There is no question that when you look at the church spectrum the ratio of men to women in church is almost 20 to 1 or maybe 10 to 1 depending upon the size of the local church.
Additionally, looking at the world of marriage, very few that do attend will come in, already married. Some of them are single parents.
My intent is not to amplify the sins of single women. My intent is to get at the root of certain issues. I looked on twitter account of a person. Everyone’s twitter account can be seen to a degree. I wasn’t looking for personal information. Nothing on the criminal element but I couldn’t help but look at all the young ladies that were twitting his account.
He would announce that he would be in such and such a city, and these young ladies would show up. It’s the same with a well known preacher, Jamal Bryant. There are some dapper looking young preachers and they fill the house up quickly. Just look at the line up and advertisements, and you will see that the content of what the service is about is not necessarily a powerful, Holy Ghost meeting.
There was a pastor that opened up a church. He was single and a lot of women showed up at his church. He did a wise thing. He found a wife OUTSIDE the church.
The Sunday he introduced his then fiance`, some of the women left his church.
Some of these women have dreams about these preachers that they would marry them. Their minds are heavily saturated with these men that the obsession triggers a dream. Perhaps, the mental infatuation is so intense that the difference between a dream and day dreaming is indistinguishable.
Ladies, we all know that you come to church, however, the reason for coming to church must be the right reason. You’re supposed to come to church to see Jesus and preacher man is to come to church to preach Jesus.
I am not sure if this next story is as true as I heard it and if I am wrong, I’ll correct it.
Dr. Betty Price, the wife of Dr. Fred Price had cancer. Evidently, she was healed by the grace and power of God, but the backdrop behind this story is the fact that there were allegedly women in the waiting, looking to become the next Mrs. Fred Price upon her passing. When Dr. Betty Price got healed, the ladies that wanted to be the next Mrs. Fred Price left Crenshaw Christian Center. During one broadcast, Dr. Fred Price said one time, words to the effect that… Y’all not graced to be my wife. It is not certain that he said this before, during, or after Dr. Betty Price’s cancer issue, but it’s true.
Some women actually think that they can handle certain men. When there is no grace of God, forget it.
If you’ve ever heard Dr. Price preach, he can be rough around the edges and mean it.
The fact that there were women looking to position themselves to assume a position, and that, with a very rough man of God is folly of the highest order.
How cold is this?
The frigid temperatures on the North and South poles, including the vast cold regions in outer space, and the planets in the entire universe can’t be colder than these women that hoped Mrs. Betty Price would not live.
The heat of hades and the lake with fire and brimstone can’t melt a cold heart.
Proverbs 18:22 says….
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”
One single preacher put it out like this.
“If I am not looking your way, you are not the one.”
When brothers are not ready, they will not ask for a woman’s hand in marriage.
Believe me, brothers are slow. Some brothers are still playing the field (fooling around with another set of women). Others are fearful of making a commitment to the wrong one. This isn’t right, nor is it fair. The male has to start adjusting because when there is whoredom in the house of God, it’s because some brothers make it difficult for women.
On the other hand, some brothers can’t handle the responsibility. Bills, money being tight. The inability to compromise to make the relationship work out mutually. And the biggest issue of them all.
THEY ARE NOT SERIOUS ABOUT GOD!
These, factors, as well as his unbridled thirst for sex, porn, and masturbation, makes a male hold off.
My intent is not to dash your hopes or the hope of other women looking to be married, but when the Bible is clear about who is to do the looking, it is important to maintain your discipline. The devil is very crafty and the devil will use a crafty preacher to deceive a desperate woman. There are many women caught in the place of sidestepping the Word of God.
There is no excuse for abdicating the righteousness of God within you. You must prize who you are and you must prize above all else, your relationship with God.
In the Brian Carn situation (alleged lol), I can’t help but understand the fact that preachers that lead single and married, dissatisfied women to assume that there is going to be something more than a one time engagement in the bedroom, that a marriage will take place. For men and women to wrongfully assume that the word of a preacher is above the Word of God is a terrible sin. For which Hebrews 13:4 says that “adulterers and fornicators God WILL judge.”
Not every woman is a temple prostitute.
However, if the mand of Gawd shows up there, you have sex with him every time he is there, then there is no question that whoredom is your intent.
On the other side, there are a lot of women that will make or, they are already prepared to be a good wife. Women want to be loved, married, have a family, and enjoy life with her husband.
Pretty boy preachers that are players never make good husbands because once you give him some tail, you have to expect that he is seeing others in the bedroom around the country.
When they ask for your cell number, do you, as a single or married, saved, sanctified, Holy Spirit filled, tongue talking, Bible carrying womand of Gawd yield, or do you, in tears and pain, maintain your discipline?
Can the Lord count on you to decline and keep it moving in the Lord? Can the Lord count on you to be holy when it’s very tempting to be lulled into the bedroom? Can the Lord count on you to keep your mind stayed on Him? Can the Lord count on you not to go up to his hotel room before service, so that after service, you can have him sexually? Can the Lord count on you to call it sin!
It is placed in every woman the desire to be happy and loved by a good man. Sadly, some men are not that good at all. But there is someone out there that knows how to treat a woman right and stay faithful. Men, generally, are sex ready but they are not relationship, commitment, and responsibility ready.
I’ll never forget it. When Zion Baptist Church underwent a change in pastorates, having assumed the pulpit of the late Reverend Dr. Benjamin James Lowry, Dr. M. Marquette Peace, Jr., on day one, set the record straight.
“I am a married man. I am not looking for another woman. I am the husband of ONE wife and I am satisfied.”
That’s integrity, ladies and gentlemen. Integrity of the highest order.
Dr. Peace clearly understood the sexual pitfalls of ministry and he fearlessly put the Word out to everyone on day one from the pulpit.
Adultery against God is higher violation than adultery with a woman. To be unfaithful to God guarantees that you will be unfaithful to your wife. I wish all the men of God, when they assume the powerful responsibility to be a leader with integrity, that they make such an announcement, and stick with it, would go a long way to preserving the integrity and sanctity of the call of God on a man’s life.
Equally as sad, some women are wedding ready but they are not marriage ready.
Marriage ready in the sense that women want to completely have their way and a man does too.
The first few years of a marriage will be like sharks mating. While watching National Geography, when sharks mate, they bite with their teeth to hold the female shark in place while mating. Such is the case with the relational aspect of the marriage which potentially ends up as an irreconcilable difference.
The passion for sex is there but it is potentially lost when a man or woman in marriage spend more time jostling for dominance. That’s why egos have to be checked and both persons look to make the marriage work. A man is not a peacekeeper and neither is a woman. Peacekeepers are armed to keep both sides from fighting. A peacemaker is one that is willing to give in to a position to keep harmony in the house. However, the giving up of the position must never be detrimental to the entire relationship.
The only time a relationship becomes irreconcilable is when a childish person chooses not to reconcile. Baring adultery, there is no reason two persons cannot reconcile (see Ephesians 5:22-33).
Single ladies, I know that you are praying. God heard your prayers. When will He answer? We do not know when the manifestation of the answer will occur. When will brothers get it together? We don’t know.
But one thing is known.
Pretty boy preachers that look good and deceive you, start to run and flee from them. They are more trouble than it’s worth. It is not worth giving up the prize for the shame and stigma that comes with adultery and fornication.
The Bible says, “They that wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles, the will run and not be weary, they will walk and not faint.”