Chronic Or Excessive Masturbation : Establishing Personal Holiness & Discipline

Surprisingly, 63 percent of those who participated in this survey were female,
and indicated that 20.4 percent of people masturbate at least three or more
times per day. Among the other key findings:

* 79.6% masturbate 0-2 times per day;  15.2% 3-5 times a day;  3.8% 6-10 times;
and only 1.4% masturbate more than 10 times a day.
  
* 48% believe that their masturbation frequency is below average; 45.4% said
frequency is average;  and  6% believe that their masturbation frequency is
above average.
  
* 45.4%  either agreed that masturbating can cause problems in their
relationships; while 29.3% neither agreed or disagreed and the rest of the
participants disagreed.
  
* 18.3% are either extremely or very ashamed of their masturbating habits; 23.8%
are either slightly or somewhat ashamed and the 57.8% are not ashamed at all.

These statistics came from “Reuters.com,” and the link to this site is provided below.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/02/06/morningside-recovery-idUSnPnNY55073+160+PRN20130206

It is clear that chronic masturbation is a serious problem in the Body of Christ. While these stats are not reflective of just professed believers, there is no doubt in my mind that this is a serious problem in believers today. There is no question about porn being a problem in the church among professed believers, however, the associated sexual activities are rarely discussed.

Pun not intended, porn and masturbation go “hand in hand.”

No one watches porn and doesn’t act out sexually.

As with most people, many men and women struggle with watching porn. Porn is accessible, available (free and PPV), and could be seen anonymously. Substitute porn, such as newspapers, the weather women, the early morning show of “club” dressing women,” movies and with soft porn, TV shows, and other venues where sex is readily seen can inflame lust in the hearts of people in an instant.

These trigger mechanisms are strategically designed to inflame the urges and impulses.

Listen to the Amplified Bible’s version of what Paul said in Colossians 3:5-7.

“So kill (deaden, deprive of power) the evil desire lurking in your members [those animal impulses and all that is earthly in you that is employed in sin] :sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).

It is on account of these [very sins] that the [holy] anger of God is ever coming upon the sons of disobedience (those who are obstinately opposed to the divine will), among whom you also once walked, when you were living in and addicted to [such practices].

In looking at the statistics, these categories reveal how often a person masturbates in a 24 hour period.

If you note the last statistic, 57.8% are not ashamed at all of masturbation.

I know what that’s like.

The mind and the body made a very powerful statement to the human spirit.

It loves masturbation and we (mind and body) will do everything in its power to keep this going.

Have you ever thought about this?

The urges and impulses are so strong and dominating that the mind abandons any Word from God to be delivered. The mind also goes into a sense of hopelessness that it has subjected itself to accept the fact that this is the way that it’s going to be for the rest of your life on earth.

There are many men and women that deliberately made this declaration. At the same time, they also seek freedom. Regarding those in the 58.7 percentile, I could be wrong, but having been in this trap, it is clear that there might be a common form of abandonment denial that is evident in all man.

The pleasure is too strong to give up.

This is what helps the denial. The pleasure.

Sex was designed to be pleasurable. However, solo sex is more pleasurable because you make up the rules. You do not need another body. You can stop and start at anytime. Day or night. You do not have to wait for your wife to be sexually ready. You do not have to relate with another person. You do not have impregnate them. You do not open yourself to STDs.

Just before you think I am giving you the OK about masturbation, be very careful here.

This WAS the way I was thinking when I was in the cycle of sexual addiction level one.

When something has you in bondage, you are not free. Even if you are in the 79.6 percentile.

I built my whole day on watching women and filing their shape in my mind in complete violation of Matthew 5:27-30.

But all that was is just fuel for the engine of lust in my deceitfully, desperately wicked heart.

The cycle of satisfaction to climax is always the goal in masturbation. You see, you could do without the eye candy and go on muscle memory because masturbation is all about you. And you may disagree, but you are doing you and that is a form of homosexuality or lesbianism called solo sex. But this doesn’t deter anyone from masturbation. When the body seeks pleasure, reasoning yourself out of this past time is not an option.

Unless, you are serious about changing your ways.

The amount of masturbation is not really the pursuit. It’s the lust in a man’s heart that craves physical intimacy.

You see, it is always lust in the mind and flesh. All the other needs of man are secondary.

Affirmation……..secondary. Love……….secondary. For females……connection needs……..secondary.

Notice again what Paul said.

“…sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).”

Masturbation is about all of the above.

It is the idolizing of the genitals.

I know that this is graphic but that’s what it’s about. Even with homosexuality, it is about the idolizing and deifying of self.

One of the signs of the last days is that men would be “lovers of themselves.”

This is the deification of man. This deification of man is the worship of himself. The highest way that this is done is in sex. Particularly solo sex.

When you workout in the gym, there are mirrors. There are posters. In the supermarkets, there are sexually explicit magazines. Even innocent pictures give that hidden suggestion of sex. The words is just the story line but when you see what you want, your mind goes on the hunt to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. Especially when you look at someone that you want sexually. You take that back to your bedroom or whatever room you do self solo sex and the rest is history.

What is the solution?

How do we deprive of power the evil desires lurking in our members?

The Bible gives us the sexual purity of Jesus.

He regularly went to the mountain to pray.

That’s lesson one.

Jesus got up and changed His venue.

He regularly applied the Word.

That’s lesson two.

In the temptation of Jesus, He regularly said, “It is written.”

Establishing personal holiness and discipline is not easy. Anyone that told you that this is easy is a liar. Jesus was tempted in all points like us, yet, He didn’t sin. That means He was tempted to masturbate and Jesus was tempted to be a homosexual. Hebrews 4 said, “All points.”

But the way that the Lord Jesus handled business with His flesh was by prayer and applying the Word of God.

Finally, notice that the Lord Jesus mentioned in Matthew 5:27-30 the eyes and hands. Pluck the right eye out and cut the right hand. There is no question in my mind that Jesus also meant masturbation because we use our eyes to seek out a sexual object and we use our hands to masturbate. Although there are ways to stimulate yourself without the use of hands, it is still a form of masturbation because you are not involved sexually with your wife.

But you have to begin doing something about disciplining your eyes and hands.

Get up from that place where fantasy, ritual, acting out takes place and find a place to pray and put your hand on the Bible. Open the Scriptures and begin to meditate on God. Everyone has a starting point. Start there and be consistent.

Victory was already achieved on the cross. Now it is time to follow Him, deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Him.