In the last two blogs, a lot of doctrine came out. Now the ball is in your court.
What are you willing to do to stop the battle of constant perverted sexual thoughts in your mind?
It is very easy to point to Romans 12:1-2 and Ephesians 4:23.
We often say that we have to renew our minds but do we make the quality effort to completely allow the Holy Spirit to purge our mind? And after the purging, do we really listen to the Holy Spirit when He directs us to change what we are currently thinking? The soul is very powerful but the soul is second in the tri-part makeup of man.
Therefore, it is the born again spirit of man, by the aid of the Holy Spirit, that must reign in the thoughts of the soul, and subjugate the soul to think about the Word of God.
Subjugate is a very strong word but it is a necessary word because that’s what we have to do if we are going to be serious about battling sexual thoughts (see 1 Corinthians 9:27).
At first, it’s not easy but the more you develop submission to God and resist the devil (see James 4:7 and 1 Peter 5:8-9), over time, you will be able to quickly identify 1.) demonic attempts to generate certain sexual perverted thoughts and 2.) self generated perverted sexual thoughts.
When you are generating perverted sexual thoughts on your own, it’s because you’ve given yourself over to thinking those thoughts.
Act 6:4 is a very powerful Scripture. The apostles were challenged to serve tables and said that they wouldn’t do that. They told them to pick seven men to serve. They also said, “But we will give ourselves continually to prayer and the ministry of the Word.”
In 1 Corinthians 6:12, Paul said,
“All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”
You see, it is a matter of the will and what you want to have dominate your life. Anything that tells you what to do is exercising dominion over you. Just because “urges and impulses” for sex comes, it doesn’t mean that you have to yield to its control to be brought under its power.
You can give yourself to anything you want. You are in control. That’s why if you do not “Keep your heart with all diligence…” you will succumb or yield your soul (mind, emotions, intellect, personality, human will) to think perverted thoughts.
The Word of God serves to cleanse (Ephesians 4:26) and expose (Ephesians 5:11). The more you meditate on the Word of God, day and night (Joshua 1:8), the more you “prosper” and have “good success”…. over the forces of darkness.
Psalm 119:130 says,
“The entrance of Your words give light; it gives understanding to the simple (gullible).”
So when you read the Word of God. Purposefully read the Word of God, the light of His Word comes into the soul and heart of man. Then we make the quality effort to “do the Word.” (see James 1:22).
The proof that the entrance of the Word came into your heart is in the immediacy of obedience during moments that darkness is strongly using its influence to get you to make a decision to shut the light off.
Darkness cannot win until you shut the light off.
The only place where success is measured is in your willingness to quickly and promptly obey the Word at the point and moments when you are being influenced by the forces of darkness. You have to choose to walk in the light of the Word instead of intentionally choosing to ignore the Word.
Psalm 119:105 says,
“Your Word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
Lamp to my feet implies that you are closely watching every step that you take and make.
Light to your path implies that you can see what is ahead so you could plan where you intend to put your feet or to avoid pits, and other obstacles.
It also implies that you are walking in darkness and the only thing that can illuminate your path is the Word of God (see Romans 13:11-14).
Let the Word of God be the flashlight so you can see where you put your feet and also to look ahead so you can see where you are going.
Have you ever driven a car without your headlights on?
While it was safe, I wanted to see how dark it would be. Just for a split second at night, I shut off the lights and I couldn’t see a thing. It was pitch black.
Folks, it’s the same when we do not have the Word.
It is pitch black out there when we intentionally turn the light of His Word off.
“What are you doing with your moments, son?
You see, this question answered why I was so corrupt in my thinking.
Every moment, I thought about the sexual explicit forms of women. I meditated on it day and night. I woke up every morning, looking to get off. I went to bed almost every night, getting off. The saying is true. You are what you eat. You are what you meditate on. Whatever you sow, that is what you will reap. If you sow to the flesh, of the flesh you shall reap corruption.
When you sow corruption, you reap corruption.
On the other hand, I choked the Word of God out of my life. I didn’t give the Word any entrance into my own soul. I was dark, cold, and without life.
I was born again, but living a carnal life. There was no real connection to the Lord. I was living a life of hypocrisy until God was about to expose me. I don’t know what He would have done but I knew that time was running out for me.
The promise of exposure, because God never threatens, was enough for me to come clean.
You must learn to identify innocent moments that serve as subliminal attempts of the forces of darkness to get you to accept the seeds of darkness that, when watered, bloom into sexual immorality.
The newsstand, the grocery store magazine rack. The Internet, commercialized with sexually laced articles and images. Youtube. Sex laced jokes among carnal and sinful friends. Movies with bombshell seductresses every where. Soft porn at PG rated movies. Commercials with sex themes to sell their products. Store catalogues, and the women’s section of underwear in the stores.
These are all substitute porn.
In Romans 7:24, Paul said this….
“O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?”
Verse 25 gives the answer….
“I thank God- through Jesus Christ our Lord!”
These area are all blatant and seemingly innocent attempts of the forces of darkness to get your soul to thinking these substitute porn thoughts to lure you back into sexual bondage.
All seeds need cultivation. Meditation is the mulling over of things. That’s how the Word of God is cultivated and that’s how the seeds of darkness are cultivated too.
When I came clean about my Secret Sexual Sins, I needed to confront the deep dark secrets of lust in my own heart. I took a course called Way To Purity by Mike Cleveland of Setting Captives Free.
By the way, please go to my Sexual Addiction Recovery page and that will take you to the links to help you recover from sexual addiction.
By a few courses, I figured I would give them answers in their questionnaires that showed my Scriptural knowledge to “impress” them.
All of a sudden, they shared that many of those caught in the sins of porn and masturbation have a lot of Bible knowledge and no humility to be taught.
It was a revelation of the fact that pride and arrogance resided very strongly in me.
It was a revelation of the fact that deflection was a part of my ability to keep the truth from shining inside my dark heart. It’s one thing to be responsible for the sins committed but it is another thing to relinquish the male phycological gamesmanship in the perverted soul.
Just like alcoholics that think that they could handle their liquor. Sex addicts believe that they can handle sex.
I had to relinquish my ability to impress people because that was part of my cover for Secret Sexual Sins. If I could “wow” them, they would never know what was going on in my dark heart. I needed to humble myself and disarm this thing because it would be a matter of time before these same mechanisms that held me captive would be used again to enter into relapse.
Paul said this,
“Knowledge puffs up…”
The thing about battling warfare is that when we exalt ourselves above measure in the mind, a superiority complex enters and we believe that we got sexual addiction licked. And that’s exactly what the enemy waits for. He waits to see if you are going to be very prideful about God’s deliverance in your life. And it’s just a matter of time before the temptation comes to directly challenge your freedom and liberty in the Lord.
This is a work of grace and if you forget this, that God is the one that delivered you and that it is His Word, and not yours, that did the work, you will fall every time.
So what did you learn from all of this?
Can you take what was shared and be diligent to employ the Word?
Anyone can pray, cast out devils by shouting at them, and fall when you do not take heed.
But the real warfare is when you can employ the Word when there is no one in the flesh to impress. In other words, there is no one watching you so that they could applaud your “works.”
It’s the battle of sexual thoughts and what you choose to do with them that determines the true measure of your victory or defeat in the realm of Secret Sexual Sins.