Pastors, Adultery, & Divorce

There are many pastors and believers that are unaware of the “ironclad” rules of divorce as dictated by the Lord Jesus and concurred by Paul.

For years, we have seen people get married. Then, for any other reason, except sexual immorality, get a divorce and get married again, and again.

Reducing marriage to whoredom and harlotry (see Leviticus 20:1-24).

What did Jesus say about divorce?

He didn’t say much but what He said packs a punch in the world’s system where a “do over” is permitted.

For years, we’ve watched what the Lord Jesus observed with the woman of Samaria without caring what The Lord intended in Genesis 2:24, and we wonder why LGBT is seemingly successful in wrestling marriage away from God’s people (see John 4:1-26).

Having 5 men and living with one that isn’t her husband. Clearly a violation of the law. Although the Samaritans, by the way, are cousins of the Jews, yet, they still claim to worship the Lord. We find this similar pattern with believers of the Lord Jesus today. We claim to worship at a place but we do not worship the Lord in spirit and in truth.

There are millions of believers that have divorced for any other reason except sexual immorality.

We have done what Jesus mentioned in Matthew 15.

“…transgress the commandment of God because of your tradition.”

The world permits marriage after divorce as many times as you want, but what does the Word of God say?

What did Jesus say?

To me, we have completely ignored what the Lord said and called it “love.”

Doesn’t this argument sound familiar?

The homosexuals call it “love” because they believe that if two persons of the same sex love each other, they have a right to be married.

Well where did they get that from?

From the people that believe that if they divorce, they are entitled to be married to another, and another.

To be married again is only permitted if a spouse commits adultery and the one that didn’t commit adultery has a right to remarry, provided that they do not marry a person that is divorced.

Yet, we have circumvented the Word of God, completely ignored what the Lord Jesus said, and acted like the world to marry, divorce, and marry again at will. This is partly the reason why sexual immorality is increasing in the people that profess to know Jesus. When divorce is an option, people will exercise that option. When the Lord Jesus closed the option, He wanted to make sure that we get the message.

That marriage is for life.

The Lord put Proverbs 18:22 there for a reason.

“He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”

When it comes to seeking a wife, brothers, you have to take your time and make sure that you know that this is the one for life.

It’s called due diligence.

In other words, make sure it’s the one you want. If not, Paul’s admonition is excellent.

It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”

Ladies, you cannot be so quick to “lock him down.”

Do your due diligence.

Do not ignore your intuition guided by the Holy Spirit. Those warning signals are there for a reason. Do not push it aside because you are about to get married.

Those signs are there to be read. If you go past the stop signal or sign, it’s on you.

There are a lot of people that are ill-prepared for the rigors of marriage. More people prepare for the wedding with elaborate details but they fail to prepare for the marriage, long term, until death. The first three years of marriage tells the tale of the tape. If either one of them continues to act childish, either one of them will claim “irreconcilable differences” as the reason to divorce.

The Bible is clear about that. There is no such thing as an irreconcilable difference. The couple has chosen to separate or divorce because they have chosen not to reconcile the difference. In other words, like two little brats, they hold fast to their position, and refuse to mutually negotiate a compromise to mutually benefit the relationship.

So they make up reasons and attempt to justify them and end up divorced. Then they happen to want a person back in their life other than the first person they marry, and they walk down the isle again. The Lord is very specific. If they divorce for any other reason than for sexual immorality, and they get a divorce, it is wrong. And if any one marries a person that is divorced, commits adultery.

We’ve allowed the rules of the world to circumvent the Word of God, and all we have is whoredom and harlotry in the house of the Lord.

Over 13 years ago, we’ve seen a woman come into the church with children from either a marriage or from fornication, get married to two men, divorced these two men from the same church, and ended up marrying the married pastor of the church she twice got married in. The pastor did the wedding for this woman twice and ended up marrying the twice or more divorced woman and destroyed his marriage.

It goes without saying that the wife of this pastor was completely devastated as well as this growing church was devastated and destroyed.

As a result, some of the men in his church decided to divorce their wives and left a wake of confused women.

We’ve heard of a bishop that told his first wife that God said that she was not the one. After 16 years of marriage and two children. He marries another younger woman just 7 days after the divorce was settled. Now, we all know that the Lord can speak before the marriage and tell you to look for another.

Why would the Lord tell you after 16 years of marriage that she was not the one?

A praise and worship “artist” while married commits adultery, a baby is birthed out of wedlock, they get married after over a year together and everything is ok?

Are you kidding me?

Hebrews 13:4 is still in the Bible. And the rock that gets thrown into a pack of dogs, the first one that gets hit, is the one that hollers. I guarantee you that many will holler because there are many that never repented. They may have asked for forgiveness but we’ve gotten that wrong. God offers forgiveness to the one that repents. When you plan on never repenting, it is an indication that you plan on sinning again.

True repentance means that you are done forever with sin, including our favorite ones.

It seems to me that adultery and fornication, or Secret Sexual Sins is man’s favorite sin.

But we have failed to realize that we hurt God, and innocent people in the process of our Selfish Individual Needs (SIN).

It shows you that some deceived men are just as wickedly deceived as some woman. On both sides of the pulpit, we have people that are sexually immoral and we refuse to confront these tough issues because we don’t want to hurt people. Never mind the fact that we hurt God bad. Never mind that He created us for His glory but we have brought shame to His name.

We have tracked mud for years into His presence and only the wise are careful enough to have enough sense to remove our shoes in His presence.

If we do not go back to the standards of the Word of God in the areas of marriage and get this thing right, we could talk about Secret Sexual Sins all day long and nothing will come of it.

I am finding that there is little to no teaching on the subject of adultery and divorce. We have changed the commandment of God for the commandment of men. We have allowed ourselves to take an eraser and completely alter the Word of God, and we wonder why we are so jacked up?

And because preachers are leading the way back into darkness, the people, like priests, follow cheerfully to judgment.

Then there are people who will refuse to follow the correct teachings of marriage and destroy themselves, not caring at all about the high standard of marriage set and itched in stone in the Word of God.

Below is a chart I’ve developed to help us to understand the simplicity of adultery and divorce.

Take the time to read the Word of God about adultery and divorce.

These verses of Scripture are not that difficult to understand, yet, we avoid a very tough issue to permit sin in the camp.

Married Husband Or Wife Seeks Divorce Marrying Divorced PeopleWidows & Virgins Domestic ViolenceNo Scriptural Basis To Remain Married

Irreconcilable Differences

Husband Or Wife CommitsSexual Immorality.Divorce Is Granted.

Husband Or Wife Can Remarry.

The Adulterer or Adulteress Cannot.

Matthew 5:31-32, 19:9

 

Whoever Marries A Divorced Woman Commits Adultery.Matthew 5:31-32, 19:9A Divorced Man Or Woman Must Remain Unmarried or Be Reconciled

To Their First Husband or Wife.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11

Domestic Violence is a criminal act. Common sense dictates that separation and or divorce is the only recourse when the person initiating the violence is obviously a clear and present danger to the life of the spouse.If a change of heart takes place, reconciliation is permitted.
If no sexual immorality was committed, yet the husband or the wife still seeks a divorce, neither are to be married again, but they could reconcile the relationship.1 Corinthians 7:10-11 Widows and widowers may remarry. Virgins may get married.1 Corinthians 7:8-9Death Obviously 

Annuls The Marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:39

There is no such thing as an irreconcilable difference. Two people decide not to reconcile their differences because they choose not to compromise or relinquish their position. This is no grounds for divorce according to Matthew 5:31-32, 19:9, but if they still insist on getting a divorce, they are not permitted to marry another person. They can only reconcile their relationship and remarry each other.