For the last four years and a few months, it’s been a rewarding journey. The fight to keep yourself from the sin that you were held bound to is the toughest battle of your life. Over these years, the growth in the Lord and the learning experience gained was invaluable. The previous blogs that I have written revealed a lot about how the Lord worked with me to keep myself pure from porn and masturbation.
The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life surrounded me like the Indians circling the cowboys.
In 1 Corinthians 9:27, it was a critical key to being successful against the onslaught of sexual temptation. If we do not beat down our flesh, the flesh and the mind will dictate the way we live our lives.
There comes a point in time where we must stop what we are doing and reconsider the fact that if we sin constantly, after having received instructions from the Lord about how to walk in the victory achieved on the cross, then satan is our real lord.
We know that when we sin after we receive instructions, we are disqualified. We are not fit or prepared for the Master’s use. We call it a “mistake,” to soften the blow that we have sinned. Sin is a very strong word. When a person hear this word, it is a clear indication that you violated the known will of God.
In order to “Come Clean,” acknowledgement of sin is required. Side stepping, story telling to deflect the blow of the sin, and other nifty, deft ways to deal with sin only reveals that we have failed to truly understand the magnitude of sin. Every time that we sin, the Father is hurt. He wants His children mature to the point where we stop ourselves from sinning. After all, this is what salvation is about. To stop sin and to save us from our sins through the life, death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus.
Some will unhesitatingly say, “You do not understand.” I understand more than you will ever know. When you have been trapped in the web of Secret Sexual Sins of porn and masturbation for 33 years, I know all too well the excuse and excuses to continue in sin, but the Lord Jesus knows all too well beyond me. He was made to be sin for us, who knew no sin that we might be made the righteousness of God in Christ. For we do not have an High Priest who cannot be touched with the feelings of our weaknesses who was in all points tempted like as we are, yet, He never once sinned.
So the Lord sympathizes with you. Therefore, we can go boldly to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
The first 10 chapters of the book of Romans is the most profound discourse on sin and the redemptive power of Christ. Paul understood the depths the Father went to redeem man. Romans uncovers the heart of the Father about sin unlike any other book ever written. It is clear that the Father wants us to understand the power of sin, and the power of redemption. The Father wants us to understand that the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
The Father wants us to understand that He demonstrated His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.
The most important thing that the Father wants us to understand that His hatred for sin is perfect and complete, otherwise, He would not have sent His Son to die. We must remember that Jesus became the “propitiation” or “appeasement” of the Father’s righteousness and His demands as a just and holy God. Folks, this is the way it is. The Father demands that holiness be the required way of life for His creation. The Creator has this right because we owe our existence to Him.
Paul said this about Jesus, “by Him all things consist.”
Death is not supposed to be the reason why we are here today. God is life, but because of Adam’s transgression, it takes death to bring us life. The moment we understand this, we can understand that death is not just the cessation of life. Death is separation from the One who gives life. So, if we want life, we now have to go through His Son to get it. Then after we initially get eternal life, we now must purpose in our hearts never to sin again.
Some of you believe that it is impossible to stop sinning.
Well let me use an analogy that the Holy Spirit gave me.
What do you do when you are about to cross the street? You stop. What do you do when you are driving a vehicle and you approach a stop light or a stop sign? You stop. You’ve just proved that you can stop. So if you can stop and obey traffic signals, you can stop sinning. As I have said before in my previous blogs, the man at the pool of Bethesda and the woman caught in adultery were told by the Lord Jesus to “go and sin no more.”
This is a profound truth. That we can go and sin no more. That tells us that sin’s power can no longer lord itself over me and reduce me to a slave of sin. That’s what Romans 6 teaches us. For years, I avoided that chapter because I loved the pleasure of sin. But now, I love the pleasure of righteousness. I love to please the Father. Every day that I stay from porn and masturbation, I am, by the grace and power of God, living to please Him. We are not perfect, but we are striving towards perfection.
Every moment that I stay free is a moment that the strength to resist, withstand, holdout, gets stronger and stronger. To the point where you can identify sin coming a mile away. Also, you have a plan to overcome the instant sin is coming your way to destroy you. As many men of God have said, “if you do not have a plan, you plan to fail.”
Many brothers are turning their backs on what God told them to do. They have strayed into the minefield of Secret Sexual Sins. From porn and masturbation to out right prostitution, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, and bisexuality. The promise to “keep yourself pure” has been thrown away for a moment of orgasm. The power to procreate is very powerful. The lusts of the flesh, and eyes can easily overwhelm an individual. Temptation from the devil doesn’t make it easy. But the Lord made a way out for all of us. We must fight with courage to abstain and maintain our sanctification.
It took me a long time to figure this out but for you that may be young in the flesh and young in the Lord, you can stop the madness of sin and live victorious, Christian lives.
The power of sin can no longer tell you to sin. The law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death. As long as I obey that law and tell my members what to do in righteousness, the freedom from the law of sin and death remains intact. The moment that I decide to suppress the Holy Spirit, suppress the Word of God to live a sanctified life, and turn my back on God, sin and death is mine.
But thank God that the Lord forgives us. Not to sin again and again, but to live righteously for the rest of our lives.
When you come to the Father, it is important to know that He loves us and He wants the best for us. Sin is never the best course. But we also have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ, the Righteous. Not to sin again that grace may abound, but to live free of the power and guilt of sin. Therefore, when you are tempted to watch porn, resist it. When you are tempted to masturbate, resist it. When you are tempted to fornicate. Resist it. When you are tempted to carry out homosexual acts. Resist it. When you are tempted to look lustfully upon a male or female. Resist it. When you are tempted, count it all joy when you fall into various trials and testings.
For the trying of your faith works patience. Therefore, let patience have its perfect work that you may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
Finally, the people of God should never applaud sin. When a person admits their sin and not label it as a “mistake” we must remember that sin always hurts the heart of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
“And grieve not the Holy Spirit.” Paul said in Ephesians 4:30. Very few have understood the grieving of the Holy Spirit. It is similar to a father grieving over his child that turned away and go astray. Parents grieve when a child goes down a certain path. When we prodigal our lives, we bring shame and disgrace to the Father. But thank God that the Lord looks down the path to see if we would return. Such is the case with the Father. Without question, the Lord receives us and throws a party that we have returned from trying conditions brought about by sin.
We can prevent these moments of grief for the Lord. Permission to sin is never given. But the Lord is always ready to forgive and forget, the moment we repent.