I Want To Sleep With My Pastor

All across America, there are many women, (Moabite or Jezebel) that seek to sleep with their pastors. We have covered, extensively, the male pastors that “fall from grace” into Secret Sexual Sins in the bedroom without really tapping into the world of sexual immorality on the women’s side.

The issues that face the church today are serious. We do not think that sexual immorality is that big a deal.

If this is what you are thinking, listen to these statistics.

50% of pastors struggle with porn. 49% of evangelical Christians struggle with porn.

Yes, these statistics is directly connected to this subject because if pastors are having a problem with Internet porn (by the way 89% of Internet porn comes from the United States- over 244 million sites with 300 sites added each day). You know pastors and Christians are struggling with self sex, commonly called masturbation. And if the pastors are married, and their marriages isn’t rock solid, a scandal is only a matter of time.

It is important to point out that the situation with the late Dr. Zachary Tims, his sex scandal was a clear violation of the Word of God. There is no question in my mind that when you are having an affair with a stripper, that the idea (based on preponderance) came from the Internet.

For extra measure, this stripper was in Spain. So for a year or more, he would fly to Spain. Perfect cover almost. Eventually, it was exposed and another marriage was destroyed by lust in the heart of a pastor at the hands of a seducing spirit operating in a stripper.

Some of you are already saying “Why are you bringing this up again?”

Because there is no question in my mind that another scandal is about to be brought to light. You do not have to be a prophet to figure it out. The percentages never disappoint. Perhaps you are in a local church and you are watching your pastor being seduced or is seduced already.

This example of a scandal, to date, is what takes place in many of our churches because we are too afraid to deal with exposing and uncovering Secret Sexual Sins. Especially when people and pastors are supposed to be upholding the standard of God’s Word. Not just in the preaching department, but in the “working out your soul salvation with fear and trembling.”

According to Shelley Lubben of The Pink Cross Foundation, “porn stars are prostitutes.”

In fact, according to Shelley Lubben, a former porn star that testified before a Senate Sub-Committee on Pornography, unless you are on the “A” list of porn stars, prostitutes get paid more than low end porn performers because for 16 hours of work, depending upon the kind of production they are doing, the porn stars get paid according to what they are told to do. If they do not do what the producers want them to do, the porn stars do not get paid.

And porn stars are forced to go into prostitution to make more money. It is known that they make much more money for less time “working.”

For 16 hours of work on a porn set, they may walk away with between $350.00 to $500.00, whereas a prostitute may walk away with $1,600.00 or more for only 2 hours of work.

The trade off is disgusting because of STDs, sexual assault or rape, pregnancies, if they occur, usually end in abortion, (allegedly a prostitute aborted Tiger Woods’ baby) and possibly being murdered, let alone get arrested for prostitution.

According to one article called “The Seamless Fabric,” between porn stars, prostitutes, and strippers, and women and teen girls that are human trafficked, predominantly for the sex trade, it is a “seamless fabric.”

In other words, there is no separation or distinction.

This is what I first thought after 10 years of bondage to porn. In ignorance, I thought that these “issues” were separate and that porn was a completely isolated thing.

Why?

It lessened the guilt and shame factor.

Quite the contrary.

For any sexually addicted pastor, the transition from fantasy to reality is just one decision and one female body away.

Women are attracted to powerful men in the pulpit. There is no question about it. However, there must be a call to holiness, discipline, and sanctification from both the women that come to church and the pastors. At the very least, the male pastor must be on guard.

However, this is somewhat discouraging because the male pastor will not see seduction coming. It takes the wife of a male pastor to see the seduction.

When a male pastor is conversing with a female, it may look innocent, and sometimes, it’s about nothing. However, when you see something that is more to it than meets the eye, it is better to play it safe, and talk to your husband about it. If he brushes you and your admonition off, then he is not paying attention. In the back of his mind, he is already looking forward to the next time he will have a conversation with that hot looking parishioner.

Sometimes, the mistress is not that hot looking. Sometimes, it’s the kind of sex they give that hooks a male pastor.

These issues must be addressed because we are seeing pastors fall into sexual sins more rapidly than before. Because of the Internet and because male pastors and women are loose in their living, it is very easy to fall prey to the slick preachers that promise them the world.

There are predators and wanderers in the pulpit but there are, what I call, “passive predators.”

They are called Moabite women or Jezebels, depending upon their objective. Their beauty is their weapon of choice. If you are married to a pastor, wife, you must be on the lookout for these women that desire your husband.

In the world, there’s the Beyonce’s, the Angelina’s, and the Rihanna’s.

They all have one thing in common.

Intentional Sexual Seduction.

Seductive women of the world are influencing the women in the church that play both sides of the fence. Carnal women always fight righteousness to fulfill “connection” needs.

How are these “professional” seductresses influencing carnal Christian women?

Television shows, movies, listening to and watching worldly music and music videos, and the company seductive women in the church keep Monday through Saturday.

What is it that they are learning?

How to tug on a man’s heart to get them to do almost anything when you give them your body.

Sadly, there are many women that knowingly scheme to “trap” men because of a male’s one track mind; thinking with what is below their belt line.

There’s a constant struggle in the church for the minds of God’s people. When people get saved, the Lord gave Paul the answer to why people struggle and can’t get to the next level.

The failure to renew their minds with the Word of God.

When a woman wants to sleep with their pastor, it is a revelation of the fact that they are searching for “connection” by intimacy with “power.” According to the book of Genesis, we see that women are influenced by words. However, it’s not just the words but the way that words are used.

The devil used the serpent for cover and the devil had a way with words to depict God as Someone that was withholding something. Made God out to be the bad Guy. You can’t be against somebody for nothing. The devil gave Eve a reason to be against God. Words and the way the devil used those words gave Eve enough reason to defect.

Now mind you that seduction happens on both sides of the fence. It’s not all women and it is not all men. It is a combination of the two meeting at precisely the right or wrong moment.

An unguarded pastor will drop his guard when beauty approaches him.

The most vulnerable moment of a pastor is after he preaches. It is there that he needs to be guarded by his wife. He is weak physically and emotionally. If the marriage isn’t rock solid, this is the place where the devil will attack.

More later, in part two.

2 comments

  1. survivorgirl007

    You make some very valid points here. There are most definitely women in the church who are seeking to have an illicit relationship with their pastor. Even so, that pastor must remember that he, first and foremost, is the responsible party in that situation. He has a fiduciary responsibility to all his parishioners NO MATTER WHAT. There is a staggering number of adult women who have been sexually abused by their pastors – and even if the woman solicited sex, it is still considered abuse because of the power differential. All sad but true. You can read more about it here:
    http://www.baylor.edu/clergysexualmisconduct/

    If anyone reading this has been a victim of clergy sexual abuse or misconduct or is married to a pastor who has been accused of it, there is help at http://www.thehopeofsurvivors.com.

    You are to be commended for encouraging wives of pastors to be on guard.

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    • prevailing word ministries

      I appreciate your timely and well placed comments. There is no question that the percentage of sexual sins unfortunately favor clergy abuse. It is a noted fact that “professional” clergy, attorneys, doctors, and others abuse their “place of trust” to gain sexual favors. No different than rape. On the other hand, there is no question in my mind about the smaller percentage of women that do cross the line for their own personal “connection” needs. A very small number of women allow themselves to be taken advantaged of simply because they were “professionally overpowered” by the charm and charisma of a “personality” preacher, does ring true as the reason for crossing the line. It must also be noted that the majority of women withstand such advances to their credit. Then there is the smaller percentage of women that are “aggressive predators.” As an example, my wife and I pastor a church of only 16 members for 16 years and we experienced an attempt of an “aggressive predator” along these lines. My wife caught her in my office, in my desk while I was greeting the people in the sanctuary. So please forgive me if I am a little overzealous about “aggressive female predators” in the church. Thanks for the links. It’s all about addressing the issue with as much wisdom from the Lord as possible. For further insight in this area of Secret Sexual Sins, please listen to any of my groundbreaking series on Sexual Addictions of clergy by clicking this link to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/prevailingword1
      Thanks again.

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