Billy Graham’s Grandson Commits Adultery – Ministerial Suicide By Adultery?

Just a few days ago, the Lord told me that the devils on the earth have said, “If the believers knew how to walk like Christ, we would be under their feet every day.”

The price of adultery among pastors is always incalculable. In this hour where sexual immorality is plaguing the world, the church needs to be a beacon of light in a dark world. But when the devil can cause a well known minister to fall into Secret or Overt Sexual Sins, it gives our work of the ministry another black eye.

We disqualify ourselves and render ourselves unfit for the service of the Master.

The world will look at us a incapable of living to the standards that we’ve been preaching to them about.

However, just because people fail the standard, it doesn’t mean that the standard failed in and of itself.

Jesus said, “Heaven and earth will pass away but My Words will never pass away.”

Preachers. The last thing we need is to give the devil more ammunition to choke the church into submission.

The devils is not looking for us to “tap out.” 

This anaconda is looking to squeeze the life out of the church and swallow us whole.

But Jesus said, “The gates of hell shall not prevail against the church.”

First, based on the story, the wife of Tullian Tchividjian, the son of the eldest daughter of Billy Graham, admitted to committing adultery. In turn, or should I say, in RETURN, he felt justified to commit adultery too.

Years ago, when I came out from the darkness of Secret Sexual Sins, I took note of the many ministers that were caught in the web of sexual sins.

One by one, they would fall.

The Lord would tell me that this would not be the last. That more would fall along the way.

The Lord was true to the letter.

In both cases of the wife committing adultery and the husband committing adultery, two wrongs do not make a right.

Ministry is fair game and is a level playing field.

From the plains of Moab (Mother of All Battles) to today, sexual immorality to destroy a ministry is ever present.

It is clear that when you leave your family vulnerable, there is a good chance that satan will take advantage of it.

Sex is a very powerful tool that the enemy uses to destroy ministers and their ministries. As Paul said, we must take heed, lest we fall.

As many of us have been saying, no one is exempt from sexual temptation. If we fail to watch ourselves every moment, we will be sucked under the undercurrent and drown in sin. If no one rescues us, we are forever lost according to Revelation 21:8.

It doesn’t matter the name brand of preachers.

It’s a level playing field. We are all fair game.

We do not have to be well known and then again, we can be well known.

The devil doesn’t care, He will go after anyone that is willing to drink of the mud of sexual immorality to bring dishonor to the name of the Lord. That’s why it is important that we take heed and never leave our marriages vulnerable.

If you are married, your first ministry is your marriage. God will not fault you for making sure that your marriage has integrity. Your ministry might be a mess, but it is better to have a messy ministry than to have a messy marriage. This is no excuse to allow your ministry to be in disarray.

When a man marries a ministry, it is adultery.

Now this is not to say that this is the case with Tullian Tchividjian.

I will say that up to this point, it gives the appearance that there was neglect in the marriage. It very well could have been both of them neglecting each other. Or it could be just one person neglecting the other. Sometimes a man could use ministry as an excuse to get away from a wife that is seeking his attention. Or there could be other resolvable issues that he or she is seeking to get away from.

Again this is speculative because we do not know the circumstances.

But it gives us a glimpse into the fact that whatever the case may be, we need to be more diligent about maintaining our marriages with integrity. If there are differences, and no marriage on earth doesn’t have differences, to do the best to resolve them as quickly as possible. Otherwise the enemy will exploit those differences just as satan did in the Garden of Eden.

I find it that many will not learn from this lesson and more adulterous relationships will continue, but it is not worth going to hell over. And it is not worth losing your place in the Body of Christ to lead people to live holy lives before God.

Some will learn from this lesson and begin to make changes to foster good marriages while in ministry. Many will make the necessary heart and attitude changes so that they could avoid the same pitfalls of many marriages.

Some will go the extra mile to see that each others needs is met. To pray and seek the help of God to have a healthy marriage.

Not all marriages that end in adultery is a porn and masturbation issue. 

However, we should check to make sure that this is not an issue.

Finally, in reading comment on FB, a person shared that adultery was used to get out of the ministry.

It is possible because it’s called (newly coined) Ministerial Suicide By Adultery.

The person shared that it’s been done before by many persons in the ministry.

It’s when a person has had enough of ministry that the deliberately commit adultery because they know that it’s a sure way to be removed from the pulpit. In a way, it may have some truth to it, but, why not just resign the pulpit? Or why not groom an experienced pastor to assume the pulpit?

It’s so much better than conceiving a disgraceful way to end a ministry.

Usually, after the pastor has an adulterous relationship, the flock abandons the ministry.

It’s not rare that people stay to make the remaining ministry work. It has been done where recovery is possible. Some churches survive and thrive. Others experience a decline in attendance, thus reducing its numbers, but the church remains intact. Others have closed their doors forever.

We must never underestimate the power of the enemy to destroy a ministry.

Again, this is a level playing field and everyone need to be even more diligent, sober, and vigilant.

Father, we pray for this family that they would recover from the snare of the enemy. That the grace of God would enter their minds and foster an atmosphere of healing. May repentance be granted from God. May God restore to them the joy of His salvation. Lord, let your will be done.

Let us recognize the price of sexual failure. But let us also recognize that forgiveness is granted to those that repent of wickedness. The Body of Christ is stained once again. The fiery dart of the wicked one has once again been shot. It has found it’s mark because the shield of faith was dropped in battle. 

Lord, we cannot cover sin for to do so, no one can prosper. But when we confess and forsake sin, we shall obtain mercy.

Lord, there is no excuse for this. For You have given us everything that we need to overcome.

The blood of Jesus is available as always to wash us and make us clean, provided we come with humble hearts to seek its cleansing power.

Only the blood of Jesus is powerful enough to remove the stains of sin. Only the grace of God is powerful enough to sustain the weak in weak moments. Let Your grace prevail. Let not the enemy gloat over this. 

In Jesus’ name. Amen.

The story could be read here.