Unmistakable Signs That Your Husband Is Watching Porn

There are unmistakable signs that your husband is watching porn.

Over the life of a relationship, you will have seen some things and behaviors that you’ve ignored or sup[pressed.

But now these signs have noticeably intensified.

It’s not necessarily in a specified order.

Sign number 1Secrets

Psalm 90:8 says “You have set our iniquities before You, Our secret sins in the light of Your countenance.” 

The Amplified Bible of this verse says “Our iniquities, our secret heart and its sins [which we would so like to conceal even from ourselves], You have set in the [revealing] light of Your countenance.”

A man must keep a secret when he is discreetly watching porn.


Because it is part of the game and it is embarrassing to him.

Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-28 “You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Whether it is physical adultery or sight adultery, the shame is the same.

For some reason, you’ve suspected something and you begin to inquire. The answers that he gives to you is defensive and evasive.

Immediately, he shifts the subject to avoid further questioning, or he is infuriated that you caught him. The questioning is an inquisition or an intense exhaustive investigation. To get the answer, a woman will put the pressure on her husband until she gets a satisfactory answer.

For men, sex is like a sport or a game. The seduction and being seduced is a game. The objectification of a woman is also part of the game. He is thinking in his mind how he would have sex with her.

To fulfill this false fantasy, he often masturbates unless he takes it to another level.

Prostitutes or having a short or long term adultery.

Sign Number 2No sex with the wife.

It’s been a few days and he hasn’t touched you.

There is only one Scripture in the Bible that permits husbands and wives to abstain from sex for a season.

1 Corinthians 7:5 says “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self- control.”

So far, you know that your husband is not in deep prayer and fasting, so what’s up?

It’s very common for illness or injuries to take place, but you’ve noticed that he is healthy as an ox. So what’s the deal?

It’s possible that he may be exhausted from the day’s work. Or is he exhausted from masturbation?

ED or erectile dysfunction is common among men that are between the ages of 45 and 60 which requires medicinal intervention or he may need to lose a few pounds and exercise.

Sign number 3 – Watching other women.

Every now and then, you catch him looking a long time at other women. You’ve ignored it because you did not want to confront him for peace’ sake. However, there is a difference between being a peacemaker and a peacekeeper. Peacemakers are blessed according to Jesus. Peacekeepers are armed to keep both parties apart by force, if necessary.

Proverbs 27:20 says “Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

One by one, your husbands keeps looking at other women. Sometimes he even opens his mouth to tell you about how well they dress and look. But he never gave you a compliment.

The shows that he watches on TV, Cable, Internet, or Satellite. They are overly sexy with sex scenes. You go to the movies or sports arenas with him and his eyes go to searching for female flesh to lust after.

When your husband watch sports on TV, he watches the “sexy commercials” or the half time show on Super Bowl Sunday to check out the cheerleaders, female dancers, and singing artists that heavily seduce men.

You make nothing of it, but that’s what he lives for.

Deliberate straying eyes is a dead give away.

Should you confront him, he will be defensive. He will behave for a moment and then resume. The periphery of the eyes is equally damaging to the mind of a man.

He will do anything to get a look. Like using the reflection of the window to lustfully look at a woman. The mirrors in department stores. The magazine section in the grocery stores and at the checkout counter.

The morning and evening news shows and weather women, scantily clad, dressed for the night life.

All of these things are serious signals that he is engaged in some objectification of women.

Finally Sign number 4Your husband ignores you.

When a man is sexually distracted with hundreds of sexual images in his mind, he is not going to pay attention to you.

You can’t have a decent conversation with him because he is having a conversation in his mind with hundreds of women that he filed sexually in his soul. You press him to talk to you and he clams up, avoids you, and goes to another part of the house or apartment to get away from you. He locks the door so you would not interrupt his porn and masturbation.

This may go on for weeks or months.

Some wives will confront this issue and others will be passive.

If your husband is a follower of Jesus, he is already convicted, but he has learned how to suppress this conviction to continue in sin. For the wife that is a believer, she must ask the Lord for wisdom. It’s already a volatile situation. He is already on edge. In fact, for the child of God, you are already on edge yourself. You have questions in your mind as to whether you are to blame for your husband’s porn issue.

The home environment may have contributed to his delving into porn, but if you dig deeper, this issue took place in his youth. As a male, he has crossed lines he intended to cross a long time ago. It just so happens that in the marriage, he decided to open the cork and let it all spill out.

He never sought the Lord for guidance, wisdom, and help. Perhaps, his pastor never addressed the issue to help him.

With all of these and other scenarios, what matters now is what are you to do now?

What is a wife to do?

Pray, pray, pray.

Paul said in Romans 8:26 “Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.”

When you do not know what to pray for as you ought to know, this is where the Holy Spirit comes in to give you the assistance you need to get the job of getting your husband’s deliverance done.

When it comes to the sins of man, the Lord is never caught off guard.

Jeremiah 17:9-10
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; Who can know it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings.”

Many wives do not know how to pray or what to pray. This is where you need to find a few women that know how to pray along these lines.

James 5:16 says “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

Find faithful women that you could trust and confide in. Gather with them to study the Word of God to find solutions from God’s perspective.

Also there is tremendous material and books on how to deal with your husband’s porn addiction habits.

Millions of women are looking for quick solutions to this debilitating issue. However, you should settle in for the long haul. The devil is going to fight you tooth and nail. The husband will listen to the devil quicker than to God. Porn addiction is no different than drug and alcohol addiction. And these addictions are interconnected. Be prepared to see the worst before the resolution manifests. But know that God is not intimidated by the worst.

You must remember that sexual immorality is the devil’s top stronghold in the world.

“The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world….”

Usually when the worst manifests, it’s an indication that it’s about to be resolved. Then again, sometimes the worst happens and the man is swept away in the flood of Secret and Overt Sexual Sins. But one thing is certain. God hears and answers prayer no matter how deeply involved your husband is in porn.

Deliverance is just a prayer and an answer from God away.

When confronting your husband, ask him to see the pastor or someone that has experience in this area. Sadly, there are very few pastors that are well versed in handing porn and masturbation addiction. However, the Lord is not going to leave you or forsake you. The Lord will steer you to the right resources and the right kind of help to get you through this crisis.

But for now, pay attention to these signs. Never give up. The devil lost when he attempted to attack God in heaven. What makes us think that the devil will win in this battle? Never let the devil get into your mind that you are going to lose your husband to pornography and masturbation.

Your marriage can be restored.

It’s a stronghold, but it is not stronger than our God.

Stronghold’s purpose is to prevent the inhabitants from being destroyed. But God knows where the weak spots in the stronghold are. NO demonic stronghold is impenetrable.

Do not wait to confront your husband. Do not wait to get help.

The longer you wait to confront this issue, the more enhanced the stronghold becomes. However, just because a stronghold gets stronger, it is never stronger than our God.




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AARP & LGBT are connected?

This isn’t news to most of the American world.

However, it was news to me when I looked on the AARP (American Association of Retired Persons) site to renew my membership.

Everyone knows that when you reach the age of 50, AARP reminds you with an email so that you could join the ranks of the 50 and over club. No one is really excited about getting up in age because it is a signal that you are entering the back end of life.

But all of a sudden, I noticed on the bottom of their web page their support for LGBT.

Let’s face it.

Almost every business and sadly, some professed believers, except the holy believers of the Lord Jesus Christ, and I am not talking about catholicism, will support the sin of homosexuality. Most businesses and gay affirming houses of demonic worship will have some statement of inclusion or outright support for the sin of homosexuality.

You can’t be a house of the Lord to worship God while supporting the very sin God sent His Son into the earth to die for.

As a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, the Bible is clear about God’s stand against the sin of homosexuality.

God is clear as a bell about it. Genesis chapters 18 and 19, Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:18-32, and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.

A gay or practicing homosexual cannot inherit the kingdom of God. Just like adulterers, fornicators, effeminates, sodomites, extortioners, liars, thieves, murderers, etc. Matthew 7:21-23 is clear as a bell. Those that practice lawlessness and those that refuse do what the Lord Jesus said will be told by the Lord, “Depart from Me you that practice lawlessness.”

So, in the best interest of keeping my relationship with the Lord, I had to say goodbye to AARP.

Almost everything that we buy, our proceeds go to support the sin of homosexuality. Starbucks, Home Depot, The Girl Scouts, The Boy Scouts, and other organizations.

The Lord is a jealous God and He will have no other gods before Him (see Exodus 20:3).

The driving force behind these businesses is money.

Jesus said this in Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.”

Paul said in 1 Timothy 6:10 “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.”

Money is driving the reason why businesses support the sin of homosexuality. So, in broad daylight, if you declare as a business your unwavering support for LGBT, you are in the money.

The moment that you declare that you do not support the sin of homosexuality is the moment that you are listed as a bigot, discriminate, a gay hater, and of course, the “H” word.


And in most cases, you are sneered at and cut off from any of their money.

When the god of money speaks, either you listen or you are blacklisted as a business that is against the god of homosexuality called LGBT.

As one person put it so appropriately……“I’d rather be judged by the world that has no hell to put me in than to be judged by Almighty God that is fully capable of putting all sinners into the lake that burns with fire and brimstone.”

Jesus, the One every one says is about love, said these indisputable words in Matthew 10:28.

“And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. But rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.”

You see, in the figment of their imagination, they have erected a god that favors their sin. That’s why they want SSM. Marriage legitimizes a relationship. But only God legitimizes a relationship according to Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19:4-5. Since God created male and female. Since God brought the woman to the man. Since God joins male and female, man doesn’t have the right to alter, substitute, change, or adjust to their liking what marriage is supposed to be.

Since male and male, or female and female cannot copulate, it is further evidence that incompatibility proves the righteousness of God. You can’t connect two male prongs and you cannot connect two outlet plugs.

One has to be male and the other has to be female.

Very simple concept, yet, it is very difficult concept for practicing homosexuals.

Few of us understand to some extent in our finite minds the magnitude of His death, burial, and resurrection. Jesus didn’t just come to be a nice prophet, teacher, and prolific speaker. Jesus is the Lamb of God sent into the earth by the Father to pay for man’s sins by dying on the cross. God placed on Jesus our chastisement. Jesus bore our punishment to free us from the power and guilt of sin.

To reject so great a salvation or to try to live in sin and try to claim some righteousness of our own is a big disrespect to the One who paid our penalty.

Money is the driving force behind these advertisements.

So, either you support them or you are cut off from their money. In some states, you will be taken to court for defamation, discrimination, and bigotry. They will make you go through some sort of “sensitivity training.”

Which is just another form of brainwashing you to make righteousness out to be bad and sin to be good.

Sensitivity to the sin of homosexuality and insensitivity to the Word of God.

Many homosexuals are hurt because the Bible rejects their sin. We never look at it from the Lord’s perspective that man hurt God by walking away from His will and standard. Sin is destructive. Sin leads to death. All the Lord wanted to do is save man from sin so that man wouldn’t destroy himself.

Yet, man wants destruction than life.

So goodbye AARP.

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