One Big Lie Started It All: The Stonewall Riots

In a FB post, they have a new saying that “It’s A Rainbow Day.”

Of course it’s referring to June 26, 2015.

Then another statement under this.

“Love Wins Out.”

When it comes to homosexuality, adultery, fornication, bisexuality, porn, and masturbation, it’s all about LUST!

According to the Scriptures, lust is the desire to have that which is forbidden.”

So, in order to have that which the Bible says is forbidden, you have to violate truth.

When the Stonewall riots took place, it wasn’t to go against homosexuals. NYPD was doing surveillance of the Mafia In a known homosexual establishment, but not on homosexuals and their vile behaviors. 

All of a sudden it flared up into a riot after the police raided the now historical landmark. 

Homosexuals stormed the streets. Cops were injured. And just like that, the surveillance was over and the homosexuals flip the script.
So ever since, it’s been a war of words.

Whose words will be believed?

So now even with the truth, people still believe the lies.

One lie after another.

So this nation is engulfed with lies that the elite of LGBT pushed for years until it was believed. They kept this little snow ball called lies rolling down the hill to form an avalanche.

But the one thing that the elite can’t get rid of is the truth. After the avalanche, truth still stands. Truth may have been buried, but truth still rises. Pesky as truth is, truth can never be destroyed because Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life….”

Yes, when Jesus hung on that cross, Truth was on that cross. But you can’t keep Truth dead. Truth was buried but was raised on the first day of the week. So no matter how many lies you speak, Truth will speak.

The elite of LGBT might be successful in ridding the United States of the First Amendment, but Truth will still be marching on. They might silence the voices of Truth, but Truth will find another believer with a voice to speak truth to power.

The elite doesn’t have a plan to eliminate Truth because He is seated at the right hand of God.

So what is the remedy for the hour?

For people to stand and speak the truth no matter the cost.

Yes, there is a price to pay, but the ultimate price for our sins was paid over two thousand years ago.

It will hurt because your relatives and friends agree with the lies. They will scream at you and call you everything but a child of God. They will even betray you and deny you. But thank God that God will not betray us or deny us.

Even should they be successful in manipulating the constitution, there is one major problem on their hands.

The Bible. The Truth. The Word of God.

They have no power to alter, destroy, or rid the earth of the most powerful Book on earth.

Yes, they can make their own book, and yes, they can alter certain words, but they are way too late since the Bible was here before them, and should Jesus tarry, it will be here after we are all gone. But somewhere somebody will have a copy of the original. God is that Smart to conceal the Word in the hearts of men and women should they take every Bible off the planet.

Homosexuals one big lie has another problem.

The manifestation of STDs which confirms that the sin of homosexuality has a problem.

No Supreme Court justice has the power to overrule consequential judgment.

The lie of safe homosexual sex is just that. One big lie.

The risks of violating the way God ordained sex is ever present.

Again, it is proof that sex between one man and one woman in marriage is the one of two place to avoid STDs.

Abstinence is the other place until marriage between one man and one female takes place.

But that’s just on one level.

It’s not heterosexuality that we are after.

It is holiness.

Sin is dirty and destructive.

Sin cannot satisfy the longing in the heart for God.

Sin cannot reward you with eternal life.

Sin’s payment is always death.

If you want to believe the lie that started it all, it’s your choice.

But there is a better way that leads to life in Christ.

When you are finished with the lust, and you’ve had enough of homosexual love-excuse me, lust,” the Lord is waiting to forgive you of all your sins and give you eternal life after you repent, and be born again.

But if you insist on believing the lie and the father of lies, Romans 6:23 says,

“For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

The lie of Stonewall could be seen here.

GCMWATCH – The Past Is Now The Present. 

Gay Christian Movement Watch put together a timeline that has materialized before our eyes.

The remarkable time line was largely ignored by many and we now pay for it as of June 26, 2015.

But we are not finished paying because until November 2016, should a democrat not get the WH, the urgency of the elite of LGBT is to put the true believers and preachers under utter bondage.

Take a look at this historic timeline.

http://www.gcmwatch.com/9129/bho-timeline

President Barack H. Obama: Hypocrite At Large

If there is ever a moment that we need to see what a hypocrite looks like in broad daylight, look no further than the current occupant of the WH. 

Many believe that it’s treasonous to speak ill of the president. But these same people will curse and use the name of the Lord in vain. 

Talk about hypocrisy. 

In Matthew 23, Jesus gives the spiritual leadership the best sermon needed for the hour. 

“Woe to you, scribes Pharisees, hypocrites, fools, blind, blind guides,”

In the morning hours, the president approves homosexual marriage after the SCOTUS rendered it’s 5 to 4 decision. 

In the afternoon, he is singing AMAZING GRACE?

Talk about applauding sin and then has nerve to talk or badly sing from his dark heart AMAZING GRACE?

What HYPOCRISY!!!!

And the pastors and church folk sang right behind him. Organ giving preacher’s cadence music. 

Talk about “bamboozled.”

Proverbs 14:15 is upon them. 

After all, it’s just a memorial service for nine persons killed. 

And folk fell for one of the greatest performances of bamboozlement of political cover for the expediency of the sins of abortion and homosexuality in history. 

Like I said, you have to understand that events do not take place because of coincidence. 

They are timed just right to conceal the real or MAIN ISSUE. 

Do not be deceived. 

I know all too well the life of hypocritical living and preaching. 

If you can fool anyone, it would be another hypocrite or it’s because you are too star struck to see a bamboozlement coming. 

The only way you can know a hypocrite is by the Word of God and by watching if their life lines up with the Word of God to see if it’s true or false living. 

When a professed believer declares emphatically that the president is a “Christian,” let me ask you something?

Can a Christian agree with abortion or the murder of innocent children?

Can a Christian agree with the sin of homosexuality?

If you said “Yes” to both, you are a hypocrite, to say the least.  

The Bible clearly states that you shall not murder and that homosexuality is an abomination. 

James 4:4 is clear. 

Your agreement reveals your hypocrisy. 

Many will say that you are attacking the president. Yup! Attacking him and his false claims of being a Christian. 

We are to put them to the test based on their actions. His actions proves his enemy status. If you can’t see it, you’re a hypocrite with the president, or you are misguided, lacking Biblical substantiation and justification. 

What we need to continuously do is whenever he shows hypocrisy, we must sound the alarm, less we be duped into thinking that he is what we know he isn’t. 

And being that God gives space for repentance, we leave that door open. While at the same time we watch his actions. 

God can turn hearts that is willing to repent. 

We wish no destruction on anyone, however, when a person refuses to repent because of a Pharaoh/Nebuchadnezzar spirit, then destruction and an end of a once powerful nation (America) must come to an end. 

Billy Graham’s Grandson Commits Adultery – Ministerial Suicide By Adultery?

Just a few days ago, the Lord told me that the devils on the earth have said, “If the believers knew how to walk like Christ, we would be under their feet every day.”

The price of adultery among pastors is always incalculable. In this hour where sexual immorality is plaguing the world, the church needs to be a beacon of light in a dark world. But when the devil can cause a well known minister to fall into Secret or Overt Sexual Sins, it gives our work of the ministry another black eye.

We disqualify ourselves and render ourselves unfit for the service of the Master.

The world will look at us a incapable of living to the standards that we’ve been preaching to them about.

However, just because people fail the standard, it doesn’t mean that the standard failed in and of itself.

Jesus said, “Heaven and earth will pass away but My Words will never pass away.”

Preachers. The last thing we need is to give the devil more ammunition to choke the church into submission.

The devils is not looking for us to “tap out.” 

This anaconda is looking to squeeze the life out of the church and swallow us whole.

But Jesus said, “The gates of hell shall not prevail against the church.”

First, based on the story, the wife of Tullian Tchividjian, the son of the eldest daughter of Billy Graham, admitted to committing adultery. In turn, or should I say, in RETURN, he felt justified to commit adultery too.

Years ago, when I came out from the darkness of Secret Sexual Sins, I took note of the many ministers that were caught in the web of sexual sins.

One by one, they would fall.

The Lord would tell me that this would not be the last. That more would fall along the way.

The Lord was true to the letter.

In both cases of the wife committing adultery and the husband committing adultery, two wrongs do not make a right.

Ministry is fair game and is a level playing field.

From the plains of Moab (Mother of All Battles) to today, sexual immorality to destroy a ministry is ever present.

It is clear that when you leave your family vulnerable, there is a good chance that satan will take advantage of it.

Sex is a very powerful tool that the enemy uses to destroy ministers and their ministries. As Paul said, we must take heed, lest we fall.

As many of us have been saying, no one is exempt from sexual temptation. If we fail to watch ourselves every moment, we will be sucked under the undercurrent and drown in sin. If no one rescues us, we are forever lost according to Revelation 21:8.

It doesn’t matter the name brand of preachers.

It’s a level playing field. We are all fair game.

We do not have to be well known and then again, we can be well known.

The devil doesn’t care, He will go after anyone that is willing to drink of the mud of sexual immorality to bring dishonor to the name of the Lord. That’s why it is important that we take heed and never leave our marriages vulnerable.

If you are married, your first ministry is your marriage. God will not fault you for making sure that your marriage has integrity. Your ministry might be a mess, but it is better to have a messy ministry than to have a messy marriage. This is no excuse to allow your ministry to be in disarray.

When a man marries a ministry, it is adultery.

Now this is not to say that this is the case with Tullian Tchividjian.

I will say that up to this point, it gives the appearance that there was neglect in the marriage. It very well could have been both of them neglecting each other. Or it could be just one person neglecting the other. Sometimes a man could use ministry as an excuse to get away from a wife that is seeking his attention. Or there could be other resolvable issues that he or she is seeking to get away from.

Again this is speculative because we do not know the circumstances.

But it gives us a glimpse into the fact that whatever the case may be, we need to be more diligent about maintaining our marriages with integrity. If there are differences, and no marriage on earth doesn’t have differences, to do the best to resolve them as quickly as possible. Otherwise the enemy will exploit those differences just as satan did in the Garden of Eden.

I find it that many will not learn from this lesson and more adulterous relationships will continue, but it is not worth going to hell over. And it is not worth losing your place in the Body of Christ to lead people to live holy lives before God.

Some will learn from this lesson and begin to make changes to foster good marriages while in ministry. Many will make the necessary heart and attitude changes so that they could avoid the same pitfalls of many marriages.

Some will go the extra mile to see that each others needs is met. To pray and seek the help of God to have a healthy marriage.

Not all marriages that end in adultery is a porn and masturbation issue. 

However, we should check to make sure that this is not an issue.

Finally, in reading comment on FB, a person shared that adultery was used to get out of the ministry.

It is possible because it’s called (newly coined) Ministerial Suicide By Adultery.

The person shared that it’s been done before by many persons in the ministry.

It’s when a person has had enough of ministry that the deliberately commit adultery because they know that it’s a sure way to be removed from the pulpit. In a way, it may have some truth to it, but, why not just resign the pulpit? Or why not groom an experienced pastor to assume the pulpit?

It’s so much better than conceiving a disgraceful way to end a ministry.

Usually, after the pastor has an adulterous relationship, the flock abandons the ministry.

It’s not rare that people stay to make the remaining ministry work. It has been done where recovery is possible. Some churches survive and thrive. Others experience a decline in attendance, thus reducing its numbers, but the church remains intact. Others have closed their doors forever.

We must never underestimate the power of the enemy to destroy a ministry.

Again, this is a level playing field and everyone need to be even more diligent, sober, and vigilant.

Father, we pray for this family that they would recover from the snare of the enemy. That the grace of God would enter their minds and foster an atmosphere of healing. May repentance be granted from God. May God restore to them the joy of His salvation. Lord, let your will be done.

Let us recognize the price of sexual failure. But let us also recognize that forgiveness is granted to those that repent of wickedness. The Body of Christ is stained once again. The fiery dart of the wicked one has once again been shot. It has found it’s mark because the shield of faith was dropped in battle. 

Lord, we cannot cover sin for to do so, no one can prosper. But when we confess and forsake sin, we shall obtain mercy.

Lord, there is no excuse for this. For You have given us everything that we need to overcome.

The blood of Jesus is available as always to wash us and make us clean, provided we come with humble hearts to seek its cleansing power.

Only the blood of Jesus is powerful enough to remove the stains of sin. Only the grace of God is powerful enough to sustain the weak in weak moments. Let Your grace prevail. Let not the enemy gloat over this. 

In Jesus’ name. Amen.

The story could be read here.

LGBT- Pushing BACK The Forces Of Darkness

The world has had its way with shoving the sin of homosexuality down the throats of believers and unbelievers.

All across the world, we are hearing of tremendous stories of believers doing what we were supposed to do, no matter what laws they pass.

As I have said, if the sin of homosexuality had any merits of its own, there would be no need to force the issue.

The church is PUSHing them back and we do not need to make any laws to make it happen.

Pray Until Something Happens.

Preach Until Sinners Hear.

Persevere Until Satan Hurts.

The momentum is picking up.

Here is a very powerful Scripture that gives us the basis for this PUSH.

Isaiah 59:18-20.

“According to their deeds, accordingly He will repay,
Fury to His adversaries,
Recompense to His enemies;
The coastlands He will fully repay.
“So shall they fear
The name of the Lord from the west,
And His glory from the rising of the sun;
When the enemy comes in like a flood,
The Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard against him.
“The Redeemer will come to Zion,
And to those who turn from transgression in Jacob,”
Says the Lord.”

Listen to how the Amplified Bible puts it in verse 19.

“So [as the result of the Messiah’s intervention] they shall [reverently] fear the name of the Lord from the west, and His glory from the rising of the sun. When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard against him and put him to flight [for He will come like a rushing stream which the breath of the Lord drives].”

When homosexuality comes, the Lord Jesus will intervene and put them to flight.

Psalm 2 is still in its prophetic setting but the essence of this Psalm gives us the backdrop as to why the elite of the sin of homosexuality is pushing against the Lord. Notice verses 1 through 5.

“Why do the nations rage,
And the people plot a vain thing?
The kings of the earth set themselves,
And the rulers take counsel together,
Against the Lord and against His Anointed, saying,
“Let us break Their bonds in pieces
And cast away Their cords from us.”
He who sits in the heavens shall laugh;
The Lord shall hold them in derision.
Then He shall speak to them in His wrath,
And distress them in His deep displeasure:”

Even after the SCOTUS rules on same sex marriage in either direction, the elite of homosexuality will never cease to plot against the Lord God and against His Anointed One, or the Lord Jesus.

They will always seek to break Their (The Father and The Son’s) bonds in pieces and cast Their cords from sinners.

Meaning that they do not want to be bound by righteousness. As Paul said, when we were bound in sin we were freed from righteousness.

This is the goal of the elite of the sin of homosexuality.

But the Lord will hold them in derision, He shall speak to them in His wrath or anger, and distress them in His deep displeasure.

No matter what gains they get, the Lord will push them back.

Make no mistake about it.

It may not look that way for many parts of the world, in particular, the United States but in other places, the Body of Christ is taking a stand.

Why?

Because the elite of the sin of homosexuality is purporting an agenda to go after children.

In the Italian country, parents are taking a stand and they are pushing the forces of darkness back.

The momentum must be maintained so we do not lose ground.

What ground we take, the enemy will seek to take it back.

We must not let this happen.

Here in America, we need to take a page out of their book and make a concerted effort to take a stand against homosexuality. They are after our children and we are the child’s only defense in Jesus.

The article of Italy pushing the homosexual agenda back could be read here.

Getting to the Heart of the Shooting at Emmanuel AME Church

If you want a good understanding of the incident in S.C., the blog will give us all what we need to understand from the Scriptures, what is going on. I might add, that it’s persecution of the saints of God.

Just Thinking...for Myself

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Like many of you, I awoke this morning to the news that nine people had been murdered at Emmanuel AME Church in Charleston, South Carolina.

I recall visiting this historic church during a vacation I took to Charleston in 2012 to visit the Old Slave Mart museum there.

In light of last night’s violence, my immediate thoughts are that there will no doubt be those who will endeavor to politicize what is both a personal and national tragedy, and spin it as yet another “gun control” issue when, in fact, it is nothing of the sort.

Lest we forget, a gun is an inanimate object. Meaning, it is completely lifeless. Lay a gun on a table and it will not move from that spot unless influenced by some external force.

A gun cannot pick itself up. It cannot load its own ammunition. It cannot, on its own, point its barrel…

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Homosexuals Persecuting The Lord Jesus Christ: Our Response And Duty

Paul said these powerful words,

Romans 6:14 “For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”

Many of us forget that Paul received the gospel by revelation of Jesus Christ.

Note what Paul said in Galatians 1:11-12.

“But I make known to you, brethren, that the gospel which was preached by me is not according to man. For I neither received it from man, nor was I taught it, but it came through the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

The book of Romans is the revelation of Jesus Christ regarding sin. In chapter one, Paul received this revelation from the Lord Jesus Christ about the sin of homosexuality. Why did Paul mention the sin of homosexuality in verse 18 through 32?

Homosexuality is the end of the line when it comes to the highest sin performed by fallen man.

Now, we know that there are many in and outside the Body of Christ that will say “sin is sin.” 

But look at it from God’s perspective.

God never rained fire and brimstone on adulterers, fornicators, liars, etc. We only see God pouring fire and brimstone on practicing homosexuals to emphasize His utter contempt and displeasure at people who sin on this level. Already in Leviticus 18, we see that the Lord called homosexuality “an abomination.”

As I have said, when the two angels entered the city, instead of repenting of their sins, they wanted to commit sodomy with angels. This automatically displays the level of depravity of men. That regardless of what God said in His Word, they deliberately intended to defy the Lord.

Such as it is today.

No matter how much preaching we do, sinners insist on defying the Lord.

God sends mercy, and man rebuffs God’s loving act of mercy.

As a result, their choice to continue in sin was a signal to God that sin had to be judged.

That’s why fallen men is all the time trying to change God and it never works that way.

God was never in the wrong.

Man was found in the wrong.

We must remember that the Lord created us in His image.

The Creator has every right to do what He deems best for man, even when man strays from the original purpose. In defiance, when the Word is preached, even though people are addressing us, they are addressing the Lord.

This same person that is now called Paul, was Saul of Tarsus, a Pharisee, and a persecutor of the Way. On the road to Damascus, the Lord appeared to him and asked Saul, “Why are you persecuting Me?”

So those in sin, and in particular, practicing homosexuals, are directly persecuting the Lord.

They may be talking to us, but they are talking to the Lord in us.

So it is true that they are calling the Lord a bigot, discriminate, and homophobe.

The highest form of depravity is the sin of homosexuality. They know it and we know it.

At the same time, while we tell people that this is the highest form of depravity, we offer the highest form of deliverance.

The power of God to deliver anybody, anywhere.

The persecution of the Lord will intensify.

On a different note….

Already in Brazil, they had displays of two homosexuals on a cross kissing each other.

In that picture, they had “LGBT” inscribed on the cross.

The blasphemous, abominable picture and story in Brazil could be seen and read here.

Clearly blasphemous.

The Lord Jesus said that blasphemy against the Father and the Lord Jesus would be forgiven.

This level of blaspheme is not the last stop. The elite of LGBT worldwide is not happy until the true believers are fully subdued. Meaning, that we are stopped from preaching the Word of God. That we are forced to perform SSM. That sacred property, exclusively used for the worship of God is open for use by practicing homosexuals.

There was a picture of two male homosexuals in what appears to be a catholic church, naked and obviously doing vile acts in the house of worship. Desecrating the house of God is the ultimate disrespect from the devil to God and to the true believers.

Regardless of which way the Supreme Court in the United States go, pastors must accept the fact that the devil will not stop.

Neither should we.

No matter which way they rule, it is not over.

Therefore, strength and conviction is required for this hour.

This is the real fight of faith that we are up against. 

If there is ever a time for the people of God to get a gut check, it is now.

Never in our lives have we been faced with challenges that will try what we truly believe. And to see if we are going to stay in the faith or withdraw.

But what else is the elite looking to do to those that rebel against the sin of homosexuality?

While ISIS is beheading “non believers,” it wouldn’t be surprising that the elite homosexuals take a page out of the playbook of ISIS or ISIL.

That after certain laws are passed in the U.S. in their favor that beheading Christians for intolerance of the sin of homosexuality is acceptable. 

In the Middle East, there are many martyrs, beheaded for the testimony of Jesus.
Just today, I observed the beheaded men by ISIS. Their heads were decapitated and placed on the ground next to each other. Others were put on sticks. Some heads were spiked on a fence. Bodies on the ground without heads. This would make anyone pause and think about their relationship with the Lord. Then there was a little girl whose head her father held while a friend or relative held the body without her head.

Why am I mentioning this?

We do not know to what lengths the persecution of Christians in this nation may go.

We must be prepared for the worst.

If the SCOTUS rules in the favor of conservative values on SSM, I believe that the Lord is giving this nation grace to do more work for the kingdom. But let’s just say that it doesn’t go that way. Are we prepared to stay with the Lord, or run in the face of persecution?

This is not the time to be a yellow belly, and run.

Although a few pastors have accepted homosexuality in the churches and leadership, it is cowardice in the face of the enemy. It is treasonous. We cannot be found to wilt under pressure from culture.

We must stand and fight. Contend for the faith. Stand strong in the hour and fight.

The Lord of the heavenly armies is with us.

We are not alone.

“If God be for us, who can be against us.”

The Lord Jesus shed His blood for us. The Champion called the Lion of the tribe of Judah is with us. We must not be found faltering. We must be found on our posts, ready to do the Master’s will.

Even if it will cost us our lives.

More On Transgenderism

There is an interesting post that says that while we were paying attention to Bruce Jenner, other issues took place under our noses. Well, I know that millions of other things took place that we weren’t aware of that may or may not be detrimental to this country, but we all know that the subject of transgenderism is at the forefront.

Why?

Again, I want to remind you that transgenderism is the last stop of the ride regarding the vile sin of homosexuality.

Also, while the president put out the proclamation that June is LGBT month and the Supreme Court is about to release it’s ruling on June 18, 2015, this nation is in the balance.

While reading Dr. Michael Brown’s thoughts there was also a good writeup about Transgenderism that indicate facts that it is impossible for a man to become a woman and a woman to become a man.

Masculinity and feminism is at the heart of the issue of transgenderism.

It’s complicated but when you read this article, a better understanding is given.

Also, in this article, suicide rates increase for a few of those that reach the end of the line of transgenderism.

When there is no gold at the end of the rainbow, so to speak, those demons are taking you to the end of the line of life. There is no more to look forward to and they try to push you to end it all.

Plus, with the government and states attempting to cut off ways to help people recover from their lost quest to re-identify themselves, it puts an additional pressure of hopelessness on these people. They have been seeking help and they are being cut off from the right kind of help.

Cutting of conversion therapy is just a gag order on the power of the gospel.

As Paul said, “The Word of God is not chained.”

So when you read this article, let’s understand that Bruce, and many others are crying out for help.

We see them in the burning building and we must defy their laws to be there to help them with the power of the gospel.

God’s grace abounds more.

The John Hopkins article could be read here.

Transgender Person – What Do You Do When God Tells You That You Are A Man And Not A Girl?

My good friend, Lonnie Poindexter of Urban Family Talk Radio tagged me on FB regarding a former transgender person. I’ll get to that in a moment.

As many of our FB friends have said, they will not put this on network news because of the liberal agenda to push the sin of homosexuality. As I have said before, transgenderism is the end of the line. While it is true that some transgender persons may not be homosexual, yet the quest to be another gender is part of the system of satan to impose the kind of “identity” that is consistent with homosexuality.

What better way to show that God is alive and well than to hear the testimony of Mr. Lawrence.

The prisoners are coming out from behind satan’s gates.

As Jesus said, “The gates of hell shall not prevail against the church.”

This means that the people of God are assaulting the gates to rescue souls from the kingdom of darkness, and Jesus is leading the way. But with this testimony, the Lord Jesus is calling them to come from behind the gates.

Sadly, the church had this the other way around that the gates were coming at the church. But no. Gates are stationary. Since I served as a sailor and was never a soldier, I know that assaulting a fixed position is tough business. It takes strength, courage, and smarts to assault fixed positions to achieve an objective.

But once there is a breach, it’s a game changer.

In fact, every now and then, when Jesus speaks to people like Mr. Lawrence, it’s a serious example to us that no matter how far you go, there is always a way out.

This powerful testimony could be seen here.

And you can hear Brother Lonnie’s weekly broadcast by clicking the link here.

Your Husband’s Or Boyfriend’s Porn Habits: Is There Any Hope?

I came across an article from Porn Harms regarding a girlfriend’s discovery of her boyfriend’s porn habits.

Several comments came that suggests that sex before marriage is no longer taboo but the norm. In fact, it’s expected that a boyfriend is given his girlfriend’s  virginity. 

The other comments pretty much demanded that the girlfriend dump”  him because of his sinful porn habit.

With the observance of porn exponentially increasing, should you dump him, there is a good chance that the next boyfriend you choose is doing the same thing. Or he has seen porn. Are they sex addicts? It all depends on the frequency.

An addiction is the inability to control, manage, or stop a habit.

Paul call it, “…Youthful lusts…”In other words, the young pursuing that which is forbidden.

When you are objectifying the body of a woman, the man’s mind becomes inundated and obsessed  with touching her. If he can’t touch her, images drives his sex drive towards releasing sexual tension. If he can’t touch her, he masturbates. 

Already in his mind, he is infatuated with her and seeks to release sexual tension.

Most boys use the excuse that since they do not want to impregnate you, he goes solo. But for the young, it’s just a matter of time before he puts pressure on the girlfriend to have sex. If she isn’t disciplined, she will give up what is most prized. Her virginity. At one time, it was considered a shame to fornicate.

Today it is normal and expected.

The suppressing of the shame is easily made and the sex is sinfully justified.

Being a harlot or a whore used to be enough for most women to abstain from making the mistake of sex before marriage. Now, it’s not a big deal.

In fact, according to the spirit operating in the sons of disobedience, it’s normal.

Sadly, abstaining is not the thing to do among the wicked and among those that profess to be righteous.

Whether it is girlfriend talk, locker room talk, Sunday School talk, or youth group talk, it is now taboo to admit that you are still a virgin.

Addiction to a sex act to fulfill his own sexual fantasies without the relationship is the name of the game with young boys. Your husband or boyfriend is not watching porn and then going to bed.

There is no question in my mind that he is participating in his mind and (to put it bluntly), feeling himself sexually. It’s called masturbation or solo sex. Billions of men throughout the world are occasional to chronic masturbators that started in the youth.

This habit may have started in his youth after being exposed to porn or substitute porn. The inquisitiveness leads to other areas readily accessible on the Internet. The Internet is the number one place where information travels faster than you think.

According to The Internet Filter Review, in one second, 28,258 persons will have click a sex site. In a revised figure, 2.8 billions persons, at the end of 24 hours will click onto a porn site.

Porn is a worldwide pandemic and it appears that there is no hope.

Many agree that porn is responsible for the destruction of many marriages.

It is clear that porn is a major part of the problem because porn models and the sex they are acting out is perfect. However, lust in the heart of man is responsible. The only thing that porn did was be made available to him as an accelerant. Lust is the fire and porn feeds fuel to that fire.

A dominating male and a sexually submissive female. It’s the kind of sex that he wants without being denied.

One comment was said that “give him the kind of sex he is looking for,” or words to that affect.

Mind you, the comment was given to try to prevent losing that boy as a boyfriend. It is clear that most married couples have a very difficult time expressing to each other the kind of mutual sex they are looking to have. And we must conclude that there is no guarantee that when you give a man the kind of sex he is watching on porn, that he will be satisfied.

This is a clear misnomer.

Granted, there are millions of partners that watch porn to “spice up” their sex life.

Let’s be clear about what the Bible says.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 tells us that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13:4 tells us that God will judge adulterers and fornicators.

Revelation 21:8 tells us that the sexually immoral will have their part in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone.

There is no gray area. There is no room for error. There is no wiggle room. There is no exceptions.

Since God created man, God created the laws that govern man. Our death proves that accountability is required.

Hebrews 9:27 says, “And as it is appointed unto men once to die, after this the judgment.”

If death is true on one hand, judgment is true on the other.

Since no one escapes death. No one escapes judgment.

So as a girlfriend, let’s say that you know the Lord, and you’ve discovered that your boyfriend is into porn, the first disrespect is towards God. We all know that you may be hurt, but God was hurt first. As a believer, you must maintain God’s position on porn first.

Ezekiel 18:20 says “The soul who sins shall die.”

Your boyfriend has committed a serious sin that places him in jeopardy of losing eternal life with Christ.

Because the pleasure is just seemingly too much to give up, this is the least of his worries. But life does happen. Things can happen in a moment. A car accident. Heart attack. Sudden illness that leads to death. It doesn’t happen all the time, but you don’t want your number to come up.

Sadly, in life, everyone’s number will come up.

Listen to Ecclesiastes 8:8 “No one has power over the spirit to retain the spirit, and no one has power in the day of death. There is no release from that war, and wickedness will not deliver those who are given to it.”

If this is not enough, look at verse 11-13……..“Because the sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.

Though a sinner does evil a hundred times, and his days are prolonged, yet I surely know that it will be well with those who fear God, who fear before Him. But it will not be well with the wicked; nor will he prolong his days, which are as a shadow, because he does not fear before God.”

So another reason why he continues in porn is because, up to this point, he wasn’t judged for it. What the Lord is doing is operating on grace, mercy, in hopes that he would turn from his wicked ways and repent. I’ve found that sometimes incremental consequential judgment isn’t enough for a man to turn from his sexual sins.

In defiance to God because the pleasure of ejaculation is too great for some men and women to give up, they continue on.

Look at Proverbs 22:3.

“A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”

John 3:19 says, And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.”

Then you have the expounding of Jesus of the parable of the sower in Luke 8:11-15.

“Now the parable is this: The seed is the word of God.

Those by the wayside are the ones who hear; then the devil comes and takes away the word out of their hearts, lest they should believe and be saved.

But the ones on the rock are those who, when they hear, receive the word with joy; and these have no root, who believe for a while and in time of temptation fall away.

Now the ones that fell among thorns are those who, when they have heard, go out and are choked with cares, riches, and pleasures of life, and bring no fruit to maturity.

But the ones that fell on the good ground are those who, having heard the word with a noble and good heart, keep it and bear fruit with patience.”

The pleasures of life is sexual immorality.

Then 2 Timothy 3:1-4 in portions “For men will be lovers of themselves…without self- control…headstrong, haughty (proud and lifted up in defiant pride), lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.”

These are the things that a wife or a girlfriend will face.

What is she to do?

If it’s just a boyfriend situation, your options are wide open. If you confront him, expect him to be very defensive. Porn and masturbation is an idol on the level of Goliath. The strength of this demon is more than what people think. While porn and masturbation is no match for the power of God, the man must be willing to walk away from these things if he is going to be free.

Billions of men have sought to break free and the vast majority of them refuse to walk away because the pleasure, to them is too great to give up.

How did I break from this?

I wanted God more than me. I had to crucify daily my desires to have self pleasure. My love for God need to rise of my pleasure to please me by myself. A man must be willing to break his silence and secrecy. If he refuses to break his silence and secrecy, he will remain in bondage.

I had to look at who I was hurting.

Yes, my wife and family but who did I hurt first?

My Lord.

When you get a revelation of how hurt God was, you refuse to hurt Him like that ever again. This spills over into your wife and family. You do not ever want to see them in pain and agony. Masturbation is a form of selfishness. You are looking out for you. Your boyfriend or husband is looking out for himself to meet his needs without the affects of relational situations common in marriages.

If you choose to confront your husband or boyfriend, if you know the Lord, spend quality time in the Scriptures and prayer.

Get as many Christian resources to understand porn addiction and masturbation.

You must not blame yourself for his porn habit. Sure things could trigger things to where he walks away after a negative confrontation on an unrelated issue. But to assume blame for his lust is just the enemy placing guilt on the wrong person or on both person’s simultaneously.

Porn is perfect sin that attracts a male that is sexually out of control.

Even women that look beautiful and never did porn are intimidated by porn’s perfection.

Do not try to minister to him like you are the expert. The information provided in the resources are there to help you understand the dark world of porn and masturbation. If he is just your boyfriend, you haven’t learned to read him like you would read him as your husband. It takes time to understand his emotional make-up, mood changes, etc.

The world of sex is just a physical activity to him. He has yet to realize that it’s purpose is for bonding with one person, procreation, and pleasure between monogamous persons, male and female.

There is a danger that he will be silent for a long time because he was discovered to do that which he wanted to keep secret. To force him to talk will push him further away from you. He is defensive like a clam or turtle. In time, the clam will open up and the turtle will come out of its defensive shell.

Sadly, it will take a while, but if you are patient, the rewards are great.

Porn and masturbation is his idol. To give up something that he is worshipping is going to take countless hours of prayer and fasting. Find time to share with other women that has already gone down this path. Not every story has a happy ending because a man chooses to remain in bondage. God is not responsible when a man decides to remain in bondage.

God renders an account to no man.

It’s always man that has to render an account to God.

But there are happy endings that do happen.

God was not caught off guard with this. He wasn’t surprised.

So there is still hope for your husband’s or boyfriends complete deliverance.

“With God all things are possible.”

The devil has never been known to win. Sin never wins.

Just know that the Lord is with you in your trouble.

Each situation is different, so be prepared for everything.

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