Pastors & Porn. Why Am I Addicted?

It’s the secret sin that most male pastors are ashamed of, but it’s done because no one knows. Or so you thought.

Sexual immorality, especially with porn, is without question the stronghold of strongholds.

What’s the driving factor?

Lust in the heart. The desire to look at someone with lust.

The Lord Jesus revealed why men commit adultery.

Matthew 5:27-28 (NKJV) “You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

The word “lust” from Strong’s Dictionary of Biblical Words mean…..g1937. ἐπιθυμέω epithymeō; from 1909 and 2372; to set the heart upon, i.e. long for (rightfully or otherwise): — covet, desire, would fain, lust (after).

To set the heart upon, to long for.

It takes less than a second for a man or woman to set their eyes on someone that they see.

The sexual attraction is so strong that if we’re not careful, looking to admire quickly deepens into look with the intent to lust, to set your heart upon the object.

To long to have him or her sexually.

2 Samuel 11:1-5 (NKJV) “It happened in the spring of the year, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the people of Ammon and besieged Rabbah.

But David remained at Jerusalem.

Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king’s house.

And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold.

So David sent and inquired about the woman.

And someone said, “Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?”

Then David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her, for she was cleansed from her impurity; and she returned to her house.

And the woman conceived; so she sent and told David, and said, “I am with child.”

So what really happened?

James 1:14-15 (NKJV) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.

Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

David did one thing. He stayed in Jerusalem. There’s a convincing reason that David stayed in Jerusalem.

Is it possible that David saw her and wanted to see her again? Only this time, to fulfill his lusts?

Is it possible that he knew that Bathsheba would be there? Is it possible that his timing was so perfect, that he knew? He had a bird’s eye view of where she would be.

Now Uriah was doing battle. How convenient.

At this point, David had five wives.

Proverbs 27:20 (NKJV) “Hell and Destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.”

David had lust in his heart. He set his heart upon the body of Bathsheba. He longed for the body of Bathsheba. He coveted Bathsheba’s body.

Long story short, David did exactly what the Lord Jesus said not to do.

“…But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

David committed adultery with her in his heart and set his possible preconceived plan in motion. Lust in his heart overwhelmed him. He slew Goliath, but lust in David’s heart was stronger than Goliath.

Here’s the reason.

According to Dr. Struthers, porn hijacks the brain.

Looking at women to lust after them hijacks the brain. When the man allows himself to be completely obsessed with lust, it’s for the purpose of self gratification.

The sexual “juices flow” where you must fulfill that lust in orgasmic pleasure. Where there is no fulfillment in orgasm, the lust is unfulfilled.

Within the confines of marriage, there’s no lust. Within the confines of marriage, orgasmic pleasure was designed by God, and commanded to be done in marriage.

Sex in marriage between one biological male one biological female is perfectly legal.

It’s when you have shifted your eyes in lust that sin is committed.

The conscience is pricked, but a man and woman knows how to suppress the conviction of sin.

Lust took David to a place where it cost him more that he’s willing to pay. Took him further than he’s willing to go.

Three sins were committed.

  1. Lust.
  2. Murder.

Exodus 20:13-14 (NKJV) “You shall not murder. “You shall not commit adultery.

3. You shall not covet.

Exodus 20:17 (NKJV) “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”

Then the news.

Bathsheba was pregnant with David’s child. David thought about Uriah. If he could get Uriah to have sex with his wife, then all is covered. But Uriah was so loyal to David that he refused to even go home.

That didn’t work out so well for David.

Then David put Uriah on the frontline of the hottest battle where he knew Uriah couldn’t stay alive. The servant broke the news that Uriah died in battle. David thought he would be home free. He took Bathsheba in and all is covered.

Deep down, you kinda knew that God saw this before the world began.

It took Nathan the prophet to uncover the plot.

Psalm 51 is the “Adulterer’s Psalm.”

The addiction comes out of lust.

2 Samuel 12:9 (NKJV) “Why have you despised the commandment of the LORD, to do evil in His sight?”

To sin against God is to despise the commandment of the Lord.

To despise means to de-esteem, to ignore, regard with contempt.

A man after God’s own heart, ignored the commandment of the Lord in his heart.

David paid for his sin.

2 Samuel 12:11-15 (NKJV) “Thus says the LORD: ‘Behold, I will raise up adversity against you from your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.

For you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel, before the sun.'”

So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.”

And Nathan said to David, “The LORD also has put away your sin; you shall not die. However, because by this deed you have given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme, the child also who is born to you shall surely die.” Then Nathan departed to his house.

Did it take all that for David to recognized that he had sinned against the Lord?

Yes. The self delusion was that deep.

Pastor. If you don’t catch yourself, it’s just a matter of time.

As a deflective argument, people will accuse God of killing a child because David was the one that sinned against God. Why take it out on the child?

God is God. He does as it pleases Him.

But look at what happened.

The enemies heard that God was with David and David blew his testimony.

The enemies can now say that David and Israel isn’t as righteous as they claim to be.

Doesn’t this sound like today when a pastor commits adultery? The world brings a serious accusation against God and His people. Everyone is blamed. And then when we try to share the gospel to them, they reject it because we’ve disdained the very commandment that we claim to live by.

Plus, the child would have been viewed as an endorsement for such behavior.

Was Bathsheba raped? Did she resist? Did she fight off David and his men? Did she cry in the streets that what David had done was wrong? Because David is the king, could it be that she willingly submitted to the king to avoid making a scene? Or because she may not have known the law that both the male and female committing adultery are to be put to death?

Leviticus 20:10 (NKJV) “The man who commits adultery with another man’s wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death.”

It would be understandable if some of the women that had sexual immorality with these men also be exposed. Sadly, women are taken against their will. Deceived by men claiming to be of God. Then there’s women that will use it to their advantage and sue the sinning pastors for child support.

The Word is clear that pornography is lust. So why are you addicted?

Uncontrolled lust in the heart. Lust must be crucified and it was crucified on the cross when God laid on Him the iniquity of us all. Then we have to choose to crucify the lust in our heart. Paul said…….

Colossians 3:5-7 (NKJV) “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them.”

Romans 6:12-14 (NKJV) “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”

Stop allowing porn to run your life. Do not let lust in your heart have dominion over you, for you are not under the law but under grace.

Having Lustful Eyes For Your Pastor

Usually, it’s the other way around when a pastor has “eyes” for a female member or visitor.

But it’s just as prevalent when female members or visitors try to make contact for sexual “connection” in the house of worship.

It’s an issue that’s usually not addressed often because what’s more spoken of is the after action of adultery or fornication. In other words, the attention is fully placed on the male pastor, and not the female whom he was immorally involved with.

While women generally don’t look at immoral sexual encounters with male pastors as part of pursuing a conquest, yet, in the world of prostitution and porn, it’s a known fact that some immoral women look at it as having power over a man.

In other words, she deliberately intended to use the power of her femininity to seduce a male, overpowering him with her looks, and with sexual teasing attire, lure a male into the bedroom.

Proverbs 7:25-27 (NKJV Strong’s) “Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways,
Do not stray into her paths;
For she has cast down many wounded,
And all who were slain by her were strong men.
Her house is the way to hell,
Descending to the chambers of death.

If they could get a male to look, she’s got him hooked.

Hence, the term “hooker.”

Proverbs 6:23-26 (NKJV Strong’s) “For the commandment is a lamp,
And the law a light;
Reproofs of instruction are the way of life,
To keep you from the evil woman,
From the flattering tongue of a seductress.
Do not lust after her beauty in your heart,
Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.
For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.”

Before going any further, NOT EVERY female attending services are doing this. There’s just a very select few that live in the fantasy world of romance. But there is a clear difference between lust and romance. Each week, these select few immoral females take things to the next level to accomplish the goal of sexually connecting with a pastor.

Sometimes, the unsuspecting male pastor doesn’t even know that they’re being targeted for sexual conquest connections. But sadly, some do know they’re being targeted and oblige.

Sometimes it begins with an innocent conversation. A handshake. A warm smile. While he’s preaching, you noticeably pay attention. An “amen,” calling out his name. Sometimes being a bit talkative or asking questions in Bible Study as if you’re using this means of communications as another way of drawing his attention.

Some of these things seems innocent but if it goes further than this, it may be cause for alarm.

It goes without saying.

It’s always a set up to the next level.

Again, to those that are sensitive and assume that it’s an attack on all women, be advised, it’s not.

Just the select few that seek sexual conquest.

No matter how much prayer a male pastor does, and no matter how powerful they may be in the pulpit, women are attracted to powerful men.

The goal of the male pastor is to have the heart of Joseph.

The Lord entrusted you with a lot. Why give it up for one moment of immorality?

Genesis 39:6-12 (NKJV Strong’s)

Thus he (Potiphar) left all that he had in Joseph’s hand, and he did not know what he (Joseph) had except for the bread which he ate. Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance.

And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, “Lie with me.”

But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand. There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”

So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.

But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.”

Potiphar’s wife had lusting eyes for Joseph, to the point that she cornered Joseph, and attempted to grab him. Joseph had no choice but to jump out of his outer garment, and run for his life.

Clearly, this isn’t the last incident, as many immoral women were successful in achieving their conquest.

Male pastors give in to the seductive immoral woman without a fight.

It’s due to the lusts that’s in his heart as well. You can’t blame the bait for your mouth found on the hook. The bait is deceptive for a reason.

James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

There’s no question that Potiphar’s wife pulled out all the seductive stops to get Joseph to cast down his integrity. Having been in prison, he didn’t want to return, much more, be executed for romp time with another man’s wife.

Married pastors are on the playing field too. Many pastors that harbor lust in their hearts are prime for the picking. Especially when the married pastor is experiencing marital issues where normal sexuality isn’t happening at home.

Such issues are so strong that a seductive women could pretty much perceive that there may be an issue, and like clock work, take steps to advance like pieces on a chess board.

So how could this be avoided when they come in, deliberately dressed provocatively to attract your attention?

Sadly, it may not be avoided but for the male pastor, he need to pay attention, because it won’t be long before we read about another incident.

Giving In To Lust Is Easier Than To Flee

Many pastors and leaders face the fight of lust in the heart.

Paul tells us to “Flee also youthful lust.”

2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV Strong’s) “Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

See, it’s not enough just flee lust, but you must pursue “righteousness, faith (moral conviction or fidelity), love, peace……

Most young pastors more than likely are struggling in their marriages because of lust in the heart. More than likely, a “flame” came into the congregation, and he set his sights on her.

It happens all the time.

On the other hand, that “flame” came in to passively hunt for the pastor.

The combination of the two takes place.

One is hunting for the other and eventually, adultery is committed.

Usually, the male pastor is sexually dissatisfied with his wife and looks to spice things up with another woman.

Or the events in the marriage came to a tipping point where the male pastor had enough. Events in a marriage does have an affect.

As I was sharing with a couple, you should never allow events in a marriage divide the relationship. Usually the disconnect is intentional and it’s just a matter of time before adultery is committed.

As I read this article from CP (Christian Post), I began to see that this young pastor struggled with personal obedience to his Lord and Savior. Obedience to the Scriptures.

The Lord Jesus told us that “If any man desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”

Lenard Ravenhill once said, that we “…came to His cross. Now get on yours.”

We must understand that lust must be kept crucified.

He shared that he couldn’t continue. Most stories like these end with the young pastor apologizing for not keeping the Scriptures he taught. For “faking it until he made it.” For living a hypocritical life. Then they depart, leaving a trail behind for the Lord to clean up.

Most people in these congregations that suffer in their marriages make for the exit. They were looking to their leader to hold fast to the Scriptures and then he makes an exit from his Lord.

Folks, the devil is not just after destroying marriages. He’s looking to make sure you spend eternity in hell with him.

We don’t seem to believe this anymore because we’re so detached from the fact that one day, we’ll stand either before the Judgment Seat of Christ as believers or stand before the Great White Throne Judgment before the Judge of all the earth as sinners.

The moment of self satisfaction in porn, masturbation, adultery, fornication, or homosexuality blinds us from the eternal consequences.

We ignore the dangers of judgment.

For this young pastor, it seems that he used means and traditional methods to address a situation in his marriage that many men and women experience.

Usually when we use counseling, books, and other tools to help us deal with a situation within our marriage, we seldom see their prayer lives, their obedience to the Scriptures, their love for Jesus excelling over their lust, problems, and marriage situations.

They no longer fight for their relationship with the Lord and their wives but easily give in to lust.

The god in their lives commands that they walk away and not fight, and these young male pastors obey. Some obey quickly.

Years ago, I shared that many will fall. And it won’t be the last.

Fighting lust is very tough.

And all it takes for man to fulfill his lust is when a flaming hot young lady walks in the door of the congregation. Or he searches for a flaming hot young lady, willing to sexually satisfy his flesh.

One moment of pleasure isn’t worth an eternity in hell.

Behind every hot flame is a pack of demons of lust.

To destroy or frustrate the plans of a flaming hot sexually immoral woman is to avoid them at all costs. The moment you intend to create an opportunity of contact for connection, is the moment all bets are off.

You avoid them by returning to the Lord in prayer and fasting, seeking the face of the Lord every moment. By cutting off every angle of attack when they make the move to get close to you.

When they want to “see the pastor,” you send your wife or a trusted elderly saint to run interference. You put people in place to protect the zone.

You never put yourself in a position to be ambushed by their schemes.

You never counsel them alone.

Let them walk away frustrated.

If you’re looking to get into sexual trouble, we pray that the Lord would interfere with your plans to sin against Him. If you look to circumvent His intervention, it will be to your own peril.

It takes a solid prayer and Word life to recognize that the plans of the devil is to destroy you.

This young pastor made a reversible choice.

For now, he chose to depart but he can return in repentance.

But you fight to stay pure and holy before the Lord.

Fight to stay right with the help of the Holy Spirit.

You could read the story here

How To Effectively Seduce A Pastor

 It’s been one of the hottest topics. 

Women attempting to seduce pastors for sex. 

How to seduce a pastor may not be the question. How to take him further in his already seduced mind is the question. 

Saying the right words, sitting in the right place to be seen, wearing the right clothing that is enticing enough for him to look your way, and greeting him after service every Sunday until there is a connection established for more “dialogue.”

Get on a few ministerial teams, get connected and involved so as to set up the next move.

Be versatile, and befriend his wife. If the wife feels safe with you, the hard part is done. 

Be faithful for the wrong reasons. When he’s preaching, connection seeking sexually immoral women finish his sentences out loud as he is preaching, they say “amen” to be heard and noticed, be outspoken, engaging, and involved in his conversations apart from service, and during service. 

Try to get his personal email to continue “dialogue.” Better yet, social media, one on one chat rooms.

There’s always the Jezebel approach and the adultress approach. Or both. 

But what is it really about?

The doors are open for this wickedness when a pastor is lured by seductive sexually immoral women and fails to close the door to porn and masturbation in his private life. 

Leading into 2016, a new operation is setting up to take down pastors. Like clockwork, the next level of sexual immorality with a pastor rises from within the church. All it takes is for a pastor to commit to going to the next level. 

Like one married pastor of a large mega church in Florida who hooked up with an exotic dancer/strip club/porn star for a year and a half, regularly flying to Spain to hook up sexually. 

These rendezvous usually either happen on the Internet, or while “ministering,” after service is over, while they return to their hotel room, they watch porn and masturbate, and then desire what they’ve seen on the screen portrayed in real life. 

Some sexually immoral women in local churches wait for months before they move. Some come right in and go to work. Some pastors see it and apply all the Scriptural disciplines and establish strong spiritual and physical firewalls. 

Other pastors call upon prayer warriors to establish the perimeters. They also call upon elderly church women to approach and interrogate the “new arrivals” to determine their intent. 

Other pastors set the watch infinitim to ensure the perimeter is impenetrable. 

The wife automatically sounds the alarm and goes into warning mode. Husbands fail to see things that other women do. The wife shares critical marriage saving measures to ward off demonic invasions. 

The sexually immoral women are there for one reason. To have sex with a pastor, destroy his relationship with God, destroy his marriage, his wife and children, if any, destroy their churches and ministries, destroy other marriages in his sphere of pastoral influence, and seal their decent into perversion and hell. 

Pastors who are loose in their Secret Sexual Sins lives are bound to fall unless they recover themselves from their secret lives. 

As the late David Wilkerson once said, they need to cry out to God for deliverance from lust. 

Many pastors struggle with lust in their hearts after being tempted time and time again. 

When a pastor cannot stop watching women in secret, their eyes travel in service. Their eyes locate the next “eye candy.”

Before a pastor embraces them in bed, they’ve embraced them in their hearts. 

As in one church, a pastor has a lot of sexually provocatively dressed women attending church. 

In other local churches, the traps are about to be set. Pastors do not realize that the one that the pastor had his eyes on was knowingly and or unknowingly waiting to be located. 

Few understand how the realm of the spirit operates. 

Lust is a spirit. 

When a connection need to be made, the demons communicate to make the connection happen. 

There is no distance or time in the realm of the spirit. However, warfare is intense to stop the plans of darkness from coming to fruition and it is equally intense for darkness to see evil plans fulfilled. 

The ultimate intent is to discredit God and His Word. To place doubt about the standard. 

Just because people fail the standard, it didn’t mean the standard has failed. 

When a pastor insists on pursuing darkness, they will not let God and His Word get in the way. As they will even ignore the ultimate ultimatum from God. Love for sin overcomes the tug of God on the heart. 

Pastors are oblivious and or they deliberately ignore any divine intervention to fulfill the lusts in their mind and flesh. 

Therefore, things connect spiritually before they connect mentally, and then physically. 

God does that in Isaiah 46:9-12

“Remember the former things of old, For I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like Me, Declaring the end from the beginning, And from ancient times things that are not yet done, Saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, And I will do all My pleasure,’ Calling a bird of prey from the east, The man who executes My counsel, from a far country. Indeed I have spoken it; I will also bring it to pass. I have purposed it; I will also do it.”

God summons people for His purposes, but could it be true for the devil?

Acts 16:16

“Now it happened, as we went to prayer, that a certain slave girl possessed with a spirit of divination met us, who brought her masters much profit by fortune-telling.”

While this isn’t about a lustful spirit, yet, the fact they she “met” them indicates a demonic encounter to stop the power of God. 

Hence, the whole purpose behind seducing a pastor. 

However, because of seduction already operating in the secret life of a pastor, the adultery seals the deal. 

Already, the sexually immoral woman is in position to seduce a pastor and she will pull out all the stops. 

It is a form of witchcraft, sorcery, and it’s combined with attempting to establish power over male leadership. 

Attraction. Sexual appeal. Womanly ways and mannerisms. Exposure of certain flesh. Feminine assertiveness, assurance, and reassurance. Confidence or being in close proximity to feel that a pastor could confide in her. Affection and inhibition. What she suggests can’t be resisted. Any attempts to suppress her ways is easily persuaded against. Her pressing the issue and persuasions work the soul of the pastor to yield to her. To say no to her is a bad move. She works herself to a level of indispensability and dependability. Essentially, you can’t do without her. Things once said that she couldn’t hear are spoken to her freely. Even about your wife and marriage. You have her ear when you need her when the wife is away or even when your wife is near. Phone calls, texting, personal trips. She enjoys your company. Constantly flatters and supports the man of God as if she was his wife. Will defend to the death in unquestioned loyalty everything the pastor does. Becomes an outspoken representative of the pastor. 

Walking while sleeping, the devil sows seeds of lust to take things to the next level. 

Innocent conversations turn personal and often leads to suggestive actions. Eye contact, hand contact, hands on the shoulder or touching the forearm, hands around the waist, stroking the hand, hugging, kissing on the cheek that leads to kissing the lips, giving of small gifts of expressing seemingly innocent signs of affection. 

All of these and other issues can cause a pastor to drop his guard because he feels safe, secure, and confident with her. 

If the pastor is married, his wife is comfortable enough that even certain activities are permitted. She suspects very little from her and trusts that nothing would happen. But it’s a clear set up. Something is soon to happen. 

Then when it’s safe, she makes her move. 

Pastor, just like the Scriptures says, you are like sheep going to the slaughter. Like a bird for the snare. Like an arrow for the liver. 

She strikes and his decent into hell is complete. 

She walks away to her next assignment. 

One Big Lie Started It All: The Stonewall Riots

In a FB post, they have a new saying that “It’s A Rainbow Day.”

Of course it’s referring to June 26, 2015.

Then another statement under this.

“Love Wins Out.”

When it comes to homosexuality, adultery, fornication, bisexuality, porn, and masturbation, it’s all about LUST!

According to the Scriptures, lust is the desire to have that which is forbidden.”

So, in order to have that which the Bible says is forbidden, you have to violate truth.

When the Stonewall riots took place, it wasn’t to go against homosexuals. NYPD was doing surveillance of the Mafia In a known homosexual establishment, but not on homosexuals and their vile behaviors. 

All of a sudden it flared up into a riot after the police raided the now historical landmark. 

Homosexuals stormed the streets. Cops were injured. And just like that, the surveillance was over and the homosexuals flip the script.
So ever since, it’s been a war of words.

Whose words will be believed?

So now even with the truth, people still believe the lies.

One lie after another.

So this nation is engulfed with lies that the elite of LGBT pushed for years until it was believed. They kept this little snow ball called lies rolling down the hill to form an avalanche.

But the one thing that the elite can’t get rid of is the truth. After the avalanche, truth still stands. Truth may have been buried, but truth still rises. Pesky as truth is, truth can never be destroyed because Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life….”

Yes, when Jesus hung on that cross, Truth was on that cross. But you can’t keep Truth dead. Truth was buried but was raised on the first day of the week. So no matter how many lies you speak, Truth will speak.

The elite of LGBT might be successful in ridding the United States of the First Amendment, but Truth will still be marching on. They might silence the voices of Truth, but Truth will find another believer with a voice to speak truth to power.

The elite doesn’t have a plan to eliminate Truth because He is seated at the right hand of God.

So what is the remedy for the hour?

For people to stand and speak the truth no matter the cost.

Yes, there is a price to pay, but the ultimate price for our sins was paid over two thousand years ago.

It will hurt because your relatives and friends agree with the lies. They will scream at you and call you everything but a child of God. They will even betray you and deny you. But thank God that God will not betray us or deny us.

Even should they be successful in manipulating the constitution, there is one major problem on their hands.

The Bible. The Truth. The Word of God.

They have no power to alter, destroy, or rid the earth of the most powerful Book on earth.

Yes, they can make their own book, and yes, they can alter certain words, but they are way too late since the Bible was here before them, and should Jesus tarry, it will be here after we are all gone. But somewhere somebody will have a copy of the original. God is that Smart to conceal the Word in the hearts of men and women should they take every Bible off the planet.

Homosexuals one big lie has another problem.

The manifestation of STDs which confirms that the sin of homosexuality has a problem.

No Supreme Court justice has the power to overrule consequential judgment.

The lie of safe homosexual sex is just that. One big lie.

The risks of violating the way God ordained sex is ever present.

Again, it is proof that sex between one man and one woman in marriage is the one of two place to avoid STDs.

Abstinence is the other place until marriage between one man and one female takes place.

But that’s just on one level.

It’s not heterosexuality that we are after.

It is holiness.

Sin is dirty and destructive.

Sin cannot satisfy the longing in the heart for God.

Sin cannot reward you with eternal life.

Sin’s payment is always death.

If you want to believe the lie that started it all, it’s your choice.

But there is a better way that leads to life in Christ.

When you are finished with the lust, and you’ve had enough of homosexual love-excuse me, lust,” the Lord is waiting to forgive you of all your sins and give you eternal life after you repent, and be born again.

But if you insist on believing the lie and the father of lies, Romans 6:23 says,

“For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

The lie of Stonewall could be seen here.

Stop Playing With Yourself: Worshipping At The Altar Of Lust

Growing up as a kid, you hear things that made you think.

Statements like “go play with yourself” had that sexual overtone that everyone knew what it’s about. However, after a while, you find yourself doing masturbation more often than you realize. Until it becomes second nature. The muscle memory and the false pleasure of having sex with someone that isn’t there became more than just “playing with yourself.”

It turned from pleasure habit into a bondage that is no different than nicotine, cocaine, or alcohol dependency.

It’s addictive. Voyeurism, exhibitionism, and other obsessive forms of sexual immorality is not that far off. That’s because with self sexual foreplay, people that are not in control will engage anywhere.

The false pros of masturbation is no relationship with another person. No STDs. No pregnancies.

You schedule your day around it.

In 1 John 2:15-17, John, the beloved apostle of the Lamb said, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of the Father abides forever.”

Lust is the law in the flesh of fallen man (male and female).

The law of lust is what’s behind masturbation.

The law of sin and death (see Romans 8:1-2) demands that lust be fulfilled, but we all know that lust is never fulfilled. It remains dissatisfied forever. Anything that is not ordained by the Lord is of the devil. The devil’s desires will always remain insatiable. Hence, the fallen state of man, these desires, unless put to death, will remain insatiable.

The corruption of flesh demands satisfaction.

The flesh demands to recharge to re-satisfy itself.

In the normal concept of sex, the reset to do it all over again is to be tempered or self controlled.

Lust is never controlled. It must be put to death.

In the last 6 years, masturbation was the most difficult thing to break. After 33 years from 1975 to 2008, a week wouldn’t go by unless I engaged in masturbation. At first, it seemed normal and innocent. Afterwards, I was hooked and developed a list of reasons to keep doing what I wanted to do. Even after marriage, I found myself engaging.

Lust after women “enhanced” this pursuit of sexual satisfaction. But satisfaction was never achieved. Even with introducing pornography in 1998, the satisfaction was never achieved.

Little did I realized that not only was I breaking God’s command about the sanctity of marriage according to Genesis 2:24, far worse, I idolized my desire to have self or solo sex.

It became my god.

The Lord God said to Moses in Exodus 20:3-6,

“You shall have no other gods before Me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image —any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them.

For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”

To put it as bluntly as allowed, getting off was worshipped.

At this altar of sexual immorality, I paid homage to the god of lust. The second god or idol was my sexual organ. What kept me worshipping at this altar was the dopamine. The drug of fulfillment and satisfaction.

This infatuation of getting this drug in my blood stream had me coming back for more and more every time.

All it took to get me started was touching myself sexually. Or a combination of things. Lusting after the flesh. The sexual objectification of a woman’s anatomy. At the end of the day, there’s no question what was going to happen. From 2008 to 2011, the grace of God enabled me to completely abstain from masturbation.

It was a great 3.5 years of learning how to control myself.

Dr. Mark Lasser really taught the lesson on self control. He asked the greatest question I’ve ever heard.

Can you do without sex with your wife and masturbation?

The answer is yes.

Hence, the definition of addiction recovery.

“To control, manage, or stop using a particular substance, thing, or activity.”

There are many advocates that encourage masturbation as a healthy sexual practice. This would fall under the category of “control or manage.”

However, if it is being worshipped, it must stop because God has no rivals. If God is enthroned on your heart, there can be no other gods.

In reading many books that reason with making seemingly viable excuses to continue masturbation, many men will accept these arguments and stand their ground when they are challenged.

Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”

James 1:14-15 says, “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

So the end is always death. What kind of death? Death in your relationship with the Lord. Broken fellowship with God.

It seems right to justify sin but it always end in death. You are tempted, you fall into temptation, you yield to temptation. The desire has conceived (egg – sperm unites). Sin is birthed. Death is the result.

In Matthew 26:41, Jesus said, “Watch and pray, lest you fall into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak.”

Even with watching and praying, lust was lurking within me that I feared greatly.

The urge to touch myself sexually got stronger and stronger.

Mind you, I was praying. I had an accountability partner. I was teaching the men how to overcome.

Then the moment of truth came. After a setback at an event, discouragement zapped me so bad that I fell into the trap of touching myself sexually.

From 2011 to early spring of 2014, I found myself back into “playing with myself.”

To even try to deflect how I got back into masturbation or to attempt to minimize the fall is the worst thing in the world you could do. That’s because to falsely justify sexual immorality is a deception not worth going to hell over. Even to count how many times I masturbated to give a minimal number to minimize the blow is folly.

I also found out that you can’t preach effectively to sinners if you are in sin yourself. You are disqualified.

Since returning to the streets to preach, the reason that kept me from preaching in the streets was directly tied to sexual immorality running rampant in my life. There is no anointing in sin. God never anoints what He never appoints. Sin and holiness can never mingle. God’s temple cannot be full of idols. Jesus and satan can never have communion, fellowship, or unity. Darkness cannot co-mingle with light.

Ineffective living always leads to ineffective preaching. If you cannot live to obey the commands of Jesus, you can’t win a soul to Jesus. The crucified life demands denying yourself, taking up your cross, and following the Lord. Many desire to follow the Lord, but they never deny themselves (see Mark 8:34).

You deliberately cheat or defraud yourself from achieving a false pleasure to gain the highest pleasure.

Pleasing God.

You can’t talk about taking up your cross unless you deny yourself.

In other words, you stop playing with yourself.

Most ministers are ineffective because of the refusal to deny themselves.

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 9:27, “But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

Jesus said this in Matthew 5:28-30, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

This is not a stretch of revelation but you and I both know that the Lord covered masturbation because it takes an eye to lust and the hand to play. There is no question about it and to fool ourselves into thinking that the Lord wasn’t talking about self sex is foolishness and deliberate deception.

As Mike Cleveland of Setting Captives Free said, this is “radical amputation.”

If you refuse to cut off anything that is leading you to masturbate, notice what Jesus said….

“…for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

Will a person go to hell over masturbation?

Are you willing to let masturbation rule you like a god? And are you willing to risk it?

Remember what Revelation 21:8 says.

Remember also Hebrews 12:4.

“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

And NO. I am not telling you that you need to butcher yourself to stop sinning.

What is it that you are willing to do to stop sinning?

How far will you go?

Are you willing to pull out the TV?

Are you willing to give up your mobile device you use to spy out flesh to masturbate off of?

Are you willing to give up your passcode to your computer to an accountability partner and or your wife?

Are you willing to get off of FB or all social media?

Are you willing to walk across the street when a hot looking woman is within your periphery?

Are you willing to look in another direction when she is trying to get your attention at the magazine stand?

Are you willing to change channels if you keep your TV?

Are you willing to get up out of bed, pray and seek God when you are sexually aroused at night?

Are you willing to call your accountability partner to get prayer in your hour of temptation?

Are you willing to pick up the phone when your accountability partner calls on you to check up on you?

Are you willing to stop being evasive when asked the tough questions?

 

So let’s sum this up.

1. Lust must be destroyed. In fact, lust was destroyed on the cross of Christ according to 1 John 3:8.

But is lust destroyed in you? Colossians 3:5 is the answer.

2. God has no rivals. Exodus 20-3-6.

3. Excuses seems right but frivolous justification always lead to death. Proverbs 14:12, James 1:14-15.

4. Watch and pray. Matthew 26:41.

5. Discipline yourself. 1 Corinthians 9:27.

 

Overcoming Lust In The Church & At Home: Are You The Gate Keeper Of Your Heart?

You’ve repented. Asked the Lord for forgiveness. However, you find yourself doing the same thing over again. You just can’t get past remorse to really mean that you no longer have a desire to lust in your heart and to live holy before God.

You’ve find yourself opening that door to lust again, and again.

Lusting after her or him, or both.

We all go through moments of temptation but what we do in the temptation determines our victory or defeat.

James said to “Count it all joy when you fall into various trials…”

It’s not joyful when you fail.

Lately, I’ve seen some things that were definite signs of the enemy attempting to lure me back into “habits, patterns, and cycles” of lusting after the flesh. To get the victory is one thing. To maintain the victory is another.

When you are watching TV, the commercials are more provocatively explicit than at any other time in history. Cute commercials are a thing of the past. Money and sex, sex and money are forever seamlessly connected.

Actually, men no longer watch commercials for the sake of the product. It’s the window dressing” of the commercial that gets his attention.

Car commercials are full of these things. Ask the average semi honest man and he will tell you that he is not really interested in the car. He was interested in that hot babe in or walking around the car.

This is called, “Substitute porn.”

It’s the same with the news. No man really watches the news for the content. The ladies dress like they are going to pick up a man. So the man feels right at home in his own home, being seduced by the weather lady as she seductively walks to the green screen.

Wearing a hot dress in stilettos.

Every morning, on cue, the TV comes on because he is mesmerized by her seduction.

Even in the pulpit, we know of a few well known female TV preachers that would preach in their stilettos, strutting their stuff as they preach.

But that’s not all.

One well known female preacher would sexually and provocatively bend over and fall to her knees as if to pray. Brothers in the audience weren’t caught up in the moment of the worship or prayer. The house of worship, in some places, has become a showcase for the red carpet.

Reality shows are the same thing. The story plots are not all that interesting. The female that is wearing nothing is what a man is interested. All of these things are precursors to Internet porn, chat rooms, sexting, and other forms of “acting out” sexually.

As we all know, men are “visual effects” minded.

Women, at least some of them that are sexually provocative will wear anything that will get a man’s attention. It doesn’t matter if the man is married any more. A desperate for attention woman will go for it regardless of the man’s marital status.

The house of worship is no different. To a woman desperate for a man’s attention, she really don’t care if the presence of God is in the house. The same goes for a sexually crazed man. The presence of the Lord could be thick in the house but all it takes is for one sexually immoral woman to walk by, and the deal is done.

And because there is lust in the heart of a man, she doesn’t have to wear something sexually provocative. The lust in his heart is so strong that he can’t help but sin with his heart and eyes.

Proverbs 20:27 says, “Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

In the 21st Century, lust is everywhere. Inside the house of worship and outside the house of worship. When a man refuses to discipline his heart and mind, it is a matter of time before he will act out the lusts of his flesh and mind.

There has to be an effort to turn the eyes from these things. In more radical cases, shut off the TV or not watch TV at all because the traps of the enemy are deliberately set for every man.

Jesus said this in Matthew 5:29-30.

“If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

The writer of Hebrews 12:4 said…“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

What are you willing to do to cut yourself from the habits, patterns, and cycles that are intended to keep you in the bondage of lust?

I am not advocating taking a knife and going for it.

I didn’t say this.

What the Lord Jesus is demanding is…..what are we willing to do that is completely radical to avoid sin?

To what lengths are we willing to go to keep from sinning? If you find yourself falling into the trap of lust over and over again like a revolving door, then you haven’t done enough.

You didn’t take it to a level of a complete cut off.

Like on Sunday’s after service. We go home to watch the sports.

You know that they will have the cheerleaders in the background. Commercial breaks, nothing but sexually immoral women. Sunday night, you watch some R rated movie with soft porn.

According to XXXChurch, Sunday is the busiest day of the week to watch porn.

We really do not understand how we are being set up, but like sheep to the slaughter, we are suckered into these things every week and we wonder why we are spiritually dull. We also wonder why the Lord seems far from us. We vainly attempt to make up for it in emotionalism and euphoric hype.

As long as we feel good, God must be alright with me.

We go for the quick remorse kind of false repentance, hoping that the Lord would “understand.”

Far from the case.

God never endorse sin and the false way we repent. Because our hearts condemn us, we feel guilty and we want to either suppress that conviction or gloss it over with some type of appeasement so that we won’t feel as bad.

When lust is allowed to have a home in our hearts, it is an impediment to His presence.

1 John 3:20-22 says…

“For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”

How do we know that our hearts condemn us?

Paul said in Romans 8:1….

“There is therefore now no condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit.”

If you are walking in the flesh, to fulfill the lusts of the flesh and the mind, your heart will condemn you. So the rest of the verse in 1 John 3 tells us….“if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God…”

How do you know that you have confidence toward God?

Paul said, “…men everywhere, lifting up holy hands without wrath or doubting.”

When you lift your hands in praise to God, are they holy hands? Did you keep your hands off your sexual organs? Did you keep from masturbating ?

Do you doubt your right standing and right relationship with God? Is there a question about your moral walk before God? Do you have confidence that God will not tell you that you are a hypocrite?

Confidence towards God tells us that there is no question about your current relationship with the Lord. That darkness doesn’t have a foothold, nor stronghold within you.

Jesus said this in Matthew 6:22-23…..

“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness.”

Are you the gatekeeper of your heart?

Proverbs 4:23 says…

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

Your eyes is the gate but your spirit man or heart is the gatekeeper.

What you watch will get into your spirit man. Once it gets inside your spirit man, evidently, it fills your entire body. What we watch, we meditate. What we meditate on, we eventually will make, according to Romans 13:14 “…provision to fulfill its lusts.”

So we have to defend the gate.

Psalm 101:3-4 says,

“I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; It shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall depart from me; I will not know wickedness.”

Who is the “I will?”

That’s your heart. You must take a knife, spiritually speaking, and cut off anything that will take you down the path to sin against God.

Psalm 141:4-5 says….

“Do not incline my heart to any evil thing, to practice wicked works with men who work iniquity; and do not let me eat of their delicacies. Let the righteous strike me; it shall be a kindness. And let him rebuke me; it shall be as excellent oil; let my head not refuse it. For still my prayer is against the deeds of the wicked.”

Do not bend your ear to wicked things. Commercials have certain songs that are very seductive. When that sound comes, it is an attention grabber. It serves as a signal that your favorite seducer is coming on. You have to do the right thing. Gatekeepers never let the enemy walk through the front gate.

But first, there has to be a clearing out of the heart.

The Lord placed in His Word things that we need to apply in order for lust to never overcome us.

Psalm 119:9-11 says….

“How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh, let me not wander from Your commandments! Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.”

Sadly, the translation from Hebrew to English gives the impression that “might not” sounds like the Word and the person that is supposed to walk int he Word might not be successful. No one is perfect, do not misunderstand me. However, when we’ve developed a strong walk in the Word of God, the “might not” has the potential to turn into a “will not.”

“Your Word have I hidden in my heart that I will not sin against you.”

How you hide the Word and what you do with that Word determines your victory.

James 1:21-25 says….

“Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was.

But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does.”

You hide the Word by receiving the Word instead of fighting against the Word.

The Lord gave you a good head start in your initial deliverance. Now it is time to see it through by doing the Word.

It’s called.

Obedience!!!

LA Preachers: Detrick Haddon And His Adultery – So You’ve Bedded A Gospel Artist/Preacher

We see that the ongoing saga of undisciplined pastors and undisciplined church women is not just a problem in the church.

It is in a free fall.

In the Book “Betrayal Of Trust,” there are two kinds of sexually perverse preachers.

Predators or wanderers.

A predator seeks women as prey and wanderers “explore” another woman and then resume their marriage.

When a pastoral scandal hits, the focus of attention is placed on the preacher who betrayed his wife for another woman either in church or outside the church.

One of the most powerful books written about pastoral scandals came from Dr. Betty Price, the wife of Dr. Fred Price, called “A Warning To Ministers, Wives and Their Mistresses.”

I’ve read the book and it carries weight in uncovering some of the things that happen that are preventable. From a preacher’s standpoint, we can see that a lot of things can happen in the dynamics of church life that could set the table for an adulterous relationship to take place.

For the preacher first, here are some of the dynamics.

The preacher has lust in his heart.

It doesn’t matter what trigger mechanisms (bad day at the job, good day at the job (seeking reward), arguments with the wife, etc.), or his emotional state. Lust is always at the core. Lust is always the root of all adulterous affairs. There is no wiggle room, nor excuses. Where the Lord should have been enthroned, He was dethroned by and for lust in a man’s heart.

Betrayal of a wife happens as the end result of a preacher who betrayed his Lord first.

Betrayal of the Lord must take place before lust can assume the throne of a man’s heart. Man must seek sin when he stops seeking the Lord. It doesn’t have to be this way.

It doesn’t take long for a pastor to cross lines that he claims that he would never cross. As a thing that I’ve learned when I was involved in the sin of porn and masturbation, there is always a line to cross. The moment that you begin to say that you wouldn’t cross that line, is the moment that you’ve crossed it.

Otherwise, you wouldn’t think about it.

Just in level one sex addiction (1. thoughts, 2. fantasies, 3. porn, 4. masturbation, 5. adulterous affairs-fornication-homosexuality, 6. prostitution), there are lines crossed just in this list alone.

You will note that I numbered the progression in order.

Notice what the Lord Jesus said in Matthew 15:19.

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

Now notice what the Lord said in Matthew 5:27-30.

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

Now notice what the Lord said in Matthew 6:22-23.

“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”

If you are a good Bible student in comprehending this, you could readily see that everything originates from the heart.

Jeremiah 17:9 says….

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it?”

So now go back to Matthew 15:19 and Jesus said,

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts…”

The Amplified says it this way…

“For out of the heart come evil thoughts (reasonings and disputings and designs) such as…”

So when you look at the condition of the heart that is un-regenerated, nothing but evil thoughts like “…adulteries, fornications…” will come forth.

Then the Lord talks about a man looking at a woman with a lustful intent in Matthew 5:26-30. So from the condition of the heart, we now see the heart communicating to the mind to look lustfully at a woman or man.

When is lustful intent established? When a man looks sexually at the body parts. Usually he starts with face, hair, then cleavage, hips, legs, then the backside.

Too much truth, but you know that’s what happens. No such thing as too much truth any way because truth is truth.

The mind registers this information within seconds and because he is “Wired For Intimacy,” (get the book from Dr. William Struthers), he falls into the easiest trap of sexual sins.

The sin of lust aroused him sexually and to let off sexual tension, he must repent and gain control of himself, turn on porn as fuel for his lust to masturbate off of, or because he filed her flesh in the lust section of his mind, he masturbates off of that, or release sexual tension through adultery, or fornication.

But the Lord didn’t stop there. He places the eyes and hands as the next step of progression. For a man, it is not enough to just look. He must progress to touch, otherwise, in his or her mind, he or she feels cheated, and unfulfilled. That’s why with level one sex addiction (and not everyone is a sex addict), the thoughts turns into fantasy. The fantasy is fueled by looking (eyes), and then the hands engage in satisfaction.

In most cases, self satisfaction or for other men, outright engaging the opposite or same sex for sex comes into play.

Let’s go back to the eyes for a moment.

What a man or woman sees determines the light or darkness of the heart. This works well with James 1:14-15.

I must point out that the enemy does bring the temptation, however, once the man or woman has trained the senses to fulfill sin, the enticement becomes an integrated part of a habit, cycle, or pattern to fulfill sin.

With little to no thought at all, you do what you do on automatic pilot. There are some people that will sin and not mind the varying steps to fulfill sin, so long as one is fulfilled.

So in James 1:14-15, this is what happens….

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

So if your heart is already dark, either because of lust lurking in the heart or because you failed to resist the temptation to look with the intent of lust, you proceed down the path to acquire satisfaction. The mind also enters into a depraved indifference state of mind where you desire to achieve satisfaction regardless of how you hurt others, including the Lord.

Sin is simply selfish individual needs. We become so self centered that we do not care who gets hurt in the process, from start to finish.

So with women that bedded a preacher, this attitude captured in Proverbs 30:20 is fitting.

“This is the way of an adulterous woman:

She eats and wipes her mouth,

And says, “I have done no wickedness.”

There is no question that there are women that come to church to sexually connect with the preacher but what happens afterwards? She will do everything to stay with him.

With Deitrick Haddon committing the sin of adultery and divorced his wife (accused of adultery with Issac Carre), while we will never know everything that went on to facilitate the sin, one thing is certain.

God is not pleased.

Now just because, allegedly, your wife had an adulterous affair, it doesn’t mean that you turn around and have an adulterous affair as pay back. We all know that if this is the case, it was done in response to her adulterous affair. Very childish because according to the Lord Jesus, your divorce is permitted (see Matthew 5:31-32). The emotional trauma of being betrayed is described in Proverbs 6:32-35.

Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding;

He who does so destroys his own soul.

Wounds and dishonor he will get,

And his reproach will not be wiped away.

For jealousy is a husband’s fury;

Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

He will accept no recompense,

Nor will he be appeased though you give many gifts.”

But for the woman that Detrick Haddon committed adultery with, she is without excuse. If Detrick used his personality to have sex with her and she failed to resist, she is just as guilty. Like all women, they want a man and they want to marry. Some believe that the only way that will happen is when you give them what they want and give them a child.

What should have happened is that if a pastor uses his personality to attempt to obtain sex, your job as a woman that knows God is to resist. If he is involved with a divorce from his wife that committed adultery on him, she must wait until the divorce is final.

Then, and only then could she be pursued to be married first.

She willingly agreed to sin with him and she is culpable.

Many will say that you are beating a dead horse.

Perhaps, but you can learn a lot from what led to the killing of a dead horse.

Remember, David’s sin was placed in the Bible. It can be read over and over again so we can learn not to do what David did. As Paul said in 1 Corinthians 10, they were written for our examples. So all you folk out there that want to try to sweep this under the rug and tell others not to judge, back it up and learn from this.

Besides, read Matthew 7:2-5 before you risk isolating a text (Matthew 7:1) to keep the heat off your sins.

Bedding preachers opens the door for other brothers in and out of ministry to allow the things of this world infiltrate into the church. It gives other brothers and sisters in the Lord to do the same thing with seemingly impunity. We must understand that perversion is of the devil.

We tend to forget that the Lord was hurt by this and we treat God like He doesn’t get hurt by what we do against His will. When will we get a revelation of the fact that God is hurt by what we deliberately do? We tell God to get over it, “I am human.”

Then why did He send His Son Jesus to die for us? It means nothing to us when we treat God the way we do. Dogs get better treatment.

I want to use this as the backdrop simply because this is played out across the American church landscape. The woman that willfully committed adultery is culpable. While it is a problem in the church, what is gained?

First comes false love, then come the baby carriage, here comes momma in no marriage.

Is this the way to do business before the Lord? Absolutely not.

According to Paul’s teaching on the fruit of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22-23, we have the self discipline of Jesus called “temperance or self control.”

According to Paul’s teaching in Romans 8:9….

“But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.”

So if we have the Spirit of Christ in us, we have the self control of Jesus within us.

So let’s change the atmosphere of the church from a club to……….His church.

Chaste, holy, without blemish. Righteous, and clean.

We can control ourselves. Otherwise, we defame the name of the One we claim to have as Lord and the real lord of our lives (the devil) is truly our real lord.

God forbid.

Battling Sexual Thoughts: The Real Spiritual Warfare, Part 2

“What are you doing with your moments, son?”

What you do with the time you spend determines what you are bound to or free from. The Lord asked me this question when I first came out of Secret Sexual Sins because my flesh demanded to know “what are we going to do now that you have stopped?

We are going to serve God in righteousness and true holiness.

November of 2008 was the last time that I watched porn and masturbated to porn but masturbation remained in me until December 3, 2009 with a few relapses afterwards.

Without going through a complete story (because I want to share with you what finally worked to kill and deprive porn and masturbation), masturbation, for me, was the most difficult habit to break because over the years, you develop a oneness or connectedness to a sinful habit.

Here’s the reasons.

1. Lusts of the flesh and mind.

James 1:14-15 says….

“But each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is full grown, brings forth death.”

1 John 2:15-17 says….

“Do not love the world or the things in the world, If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world- the lusts of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life- is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he that does the will of God abides forever.”

All things has a source. Sin always has a source. From within us abides the nature of the devil, if we are not born again.

If we are born again, we haven’t learned to deaden and deprive sin’s power by strict obedience to the Word of God. No other worldly psychological or physiological explanation is plausible, excusable, or is to take the ascendancy over the Word of God regarding God’s perfect explanation as to why man commits sin.

Sinning is a choice of the human will. At anytime you can stop.

If you are driving a car and you see a red light or a stop sign, you stop. Right?

When you are crossing the street and you see a car coming, you stop. Right? 

When you are full of food, you stop eating. Right?

You’ve just proved that you can stop.

It’s the same with sin.

You can stop.

God condemned sin in the flesh of Jesus according to Romans 8:3 to spiritually deprive its power to overcome man. Through the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ, when we obey the Word of God, we deprive sin’s ability to overcome us (see 1 Corinthians 10:13). So now, it’s a matter of obedience to the Word of God for those that are in Christ.

For the unsaved, it’s a matter of obedience to the gospel of Jesus Christ to repent and turn from sin, and be born again through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Therefore, according to 2 Corinthians 5:17, I am a “new creature in Christ.”

New creatures do not do old tricks.

2. Chemical Dependency

I was operating as my own personal pharmaceutical, looking to heal myself of soulish wounds inflicted by many people over the course of time. Self sex was a form of medicinal properties, that when I needed to love me or feel that I am loved, to excite me, to release sexual tension, I physically and soulishly “shot up.”

Pun intended.

Self sex became my way of being my own physician instead of relying totally upon God and His Word. It also became a way to express self love to me when I falsely believed that no one loved me. And in some ways or not, I thought that God didn’t even care, but deep down I knew that He did. I just didn’t trust Him to do what He said He would do for ME in His Word.

Sometimes you get so wounded that lies become truth and we know that all lies from the devil will never have an ounce of truth in them.

There are four chemicals that are connected to sex in men (of course there are others but we will stick to these basic chemicals).

Adrenaline, testosterone, vasopressin, dopamine.

Adrenaline and testosterone revs up the physical engines, vasopressin maintains blood flow to the penis to maintain an erection, and the final chemical, “dopamine,” is the pleasure or reward chemical. I was told by an EMT that vasopressin could make a rock get hard. It’s used to jumpstart the heart with heart attack patients. When climax by ejaculation takes places (coming), also known as the “point of no return,” dopamine is excreted into the blood stream and rapidly gives the brain what I call the “Ooooo’s and Ahhhhhh’s” of sex. The pleasure of pleasures.

3. Trigger Mechanisms

The episodes of life, when they happen, can trigger a man to retreat to places of isolation, separation, seclusion, independence, disconnections, and secrecy.

Proverbs 18:1 NKJ says…

“A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgment.”

Anger, bitterness, rejections, frustrations, disappointments, disillusionments, soul pain, mental anguish, monetary troubles, employment troubles, bad relationships, strained relationships, and the list goes on and on.

I’ve identified some of these in my own life and found that when these things happen, I want to feel good…quickly. So self sex became the way to deal with these trigger mechanisms.”

When the Word of God is not permitted to manage our emotions, the enemy knows how to use these mechanisms to get us to mismanage our soul and bodies.

So with these things in mind, the Lord pinpointed somethings that I was doing that kept the door to self sex open. The question that you read at the beginning of this blog is critical to any man’s deliverance.

If you are not paying attention to your life on a moment by moment basis, you are not going to be successful.

Remember what Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs or flows the issues of life.”

Sex was constantly on my mind. And the objectification of the opposite sex was my infatuation and obsession. But in reality, all of this were temple ornaments or trinkets. 

I was really worshipping my ability to get off.

I was worshipping the temple.

In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Paul said this….

“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have of God, and you are not your own?

When a man is not worshipping God, he will worship himself and self sex was my way of worshipping me. It’s crazy and it even doesn’t make sense, but look at what Paul said in 2 Timothy 3:2-3, partial quotes….

“For men will be lovers of themselves…without self control…lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God…”

Here’s another witness in terms of a different group of people Paul was ministering to.

Romans 1:22-23 from the New Living Translation, Paul says….

“Claiming to be wise, they became utter fools instead. And instead of worshipping the glorious, ever living God, they worshipped idols made to look like mere people, or birds, and animals, and snakes.”

The most detestable idol ever made was the Asherah.

According to 2 Chronicles 15:16, Asa made reforms and removed his own mother from being queen mother because “she had made an obscene image…”

Nothing is left to the imagination here.

According to Adam Clarke’s Commentary, we find these words based on the various translations and ancient commentaries. Please note the Rabbinical commentary of Solomon Jarchi.

READER DISCRETION IS ADVISED

“Besides, he removed Maacha, his mother from her kingdom, because she had made a high tree into an idol.” ARABIC

“Also he removed Maacha, his mother, from the kingdom, because she had made a horrible statue; and our rabbis say that it was called miphletseth (a fright or terror), because maphli leytsanutha, it produced wonderful ridicule; for she made it ad instal membri virilis, and she used it daily.” AUTHOR- RABBI SOLOMON JARCHI

Another definition from another source implies that it was licentious in nature. Licentious meaning, “lacking moral discipline; especially sexually unrestrained.”

The idol in question was part of sexual rituals because many commentaries insinuate or give to understand the fact that this idol was worshipped with “impure rites.”

In another commentary, many Asherah poles were “phallic” symbols.

Phallic, meaning erect penis.

Meaning that gross sexual immorality took place in the high places of the land of Canaan. The very people that Israel was supposed to completely annihilate so that their detestable sinful habits would not contaminate the children of Israel.

And you wonder where sex toys came from?

Remember, the Canaanites were descendants of Ham. Black folk. It doesn’t mean that sexual immorality started with Black folk because you have to go back to Genesis chapter six to understand that perverseness was found in every man until the floods of Noah.

If the stretch of the imagination is to be reached, she carved a tree into a terribly obscene sex toy. Should I be wrong, and I hope I am, then, this was a waste of brain power. But if this is true, just imagine the disgusted visage of God.

There is nothing more impure or obscene than sexual immorality. Nothing.

Men are stimulated by sight and is aroused to touch what he observes. Mind sex, also called lust and adultery, is just teasing the brain, and when there is no control, “provision” is made to release sexual tension.

And when a man is touched sexually, arousal takes place. With porn, it’s all fantasy. You are pretending to have sex with an image that is not there. But you begin to touch yourself sexually to make up the for the lack of another person touching you.

As a side note, married men masturbate more than singles. Most married men thought that since they are married, they could have all the sex they want and never have the need to masturbate.

Not true.

Married men want more sex. And when the wife is not at home,or she is not willing to give her hubby man some sex, or they had a fight or argument, or something bad happened to him on the job, or any where. Or when he feels he’s done a good job and wants to reward himself, he turns to the physical pleasures of all pleasures.

SEX!!!!

When he desires sex, he will do everything in his power to get it. And he may have a very pleasurable, rewarding sex life with his wife but does some extracurricular sex via masturbation to keep himself “happy.”

And he may even develop excuses like…

1. My wife is tired, mad, angry, away with mother in law, sick.

2. Masturbation keeps me from committing adultery (Matthew 5:27-30).

Sex was designed by the Lord to fulfill the “one flesh” principle in Genesis 2:24. Masturbation violates that principle because sex was designed to be shared with your wife of the genuine opposite sex (transgender is another subject).

This is sexual addiction level one.

Remember, you are only addicted when you cannot control, stop, or manage sex. Even if you can control and manage self sex, or when and how many times you masturbate, if you cannot stop, you are bound.

Jesus said, “He whom the Son sets free is free indeed.”

To be free from something means you have no desire or intent to return to the place of bondage. Paul said, “For he who has died has been freed from sin.”

Have you ever seen a prisoner, in the natural, complete his time of incarceration and return through the door he came out of? We know that after a while, he or she commits another crime and returns to serve time for the new crime, but we are talking about a person that committed a crime, did the time, walks out of the prison, and returns in a few seconds.

The same principle applies.

If you are free, you have no desire to return to the prison cell.

So the Lord asked me a question…

“What are you doing with your moments, son?”

The porn was very easy to stop but it is not easy to stop porn in the mind. After viewing thousands and thousands of sexual episodes, it makes it difficult to press the stop button.

Remember 1 Thessalonians 5:23?

Spirit, Soul, Body?

Two out of three is eternal.

The spirit and the soul of man.

Because of Adam’s transgression, the body is subject to die physically. But remember, Adam died spiritually first (see Romans 5:12). He was disconnected from God and his mind became a storage facility of perversion.

Battling Sexual Thoughts: The Real Spiritual Warfare, Part 1

Sex, under the scope, rule, and law of God is not bad, in and of itself. As you know, God created male and female to be joined together in holy matrimony according to Genesis 2:24. That they shall be one flesh.

These are dark days and we need to understand that when it comes to the depravity of men’s minds, there is no depth or limits where man will go to fulfill a mental fantasy just to get the right emotion to release sexual tension. What happens is that we cross over into the area of sin and we begin to entertain the dark side of sex.

A few Scriptures come to mind.

But before we tap into the Word, we must remember that God knows the make up of man.

God reveals in the Bible the reason why the hearts of men are dark and uncovers why they do what they do.

When Adam sinned (Genesis chapter 3), the devil knew and took full advantage of his sin and fill Adam’s heart and mind with all sorts of wicked imaginations. The devil knew that these wicked imaginations would run its course throughout all of creation (see Genesis 6:1-8).

Notice verse 5 of Genesis chapter 6.

“Then the Lord saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”

Wickedness is the nature or characteristic of the devil that was spiritually transferred into the very heart and mind of man (see Romans 5:12). The core of man’s being became corrupt and the flesh craves to obey and express the “perverted, depraved urges and impulses” of the heart and mind.

The dark heart and a dark mind, when acted upon, brings man to produce and perform dark things of perverseness and wickedness.

Recently, we’ve read in the news of a husband chaining his wife for 10 years or more. In the human trafficking business, the sex trade equals sex slaves. According to the US State Department, 600,000 women are trafficked throughout the world for various reasons, but predominantly for the sex trade.

Profoundly sorrowful for my participation in porn, there was one porn episode that comes to mind that featured two white men and an Asian woman. It appears that she might have been a person caught in the sex trade, but I wasn’t sure due to lack of evidence. Enough said. As I looked back, all I can remember is the pain she experienced of being gang raped. The porn industry tries to put a smile to its evil brand of lust, but there is no smile on the countless women that experience sexual slavery.

In some of my episodes on BlogTalkRadio, I shared about the drug and alcohol connections on the set of most porn productions. They were there to help the women cope with the dramatic and painful sex acts that men demanded. In between shoots that would last, I’m told, up to 16 hours, the women would drug up and booze up to cope with the abuse and prepare for the next scene.

For quite some time, I, like many other males thought that they were enjoying the sex. And I found out, after hearing testimony after testimony, that they were not enjoying it for one moment. It was all part of their brand of sex to sell it. If there is the appearance of pleasure, that’s what will count in the mind of a perverted man because it’s all about fantasizing and getting off.

In the minds of men and women, a battle is raging. For single women, it is the battle to feel loved and connected. For men, it is the battle to “act out” sexually, but deep within both sexes is the longing to worship and be intimate with God. When it comes to the sex trade, there are many persons looking to live a better life but for a price.

Sex is a very powerful act.

God created male and female to have sex in holy matrimony. Sex serves as the place where loving, caring, and bonding takes place, as well as procreation.

But being husband and wife also serves as spiritual connection that is deeper than physical intimacy. Besides, we know what the Lord said…

“What God had joined together, let no man put asunder.”

Whether we want to accept it or not, God is intimately involved in our marriage vows and we are spiritually connect, since He was the one that brought us (my current and only partner) together.

Look at what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16-17….

“Do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.”

By design, man is to be one spirit with the Lord. When it comes to watching multiple porn movies, a man wants to be joined with every woman that he sees sexually (see Proverbs 27:20). But underneath, it is only a revelation of the heart crying out for spiritual intimacy with God. The only thing that man has done is look to himself for sensual pleasure as a poor substitute for spiritual intimacy with God.

There are many people that will write this off because of the perverseness of the hearts but for those that are willing to recover from the snare of the enemy and reverse the curse of the heart and mind of man, sex in marriage can be brought back to levels of godly passion that glorifies God.

Notice what the Lord Jesus said in Matthew 15:18-19.

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts- murder, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

Notice the Amplified Bibles rendition of verse 18…

“For out of the heart come evil thoughts (reasonings and disputings and designs)  SUCH AS murder, adultery, sexual vice, theft, false witnessing, slander, and irreverent speech.”

Jesus has taught us something very powerful. OUT OF THE HEART. 

Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it (the heart) spring the issues of life.”

The New Living Bible says….

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything that you do.”

So in the heart or core of man, six things defile a man.

1.) Murders, 2.) adulteries, 3.) fornications, 4.) thefts, 5.) false witness, 6.) blasphemies.

According to Revelation 13:18, the number of the beast is the number of a man…666.

Man was created on the…..6th day (Genesis 1:24-31).

So that means there is only one way to change what comes out of the core of man.

Jesus said in John 3:3…

“You must be born again…”

This means that you must be changed from within again.

Man was created in the image of God. God “spiritually birthed” Adam, and gave him mental and physical faculties. But when Adam sinned, he became a child, “spiritually birthed” of the devil. So in order for man to come back to God, he must be born or “spiritually birthed” again by the Holy Spirit of God.

You can never wage war successfully against the depraved thoughts of the mind until you are born or “spiritually birthed” again. Anyone can change behaviors but it’s not just about changing behaviors. It’s about changing who your spiritual Father is. It’s about changing the core of your nature so that depraved thoughts can be arrested thus living out the nature of God through the Holy Spirit in obedience to the Word of God.

This is only accomplished by repentance and the Holy Spirit coming on the inside of your spirit and making you a new creature or creation in Christ (see 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Titus 3:5).

When God created Adam, He blew within Adam the breath of life and Adam became a living being. All of his spiritual and mental faculties were placed in a physical container for earthly expression.

As long as Adam obeyed the command not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, he remained alive unto God and he remains made in the image or spiritual resemblance of God. The moment that he disobeyed God, darkness would control his heart, mind, and when prompted, his or her flesh.

Again, man wants sexual connection, women want sexual connection that leads to emotional connections.

With battling the thoughts of sex, these are the “animal impulses” that rage within to attempt to satisfy spiritual intimacy needs. That’s what worship and praise of God is about. Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 5:23 that “I pray God your whole spirit, and soul, and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of the Lord.” 

Notice the order of the tri-part man. Spirit, Soul, Body.

When battling the thoughts, everything operates out of the core of your being. Your spirit man is the center of all spiritual things. If you are not born again, you are under the control of the prince of the power of the air, the spirit of disobedience. All it takes is a small suggestion based on your preference of the kinds of sins your mind gets a false sense of pleasure from.

The devils have watched you enough to know that certain things sets you off on a course to pursue satisfaction. All of these things are designed to keep you in bondage to the sin or sins. The mind has a way of filing the places where you’ve been and the experiences you had so that you can go back to the place to enjoy more.

For instance, if there is a certain place where a good piece of chicken is sold, you will remember that place so you can return for some more. It’s the same with sex. You know exactly where to go and who would be there. It’s the same in the Internet. You know exactly the kind of sex you want to watch so you could fantasize. Then there are those that get tired of the fantasy and desire to act out sexually with someone based on the experiential preferences of the past.

The real warfare is understanding these traps and accepting the freedom already purchased by the blood of Jesus to never be in bondage again.

Born again believers need not be in bondage, but sadly, there are those, like myself, that was in this cyclical kind of self imposed bondage, that never took advantage of the power of God embedded in the new birth. I used to take for granted that I was saved and tried to be satisfied from both places.

Looking for satisfaction from the house of God and the house of darkness. A man cannot live in two houses at the same time (see John 8:34-36).

As James said, in chapter 1 and verse 8, A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.”

The Amplified Bible says,

“[For being as he is] a man of two minds (hesitating, dubious, irresolute), [he is] unstable and unreliable and uncertain about everything [he thinks, feels, decides].

He cannot be resolute about being saved or being a sinner. Therefore, he must make a decision that if he is going to live like a child of God to not entertain thoughts of sexual sin and perverseness and make a stand to think about God, His Word, and walk in the power of His salvation, in thought and actions or deeds.

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