice is clean and the blood of your enemy pours itself out like a living fountain until the pressure subsides to a trickle. You watch his eyes lose it’s vision. The pupil becoming small and dilated. The hands trembling no more. The lungs breathed its last.

The Goliath within you dies.

It’s called the Crucified life. Where it all comes together that you are dead to sin but alive unto God.

Each moment is to be cherished that the struggle didn’t overcome you. That is, your urges and impulses, and the common “muscle memory” to make provision for sin didn’t get the best of you.

You’ve finally put it all together.


You listened to the Word that was delivered you. You obeyed the prompting of the Holy Spirit. You kept your armor on and you put on Christ. You stepped into the arena of faith, fearless. You’ve slain your enemy and separated his head from his body without a second thought.

You’ve finally learned to lay aside the weight and the sin (Goliath) that easily beset you. Goliath, a cold blooded killer met it’s match. No longer able to spew venom. This serial killer met vigilante justice.

You may have slain Goliath in private, it’s now time to testify about it openly. Many will learn how you overcame a fierce opponent and cheated death.

The “how to’s” of warfare also know as an after action report is vital and of tremendous value for those yet to assume the field of battle.

For now, God is pleased and glorified, the angels cheer, and the heavenly coliseum of saints, led by Jesus, Who led the intercession for you, couldn’t be prouder.

The devil and his angels are planning but no weapon formed against you shall prosper. It doesn’t mean the fight is over, it means watch and pray that you fall not into temptation.

The struggle cannot be handled any other way.

No hesitation.

You fell to your knees to ask God for strength. You called a fellow warrior to help you engage your enemy. You received sufficient grace to be made perfect in weakness. In patience, you possessed your soul. The submission to God started an earth tremor as the devil flees from you seven ways to get out of the way of the sword.

But to his failure, the slice was fatal.

As you put distance from your last struggle, you are waxing strong. Only take heed lest you fall and stay close and stay clean, in Jesus’ name.

Yes. you can achieve the same measure of victory many of us received by the grace of God.

Tonight, slay your giant.

Tonight is the funeral of a giant that tormented you. In the valley, they will not have time to lament their loss for their necks shall be sliced too.

Slay them all and let none escape!

Bring your Goliath to the valley to let the vultures feed on its flesh. May nothing be left to the bone. May the bones be brought to naught.

Tonight, My Goliath dies.

Have no mercy on your enemy.


The slice must be clean.

The slice must be fatal!

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