Passive and active.
Is it possible to win this struggle?
Some of you have worked diligently and have kicked soft and hard core porn to the curb but there is “passive porn” that you are struggling with.
The magazines and newspapers are filled with passive porn.
These were areas that I struggled with after porn and masturbation were dealt a death blow. However, the urges and impulses, and muscle memory desired to have me. It is usually in this phase of the struggle where you are either going to fall or remain triumphant. Falling is the easy part. Keeping yourself from falling is the battle that most men and women find the toughest.
The passive porn is the teasers.
More so, it is the same bait that got you started into porn in the first place.
For instance clothing catalogues. The internet when you are reading news. When you are watching the weather and the weather woman looks like she is clubbing. When you are watching the sit around of what used to be “The View.” Or Fox News with all these young looking women wearing club wear.
They sit with bare legs crossed, high skirt, plenty of cleavage and body hugging. Just like the prostitutes and porn stars.
Believe me when I tell you, all men get up in the morning to watch the news and they know it. So guess what they are going to wear? When you get up in the morning to catch the train, there is a certain female that you know will be wearing what she is wearing, so you plan to “check her out” every day.
Or women wear something that will catch his attention. The women zero in on him every day because she knows he is watching.
Lunch time, and then the ride home.
How can a man or woman live holy when all of these passive attacks are strategically placed to trip you up?
Jesus walked the earth with the same temptations (see Hebrews 4:14-16). Jesus proved this out as He walked the earth. While Jesus walked the earth perfectly, we, as humans in fallen flesh are far from perfection. However, we can win this battle when we set our minds on heavenly things, seeking those things which are above, not on things on the earth (see Colossians 3:1-10).
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
Jesus was not playing games when He made His first major address to the people of Israel.
Jesus said these words in Matthew 5:27-30 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Then Jesus closes the door to what every lustful man does.
“If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
And if that weren’t enough, Jesus closes the door on what we do with our hands to ourselves in masturbation or when we touch a woman other than our wives.
“And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
As Mike Cleveland of Setting Captives Free calls it. It’s “radical amputation.”
This means that we go to an extreme extent to prevent ourselves from sinning with our eyes and masturbate, or act out sexually with our hands.
Hebrews 12:4 says….
“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”
Or more literally, “You have not cut yourselves to shed your own blood to stop yourself from sinning.”
Then Paul and the writer of Hebrews, and John, the beloved apostle gives us a knockout punch.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 says….
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”
Hebrews 13:4 says……
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Revelation 21:8 says……
“But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”
As the summer days are heating up, so are the women and men. There is nothing left for the imagination. Inside and outside the church. Sadly, a lot of men and women believe that they are not to blame. Forgive us, but when you wear what you wear. Spandex. Low cleavage, high dresses, hot pants now called “booty pants.”
There is this saying that is wicked.
“You can look but do not touch.”
Jesus killed that lie in Matthew 5:27-30.
Going to the supermarket, one woman wore her two piece bathing suit to the supermarket.
Women believe that it’s offensive for men to comment or look, but when you wear what you wear, the blame must be shared.
It is true that women wear certain clothing to attract male and female attention and so in spite of what they wear, the Lord Jesus still gives a man no excuse. We have been given the power to ignore what they wear. We may notice what sexually immoral women wear but as long as we guard the intent of what we notice, we can abstain from sinning with our eyes.
Passive pornography is everywhere.
Women are just as affected by the lusts of the flesh too. When a bare chested man walks by. Or when watching a “chick flick” with PG13 or MA rated movies are played where soft porn is observed.
When you go to the supermarket checkout counter, the magazines are strategically placed there with sexually provocative covers. However, there are magazines that do not carry those images. So in the mind of a lust filled man, he could be very creative.
How does a man or woman protect themselves?
First, if you are a born again believer, and you study the Word of God, there are plenty of ways to avoid what may be unavoidable.
Psalm 119:9-11 says….
“How can a young man cleanse his way?
By taking heed according to Your word.
With my whole heart I have sought You;
Oh, let me not wander from Your commandments!
Your word I have hidden in my heart,
That I might not sin against You.”
Do you desire to be clean?
Then take heed or obey the Word of God.
Do you desire to seek God with all of your heart?
Then do not wander or walk away from His commandments.
By hiding His Word in your heart that you do not sin against Him.
This is done when you hate sin like God hates sin. This perfect hatred of sin must be maintained for the rest of your life. The pleasures of this life lead to one thing………DEATH.
Romans 6:23 says……
“For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
James 1:14-15 says…..
“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”
To be tempted is not a sin. To fall into sin after temptation is sin. Again, read James 1:14-15 of the process towards death.
To remain in unbroken fellowship with God requires moment by moment obedience to the known will of God.
That’s why the crucified life is the most difficult life for believers.
Jesus said in Matthew 16:24-27 “Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? For the Son of Man will come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and then He will reward each according to his works.”
The crucified life is not about wearing a cross but taking upon the cross.
This is what Paul meant when he said by the Holy Spirit to mortify the deeds of the flesh in Colossians 3 and verse 5.
We must spend time making sure that our members remain dead to sin and that we remain alive to God.
As long as we are living in sin, we are dead to God and alive to the devil.
So how could this be accomplished?
Ignore what women and men are wearing. Stop looking to lust and look to please the Lord. Deliberate holiness pleases the Lord. Fill your minds with His Word and hide His Word in your hearts so that you do not sin against Him.
Finally, Romans 13:11-14 says…..
“And do this, knowing the time, that now it is high time to awake out of sleep; for now our salvation is nearer than when we first believed. The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light.
Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”