Avoiding Masculine And Feminine Seduction In Church

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It’s part of the evil menu of satanic temptation.

Women that look to lure a holy man of God into the bedroom or hotel room which ultimately leads both of them down the steps into hell.

Many women feel that they are the victim all of the time. It is true that lusting pastors look to take advantage of an emotionally damaged woman but when you look at the other side of the situation, in her vulnerability, she will fall into temptation just as easily as a lust filled pastor.

While many will argue about it, it is clear that satan always look to use someone to trip up a pastor.

Especially holy men of God that is disciplined in the Word and the Lord.

And satan will use a perverted pastor to trip up a holy woman of God. This is a two way street.

What’s also lurking in the house of worship are homosexual plants. They too are on the lookout for lust filled same sex with people in leadership.

Sexual immorality is a critical sign of the last days. As Secret and Overt Sexual Sins increase in the world, where there is no discipline in the pastor and in people in the church, we will watch these things intensify. That’s why the pastor must take heed before they find themselves overwhelmed with sin.

It’s not worth going to hell over.

Being that this is the most prevalent sexual sin in the church that gets immediate attention, that is, seductive women coming into the church to take out a pastor or a pastor luring unstable emotional women, we see that we must institute absolute disciple to escape the corruption.

A male pastor, whether married or single, must enforce a strict discipline upon himself. We cannot stop women from coming to church, dressed provocatively. In most cases, we can’t prevent them from sitting in certain high visible places where there is a clear line of sight. We can’t prevent most after service contact or interaction between pastors and women.

Every male pastor is different. Some pastors allow themselves to be available to females for counseling and other forms of interaction. Some pastors interact with females after service during “meet and greets.” These seemingly innocent interactions are also potential seed planting grounds where attraction and enticement” unsuspectingly takes its course.

If there is no caution, prevention, or discipline, it’s just a matter of time before innocent contact turns into deliberate sexual immorality.

But interaction and professional contact could be maintained.

Two elements must be discussed.

  1. Attraction to power.
  2. Attraction to beauty.

In many church services, the preacher is the main event. Sadly, his personality and emotional energy is an attraction to women. At the same time, some, not all women, preconceive in their minds what to wear to attract a pastor with her beauty.

A few years ago, I was attending a service and after the service, a young woman in a tight fitting, low cleavage, knee high dark blue dress walked up to a married elder in his church. He and I drove to his church that morning. I knew what this was. It was a set up. It doesn’t take much to see a trap walking.

How he handles his emotions after the service is the tale of the tape.

It is during these times that he is emotionally vulnerable. This is where he can forget that he just handled the Word of God. If he fails to maintain his holiness in the Lord, it is very easy to cross the line and engage in inappropriate behavior that leads to sexual sin.

The moments after the service is over is where he feels powerful. This is where the four “E’s” of ministry come into play.

  1. Elitism.
  2. Empowerment.
  3. Entitlement
  4. Expediency.    

It’s very easy to operate in the soul and transfer all that “power” into sexuality.

Male sexuality and male sexual drive is at its peak and if a man is not careful, it is not long before he will engage.

Let’s explain the four “E’s.”

When you have preached a message that is powerful, you feel that you are in an elite class or status. Top of the world, so to speak. This place of elitism is also called pride. It is there that women will applaud you or give you encouragement. Whether it is innocent or deliberate, you must guard your heart. This is not to put women down but it is meant to be on guard for the intent.

After receiving that “compliment” you feel empowered.

Like you are the most powerful man on earth.

Then you deceive your heart into thinking that you’re entitled to anything.

Then you operate in expediency – “(of an action) convenient and practical, although possibly improper or immoral:”

So when James 1:14-15 is in operation, it spells doom.

How do you avoid this?

It all depends upon you.

To what lengths are you willing to go to protect what God gave you?

Will you be Joseph or will you be Job? Will you be Ahab or will you be Samson? Or will you be like Jesus?

Joseph escaped but he was in the right place taking care of Pharaoh’s business but in close proximity to Pharaoh’s wife at the wrong time. Job said that he never lusted with his eyes in the 31st chapter. Ahab gave himself over to Jezebel, even though he was married to her. Samson had lust in his heart. Jesus had sexual disciple among women.

So how do you avoid deliberate feminine seduction?

If you are a single pastor and women approach you, if you have a trusted elderly woman in the house, ask her to deal with the younger women in church.

Notice Paul’s instruction to Titus in the second chapter of this epistle.

Titus 2:1-5 “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience;

the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things — that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”

If the younger women insist that they see the male pastor, it is a signal that must not be ignored. Not every young woman is looking to “score” like men are looking to “score,” but it is best to err on the side of good judgment and as a male pastor, insist that she see an older woman for counseling.

Most pastors have female secretaries. This is where the most interaction gets very personal and close. And this is where the most trip ups occur. Depending upon the size of the church, the need for a secretary will vary but this is also the very place where more attention must be paid in terms of sexual discipline. Not every female secretary is looking to score. But when a lust filled pastor or secretary is vulnerable, they will attempt to take advantage.

It’s not always during church service that interaction is occurring. Seduction can happen during the week with staff people.

In closing, we need to pay more attention to our marriages if you are a married pastor. The enemy is looking to devour you and your family. It’s not just the pastor that the devil wants to destroy. The devil will destroy the mistress, the wife, and the kids. The devil is not satisfied until there is complete destruction. So be on your guard at all times.

If you are single, you need to pay attention to your surroundings and maintain your sanctification.

Otherwise, you are another sad story for others to read about.

1 Peter 5:8-9a “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith…”