The qualifications of a bishop (overseer, presbyter, elder, pastor) are clear.
1 Timothy 3:1-7 (NKJV) This is a faithful saying: If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach;
not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?);
not a novice, lest being puffed up with pride he fall into the same condemnation as the devil. Moreover he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.“
Why do pastors cross the line?
Lust in the heart.
James 1:14-15 is clear.
James 1:14-15 (NKJV) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.“
Within the hearts is a sexual desire. I said hearts.
The male and the female.
Immoral women have a sexual desire to be touched and they become “passive hunters.” Provocatively dressed, they’re prepared to entice a “powerful” speaker.
At the same time, the male is an “active hunter.” They seek out a woman for a sexual conquest.
When they cross at an intersection, all it takes is for a natural attraction encounter, and the two, unless the pastor is “temperate,” they will connect.
The sexually immoral pastor will look for reasons to engage in adultery if they’re married, or if they’re single, they will will look for reasons to engage in fornication. The same applies to bisexuals or homosexuality.
Crossing at the intersection is deliberate.
It’s intended to get their attention. Once their attention is gained, the planning is in its first stage. This is where one sizes up and get intelligence on their vulnerabilities and play them to their advantage.
It goes without saying that most conquests are demonically inspired.
We see this with Samson and Delilah. Potiphar’s wife and Joseph. Ahab and Jezebel. Jezebel in the book of Revelation.
Whenever there’s a personality powerful person, the attraction is used against them. Even more prevalent, is when a holy man of God is used mightily by God, it will not take long for an “ASSIGNMENT” from satan to be initiated.
So a male pastor, married or single, must institute safe guards, guardrails, and self discipline to remain established in the Lord in personal holiness to avoid sexual immorality.
Proverbs 31:1-3 (NKJV) “The words of King Lemuel, the utterance which his mother taught him:
What, my son?
And what, son of my womb?
And what, son of my vows?
Do not give your strength to women,
Nor your ways to that which destroys kings.”
The one place where men give their strength to women is in the bedroom.
The bedroom is the place where the heart of men is captured. His power is used against him.
Seduction unlocks the heart, which unleashes his power. He will say “yes” to almost everything when you give him sex.
Every man that yielded their strength to women were destroyed.
Proverbs 7:25-27 (NKJV) “Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways,
Do not stray into her paths;
For she has cast down many wounded,
And all who were slain by her were strong men.
Her house is the way to hell,
Descending to the chambers of death.”
Men seldom see the set up. Blinded by a desire to be bolstered in front of people. Blinded by flattery, he doesn’t see that the beginning stages of being played are in place.
We all want to be nice to people, especially women, but if you’re not watching and praying, it’s just a matter of time before the trap closes.
Being hospitable must never turn into a sexual conquest. Pastors should be nice to people, but the safe guards, guardrails, self disciplines must remain in place.
Pastors can be approachable and friendly, but you must never allow yourself to sexually cross the line.
A woman’s beauty is their world, but it could be a tool to get into your heart.
A woman’s genuine vulnerabilities could also be taken advantage by a male pastor that turns into a predator/wanderer. Women that confide in a male pastor could be taken advantage.
It’s not all a woman’s fault, unless, on her part, the intent to deceive is present.
She could appear with a seemingly legitimate vulnerability, but she could also use it as a tool to get to the heart of a pastor.
With false preachers and pastors, the whole intent of their “ministries” is to exercise such influence that unsuspecting women will give themselves to a predator, and come under a man’s personality and be used sexually.
That’s why it’s important for women to have guardrails, safe guards and discipline themselves. When you hear or see something that’s trying to attract you to them, have enough sense to disconnect and run from that place.
A married man that was an apologist was attracted to a married woman. She was attracted to his ability to explain the Scriptures. He appeared legitimate, with no noticeable alarms with the use of Scripture.
He rightfully divided the Scriptures. He was the rave of the modern Christian world.
With this woman, she connected with him on the internet. It wouldn’t be long before he would spring the trap. She started to see something and she broke off. She was wise to explain it to her husband. This apologist crossed the line and accused her of sending sexually explicit photos, which was a lie to cover up what he was doing.
He was sexually setting her up.
His world renown organization declared him as a man of integrity and that he would never cross the line.
While these allegations were vigorously defended, pictures emerged of a sullen looking individual. He was diagnosed and was dying of cancer. After his death, more was uncovered and his impeccable, blameless reputation as a “man of integrity” was destroyed.
While he was alive, they’ve surrounded his life like an army would with wagons.
As an unbiased investigation ensued, and after his death, the real person emerged.
His secondary sexual lifestyle became plain for all to see. The organization made a terrible mistake in surrounding him.
After the allegations became substantiated, their worst fears came to light.
He was a sexual predator.
It would only be after his passing that the truth emerged.
It’s concluded that his body was delivered to satan for the destruction of the flesh, that his spirit would be saved (see 1 Corinthians 5:1-5).
Women have a duty to remain pure before the Lord as well as the pastor.
Neither one, for the sake of His name, should cross the line.