Sex- The Wrong Reason To Attend Church

You were in an awesome moment with God in praise and worship. And then, as the Word is about to be preached, from the back, a young lady comes walking in. Your attention immediately changes from hearing from God, to hearing the urges and impulses in your flesh.

For women, you just can’t get your eyes off of the man of God. You can’t wait until the service ends to be charmed by a married pastor. After all, you honestly believe that he is all that. And you believe that he will give you much attention with what you are wearing.

Men and women attend church for the right reasons.

To worship God. To hear the Word of God. To grow in their relationship with God. To fellowship with the people of God.

But it has now become a common ground for sexual hook ups.

As one pastor puts it, if you are going to meet a mate, what better place to meet a man or a woman besides the club?

However, what has happened is that people just meet for the sex without the marriage. The benefits and privileges of marriage without the “till death do us part.”

To avoid the marriage part, MSM is prevalent due to the lusts of the flesh. Leaving the “natural use of the woman” is becoming more common. With the women, it’s the same. Entertaining the thoughts of a sexual escapade with the same sex as far as women are concerned, is now more common than ever.

The woman at Jacob’s well is a classic example of the search for water inside a thirsty soul.

Jesus addresses the problem by zeroing in on one common factor among all who are self imprisoned in Secret and Overt Sexual Sins.

Lust.

In every person is the urges and impulses that are enlivened when a man or a woman is tempted sexually.

The woman at the well is no different than every other person (John chapter 4).

This woman had five husbands and she gave up marriage altogether to commit adultery with the person she was with (number 6). Evidently, she was dissatisfied with number six and quite possibly was on the hunt for number 7.

The water conversation could have been taken by the woman at the well as a sexual conversation but it sure didn’t end that way.

The Lord Jesus quickly maintained His sexual discipline and stayed on point with the Scriptures. The Lord knew that she was searching for something and had the answer to her longest needs. The need to worship God in spirit and in truth. The need to drink from eternal waters. The need to leave behind her “water pot” that she used to pull up water that she would thirst for again.

The “water pot” of sexual immorality, she didn’t need it any more because Jesus told her about herself and she finally broke free.

When you break free, there is no need for a “water ( sexual immorality) pot.”

I remember a story of a woman that was married and she just couldn’t stop having sex with other men. She convinced herself to believe that something was lacking in her marriage. She thought that by having sex with other men, she would be relationally satisfied. It didn’t work out as she planned. She ended up with Cervical Cancer. She finally got the help she needed and the Lord delivered her from the sexual addiction of multiple male sexual companionship.

Cervical Cancer is sexually acquired.

You increase the risk of acquiring this and other diseases with multiple sexual partners.

The well she was drinking from fooled her into thinking that she could be satisfied.

For men, porn operates the same way.

By looking lustfully at scores of women and masturbation as if they were there before you, is that seemingly endless cycle of being satisfied. It’s the carrot on the stick that no horse earns. Sexual satisfaction can never be achieved in the multiplicity of mates.

Sadly, women come to church with their water pot” in search for fulfillment. To have a man is not the pinnacle of the value of a woman. To have the Lord is more valuable because only the Lord can fully satisfy.

It is good that men and woman come to church to hear the Word of God but when there is an underlying motive, the mind will pursue that motive until something happens. They will hear everything but the Word of God. They will do everything to give the appearance that they are interested in the Word of God. But underneath is that one thing that keeps them in pursuit for sexual immorality.

The men are the same way.

In the house of worship, the men are just as hungry and thirsting for sex with another woman.

Years ago, I remember going to a Baptist church as junior deacons. After the service was over, I thought that we would sit around and talk about God, and the Bible. After the benediction, they abandoned me and another junior deacon. I searched around the church for them and they were no where to be found.

I found out later that they planned all along to “hook up” with the other young girls of that Baptist church we’ve visited.

To my knowledge, I do not know if they had fornicated in pre-marital sex. But one thing is certain. It is clear that “youthful lust” was probably in the hearts and mind, and flesh. I could be wrong but my best hunch was that this is what went down.

Today, countless women are waiting for a man to make a move to select them to get married. Then again, there are others that could care less about marriage and they desire to have sex and call it a day. Ultimately, it is the longing in their hearts for what only the Lord could give.

Only the Lord could give true satisfaction.

We do not have to follow the ways of the world to achieve satisfaction. When we do things the way God designed them, we can have it and not have to live in regret for the rest of our lives. The right reason for coming to church is to flow in the plans and purposes of God and let life happen.

The Lord will bring the right one along and when you do it right, for the right reasons, you will see that God was looking out for you all along.