In The Mind Of A Man (Wedding Planning)

After you’ve started going out with him, he shows that he is responsible. Has a good paying job. Equally important, he makes every effort to treat you like the woman he would want to marry. Over the course of the courtship, you’ve shown that you are a great help in his life. He trusts your “help” and you have been there, supportive of most of the things he purposes to do in life.

You’ve found that you compliment each other, and he finally reaches a point to where you are indispensable. He depends upon you and you depend upon him.

He takes his time because that’s the way it is with most men. Most men take more time than a woman is willing to understand. He is about to commit to one woman and for most men, it’s the most challenging aspect of relationships.

Marriage is a very important, life changing event.

He spent some time making up his mind. For most women, way too much time. He worked hard to muster up the courage to propose. He worked hard to give you an indication that he is the right man.

“Mr. Right” is hard to come by these days. But unbeknownst to women, with for every 3 or 4 woman to 1 man, Mrs. Right is just as hard to come by too.

Most women think that it should be an easy choice, but it isn’t.

The Lord said in the Word of God that “What God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Meaning that the union is part of the plan of God. However, the Bible also says, “He that finds a wife, finds good, and obtains favor from the Lord.”

The man must spend time finding the right one that is right for him.

Not every man is right and not every woman is right.

God certainly doesn’t join incompatible people. It doesn’t make any sense to get married, separate over irreconcilable differences, and later, end it all in divorce. Matthew 19:4-10 is a good reason why it doesn’t make any sense.

As a note, when you see two people constantly going head to head over major and trivial issues without reconciliation, it is a good indication that the signs of incompatibility exists and to ignore these signs is no different than reading a sign “DEAD END,” but you keep driving, disbelieving in complete ignorance what that sign said.

That’s what makes courting so challenging and in some cases, rewarding for both prospective couples.

Up to the last moment, before the proposal, he is still calculating, analyzing, and critiquing his decision. He wants to be absolutely sure that she is the one.

A man will go through a maze of certain aspects and questions that brings him to a decision or indecision. He becomes more deliberate in his deliberation. Sometimes to the point of second guessing and over-analysis that brings some men to a point of mental paralysis.

This form of “hesitation” is exhibited in a change of his behavior.

Over the course of the courtship, a few events will always transpire that will bring questions to each couple. So challenging that sometimes, Mr. Right and Miss. Right will question themselves if their relationship is wrong.

But this is where they begin to really see each other under pressing and stressing conditions. Whether they could weather through some turbulent times in just the planning of the wedding.

The woman is looking for her fiancé to approve the details of the wedding. Some men like to be that involved and others, for the most part, will not be as involved. It is not a sign that he is disinterested because he is probably thinking about other issues.

Where to live?

Will his job be enough to handle the addition of another person?

Children isn’t on his mind but in any marriage, children will add to the stress for both.

The wedding day is the most important day for a woman. For the man too but in a different way.

She meticulously plans every detail. She puts her every effort to make that day the most memorable moment of her life.

On that day, it’s all about the bride.

She accepted the proposal of her new male fiancé and in her mind, she releases her excitement. That moment becomes the pinnacle of her life.

After the excitement of accepting the proposal, with her new engagement ring to “flash” around to her girlfriends, she shifts gears. Or she is modest about it but other females begin to notice what’s on her left ring finger that wasn’t there yesterday.

She discusses the date of her wedding with her fiancé, which is normal because all other plans hinge on establishing the date of matrimony.

But what about her fiancé?

He is excited that his fiancé accepted his proposal.

With planning a wedding, many women want to know if her fiancé is equally excited about the planning aspect. She wants to feel that her fiancé is involved and interested.

It is here that many women feel that they are sometimes all alone when he seems disinterested.

Any feedback is met with a man’s “generalized” answers that seem distant, cold and disconnected. That connection that you once had when the proposal came, became a distant memory.

But is there a disconnection?

For most men, the connection is still there whether he says something or not.

He hasn’t changed his mind and is confident in his selection. Otherwise, he would not have proposed.

What goes on in the mind of a man when a woman begins planning the wedding?

As the day of matrimony gets closer, he is concentrating on what’s about to happen afterwards. While you are planning the wedding, you too are also planning for what is abut to happen afterwards, but it all begins with your arrangement of the most important day of your life.

The man is going through several things.

He is establishing his mentality.

What does that mean?

It means that he is mentally preparing himself to live with you. And you are already doing the same. Whether you realize it or not, as the day gets closer, the nerves get uneasy. It’s normal because neither of you have been this way before.

The “unknown” has a way of doing this.

It means that he is determining what needs to be done just like you are determining what needs to be done.

There is no need to “PUSH” each other and apply more pressure on top of the pressure each of you is experiencing.

It seems like he is going in the opposite direction but unbeknownst to you, it is in tandem with what you are doing.

It is here that attitudes will adjust or fly off the handle. Nervousness of the unknown, and “Murphy’s Law” will be in operation. While no one wants anything to go wrong, either with the planning of the wedding or the marriage, it is here that you may see the best bonding take place.

Spiritually and emotionally.

In the end, you will say “It was worth it all.”

You will have a wealth of memories and experience to pass to the next generation when you have children. You will see them go through the same thing and both of you will smile.

The challenge is to learn how to read each other in a caring way so as not to further frazzle each other’s nerves.

While the wedding planning is going on, it’s about perfection. But equally important, you are each learning about each other in ways never seen or experienced before.

To make the most of that day, look to not get on each other’s nerves by “walking in the Spirit and not in the flesh.” It is very easy to fly off the handle when things go wrong.

And they will go wrong.

How you take the pressure off of each other will go a long ways to bonding.

Learn to have each other’s best interest in mind instead of looking to let the pressure of the moment cause you to say hurtful things and make regrettable decisions that carry over into the marriage.

When you continue to bicker and fight over issues, the heat of anger could blind people. Almost to the point of calling off the wedding. It’s been done before.

Both of you are under considerable pressure.

The least you could do is exasperate the situation(s).

Sometimes, it could mean that each of you need a light moment.

A break from planning would be nice. Yes, you are under time constrains but never put more pressure on yourself than you need. You will find that it will all work itself out.

As a woman, you want your fiancé involved because you are about to bond. If it appears that he seems like he is not involved as you think he should be, just remember, he hasn’t changed his mind. To add more to each other’s plate is not the best thing to do. To establish “ultimatums” to get your fiancé to respond to you isn’t healthy either.

Remember, a man usually will not see things the way that you do, and it’s the same for the woman. Two different view points doesn’t necessarily indicate a rift in the relationship.

Are you willing to accept his view point?

Are you willing to accept her view point?

Is it grounds for postponement? Annulment?

Usually, it isn’t.

There is just as much pressure on him that it is on you. At this point, you do not think so, but just know that both of you are under pressure. What will you do to make things better as opposed to making things unbearable is up to you.

You could either put rocks in your bed and sleep in it or take the rocks out and sleep in a nice bed.

We all know the saying.

“You’ve made your bed, now lie in it.”

You’ve invited a lot of friends and what they see, or what you want them to see is that your husband to be is happy about his selection. You want everyone to know that your marriage will work.

Weddings are a show to the world that your marriage is of God, that it is right, and that it will work.

Take the time to appreciate the moment.

There will be tough times ahead, but there will be good times ahead that will make whatever bad times you’ve experienced something to look back on and smile as you age together.

Secret Sexual Sins…The Dirtiest Of The Dirty

Pastors across this nation are still struggling with lust in their hearts. The media is using all sorts of “tricks” to keep them bound and “tricks” to lure a pastor back from his prison break.

When using the Internet to read certain stories, the “advertisement” around the articles display nothing but tempting sexual images. For the “wandering” eye, all it takes is for a man to be captured by the traps.

Lust in the heart left alive will kill.

If a man refuses to exercise discipline, it’s just a matter of time before that which he once refuse to click, will click on to that image to see more.

The writer of Proverbs was not kidding when he said that the sexually immoral woman, her house is the way to hell descending to the chambers of death (see Proverbs 7:27).

You do not have to be in her house physically to be a candidate for the chambers of death.

Many men arrive in their house by way of chat rooms. Twitter, Facebook, and other forms of social media is the same house.

Many men do not believe that they are doing wrong because they are not there physically. Which is further proof that sin is a spiritual condition that demands physical expression.

And chances are, it is expressed in masturbation or solo sex. You are pretending that you are having sex with that image on the screen. Spiritually, you have joined yourself to that harlot.

It’s not name calling because when you see a person having sex that is not their husband, remember, porn stars are prostitutes performing on the screen. No matter the amount and the venue, they are still getting paid.

As one other blogger said, many men that engage in pornography are masturbating, not just to that image but to that demon of lust. The evil spirits that govern this high place is using the image to capture your heart and should you not repent, you will descend into the chambers or (apartment/cell block) of death.

Remember, “Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death,” and “The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

Paul said that “I will not be brought under the power of any.”

When you give yourself to the lust in your mind and flesh, you are turning over control of your spirit, soul, and body, to demonic control. The only way out is when you make a “quality decision” to leave sexual sins and never return. Sometimes it takes confiding in someone to confess your secret sexual sins.

This is not a prerequisite for deliverance but repenting, confessing, and forsaking is imperative according to Matthew 4:17 and Proverbs 28:13.

The longer you stay in your sexual sins, and keep it a secret, it jeopardizes any chance of you being free. Your prayers will not be heard according to Psalm 66:18 and you cannot claim sonship as long as you sin, bound as a slave to sin according to John 8:32-36 and Romans 6:16-22.

Freedom begins in repentance from dead works. Freedom is maintained in strict obedience to the Word of God.

“How shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereunto according to Your Word. O let me not wonder from your commandments. Your Word have I hidden in my heart that I might not sin against You.”

Most men remain bound because they haven’t grasped the fact that demonic power is behind all sexual immorality.

satan doesn’t love you and that carrot on his sexual immoral stick, you will never get.

In sexual immorality, there is no satisfaction. As Jesus said to the woman at Jacob’s Well, if you drink this water, you will thirst again. So why do we keep going back to a well where this water of sexual immorality will never satisfy?

It’s in hopes that one day, we would be satisfied. Which is a lie of the devil.

And be real.

Even if you had that image in bed, there is a good chance that it will not be anything that you’ve imagined. Sexual fantasy only leads you deeper into a depraved state of mind. And then when a man refuses to be free or obey the Lord, it reveals that he is obstinate. Stubborn. Unwilling to obey. As the Bible says, “Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft and stubbornness is as iniquity.”

In fact, the dirt and the filth that is attached to sexual immorality took away any pleasure.

No man that has ever masturbated has ever escaped the condemnation of the conscience. For you know in your heart that you have sinned against God, and your body.

The power of lust, when you give yourself over to it destroys any prohibition because the deception of obtaining a “reward” of getting your lust fulfilled, clouds all prohibition.

Just like the book of Proverbs describes a foolish or simple man given over to the words of a harlot. “Like an ox to the slaughter.”

No person that gives themselves over to sexual immorality has ever escaped the slaughter. Like the Scriptures said, “Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”

Here is the list of the “Dirty Dozen.” Please click, copy and past to see this list.

Naked Pastor Caught In Adultery Almost Gets Shot

Several years ago, the Lord told me that more would be exposed for their Secret Sexual Sins.

True to His Word, the exposures continue.

It seems to me, out of preponderance of evidence, that this pastor does have lust in his heart and he took things to another level.

Not every pastor is a sex addict, but common sexual habits of pastors, or male and females in general point to level one sexual addiction activities. The progression is clear.

Level One: Porn, masturbation with or without porn, adultery, involving prostitutes or parishioners.

Most men involved with porn and masturbation will take things to the next level on level one. Tired of solo sex, they will engage in adultery or fornication. Even married men that get tempted to “try someone new” will lust after “strange flesh.”

Every man that has ever said that they wouldn’t cross the line has already planned to cross that line. In his mind, he already made “provision” to fulfill the lust of his flesh.

The only thing that he has to do is find a willing partner.

The wife that agreed to accept this immoral pastor’s sexual advances may have had an eye on this pastor too. Lust works on both sides of the fence. Women that come to church, some of them, do not come for the same reason. Vulnerable and gullible, they couldn’t resist the opportunity to fulfill the lust in their hearts.

One thing always lead to another quickly.

Eye contact during service or after service. Conversations that turn into connection conversations. Hand touching shoulders or handshakes that involve small talk with serious eye contact. Meeting at each other’s houses.

It is uncertain that the husband ignored his wife’s affection needs, or he did pay attention to her needs, but for her, it wasn’t enough. She may have felt the ungodly need to affirm her femininity by signaling to other men that she is “available.”

Women do that from time to time to see if they still have that “affect” on men.

Provocative dressing that reveal a little flesh that tempts the eyes of men to look. Wearing certain provocative scents to attract male attention.

While all of this is speculative of this situation, we know that theses are things that go on in the world. And the local church assembly is not exempt.

Then again, it is plausible that she could have enticed this pastor all along and he took the bait.

Look at Proverbs 7:18-23.

“Come, let us take our fill of love until morning;
Let us delight ourselves with love.
For my husband is not at home;
He has gone on a long journey;
He has taken a bag of money with him,
And will come home on the appointed day.”
With her enticing speech she caused him to yield,
With her flattering lips she seduced him.
Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter,
Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks,
Till an arrow struck his liver.
As a bird hastens to the snare,
He did not know it would cost his life.”

This scenario is possibly the way it went down.

The husband found out that his son was not picked up from school and when the husband came home, he found the pastor and his wife in his daughter’s bedroom having adulterous sex. It is no doubt that she suggested having sex in that room as opposed to her bedroom to avoid detection.


Nonetheless, the husband caught them and he went to get his gun.

As he was retrieving his gun, that’s when the pastor made a quick exit without his clothes.

According to the Christian Post, it was a close call. His wife somehow persuaded her husband not to shoot him. Which means that this pastor was seconds from death.

Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honorable among all and the bed undefiled (unsoiled), but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”

Which means that if this pastor had been killed, God would have judged him.

Revelation 21:8 says that “….sexual immoral….will be cast into the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.”

There is no question that this pastor would have ended up in hell if he had been shot and killed. Some professed believers would beg to differ on these Scriptures. It goes to show you that sin is nothing to them and that they think that just because he was a good pastor, that he will go to heaven anyway.

Just because you are a pastor, it is not a given that you are automatically on the “roll.”

Notice Ezekiel 18:24-26.

“But when a righteous man turns away from his righteousness and commits iniquity, and does according to all the abominations that the wicked man does, shall he live?

All the righteousness which he has done shall not be remembered; because of the unfaithfulness of which he is guilty and the sin which he has committed, because of them he shall die.

“Yet you say, ‘The way of the Lord is not fair.’

Hear now, O house of Israel, is it not My way which is fair, and your ways which are not fair? When a righteous man turns away from his righteousness, commits iniquity, and dies in it, it is because of the iniquity which he has done that he dies.”

Many will say that this is OT, we are under grace.

Romans 6:1 says, “Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not!”

The purpose of grace is not so you could continue in sin but to be free from it. The provision of grace demands a departure from sin.

Paul tells us in 2 Timothy 2:19 that “Those that name the name of Christ, depart from iniquity.”

You cannot be righteous and wicked at the same time (read 2 Corinthians 6:14-18).

We will hear about more pastors caught in the web of secret sexual sins. With the days of Noah and Lot upon us, you can count on it.

Pastors/Boys, HIV/AIDS & Cancers

This is a subject probably least discussed but in the midst of the greatest pandemic in history, we see that there is a considerable risk of acquiring full blown AIDS during MSM (Men having sex with men.)

The government and the public has put out many ads about getting tested and the amount of people infected with this disease, as with other sexually transmitted diseases goes underreported.

The fear of discovery and the treatments that men and women face is embarrassing to them but that’s the price of shame when sexual immorality is committed. That’s the down side in the natural, but this “shame” could be avoided if a person refrains from committing any sexual sins, including the vile sin of homosexuality.

For the last few years and during the Obama administration, there has been a campaign to normalize homosexuality. Anything with a sexually transmitted disease is not normal. Men having sex with men and women having sex with women is not normal. And everyone knows it.

To legalize it with “marriage,” and discrimination legislation, homosexuals are hoping that if the general population would accept them as normal, then everything would be fine.

But the failure of this agenda of normalizing homosexuality, in all honesty, hasn’t dissuaded the diseases from manifesting. There is a price to be paid when people engage in risky behavior and sadly, millions, if not billions have suffered for it.

According to one particular sight, these are the “types of cancer that are known to be associated with HIV/AIDS include the following:

Kaposi’s sarcoma
Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma
Hodgkin’s disease
Cervical cancer
Anal squamous cell carcinoma
Primary CNS lymphoma”

Men having sex with men carries a considerable risk.

These are just a few of the risks associated that the media and other outlets will deliberately refuse to get over to the general public.

When you hear in the news of certain people, notable people who have been discovered or rumored to have had sex with boys, and they’ve died of cancer, one can’t help but connect the dots. And depending upon the person that may have acquired cancer, it may not be the case.


Because we will never know until afterwards.

Then why write this blog?

The answer is very simple. It’s now common determination that same sex sins reveal a considerable risk of acquiring HIV/AIDS and when a person receives cancer, it is determined by the medical field that that person has full blown AIDS.

If a person never had sex with another person of the same sex, then this blog is a mute point. When there is even the hint or allegation of men having sex with men, and cancer shows up, the preponderance suggests that homosexuality may be at the root.

That’s why not all cases are homosexual cases.

But when it comes to accusations, rumors, preponderance of evidence, and other substantiated and unsubstantiated information, when you see that a person involved, whether alleged or not, in homosexuality, we can’t close our eyes to the trail of dots that lead to a common conclusion.

For instance, the death of Zachary Tims.

NYPD found a “white powdery substance” in the hotel room where his body was found. The mother of Tims had the medical examiner’s report sealed until a judge ordered the unsealing of the cause of death almost a year later.

The emotional heat of protecting her son from the stigmatization of being a pastor on drugs was too much. Especially when you are a well known pastor.

It was a common conclusion that many have known all along that Zachary Tims never recovered from his past. The combination of sexual immorality, alcohol, and drugs will always be prevalent.

So, in the heat of any discovery, we want to cover up as much as possible, a person’s past so as not to taint a person’s vision of what prominent people appear to be when the “light’s, camera, and action” is on.

Sometimes we deceive ourselves because we just can’t believe that such a death happened in such a way. We want, so bad, to believe the best of others, which is what love demands. But love, in that same chapter (1st Corinthians 13) “does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth.”

While love covers a multitude of sins, love still “does not rejoice in iniquity…”

That’s the Biblical balance that few believers and pastors have a problem with balancing.

I do not believe that we should bring harm or disgrace to those caught in the trap of sexual, drug, and alcohol, or money, and food addictions, but we must all learn to reach into the admonition of Paul with balance.

In the quest for pointing out the sins of other, we fail to use the full import of Matthew 7:1-5. Paul admonished that we must “Take heed lest we fall….” Too busy demonizing and not mindful of demons lurking in our own thought life.

To avoid one story, to cover up a story is deception. To “angelize” (made up word- not in Webster’s) people and pastors is a grave mistake.

Too often we try so hard to overwhelm our minds with what good people have done but leave out the tragedy of sin entering the life of people and leaders.

Hoping that the good that they’ve done would outweigh the bad that they’ve done.

Grace is about learning how not to be so overbearing or extreme about either side.

For anyone that is a pastor, it gives anyone with common sense, pause to reflect circumspectly, about how we are living our lives before the Lord.

I said all that to say that when a person dies of cancer, and it is unrelated to homosexuality, that is one thing.

The other thing is that the evidence is clear that anyone that is known to practice this transgression of homosexuality, will eventually experience its tragedy of dying a horrible unnecessary death.

Death by cancer resulting from homosexual relations is avoidable.

But worse than that is the fact that unless there is genuine repentance, and faith towards God, appropriating the blood of Jesus, the Bible tells us that “The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

That’s why when not enough information is forthcoming, many people will declare that it’s none of our business. When there is speculation, many people will say that it is none of our business.

And that’s true to an extent.

But when the dots become big and the evidence is overwhelmingly forthcoming and apparent to ignore, do we continue the charade, or do we COME CLEAN?

Pregnant Unmarried Female Pastor

Last week a person posted on FB of a female pastor, presumably in NYC, that got pregnant.

Not by her husband but by her fornicating lover.

The Bible is clear about fornication and adultery, yet, we’ve learned to live a delusional life to the point where certain Scriptures do not apply.

Therefore, we do not comply.

While there are many instances of male pastors impregnating females in the church, and outside the church, this is the first story that I came across where a female pastor sinned against God and became pregnant.

The child is not “punishment,” but the result of, not an untimely pregnancy, but because of a lack of self control in the area of sex.

There is no such thing as an untimed pregnancy. If that were the case then the sex was untimely. Sex within the boundaries of holy matrimony is permitted and the producing of a child is the expected result, whether you are ready for a child or not.

Now I know that there are many that hold true to Paul’s teaching about women in ministry that they are not to have authority over men in the church. There is no question about what Paul said, however, looking at the total counsel of God, we remember Aquilla and Pricilla who were companions with Paul that ministered the gospel. This husband and wife team were responsible for bring Apollos up to speed with the NT.

So before we discount women pastors, let’s be careful not to throw the baby out with the bath water. I am not justifying this particular female pastor, just adding balance to women preachers that most opponents do not add to their argument.

In the case of this female “pastor,” she attempts to justify her sin but listing what goes on in the church. Let’s be clear. What people do in the church reflects either they are born again or they are not. Or at the very least, they are sense or flesh ruled believers.

Paul alluded to this in the book of 1 Corinthians and wrote this epistle as a scathing epistle to get them to repent with godly sorrow.

And that’s the case these days.

Very few messages preached today has the convicting power of the Holy Spirit where the fear of God is evident, but what is also evident is that the people love God more than sin. They’ve learned to love the Lord God with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength.

The combination of the fear of God, and the love for God is the true place where people worship the Lord in “spirit and in truth.”

There is no justification for sin and to excuse it is very deceptive teaching that Jesus talked about in the Book of the Revelation of Jesus Christ.

The Lord Jesus spoke of Jezebel being allowed to teach fornication. Not in the OT Jezebel, but the NT Jezebel. When you have females that become pastors and live a life of fornication, while they may not specifically teach that fornication is good, their lives teach that it is good.

As Paul said “A little leaven leavens the whole lump.”

This is what takes place more often than we are willing to admit.

That even female “pastors” are susceptible to commit sin in the pulpit and preach the next Sunday like male “pastors” do.

This act will not go away quickly and disappear and women in the church better take notice. The holy women of God need to step up and teach chastity to the younger women.

Sadly, the members of this church didn’t call for her to step down from ministry. They did not demand accountability. Instead, they rallied around her to give her “emotional” support.

While it is very easy to be condemning, we must first of all, return to the standard of the Word of God. When you honor your sons above the Lord, that’s the spirit of Eli in 1st Samuel. We are so quick to call sin a “mistake” that we fear offending people and don’t mind offending God.

Second, there must be true repentance out of godly sorrow. If you are not sorry about sinning against the Lord, you will commit that same sin again. The offense against God will be committed over and over again.

Third, if the leader sinned before the people, Paul said the elder that sins rebuke before all that you would be in fear. Exposure is the last resort when we insist and persist in sin.

There used to be a time when there would be shame when sin is committed. There used to be a time when you would rebuke others in front of others that there would be a genuine fear not to sin.

Fourth, it is not the child’s fault that the female and male fornicated, so the child should not be punished. The child is an illegitimate child. I’m not saying that the child is of lesser value as a person. The child was conceived in sin, outside of wedlock.

Fifth, there must be a consistent spiritual health check in the fellowship because no one is immune to temptation. Paul said to “take heed, lest we fall.”

We need to actively engage in preventing sin from swallowing alive every believer. If this female pastor fell, no one is exempt.

Again, I suspect that there are many other cases along these lines that went unreported because of the shame, but now that this female pastor put this out and excused herself, other female pastors will follow suit.

This is the climate that we are in that lawlessness is the law in the world and has invaded the church. There is no tears and there is no fear of God before our eyes.

This female pastor need to know that the standard is more important than your feelings. What we done by this female pastor is give every other male and female permission to do the same, expecting the same support and no conviction.

We must never mistake conviction for condemnation.

Remember what Paul said, “There is therefore now no condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit. For the law of the spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.”

You see. That’s what’s needed to be exemplified, taught, lived, and shared as admonishment, instruction in righteousness, and correction.

You do not have to fail into the sin you love the most. You can obey the Lord and live in obedience to the law of spirit of life in Christ Jesus so you can remain free from the law of sin and death.

You can read this “pastor’s” blog about her sin….

BLM Inclusive Of Homosexuality

imageWhen you want to get at the root of things, all you need is a little information and the rest is history.

This is not speculation or a wild goose chase. There is meat on this rabbit and the trail is fresh.

Just looking to verify whether or not the founders of Black Lives Matters if they were lesbians, I went directly to their site and I couldn’t find any information but what I did find is equally important.

UPDATE: So far two co founders are confirmed homosexuals. Alicia Garza and Patrisse Cullors, the third Opal Tometi, has WH connections, but so far, no homosexual tendencies. 

Black Lives Matter is supportive and inclusive of the homosexual agenda.

For this to be a big deal, we see that they do not mind if the homosexuals use their famed title “Black Lives Matters.”

Queer Black Lives Matter

So long as the homosexuals give the credit to Black Lives Matters, they do not care.

It is clear that if any organization is going to play with one of the most outspoken organizations, we’ve should have known that the homosexual agenda will exploit any organization to gain as much recognition to be credible.

Black Lives Matter had its roots in Florida after Travon Martin was killed. There are stories about the organization being a terrorist organization instead of a political statement to address racial issues.

It is known that political operatives have infiltrated the organization and used the cover of BLM to foster riots and even attack police officers and other law enforcement personnel.

What I am getting at, to cut to the chase, is that we need to examine everything to see the root cause of certain issues and stop taking for face value the validity and viability of political movements. We need to see the interconnectedness of such organizations and uncover their agenda.

Now this is not to say that Queer Black Lives Matters is at the forefront of BLM. But at this point, it is included. It leaves us all speechless that on their website, there is not one word about babies in the womb being killed by the most hideous organization, backed by the federal government to ensure Black population remains subdued.

Black Lives Matters have yet to realize that more Black people were killed in the womb than the middle passage and all lynching and shooting of Black people since 1620 COMBINED.

There is no outrage and so far, not one protest in front of Planned Parenthood.

Some Black pastors and people in the church are not outraged about abortion either.

They are quick to side in with a movement, with connections to the homosexual agenda that do not stand for the truth. The reason is obvious. Sympathetic to the plight of Black lives being killed by police officers. The emotional connections could easily blind anyone to the true agenda behind this movement.

In fact, few will admit that the real problem is not a killing clinic open for business. Planned Parenthood and other lesser known abortion clinics are just waiting on people of all races to make their “mistake” and take advantage of people’s refusal to get it right by getting married.

The real problem has always been sexual immorality in the house of worship and obviously in the world; issues that the Bible clearly address as fornication (whoremonger) and adultery, the fuel of abortion.

But to see that Black Lives Matter is inclusive of the homosexual agenda is not that surprising.

Thing is, for those of you that is sympathetic to this agenda, terrorist connections or not, are you tolerable for BLM being connected and inclusive of the vile sin of homosexuality?

If you are, then if you claim to be a member of the Body of Christ, it is impossible for you to claim being a Christian but you sanction, not only adultery, whore-mongering, and homosexuality, but murder a child as well.

All such as Paul said will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.

Check for yourself.

No Longer Under The Power Of Masturbation


Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:12 “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”

All over the world, men and women continue to struggle with this last area of sexual immorality. Many still believe that there is nothing wrong with masturbation and consider it as a healthy part of sexuality.

Many will use no Scripture from the Bible to justify masturbation and with their excuses, declare that their own reasoning is enough justification. Then there are those that will always say that there is nothing in the Bible that says that masturbation is a sin.

As one person put it very well, if you have to ask to see if it is a sin, automatically, your conscience told you already that it was.

There is nothing in Scriptures that say that masturbation is prohibited and there is nothing in the Scriptures that permits masturbation. 

So where does this leave a person?

It leaves a person to walk as Jesus walked.

1 John 2:6 (NKJV Strong’s,)
“He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.”

If Jesus needed to masturbate and if HE did masturbate, then this is all the justification needed because……

Romans 8:29 (NKJV Strong’s,)
“For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren.”

True believers want to conform to the image of Jesus. In other words, to be like Him.

Born again believers that look for justification to masturbate must ask themselves this question.

Did Jesus masturbate? 

The answer is found in Hebrews 4:15.

“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.”

Jesus said in John 8:29,

“And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.”

Then Paul said in Romans 8:8-11 “So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God. But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is not His.

And if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.

But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.”

If Paul is telling us that was are to be “dead to sin,” that includes sexual immorality. 

Many believers are ruled by masturbation and yearn to be free, but do not know how to break free.

First, there must be a desire to love God more than masturbation.

Matthew 22:37-38 “Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment.”

To prove that you love the Lord, obedience must prevail over your desire to fulfill the lust of the flesh.

How could this be possible?

Matthew 16:24-26……”Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?”

You have to make a clean break, cold turkey, if you desire to come afterJesus. You must put to death those desires, urges and impulses. Crucify them without hesitation. Because in the world of lust to fulfill it by masturbation, you could gain that one moment of sexual tension release and be satisfied, BUT, the urges return the moment remorse has ended.

The impulse returns the moment you get over the fact that you’ve failed.

Many of us revolved instead of resolved to overcome by the grace and power of the Holy Spirit. We grieve the heart of the Father in sin and we continue in it as if we are hopeless.

The moment we decide that we desire Jesus more than fulfilling the lusts of the flesh and mind, we must never allow ourselves, by God’s help and grace, to return to the place where we are under its power.

So there’s two things we’ve seen so far.

  1. That we must learn to love God more than masturbation.
  2. That we must crucify the flesh.

Here is the third ingredient (if you will) to this.

The one thing that we see consistently beginning in the Book of Beginnings is “self control.”

The fruit of the Spirit recorded in Galatians 5:22, the last fruit mentioned is “self control.”

The Garden of Eden was all about self control in patient obedience to the commandment of God. As long as Adam and Eve obeyed the Lord, they were operating in self control. They failed and brought death into the earth. Now out of control, the Lord Jesus was sent to operate in obedience (see Hebrews 5:8 and Philippians 2:8) to restore the love for the Lord, obedience to His commands, and out of that obedience, operate in self control as long as we are in this mortal body.

This obedience to the Lord is required.  To declare that we are no longer under the power of masturbation, it is imperative that obedience becomes the paramount result of our love for the Lord over everything, including fulfilling our own desires in masturbation.

“Self control” is seen again in 2 Peter 1:6 and 1 Corinthians 9:24-27.

We cannot do this alone. That’s why we need the help of the Holy Spirit using 1 Corinthians 10:13 and James 1:2-8.

Many people in the world and a few people in the church will sneer at this and joke about this. That’s fine (NOT!!!!), but if you are serious about breaking free, and staying free, this is your moment. This is the fight of your life. As I have said, this is the Goliath of our times. This is MOAB, the Mother OF All Battles.

To win over Goliath, it is not enough to put a rock in his head.

You must have no mercy, take Goliath’s own sword, and cut his head off.

You do not have to be brought under the power of masturbation when the greatest power over masturbation is available to you, to make you free.