In my other articles along these lines, by the Spirit of God, I gave you a taste of what pastors do behind closed doors. What is done in secret is what we should be paying attention to. We are taken aback when we find out that a man of God cheated on his wife.
We have concentrated on men falling in sexual sins in the church. However, there is another side to scandals. Everyone that comes to church do not come for the right reason. We all know that somewhere lurking in the pew is a passive predator.
They may appear “sanctified” but “sanctified” for sex.
I will not pull any punches because we all know that it takes two to tango. All it takes is the right set of circumstances and the game is on.
Yes, prostitution and adultery does takes place in the church.
Certain women may or may not dress like one but when they come into the church and attempt to passively hunt for pastors, ministers, bishops, deacons, and other married men, it is no different than immoral women standing on the street corner, waiting for the “John” to show up.
Then again, the immoral woman will dress provocatively to attract attention. You know that they are not supposed to wear plunging neckline dresses but they do. You know they are not supposed to wear tight, high skirt dresses but they do. If you want to get noticed, you will not spare a man’s eyes. You want to make sure they have your attention.
More skin, more sin.
While I was in another country, I was standing outside a local church after service. Out of the corner of my right eye, a young lady in a tight fitting, plunging neckline, flirty blue dress walked up. She walked passed me and right up to this married elder, and they struck up a conversation. It was so provocative, that I had to turn away.
We must also be aware that sometimes a dress is not as sexually provocative as one thinks. We must also concede that in the minds of all men, lust could be lurking.
However, it could be innocent but these days, I take nothing for granted any more.
Sometimes, people have perfect timing.
You don’t know what’s in the hearts and minds of people until they begin to talk or issue subtle or not so subtle signals.
Why is it that we are not taken aback when it is discovered that lust was in his heart and flesh before he hopped in bed with another person? It’s because we all know that if this is revealed, it will wreak havoc with many people.
When the Lord Jesus first came on the scene, he dealt with a man’s lust problem. Everything has a starting point.
POINT ONE: Adultery In The Mind Of A Man
Adultery begins in the heart of man before he even gets in bed (see Matthew 5:27-30).
How does a man commit adultery without touching a woman?
With his eyes.
Proverbs 27:20 says,
“Hell and Destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.”
When a man cannot control his eyes, he will hunt. Once a man has “locked in” on a woman, if he doesn’t “catch” his eyes, he will take her to the bedroom in his imagination.
This is the tale of the tape every day, every moment. Can you pull your eyes back into your sockets to avoid crossing the line into lust? If you can’t, you will go to bed with her in your thoughts.
Matthew 15:19 says,
“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts (like) murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”
These evil thoughts are connected to the “Urges and Impulses” in the flesh of man.
James 1:14 says,
“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.”
Are you beginning to see how you get caught up in the world of lust?
What you are searching for (eyes) is a result of what your flesh desires. Then the devil provides direct or indirect stimulation of the thoughts to entice you to cross certain lines to fulfill or satisfy that desire.
When you begin to develop habits of lust, you develop a consistent pattern of what you desire. Preferences are developed. The moment you start thinking about sex, body parts, and the shapes of the body parts, you are about to cross the line into thought adultery. These are the beginning stages of “fulfilling the desires of the flesh and the mind.”
POINT TWO: The Immoral Woman
The other side of the coin is when an immoral woman dresses in a sexually suggestive way.
Femininity operates in a threefold way.
1. The right way is when they are married and she does so to please her husband.
2. Pleasant dressing that strikes a balance when a single or divorced woman is searching for the right man.
3. The wrong way is when she wears sexually provocative clothing to attract the attention of men for only two reasons. Prostitution or adultery.
Even in the church, innocent looking may not necessarily mean it’s sanctified looking. While God knows the hearts and intents of the heart, all of us have to exercise a measure of mental and physical discipline to avoid demonic traps laid by the devil.
When an immoral woman prostitutes herself, she is out to take his money. Proverbs 6:26 says, “For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread…”
When an adulterous woman is hunting, she already has her heart set on one person and her goal is his life.
The rest of Proverbs 6:26 says,
“…And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.”
Some lonely women long for a man that has everything that she is looking for. A married successful family man. They treat the wives of these men with utter contempt. They look at their wives as if they are in competition when there is no competition.
He is married and the competition is over. Sadly, when there is a hint of a strained relationship, it’s like the smell of honey for bears.
The background of adulteress varies from a person that is lonely and cannot hang onto one man, to widows, and to Jezebels. However, the bottom line will always be that all women desire “connection.”
This connection is driven by a desire to be loved, affirmed, and valued.
With the ranks of available “low maintenance” males dwindling, staying sanctified becomes a very tough life for single available women. It is true these days that males are more selective and unfortunately, males still play the field. Females are ready for relationship and family life.
What I also find is that single women are rightfully impatient because they want males to quickly commit. The competition is extremely steep. The fear of someone else catching his eye is a credible phobia that breaks the hearts of many single women.
But what single or divorced women don’t need to do is to stoop low to “animal impulses” to achieve a goal only found in true relationships within the boundaries of holy matrimony. It is true that men are much too slow in commitment but it is not excuse enough to prostitute yourself.
God is still holy and harlotry is not the will of God.
We should not fool ourselves into thinking that people will stop. That’s why sin will always have consequential judgment attached to it. When we cross lines, we must remember that God is not mocked. Whatever we sow, is what we will reap. The sexual discipline of Jesus must be employed. When we are weak, then we are strong. When temptation comes, we must fast and pray, and stay in the Word.
To prostitute ourselves is not what God intended.
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