Women are unfairly blamed for a lot of things in the world and the church. However, the Bible is clear about the kinds of women that desire to use their femininity to sexually trap men in the church. Not all women are this way. Many seek the Lord and remain holy throughout their lives. But there is the hopeless, desperate, and connection deprived women that no longer hold out.
I can’t help but underscore a woman’s discipline to abstain from sex for 15 years before yielding to her sexually immoral predator pastor and received the death sentence of HIV/AIDS.
“In your patience possess ye your souls.”
Very few churches these days escape the sex scandal. There is always two sides to every story.
When a pastor gets up before the congregation to announce his Secret Sexual Sins, it is the most devastating time for the future of the congregation.
Equally, it is the most devastating time for the wife and family of the pastor. Very few know the pain, anguish, and suffering a wife goes through. Very few understand that way before adultery, the sin of adultery that the pastor fought long and hard to avoid occurred in the secrecy of his private life.
But very few discuss the kinds of women that come to church. Some come with the intent to seduce a pastor, or any male that would look their way. Some are desperate for male companionship that to fulfill connection needs, they offer their bodies as a sacrifice to males. Sometimes break up after break up, women give up being holy and chaste, and “turn the tables” so to speak.
Very few are willing to discuss the breeding ground that led to the sex scandal in a pastor, praise and worship singers, musicians, and other leaders in the church.
Men watch women lustfully, file images in their minds to masturbate off of those images, and then they take it to the next levels in sexual addiction.
Thousands of porn images.
Then when they had enough of fantasy, the select a body. Whether they come through the doors of the church, or pastors and other church leaders engage in prostitution, strip joints, or escort services, it doesn’t matter as long as he gets a body to “cooperate” to fulfill his sexual sins.
It’s in his private life that these things have a place to be sinfully nurtured. Yes, it is premeditated. The lines he said he would never cross, eventually gets crossed.
It’s just a matter of time.
There is no question, that in the church, women out number males. And there is no question that the availability of single males in the church is significantly diminished.
There is no question that not everyone that comes to the church, comes for the right reason. That goes for men and women. Behind our worship lurks the sins of the flesh and spirit, or the mind and flesh.
For the most part we know that married and single males are always on the look out for “strange flesh.”
But strange flesh comes to church and the unsuspecting male, married or single, need to pay attention. Married women in the church need to pay attention to protect their husband because in a flash, an immoral woman will make a play for your husband.
Before I go further, let me reiterate the fact that pastoral sex abuse is no longer the exception. It is common. Pastors use their professional position to take advantage of emotionally unstable women. Male pastors that are smooth with their words and hands are quick to take advantage of unsuspecting, God fearing women that come for counseling and end up in the bedroom.
That’s what’s happening in the church. There are also staff pastors, elders, bishops, deacons, and such that cannot discipline themselves. So we know that this activity is out there.
How do the sexual immoral women come?
Proverbs, as I have stated before, is a handbook of wisdom for boys that are about to become men. There is no question that ladies can learn a thing or two from the book of Proverbs, but, it was written basically for men.
Solomon learned much about women. At the end of his reign, he had 1000 women.
The Bible tells us that “he loved many women.”
There is no question that he had sex with every last one of them and perhaps even more.
But here is what we can learn.
There is the “type” of women that come to many churches. And do not sit there and think otherwise. We must remember that not everyone will come to the church as saved as you think.
Let’s not be naive here.
Another thing not to be naive about is that not all preachers are as clean as you think.
Preachers need Jesus. Sinning preachers need to repent and get right with God.
The kinds of women that come to church, other than the married and single, holy women of God, are called five things.
1. Evil woman. 2. Seductress. 3. Harlot. 4. Adulteress. 5. Immoral woman.
If you are not one of these five, then you have nothing to worry about. But please read on because if you are a married woman, you need to pay attention to these kinds of women that will make a play on your husband. Your husband will not see it coming, but you do and you are his only set of eyes that see beyond the innocent “hehehe’ laugh of women.
We do not put these things out to degrade women. The Bible is clear that when women of this kind comes, it is important for the male to get wisdom from God and avoid her. In Proverbs 7, her house is called, “the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.”
In Proverbs 7, she also has this spiritual aura about her….“I have peace offerings with me, today I have paid my vows.”
According to Adam Clarke’s Commentary, “peace offerings were offerings the spiritual design of which was to make peace between God and man, to make up the breach between them which sin had occasioned…’much light is cast on this place by the fact that the gods in many parts of the East are actually worshipped in brothels, and fragments of the offerings are divided among the wretches who fall into the snare of the prostitutes’- WARD’s Customs (quote).
Sort of like the prayer that most people in silence make.
“God, forgive me for the sin I am about to commit.”
Key Scriptures to help you identify The Five Kinds Of Sinful Women.
1. Her words of seduction.
Proverbs 5:3-6…“The lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword. He feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell, lest you ponder her path of life-her ways are unstable; you do not know them.”
When you fail to keep this Scripture and go for sinful woman, this Scripture is applicable to you…..
“For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.”
2. Her beauty.
Proverbs 6:23-25 says…..
“For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”
Proverbs 7:10 says this…..
“And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart. She was loud and rebellious, her feet would not stay at home.”
Women dress to be noticed. Women wear make up to enhance her natural beauty. The right combination guarantees attention. All shapes, all sizes. The right combination is what gets results. But when you want red flag attention, cleavage, high and tight, and hair just right.
Then there is the loud and rebellious kind that is part of the make up of The Five Kinds Of Sinful Woman.
They hate male authority and it is indicative of hating God’s authority. No matter what you tell them, they will do it any way. And nothing stops them except death or mercifully, the power of God. The obnoxious sister that comes in every Sunday to look for trouble falls in this category. Any way to get some attention.
Yes, avoid her because you know they are trouble.
In 1 Peter 3:3-4, Peter, a married man, said this about the dress and behavior of married women…..
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward- arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quite spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”
It doesn’t matter whether it’s the bar or church. When they want to get noticed, it’s an all out intentional cat walk or red carpet actions that gets a man’s attention.
And sadly, when a married woman doesn’t get her husband’s attention, she will dress to provoke the attention of other men.
So brothers, pastors, all men, whether that’s the intention or not, do not fall for it.
Here is a Scripture (Proverbs 4:25-27) that will help you….
“Let your eyes look straight ahead, and your eyelids look right before you. Ponder the path of your feet, and let your ways be established. Do not turn to the right or the left; remove your foot from evil.”
Did you notice “and look at your eyelids right before you?”
That means look at your eyelids. Or close your eyes and let your eyes look at the backside of the eyelids instead of her backside.
What is the price if you fail to take heed? Proverbs 6:26 says….
“For by means of a harlot, a man is reduced to a crust of bread and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life…”
So males, to be men, you need to apply your hearts to the wisdom of God and avoid The Five Kinds Of Sinful Women that come to church.
If you don’t, I hope you like crusts of bread and I hope your nights in hell will be easy.