Pastoral Hucksters And The Sexual Immorality Connection

Are you a huckster, pastor?

In 2 Corinthians 2:17, Paul shared these words. 

“For we are not, as so many, peddling the word of God; but as of sincerity, but as from God, we speak in the sight of God in Christ.”

You might ask, what does this have to do with porn?

Well….it’s about exploitation of a profession.

Most pastoral scandals that happen in the church is a combination of a pastor becoming disconnected with his wife, and the excursion of female sexual wanderers or predators, commonly called in the book of Proverbs, the sexually immoral woman.

For a married pastor, such disconnection occurs for a variety of reasons. Pastoral commitment to be at the church, counseling women alone is one grave factor. The superman pastor believes that he can save women. Such emotionally unstable women are easy pickings for the sexually immoral pastor.

Church secretary scandals are common. Today, the common scandal is now “sexually immoral women.”

While there is two sides to every story, a disconnected pastor, is either, according to the book “Betrayal Of Trust,”a “wanderer or a predator.”

Pastors have been known to make themselves seem so powerful that gullible women would be mesmerized by a man’s ability to use his “people and preaching skills” to get women into bed.

Pastoral hucksters fall under three categories that I recently discovered with the help of my friend, Pastor DL Foster, of Witness Freedom Ministries on a FB post.

1. Emotional manipulators.

2. Intellectual manipulators.

3. Revelatory manipulators.

Let’s look closely at each one.

1. Emotional manipulators- Most pastors preach with such emotions that he can say nothing wrong. Emotional women will eat this up, that no matter if he is right or wrong about Scripture, the right emotional phrase could trigger just an emotional response. This emotional frenzy in many churches is a lot of energy that hit targeted area of the soul. When a pastor hits the right stride, women will connect with that and regardless of whether what is said is truth embedded in Scripture or something that sounds like truth, women gravitate towards that and feel connected. This is where music also comes into play. Music opens the soul up for almost everything, and sadly, some music ministers who are sexually promiscuous, assists with a predator pastor, (whether knowingly of unknowingly) to get what they want sexually.

2. Intellectual manipulators- A woman is also drawn to a smart pastor. Most male pastors are knowledgable. Sometimes when a pastor is preaching or teaching the Word of God, his knowledge is like the wisdom God endowed Solomon with. He has an answer for everything, or so it seems. In most cases, the combination of emotions, intellect, and revelatory preaching and teaching, will attract women to a male pastor. Especially when a wife is disconnected from her husband, she gravitates to a man that will answer her questions. However, male pastors, that are predators, will act like a pimp. With skill and cunning words, pastors win their affection. By saying the right words, they offer gullible women everything. Afterwards, immoral pastors will turn the table and use every means of manipulation to get them in bed. Most women know the Word of God, but because of her desire to meet connection and sexual needs, she will abandon all discipline and believe the lie from a mand of Gawd. 

3. Revelatory manipulators- These are the ones that are so spiritually deep that nothing he says makes sense but it sounds so spiritual. These master manipulators abuse the supposed operation of the gifts of the Spirit. Usually, they will operate in the utterance gifts of the Spirit known as prophesy, the gift of tongues, and the interpretation of tongues. This is not to say that the actual gifts of the Spirit are in operation. God is not in league or in connection with sin operating in the life of a huckster or hireling. Another area where this is common is the right music. The combination offers such an emotionally charged atmosphere, that this level is directly connected to 1. Emotional manipulators. Everything is done in such a way that you could be so emotional that the Word of God and the Spirit of God is not even a factor any more. All you know is thatseeming revelation by the Spirit of God caused you to trust the man of God. So much so that you are not even aware that these hucksters are driven by familiar spirits.

Now, notice Strong’s Concordance’s definition of peddling.”

g2585. καπηλευω kapeleuo; from καπηλοσ kapelos (a huckster); to retail, i. e. (by implication) to adulterate (figuratively): — corrupt.
AV (1)- corrupt 1;
to be a retailer, to peddle to make money by selling anything to get sordid gain by dealing in anything, to do a thing for base gain to trade in the word of God to try to get base gain by teaching divine truth to corrupt, to adulterate peddlers were in the habit of adulterating their commodities for the sake of gain.

Notice the last part of this definition. “…to adulterate peddlers were in the habit of adulterating their commodities for the sake of gain.”

Sometimes gain doesn’t necessarily mean money all the time.

Gains of sex is also in the equation.

Notice the Amplified Bible of 2 Corinthians 2:17.

“For we are not, like so many, [like hucksters making a trade of] peddling Gods Word [shortchanging and adulterating the divine message]; but like [men] of sincerity and the purest motive, as [commissioned and sent] by God, we speak [His message] in Christ (the Messiah), in the [very] sight and presence of God.”

For instance, look at some of your “prophets” of today. They always use key phases such as destiny, purpose, blessing, faith, authority over demons, prosperity, sowing and reaping, seed time and harvest, and increase.

Some of their person to person “prophetic utterances” are generic words to get a certain emotional reaction from women.

Unsuspecting women will hear these words and if one word comes close to what may be happening in their life, the tears flow, and they drop their guard. That’s why you must hold your emotions and hear what is being said. Even if it witnesses to what you are going through, it is not the time to drop your guard.

Lurking behind this may be a man’s lust to have you sexually.

So, now that some of these things reveal the pastoral huckster, the question remains.

Will you still be deceived? Or will you be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might to leave that pastoral huckster. There are many women in church that would not have it any other way, but for the sake of keeping yourself pure, you have to make the decision to find a place where the convicting power of the Holy Spirit is constantly working in the church.

Where constant prayer is real and genuine. Where people agree with God and His Word faster than trusting the arm of flesh.

Is your church a house of pimps and prostitutes? Is the church you are attending filled with sexual immorality? Is your church the greatest whore house in town?

Is the house of God a genuine place of prayer or a house of whoredom, led by a pimp pastor huckster?

The clarion call to the church is to deal with this area relentlessly to prepare her to be a sanctuary, pure and holy. Tried and true. The pastoral huckster will either forsake his game, or continue to have a harem in the den of thieves that is supposed to be the house of prayer.

Genuine Pastors must be against sexual immorality for in the coming days ahead, the Lord will fulfill His will in the earth.

“That He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water through the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church without spot or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”

Jesus: Tempted To Be A Homosexual?

Yes, you’ve read this right. Jesus was tempted to be a homosexual.

But first, this will be very offensive to some of you that still put out those false depictions of what Jesus looked like.

You know. Michael Angelo’s depiction of Christ. It is disturbing for anyone that knows the Bible to see these pictures. Years ago, someone said that by putting a “White” Jesus up it would impose upon Black folk that Jesus is white. Sort of like an additional slave mentality kind of thing.

I go to the south and when you walk into the homes of some black folk, you see these depictions of Jesus, John and Robert Kennedy, and Martin Luther King.

Am I talking right up in here?

I don’t mind John, Robert, and Martin. But Jesus?

Get rid of that picture. Get rid of that Black Jesus too. Get rid of those pictures. I know that you are not listening to me or the Bible. You’ve spent good money on those pictures and you are going to keep them on your wall. That’s fine for you. It’s not a heaven and hell issue, but is it?

You have fixated in your mind that this is what Jesus looked like. Just close your eyes and act like you are about to pray. Now Who do you see?

A white or a black Jesus.

The sad thing is that in most of these houses, folk don’t do what He said do, and yet, they have a picture, supposedly of what people want you to think He looked like.

No one that knows their Bible will ever put up one of those pictures again. All on FB, you see these white depictions of a sun tanned, slick haired, clean shaven or mustache and trimmed beard wearing, soft or effeminate looking Jesus.

I say again, that the way some people live, most of them will do things regardless of what the Bible says. That tells me that Jesus is your Savior, but He is not your Lord. There is a difference. There are those that call Him Lord but will not do what He said.

Jesus is a symbolical Lord to you and not really Lord over you. If He is your Lord, you would do what He said.

Why don’t people understand this?

Because it’s religious thinking and not relationship reality.

Note what the Bible says about the depiction of Jesus in Isaiah 53:1-2 (NKJ).

“Who has believed our report? And to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed? For He shall grow up before Him as a tender plant, and as a root out of dry ground. He has no form or comeliness; and when we see Him, there is no beauty that we should desire Him.”

Listen to another translation…

“My servant grew up in the LORD’s presence like a tender green shoot, like a root in dry ground. There was nothing beautiful or majestic about his appearance, nothing to attract us to him.”

Yet, in our minds is a fixation and depiction of a beautiful man.

The stained glass windows and pictures painted as murals in our churches point to a Savior. Folks, read Isaiah 53:1-2 and then look at the pictures you have and there is a very big difference in what you see and what your Bible says. Then why mention this at all? Because take a good look. No one can tell if this person that was used to depict Jesus is homosexual.

However, pictures can mean a thousand things. We are now seeing an attempt to put two Joseph’s up in a nativity scene and the baby Jesus. The far reaching affects of images play a major role in what people think. Just look in your newspapers or go to the Internet. Images drives things.

This leads into the discussion.

Yes, Jesus was tempted to be a homosexual. He was also tempted to be a drug addict. He was tempted to be a fornicator. He was tempted to commit sexual sins. He was tempted to be a robber, a thief, a murderer, a liar. He was tempted in all points like as we were, yet, He didn’t sin.

Hebrews 4:14-15 says…..

“Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.”

Paul said this in 2 Corinthians 5:21….

“For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.”

Another translation says this…

“For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ.”

Directly after the baptism of Jesus, the Holy Spirit drove Jesus into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil for 40 days. According to Biblical numerology, 40 is the number of testings and trials. During that time of testing, because Hebrews 4:15 says that Jesus was tempted in all points, this includes the sin of homosexuality.

So the beginning part of verse 15 is even more profound.

“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses…”

Jesus is not out of touch with your weaknesses. He is not a High Priest who is aloft from what you have experienced or what you are going through. He knows intricately what you are dealing with. The pain of being tempted and falling into sin. He feels you. The pain of relapse after relapse. He feels you. The frustration of obeying the urges and impulses. The mind and the flesh dictating your every move where everything revolves around committing the same sin. He feels your pain.

However, it’s not enough to know that He knows what you are going through. He made every effort to free you from sin. It’s one thing to watch suffering. It’s one thing to know what I am going through but it is a entirely different thing to deliver me from what I am going through.

The rest of Hebrews 4, particularly, verse 16 is the answer.

“Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

What does obtaining mercy have to do with this? The throne of grace is where the Lord offers mercy. We know that when we sin, we need mercy. One person puts mercy like this.

Mercy prevents that which we rightfully deserve.

What do we rightfully deserve? Look at what Paul said in Romans 1…

“For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil- mindedness; they are whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful;

who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them.”

This word was given to the Jews and citizens of Rome about the sin of homosexuality. Homosexuality was rampant with all sorts of lewdness and revelry (see Romans 13:12-14). It is no wonder that Paul addressed the vile practices of their day. However, today, this sin is all over the world. The HIV/AIDS rate is through the roof. We all know that it’s a pandemic situation. So much so that the CDC is recommending home testing kits because the statistics show a major underreporting of who is infected.

While billions of dollars is being spent on research to find a cure for AIDS, as commendable it is, we still forget God on His throne of grace.

When we commit sin that is worthy of death, where can we go to obtain mercy? We must go to God. Yet, they won’t because the love of sin and darkness obscures the perfect remedy of all sin. The sacrificial offering of Christ’s body for the sins of the whole world. Yet, they will not come.

The fact that Jesus was tempted with SSA (same sex attraction) is a clear indication that Jesus knows what you are going through. It is a clear reminder that He also knows how to deliver and set free those that are bound. It is just a matter of your will to be delivered or to remain in sin. There are many that approached the Deliverer and had to make serious decisions. Those trapped in the sin of homosexuality walked away from their lovers or they told their lovers that they had to leave.

The fierce battle within to give up the lifestyle is probably the most powerful battles one has to face. For any person caught in Secret Sexual Sins, these battles are more fierce than most people think. The body has to shut down the urges and impulses. Go cold turkey. Experience withdrawal from the pressing desires that were once pleasurable to experience and fulfill. The agony of never having an orgasm in sexual immorality in accordance with your terms of fulfilling the lusts of the mind and flesh, is a feat that few followthrough on.

The subtraction and absence of sex at will. The connectedness experienced with others in the same sex world or in any department in the world of sexual immorality, never to be done any more to please the Lord. It’s a daunting task. The discipline to say “no” during the early stages in deliverance weakens but the strength of God comes right on time to help you suppress the will to sin. The escape made possible by the Holy Spirit, you accept time and time again. You realize that you are serious about walking away because the Holy Spirit reminds you of the temptations Jesus went through to overcome falling into the sin of homosexuality.

Yes, the lusts of the mind and flesh were real to Jesus. That’s why you can depend upon Him to lead all the way to complete victory over the sin of homosexuality, or any Secret Sexual Sins.

Hebrews 2:18 says…..

“For in that He Himself has suffered, being tempted, He is able to aid those who are tempted.”

Hebrews 7:25 says…

“Therefore He is also able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them.”

When you look at the word “intercession” some of us think that it is prayer all of the time. No. Not every time. Jesus literally comes to you and stands in your place. That’s how we are able to bear up under the temptation according to 1 Corinthians 10:13. Jesus stands in front of us when we are tempted to make sure that the enemy doesn’t tempt us beyond our ability to resist. That’s why He saves to the uttermost those that come to God through Him.

In those times of temptation, He saves us from falling, provided we walk away when He tells us to. Walk away to a safe place in Him from temptation.

He knows what you are going through. When you need His help. His aid. He will be there for you to help you overcome temptation.

Won’t you trust Him today?

Deliverance From Sexual Immorality; Courtesy Of The Birth Of Christ

The commercialization of December 25, the man made day of the birth of Christ, distracts from the real reason of the birth of Christ.

We all know that the actual birthday of Jesus is unknown. What we do know is that the birth of Jesus was necessary. Genesis 3:15 was the Lord God’s declaration to forever redeem man from his sins.

Those caught in the sin of sexual immorality know that the birth of Christ is indisputable. However, few will acknowledge the real purpose. The Lord God said, after Adam and Eve deliberately disobeyed the commandment, not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

“And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise His heel.”

Another paraphrase says….“From now on you and the woman will be enemies, as will your offspring and hers. You will strike his heel, but he will crush your head.”

The phase…He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise His heel” is a judgment pronounced symbolically on the devil’s head.

But the crucifixion is the place where the devil would bruise Jesus’ heel. The seed and her Seed, is the hostilities that would take place between the spiritually dead and those that would accept Jesus as Lord and become righteous.

The clash of the unrighteous against the righteous is seen everyday with those trapped in the sin of sexual immorality, in particular, with LGBT. When the righteous seek to speak the truth in love, the righteous is called bigots, intolerant, and discriminating.” The usage of these terms is an attempt to persuade the righteous to back off.

For what lies ahead for sinners in eternity, we choose not to neglect to warn every man.

Yet, they want to use the Christ of love to continue in the very sin He came to set us free from.

Jesus is not just a prophet or great teacher. John the Baptist announce Jesus when Jesus came to be baptized in the river of Jordan. “Behold. The Lamb of God that takes away the sin of the world.”

Jesus came from heaven to earth to die for your sins.

We do not hate anyone that is caught in sin. The objective of the child of God is to offer the love of Jesus that saved us, to set free the bound and heal broken in heart. To liberate and set the captives free. To bring hope to the hopeless, and power to the powerless. To never spew hatred towards anyone, including those trapped in the sin of homosexuality.

Our purpose is to offer true love and salvation from the power and guilt of sin. To deliver you from the power of satan to the power of God. To help you overcome sin and the shame connected with committing sexual immorality.

Even Jesus despised the shame of being mistreated to free you from the shame of sin.

The Bible also tells us that Jesus was “…tempted in all points like as we, yet He didn’t sin.”

You mean He was tempted to be a homosexual?

If the devil tempted Him in the wilderness for 40 days and if the Bible says that He was tempted in ALL POINTS, then He was tempted, but He didn’t yield to any sin.

LGBT. Just know that we love you. God loves you. We love you enough to tell you the truth in love and to help you to see the Savior and understand the real purpose of the birth of the Savior.

Since sin entered the world and death, women are constantly engaged in hostilities from the devil. From the sex trade, thanks to human trafficking, to acquiring STDs, pregnancies that end in abortion, to a husband’s infidelity, women have experienced many horrible things.

The enmity or hostilities are enormous but through it all, the Lord provided redemption and deliverance through the sacrificial offering of Jesus’ sinless blood. The Father provided His Son because He loved us. The Son was sent to rid the world of sin. The Father demonstrated His love in a way that no man could love a woman, nor could a woman love a man. Sex and all it’s “love” is no match for the true love of the Savior.

Man’s promises of fulfilling love always fall short but God’s love is eternal. God meant His love for you.

If you are looking for the promise of fulfillment and love in sex, you will not find it. Everything that you need is in Jesus.

Love, peace, affirmation, acceptance, value, worth, esteem.

Jesus was given as a gift to man, wrapped in swaddling clothes, but more importantly, wrapped in flesh with sinless blood to purchase men for God.

All of these things the Father gives as a gift to us, courtesy of the birth of Jesus.

Measurable Sexual Accountability: Overcoming The Fear For Righteousness’ Sake

I was finishing up a project that was in the making for the last two years and I came across something that I’ve been dealing with for a long time.

During the summer, I deliberately broke off being held accountable to one person.

Dr. Mark Laaser has always advocated being accountable. However, being accountable to one person isn’t always ideal. What if you cannot reach that person when you are about to fall, or you have fallen? Or, what if, for whatever reason, you refuse to “check in?” What if things happen when you cannot keep in close contact as before?

These questions arise from time to time when dealing with the realm of sexual accountability.

The dynamics of life offer little refuge for excuses, but life does happen. Job situations change. The time that you were able to make yourself available costs much.

On a different note, I do not think that many people understand the world of pastors that work secular jobs because the church isn’t growing to hold a salary and health insurance for a pastor and his family. Many people think that pastors are to just get by and that’s it. The secular world places more of a demand on pastors that work. When it comes to travel to and from work, this adds to the time factor for measurable accountability. Major sacrifices are made to pay for things that a small work cannot pay for. We do say that the Lord provides, and He does, but when you have a family, a man has to do right and support his family.

Depending upon the way the Lord works and the way pastors lead people to “make disciples,” it will determine whether the church will be able to legally, and reasonably sustain a pastor and his family financially. Why mention this? Making time for rest and measurable accountability is a concern that must be considered.

Sometimes, a break is needed to catch your breath. Resumption at the pace where accountability wasn’t a problem may or may not happen.

Things can get blown out of proportion.

Regardless, when an irregularity does occur, it is cause for serious alarm. Did a relapse occur? Is he hiding something? Is there something that was said or done that made accountability unbearable? Fault could be found on both sides, although, sometimes, there may be no fault at all.

When it comes to coming out of sexual immorality, this is the dark world with many closets. What is hidden and where it is hidden is the game most men play. Sexual immorality is the DADT (Don’t Ask Don’t Tell) of accountability. With the accountability partner, the right to ask demands the right for the one held in account to tell. There is a serious line of transparency and openness that is required in accountability where confidentiality must be adhered to. Nonetheless, these are the serious issues in the realm of sexual accountability.

The “random team concept” of accountability seems like the real solution.

Anyone can say that the Lord holds me accountable. That’s the easy way out, but the difficult way out is having mature men of integrity and holiness randomly ask you pointed questions. I’ll explain this concept in this blog.

With accountability, sometimes the person that you have as an accountability partner gains a place of speaking into your life. It has the potential of turning into a wild chase that takes things from compassionate confrontation, to agitated interrogation tactics to get to the bottom of a person’s disappearance or lack of checking in. Neither of these are valid reasons for breaking off accountability. However, sometimes, for the sake of peace and sanity, “time to tear and a time to sow” might be necessary.

You begin to “police” everyone’s sex life and assume the throne of God.

We know everything there is to know about sexual immorality, but if we were really honest with ourselves, we don’t. Knowing it all is a place of pride. As Paul said, “Knowledge puffs up.” That’s why I welcome the thorn in the flesh. The messenger of satan to buffet me, lest I become exalted beyond measure. Sometimes, things happen so that you will not become prideful about the assignment the Lord gave you.

The one thing that I am aware of in the area of sexual immorality is that when you come clean, some of us want to tell the whole world. Then it gets into another level. You want to tell people off without compassion. Then it escalates into a gestapo interrogation situation where you believe that because of your deliverance, you become the “authority” on sexual issues.

We fail to heed the words of Paul.

“Take heed, lest you fall.”

It goes from helping brothers to overcome, to gestapo interrogation.

“I know what you did.” 

The looks. The prosecutor temperament and body language postures an accountability partner takes in smoking out a liar.

A person could be telling the truth but they do not feel that it’s friendly and safe.

Especially when nothing went on, you felt trapped, cornered to either confess, or defend the fact that nothing happened. Or, something did happen but you refuse to come clean and accuse your accountability partner of “overreaching.” You become defensive and avoid the issue altogether by walking out abruptly. Or, because nothing went on, you know that the next line of questioning is coming, and to avoid making a scene, you abruptly walk away.

Ah…two sides to the story does help these days.

There is somethings good and somethings bad about accountability because I do not think that we have all the answers to sexual accountability. I believe that we need to put together something that is concrete, doable, and actionable. That we can take sexual accountability to a level where it pleases the Lord for the times we are in today.

There is an example of accountability in the Word of God that comes to mind. In the book of Beginnings, Cain and Abel comes to mind. When Cain killed his brother, the Lord asked Cain a question. “Where is Abel your brother?”

And Cain answered, “I do not know. Am I my brother’s keeper?”

When you answer a question that the Lord asks you, God already knows the answer. The answer is never for God’s benefit. It is for your benefit so that you can locate where you are.

The word “keeper” means “guard or to protect. Caretaker”

Accountability. Did you put these two things together?

Accountability is for the purpose of guarding, protecting, and caring. The spirit of accountability is a brother that loves you openly is better than secret love. In other words, they will do everything to compassionately confront you to help you walk in the Word of God. It is the place where the truth is ministered in love.

Truth hurts but truth in love heals. There is no easy way to deal with the truth about the discovery of sin, with repentance over remorse as the goal. The Lord wanted Cain to own up to what he should have been doing. Instead of watching out for his brother, he killed him because Cain’s offering was rejected. The Lord also revealed before he murdered Abel, his brother that you are not well.

“Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sins lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

The Lord said these words to protect Cain from taking sin to the next level as well as showing him how to deal with his anger and fallen countenance. The hidden thing that was in Cain’s heart was sin. The offering that Cain gave did nothing to appease the righteous God. If you look at the word “well,”  it reveals that Cain was not “sound.” That’s what the word “well” means.

The remedy would have been for Cain to find a firstborn from the flock. Buy it or borrow it from Abel, repent to the Lord for bringing something that God didn’t require, but rejected, and offered the right sacrifice. God would have been pleased. He would have forgiven Cain, and everything would have been right. Abel would still have been alive.

It would have been a great way to end that story. However, Cain never got over his anger. He was jealous and envious of his brother that he was in good with God and Cain wasn’t. This resulted in Abel’s death and judgment placed upon Cain. Accountability is never pleasant but if we are to be “well or sound,” we must bring what God requires.

Remember when Naaman, the Syrian came to get heal of his leprosy through Elisha, the prophet? Elisha’s servant, Gehazi had covetousness in his heart. After Naaman was healed, he offered Elisha expensive clothing and money. Elisha refused and Naaman went his way but after a while, Gehazi went after Naaman and lied. Gehazi indicated to Naaman that Elisha changed his mind. Gehazi took the items and placed them in his tent. Elisha asked Gehazi a question and he lied to the prophet.

The combination of covetousness and lying cost Gehazi his health. Judgment fell.

Gehazi wanted to have those items. Would it have been too much for Gehazi to ask the prophet if he could go after Naaman and keep those items for himself? Perhaps, if it was forbidden by Elisha to take those items, the prohibition carried over to his servant. So the answer probably would have been no. Knowing this, Gehazi went beyond his master’s stand and covetousness clouded his vision. The results are always devastating. When Gehazi was questioned, he became defensive and lied. The prophet revealed that the Lord knows everything and the rest is history.

In this moment of accountability, what if Gehazi would have come clean and answered the question correctly? There is no question that the outcome would have been different.

The greatest fear of men is being held accountable to other men about his personal sexual life.

For most men, it is “none of your business.” However, with sexual immorality running rampant in the lives of pastors, elders, bishops, when you are dealing with holiness, righteousness, and ministering to God’s people, it is His business.

At the plains of Moab, the children of Israel lost 23,000 lives by way of the plague and God instructed Moses to hang all the leaders that joined themselves to Baal. The seriousness in approaching Secret Sexual Sins must be taken to a level where men are held accountable. However, I believe that a willingness on man’s part, brings accountability to the level where the people should know that their pastor is clean.

The downside to this is that there are many people that pry, needlessly, into a pastor’s life to uncover dirt to slander them. That’s been the issue. Women with a sinful agenda have been known to lie on a man of God. Sadly, some of these women, when they do not get what they want (sex from a preacher) they will take it to another level. They will use slander to discredit him. It becomes a “she said, he said” thing. The courts frown upon these things. Lying or perjury is still a crime.

That’s why we must be clean in everything that we do. Also, those that slander a man of God may expect the judgment of God to fall. It is not my job to tell you what kind of judgment may fall, but you do not want to be on the receiving end of any consequences from the hand of God.

In my book, Secret Sexual Sins, the Lord gave me a word that revealed the complete rule of porn and masturbation operating in men. “Secrecy is the breeding ground of sexual sins.” As long as it is kept a secret, no one really knows what’s going on. At least that’s what we falsely assume.

To keep Secret Sexual Sins out of our lives, it demands exposure and accountability. Men that were once in the sins of porn and masturbation, falsely enjoyed the “behind close doors” part of fulfilling sexual fantasy. Secrecy heightens the adrenaline rush but it also disconnects us from people. Sin always disconnects a person from the Lord. This is exactly what the devil thought when he tried to bum rush God. In order for you to be successful to go up against God (like you REALLY think you can), you have to deceive yourself into thinking that somehow, God turned off His Omniscience.

However, you do not need to watch porn to masturbate. Over the course of my walk through to deliverance, there are ways to release sexual tension without resorting to porn. Porn is just another brand of high test fuel in the world of fantasy that aids in heightening the adrenaline to falsely fulfill sexual needs. Masturbation is pretend sex. There is a need to bring accountability to another level.

All across the United States, pastors are living secret lives. These Secret Sexual Sins is what’s burning within his mind. When there is a lack of intimacy with the Lord in prayer and the Word, it is clear that he is intimate with something else.

For the last few months, the Lord impressed upon my heart to come up with some form of Sexual Accountability that would change the way we do business as pastors. Many will opt out as an unnecessary thing. From our prominent leaders to those of us that pastor smaller works, the need for measurable accountability in the area of sexual purity before God and man is even more greater. You cannot vouch for you. Your witness may be false. The witness stand must not be tainted. Your witness may not be true.

Also, lying is a part of secrecy. By measurable accountability, it is a running track record that stands before the Father that you would have to give an account of in the day of judgment. For you to say that you have not sinned, as John the apostle, said, “You lie and do not the truth.”

In the railroad industry, the riding public deserves the truth about the employees that perform critical safety sensitive jobs. Engineers, Conductors, Rail Traffic Controllers or Train Dispatchers, and Yardmasters that control switches and signal in their assigned territory must be sober, and free of any drugs while on duty. The lives of people are at stake. If the railroad hires people that have DUI problems, it spills over into these safety sensitive positions. The company is legally liable and the monetary costs of lawsuits because of negligence is in the billions of dollars. The FRA or Federal Railroad Administration requires random drug testing to ensure that the people employed in safety sensitive positions are drug free.

Random examination by an independent auditor ensures the integrity of the railroad.

If it is required in the secular job, I think that the same principle could be, and should be applied in the pulpit.

People have a right to have a sexually sober pastor in the pulpit.

By the way. When a pulpit committee or a pastoral search committee attempt to hire a pastor, just because they are married, it doesn’t mean they are clean. Under the radar are many pastors that live dark lives. From adultery to bisexuality. If you could afford it, you would do well to hire an investigator and get to understand some things before you commit to hire a pastor. Yes, it is necessary because churches have pedophiles as pastors. Criminals in the pulpit. Pastors with dark lives are a liability to the work of the ministry, and they are a clear and present danger to the church.

The problem with implementing this is the fact that pastors can lie their way out until they cross lines and the Lord exposes their sin. When judgment doesn’t come speedily, their hearts are set to do evil, as the book of the Preacher tells us.

In the coming days, restoring sexual accountability will go far in restoring integrity to the ministry.

As the late President Kennedy said, “We do not go to the moon because it is easy, but because it is hard.” With the same mindset, we do not demand sexual accountability and integrity in ministry by means of measurable accountability because it is easy, but because it is hard.

Let’s do the unthinkable, in terms of walking in the known will of God. Let’s dare to be transparent. Let’s be bold in our actions to be pleasing to the Lord. Let our righteousness exceed our predecessors until the righteousness of God completely reflects the life of Jesus as He walked the earth. Let’s walk in holiness, righteousness, and integrity, on purpose, with a God inspired purpose.

Pastoral Moral Failure: All Too Common

Alas, another pastor that love and possibly, worship sex more than loving God and maintaining the sanctity of his call to the ministry.

Like many of us, we ruin ourselves in secret before we are exposed. In a chapter in my book called Secret Sexual Sins, there is a chapter called, “Come Clean. Or Be Exposed!” This is what the Lord said to me before I repented.

There are many pastors that live secret lives. Let me reiterate a statistic. There are over 300,000 churches in the United States. 50% of pastors struggle with porn. That means 150,000 churches have pastors that are living in Secret Sexual Sins.

I was one of those pastors until December, 2008.

My friend, Pastor DL Foster posted about another pastor falling (courtesy of because of Secret Sexual Sins.

You can read the article by clicking this link.

A few of us pastors agree. It is now a regular occurrence. It’s been 4 years since the Lord delivered me from porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation.

Why do I mention this?

Few articles really get to the nitty gritty of a pastor’s Secret Sexual Sins. Many of you are so stunned when you read of a married pastor, with children, committing adultery, but rarely do we discover the fuel of adultery. Rightfully so, Pastor Foster points out that the root cause is the undisciplined pastor’s heart, also known as the fruit of the Spirit, called “self control,” as the root cause of moral failure.

What goes undetected is the Secret Sexual Sins occurring in the life of a pastor. The discovery of adultery is just the exposure of a deeper problem that rarely is discussed.

Porn and masturbation in the life of a pastor.

The other two things that is not noted is the sexual immoral woman that the book of Proverbs speaks of, and the wife, and kids affected by this momentary laps of judgment.

We are to avoid the sexually immoral women like the plague. Now, not every woman is sexually immoral, but there are predator pastors that take advantage of emotionally unstable women in church.

Then again, there are women that strategically, and deliberately intend to use their femininity to secure the love of a pastor. Not to mention that there are Jezebels on assignment to sexually sacrifice their body for church power.

In Dr. Betty Price’s book “A Warning To Ministers, Their Wives, and Their Mistresses,” she warned of the constant battle in the local church of pastors seeking illicit sex from women in and outside the church. In her book, she pointed out that there are many women that intentionally hunt down pastors. Sitting in the front row to intentionally get the pastor’s attention, sexually, in no uncertain terms, is one of the main ploys of sexually immoral women. In one instance, Dr. Betty Price told of a story of a woman that went right into Dr. Fred Price’s office on pretense of receiving pastoral counseling, and straight up solicited him for sex. Because of Dr. Fred Price’s spiritual discipline, being strong in spirit, he resisted her temptations.

That’s why as a rule for me, I never counsel women, and I never counsel women alone. I’d rather lose them to another church and pastor than to risk any appearance of evil. Suit yourselves but I refuse to counsel women alone. Brothers, you are not that strong and you should never fool yourself.

Dr. Betty Price shared that those that successfully engage a weak willed pastor, were mesmerized by the “anointing” on a pastor’s life and Dr. Betty Price indicates that this is the one thing that attracts women to a pastor. After these women have sex with a single or married pastor that one time, that mesmerization departs.

They are no longer infatuated with that anointed man of God.

But as with all women, connection and then to disconnect, unless you are a harlot, is not that easy. Dr. Betty Price counseled several women, caught in the web of sexual sins to leave that preacher. And they do not. Churches are left with a house of harlots with the pastor as the head pimp.

In the book, “Betrayal Of Trust,” the introduction in the book speaks of a Brooklyn, NY pastor in Brooklyn Heights, in the late 1890’s was accused of adultery. The woman lost her husband and it’s been a she said he said kind of issue. After accusations when flying, and a church meeting, the church sided in with the pastor that nothing went on. They swept the issue under the rug. And this is the long standing policy of churches. That when someone is verifiably caught or if there is a hint of sexual immorality, the issue is swept under the rug. The pastor remains in the pulpit and everything is “hunky-dory.”

Getting back to the book, one of the most outstanding observations is that pastors that are caught in the act of adultery are either predators or wanderers.

A predator is one that sexually hunts for one woman after another. No different than a serial rapist. Then the wanderer is one that strays from his wife for a one night stand. But even as a wanderer, solicitation of multiple prostitutes is part of a wanderer until it enters sexual addiction level three where the criminal element heightens the orgasmic experience. That criminal element involves being a serial rapist to child porn, to child homosexuality.

But few look behind the scene and discover a pastor’s secret life of porn and masturbation.

In the above story by Charisma, it may be possible that Pastor Hunter may not have been involved in porn and masturbation. We do not have the facts regarding this. But we know that in most cases, acting out has a starting point. And it usually is porn and masturbation.

The Lord Jesus reveals Secret Sexual Sins when a man looks at a women to lust after her, that he committed adultery with her in his heart (see Matthew 5:27-28).

In Dr. Patrick Carnes’ cycle of addiction, it all begins with “thoughts or fantasies.” Then it goes to ritual. Then it goes to “acting out.” Then it goes to “remorse.”

I mentioned this because the top of sexual addiction begins with thoughts and fantasies. I will point out that not every one is sexually addicted.

Sexual addiction is the inability to control, manage, or stop yourself from sex or masturbation.

When you cannot stop looking at a woman sexually, it is lust and it is adultery. Job 31:1 says, “I have made covenant with my eyes, why would I look on a handmaiden?”

When a man cannot stop looking lustfully at a woman, this is where the core or root problem is (see James 1:14-15). The lack of discipline in this regard is 100% behind pastoral moral failure. It is indicative of a lack of intimacy in prayer with God. The late Dr. Ed Cole, the father of the modern day men’s movement with the Christian Men’s Network, said, “Prayer produces intimacy with God.”

E. M. Bounds said, “A prayerless pulpit begets a prayerless pew.”

Preachers can act out ministerial at the drop of a hat. You can’t fool your way through prayer.

It’s the same with singing for God, or being a music minister for God, or being a church secretary for a pastor.

He is not the first and he certainly won’t be the last. With immorality overrunning the church where the demonic LGBT agenda is being swallowed whole by sinning pastors, helping to cause the church to renounce the righteousness of God, the more pastors fail the standard, the argument from the world holds a form of truth.

We are hypocrites.

Finally, the wife and kids affected by the adulterous pastor. It is clear that betrayal on this level has brought embarrassment and confusion to his family. The wife in the moment loses her self esteem, dignity, and honor. It will take time to ask God for grace to get through the initial and long term affects of her husband’s foolish act of sexual pleasure.

The wife will experience the devil bringing a lot of questions to her mind. The devil with suggest to her that she is not as beautiful as the secretary or porn stars he’s been watching. The devil will suggest to her that her bedroom inadequacy and unavailability for sex was due to her increased workload was the cause. The devil will bring up past arguments that led to a husband’s cold shoulder.

And more things like God is not going to repair the marriage. That God doesn’t love her. And on and on. But this is the moment where whatever is brought to your mind, is to be refuted by the Word of God. She will need to confide in another woman of God, in a safe environment, that will objectively deal with her in a compassionate manner. The road to her healing is long and difficult. At this stage, it is recommended that difficult decisions be put off and just get through the moment of the infidelity with the grace and love of God.

The kids need to be told the truth, depending upon their ages. They must understand that what their daddy did was sin and that it wan’t in God’s plan. That sexual sin is of the devil. If at all possible, they need to be cared for while the process is ongoing. They must experience some semblance of normalcy as possible. Professional Christian help is available and should be sought as reasonably quick as possible.

It’s not the end and God’s grace can get you through the moments. Wives that experience this horrendous act must never place blame on themselves. They must get through the moment and allow God to work with them where they are.

Church. Let’s do a better job in our sanctification. Let’s get closer to God in prayer and obedience to the Word.

This does not have to be common.

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