prevailing word ministries:

We need all the help we could get to end solo sex. Sex was designed by God to be shared in marriage between one man and one woman.

Sex outside of marriage is selfish.

This includes extramarital solo sex.

No one person has it all regarding masturbation. It takes a team effort to restore, as Dr. Mark Laaser says, “Healthy sexuality.”

Spiritually, masturbation is a dark side activity. Sex, in holy matrimony is the good, acceptable, and perfect will of God.

Instead of building a case to hold on to dead works, find material along these lines to finally break free and stay free.

Originally posted on CASTIMONIA:

http://porntopurity.com/blog/2014/01/24/is-it-ok-to-masturbate/

Posted: 24 Jan 2014 03:00 AM PST

Masturbation is one of those hushed words in many church and family circles.  We don’t talk about it, we struggle with it, we are confused by it, yet we have important questions about it.

THE BIGGEST QUESTION:  Is it OK to masturbate?

I found an interesting article on www.restoringsexualpurity.org about masturbation.  Dr.  Harry W. Schaumburg shares some things to consider: CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL ARTICLE  Dr. Shaumburg comes to these conclusions in his article that are worth looking at.

  • Sex is a part of a personal relationship with another person; masturbation is non-relational.
  • Sex is to be exclusive; masturbation typically involves sexually impure thoughts.
  • Sex is to be special and intimate; masturbation is frequent and shallow.
  • Sex is to be fruitful (productive) in that man is designed to enter a woman and to create, both at a relational and reproductive level…

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Growing up as a kid, you hear things that made you think.

Statements like “go play with yourself” had that sexual overtone that everyone knew what it’s about. However, after a while, you find yourself doing masturbation more often than you realize. Until it becomes second nature. The muscle memory and the false pleasure of having sex with someone that isn’t there became more than just “playing with yourself.”

It turned from pleasure habit into a bondage that is no different than nicotine, cocaine, or alcohol dependency.

It’s addictive. Voyeurism, exhibitionism, and other obsessive forms of sexual immorality is not that far off. That’s because with self sexual foreplay, people that are not in control will engage anywhere.

The false pros of masturbation is no relationship with another person. No STDs. No pregnancies.

You schedule your day around it.

In 1 John 2:15-17, John, the beloved apostle of the Lamb said, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of the Father abides forever.”

Lust is the law in the flesh of fallen man (male and female).

The law of lust is what’s behind masturbation.

The law of sin and death (see Romans 8:1-2) demands that lust be fulfilled, but we all know that lust is never fulfilled. It remains dissatisfied forever. Anything that is not ordained by the Lord is of the devil. The devil’s desires will always remain insatiable. Hence, the fallen state of man, these desires, unless put to death, will remain insatiable.

The corruption of flesh demands satisfaction.

The flesh demands to recharge to re-satisfy itself.

In the normal concept of sex, the reset to do it all over again is to be tempered or self controlled.

Lust is never controlled. It must be put to death.

In the last 6 years, masturbation was the most difficult thing to break. After 33 years from 1975 to 2008, a week wouldn’t go by unless I engaged in masturbation. At first, it seemed normal and innocent. Afterwards, I was hooked and developed a list of reasons to keep doing what I wanted to do. Even after marriage, I found myself engaging.

Lust after women “enhanced” this pursuit of sexual satisfaction. But satisfaction was never achieved. Even with introducing pornography in 1998, the satisfaction was never achieved.

Little did I realized that not only was I breaking God’s command about the sanctity of marriage according to Genesis 2:24, far worse, I idolized my desire to have self or solo sex.

It became my god.

The Lord God said to Moses in Exodus 20:3-6,

“You shall have no other gods before Me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image —any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them.

For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”

To put it as bluntly as allowed, getting off was worshipped.

At this altar of sexual immorality, I paid homage to the god of lust. The second god or idol was my sexual organ. What kept me worshipping at this altar was the dopamine. The drug of fulfillment and satisfaction.

This infatuation of getting this drug in my blood stream had me coming back for more and more every time.

All it took to get me started was touching myself sexually. Or a combination of things. Lusting after the flesh. The sexual objectification of a woman’s anatomy. At the end of the day, there’s no question what was going to happen. From 2008 to 2011, the grace of God enabled me to completely abstain from masturbation.

It was a great 3.5 years of learning how to control myself.

Dr. Mark Lasser really taught the lesson on self control. He asked the greatest question I’ve ever heard.

Can you do without sex with your wife and masturbation?

The answer is yes.

Hence, the definition of addiction recovery.

“To control, manage, or stop using a particular substance, thing, or activity.”

There are many advocates that encourage masturbation as a healthy sexual practice. This would fall under the category of “control or manage.”

However, if it is being worshipped, it must stop because God has no rivals. If God is enthroned on your heart, there can be no other gods.

In reading many books that reason with making seemingly viable excuses to continue masturbation, many men will accept these arguments and stand their ground when they are challenged.

Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”

James 1:14-15 says, “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

So the end is always death. What kind of death? Death in your relationship with the Lord. Broken fellowship with God.

It seems right to justify sin but it always end in death. You are tempted, you fall into temptation, you yield to temptation. The desire has conceived (egg – sperm unites). Sin is birthed. Death is the result.

In Matthew 26:41, Jesus said, “Watch and pray, lest you fall into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak.”

Even with watching and praying, lust was lurking within me that I feared greatly.

The urge to touch myself sexually got stronger and stronger.

Mind you, I was praying. I had an accountability partner. I was teaching the men how to overcome.

Then the moment of truth came. After a setback at an event, discouragement zapped me so bad that I fell into the trap of touching myself sexually.

From 2011 to early spring of 2014, I found myself back into “playing with myself.”

To even try to deflect how I got back into masturbation or to attempt to minimize the fall is the worst thing in the world you could do. That’s because to falsely justify sexual immorality is a deception not worth going to hell over. Even to count how many times I masturbated to give a minimal number to minimize the blow is folly.

I also found out that you can’t preach effectively to sinners if you are in sin yourself. You are disqualified.

Since returning to the streets to preach, the reason that kept me from preaching in the streets was directly tied to sexual immorality running rampant in my life. There is no anointing in sin. God never anoints what He never appoints. Sin and holiness can never mingle. God’s temple cannot be full of idols. Jesus and satan can never have communion, fellowship, or unity. Darkness cannot co-mingle with light.

Ineffective living always leads to ineffective preaching. If you cannot live to obey the commands of Jesus, you can’t win a soul to Jesus. The crucified life demands denying yourself, taking up your cross, and following the Lord. Many desire to follow the Lord, but they never deny themselves (see Mark 8:34).

You deliberately cheat or defraud yourself from achieving a false pleasure to gain the highest pleasure.

Pleasing God.

You can’t talk about taking up your cross unless you deny yourself.

In other words, you stop playing with yourself.

Most ministers are ineffective because of the refusal to deny themselves.

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 9:27, “But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

Jesus said this in Matthew 5:28-30, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

This is not a stretch of revelation but you and I both know that the Lord covered masturbation because it takes an eye to lust and the hand to play. There is no question about it and to fool ourselves into thinking that the Lord wasn’t talking about self sex is foolishness and deliberate deception.

As Mike Cleveland of Setting Captives Free said, this is “radical amputation.”

If you refuse to cut off anything that is leading you to masturbate, notice what Jesus said….

“…for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

Will a person go to hell over masturbation?

Are you willing to let masturbation rule you like a god? And are you willing to risk it?

Remember what Revelation 21:8 says.

Remember also Hebrews 12:4.

“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

And NO. I am not telling you that you need to butcher yourself to stop sinning.

What is it that you are willing to do to stop sinning?

How far will you go?

Are you willing to pull out the TV?

Are you willing to give up your mobile device you use to spy out flesh to masturbate off of?

Are you willing to give up your passcode to your computer to an accountability partner and or your wife?

Are you willing to get off of FB or all social media?

Are you willing to walk across the street when a hot looking woman is within your periphery?

Are you willing to look in another direction when she is trying to get your attention at the magazine stand?

Are you willing to change channels if you keep your TV?

Are you willing to get up out of bed, pray and seek God when you are sexually aroused at night?

Are you willing to call your accountability partner to get prayer in your hour of temptation?

Are you willing to pick up the phone when your accountability partner calls on you to check up on you?

Are you willing to stop being evasive when asked the tough questions?

 

So let’s sum this up.

1. Lust must be destroyed. In fact, lust was destroyed on the cross of Christ according to 1 John 3:8.

But is lust destroyed in you? Colossians 3:5 is the answer.

2. God has no rivals. Exodus 20-3-6.

3. Excuses seems right but frivolous justification always lead to death. Proverbs 14:12, James 1:14-15.

4. Watch and pray. Matthew 26:41.

5. Discipline yourself. 1 Corinthians 9:27.

 

In a remarkable statement, it appears that “Wising up” to the AIDS pandemic is Elton John’s rally call.

Since the disease was first diagnosed and even before it was given the famous acronym AIDS, the “Gay Man’s Disease” has taken the lives of millions.

In the Bible, the cause is still the same.

Romans 1:26-27 “For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.”

When you still do the sin of homosexuality, the outcome is still the same.

To change the outcome, a man must repent and believe the gospel of Jesus Christ. A man must be born again by the Holy Spirit. A man must abstain from sexual immorality. Searching for a cure is commendable, however, when a cure is found, it emboldens a man or a woman to pursue the sin that cause the disease in the first place.

Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

Proverbs 9:10-12 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years of life will be added to you. If you are wise, you are wise for yourself, and if you scoff, you will bear it alone.”

The fear of the Lord is the missing link.

When a man is not afraid of God, his heart is set to do evil continually.

Those that practice MSM consigned themselves to die, and so, with nothing to lose, they pursue their sins. With an “I don’t care” attitude, their hearts chase after sin. “Not caring” is a deliberate abandonment to hopelessness. But regardless of their hopelessness, there is still hope in the Lord Jesus Christ. As long as blood is running warm in your veins and there is air in your lungs, you still have a chance to repent and turn to Christ.

Romans 6:23 says, “The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

To wise up means that you discontinue sin, put your faith and full trust on the Lord Jesus Christ to save you from your sins, and you live a life of holiness until it is over.

If you have been diagnosed with HIV/AIDS, do not give up on yourself.

Repent and come to the Lord. He will abundantly pardon you of all your sins. The time to do it is today because tomorrow is promised to no one.

Hebrews 2:3 tells us “How shall we escape if we neglect so great a salvation?”

There is no other way to escape the wrath of God. That’s why the Lord sent His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, to die for you and to carry your sins away. However, you must repent and be born again according to John 3:3.

Here is the link to the article regarding what Elton John said.

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In almost every instance, powerful men of God, or, perhaps, seemingly powerful men of God in the pulpit, when they are not careful, they will engage in sexual immorality.

Sadly, because they have failed, they resume the ministry as broken cisterns that cannot hold water (see Jeremiah 2:13). They come back to the pulpit, thinking that they are whole.

Only to discover or known from the day they returned that they are broken, busted, and disqualified.

Many return to the pulpit like as if nothing ever happened. Fooling only themselves, their preaching is nothing less that a crash from garbage can tops.

Is it posible that the Lord could still use them?

Only the Lord can re-qualify the disqualified. 

If God does a work to restore them the proper way, no one is exempt. The thing that is upsetting is that they return when we know that they aren’t ready. The truth of the matter is that if they were genuinely honest with themselves, they would endure the process of restoration until the hint of immorality is shunned.

The shame cannot and will never be suppressed. However, in the restorative progress, God will work His Word into us until the job is complete. This is where the heart of a pastor receives that witness from God that the guilt and shame of sin must be avoided for the rest of their lives. This is also confirmed by inescapable accountability.

Run or be evasive about the secrets in a person’s life is a dead give away that tendency to sexually sin is still there.

They return to the place of ministry because they are territorial, they are still in search of being high and lifted up in front of the people in their pre fallen glory.

To save face and still be in sin is lamented. Usually they are not broken in contrition to God in humility.

In studying the story of Samson, we see that the pattern is clear.

Consecration.

Anointing Power.

Illicit Sex.

Moral Failure.

In Judges chapter 14, we see that although Samson was used by the Lord to destroy the Philistines, common traits are exposed.

1. Some of them start out Consecrated.

To be consecrated means that they were separated unto the Lord for a specific use.

When the call of God comes upon one’s life, we all promise (emotional hype) to do the will of God until what is in us that is not consecrated in full to God emerges.

With the NT, we see that the call or Personal invitation to the ministry given by the Lord could be misconstrued as an elite status.

There’s a lot of false power and prestige that comes with being a minister of the gospel. This is very misleading because the minister of the gospel is called to be a servant, not a pope or king to be served.

To be consecrated or separated involves personal sacrifice, dedication, and a willingness to do the will of God regardless of the cost to us personally. This includes that cost to our egos.

The nation of Israel fell into sin and the Lord used the Philistines to rule over Israel for 40 years. Whenever the nation of Israel fell into sin, this was God’s chastisement to get the children to return to the Lord.

In 40 years, a lot of people could die. At the same time, the Lord would send a judge to judge the nation of Israel to get them to conform to the ways of the Lord.

Samson’s parents were without children and then the pre-incarnate Jesus appeared to the mother of Samson to instruct her about Samson’s birth and her consecration.

Samson was to be a Nazarite from the “womb until death.”

As a side note, the devil, since Genesis 3:15, has been on the lookout for the Seed that would come to destroy him. So every chance the devil got, he looked to destroy the nation of Israel. The devil correctly assumed that the Seed would come from the nation of Israel but he didn’t know who and he didn’t know when.

With the combination of destroying the man God uses or destroying the nation in sin, he believed he stood a better chance at stopping the Seed before the Seed would stop him.

In the book of Numbers chapter 6, verses 1 through 21, the Lord gave Moses the law regarding his consecration. There is no instruction about not having a wife but we see that when he gives a vow to be consecrated, he is to be “holy.

You can’t be consecrated unto the Lord without holiness.

When you make up the rules of consecration, you can do anything you please.

When God establishes the rules of consecration, the only thing that is required is your compliance.

The purpose of consecration is very simple. You give all of yourself to the Lord for His exclusive service.

Easton’s Bible Dictionary gives an excellent read on the consecration of a Nazarite. At the conclusion of his commentary, he gave these words.

“This institution was a symbol of a life devoted to God and separated from all sin, a holy life.”

2. Some of them have unchecked or unbridled lust.

Samson failed to maintain his consecration when he asked his father and mother to get him a wife from the Philistines. The law is clear. The children of Israel are not marry foreign women.

One of the fascinating things about the Lord is that despite the instructions of the Lord, man is capable of doing things that is in violation of the known will of God. God uses this to instruct us of the importance of staying in the will of God.

When Samson’s father and mother honored their son’s request, the Lord was using this to destroy the Philistines. Rewind that back and we find that in Judges chapter 13, Israel sinned against God and placed them under the bondage of the Philistines. The price of sin is simple. Sin, and you will be placed under it’s law of bondage for a specified time as God sees fit.

From a wife, Samson went to Delilah, the harlot.

It’s the same with some of the NT believers and preachers today.

3. Some of them have pride and arrogance.

Samuel was full of pride because he knew that the power of God was upon his life. That is what gets to a lot of men and women of God in serious trouble.

We see that the Lord is working tremendous things in our lives and we deliberately cross lines.

For instance, there was a man of God, a Baptist minister, married with four children in Chicago that was involved in an unrelated investigation. It turned out that his sexual immorality was also investigated because a blackmail threat came to him. This happened in 2013. He sent salacious pictures to a woman that he wasn’t married to. She sent him salacious pictures to him and the rest was history.

The personal electronic devices, as much as it is a blessing, it is also the door to the “tree of the knowledge of good and evil.”

When you believe that you are the one making things happen, you begin to cross lines and do unthinkable, unimaginable, and unexpected things. Behind the anointed is a demonic anointing.

Notice this Scripture in Judges 14:14-16. 

“When he came to Lehi, the Philistines came shouting against him. Then the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him; and the ropes that were on his arms became like flax that is burned with fire, and his bonds broke loose from his hands. He found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, reached out his hand and took it, and killed a thousand men with it. Then Samson said:

“With the jawbone of a donkey,

Heaps upon heaps,

With the jawbone of a donkey

I have slain a thousand men!”

Samson failed to give God the glory.

Proverbs 8:13 says “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.”

Notice the word “fear.”

h3374. יִרְאָה iyr’â; feminine of 3373; fear (also used as infinitive); morally, reverence:— x dreadful, x exceedingly, fear (- fulness).

AV (45)- fear 41, exceedingly +h1419 2, dreadful 1, fearfulness 1;

 fear, terror, fearing fear, terror awesome or terrifying thing ( object causing fear) fear ( of God), respect, reverence, piety.”

For quite some time, we had used a partial definition of the fear of God.

We’ve taught only the reverential fear of God and rightfully so. But there are other definitions that must be shared in order to get a well rounded understanding of fearing God.

We’ve excluded dread, terror, exceedingly fear.

That’s why we easily sin against the Lord. We are not afraid with terror about what God would do to us if we fail to walk in His ways.

God gives us powerful victories and then we turn around, believe that we were responsible for every victory, and then we engage in conduct that is reprehensible and offensive to Him. And then we expect God to move like this all the time.

Another thing is that Samson began to treat God like an errand boy. After killing 1000 Philistines, Samson talked to God in a very abrasive way.

Notice how Samson treats the Lord.

Judges 15:18 “Then he became very thirsty; so he cried out to the Lord and said, “You have given this great deliverance by the hand of Your servant; and now shall I die of thirst and fall into the hand of the uncircumcised?” So God split the hollow place that is in Lehi, and water came out, and he drank; and his spirit returned, and he revived.”

While Samson here gives the credit for the victory, his tone reveals his heart.

I remember years ago as a young kid that I wanted water and my dad just came in from work late at night. He came into the room with the glass of water and I snatched it from him.

Looking back at it today, I remember seeing his eyes of anger. He popped me good and that reinforced the fact that he didn’t have to give me a cup of water, and that I was ungrateful.

So many of us treat God in the same way. We snatch the anointing from the Lord and it reveals that God doesn’t have to give us anything. It reveals that we are not grateful for all that the Lord does for us.

4. Some of them move from consecration to end ministry in destruction.

Because when the Lord has had enough of our childishness and disobedience, the anointing lifts and we become like mere men. Like Samson, there’s many a men and women of God that are tied to the posts without our eyes. And the whole camp of the Philistines come out to make sport of us.

The sexual immoral pastor will end the same way as with Samson.

 

For the most part, there are women that are holy and come to the house of worship to hear the Word of God.

But there are times when a woman will be approached by an immoral pastor.

Here are some signs to look for that will give you a clue as to when he is making a play on you.

AVOID THE PASTOR’S THAT SEXUALLY LOOK AT YOU

Immoral pastors will give the KFC look.

What look?

Every immoral man has “that look.”

Like a piece of chicken, legs, thighs, and breasts.

It’s a heart penetrating look to disarm your walk of holiness to please God.

When an pastor gives you that look, it’s not because he is preaching to you but because he wants you sexually.

No matter what a woman may wear, if it is attractive, he will look beyond your modest dress.

When I mean look beyond your modest dress, he has already undressed you with his perverted heart. And he makes sure that you know that he is looking at you that way so that he gets the message over to you. Other women in the church do pick up on it but sometimes they suppress it because some of them are hoping that he would look at them that way too.

In small church settings, it’s almost certain that he is looking to connect. In much larger settings, it can happen too.

There was a video that I looked at by mistake but it gave me information that is essential to this blog.

Obviously, it was a very provocative video. A man dressed like a pimp sat across from a male and female. He was singing “Can your boyfriend do it like me” or words to that effect. The boyfriend was into his newspaper or electronic device and not into his girlfriend. The girlfriend look over her boyfriend’s shoulder and was instantly attracted to the dude. He gave that “look” and that’s all she needed.

She left her boyfriend in the chair. Brother man didn’t even look up to see where she was going.

But it’s like that in church.

The immoral pastor gives that look, and that all a woman needs.

A PASTOR’S OUTSPOKEN PERSONALITY

His words are smoother than oil and butter, sweeter than honey, and deadlier than a viper.

His intelligence mesmerizes you. His uses of vocabulary disables your senses. He sees that you are easily persuaded and he has invaded your soul.

His words are almost irresistible. Every word goes deeper and deeper into your soul and mind. So much so, that at night you can’t get his voice out of your mind. He lavishes you with words and you cannot get them out of your mind.

He has a way with words that could make you undress in a church service.

As Paul said in Romans 3:4, “…let God be true and every man a liar.”

Even when a pastor is preaching and living right, men are not to be trusted. Just as women come to church for the right and wrong reason, flesh cannot be trusted (see Jeremiah 17:5-10).

Just like the sign in most stores.

“In God we trust. All others pay cash.”

I find it rather disgusting that a man of God would preach his best sermon just to get through to your emotions, and then use his personality to talk you into the bedroom. Just as with rogue pastor Juan McFarland, AIDS infected, defrocked pastor of Shiloh Missionary Baptist Church in Montgomery, AL, had condom-less sex with multiple women on the church grounds.

Just thinking about this.

Even though McFarland has AIDS, he still might be capable of impregnating a woman. Not only are the women at an extreme risk of contracting the disease, they may have also been impregnated. The sad thing is that if they were impregnated, they might have aborted/murdered the child to falsely erase the stigma of being impregnated by an AIDS infected pastor.

While we may never know unless they report that they were impregnated, this is alleged, not confirmed.

He does have YouTube videos of his sermons and it reminded me of the times I was in sexual sin with porn and masturbation. The messages he was preaching had no life. Unregenerate pastors that live in sin is like listening to a shell. There is no life in them. There’s 50% of pastors that’s involved with porn and masturbation that preach the same way. So deep in Secret and Overt Sexual Sins that no one is getting the life of the Holy Spirit. Men that claim to be men of God will emotionally preach their messages because there is no Spirit of God upon him.

God will not place His anointing on a man in sin.

In Israel, when Hannah cried out to the Lord for a son, God used her cry to bring judgment on the nation. Samuel was born and Hannah, as vowed, gave him to the Lord. The sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas perverted the temple and Eli refused to discipline his sons. The whole nation was in so much sexual immorality that the Lord had to exercise judgment.

Hophni, his name has the meaning of a pugilist” and Phinehas means “mouth of a serpent.”

Hophni was possibly a rapist and Phinehas was a smooth talker.

Whenever a man uses words to convince you to commit sexual immorality, you are not talking to a man but to a serpent called the demon of lust.

If you do not get away from him, it is just a matter of time, because he will work on you until you give in.

While the demographics are different in certain localities, many women gravitate to houses of worship that is close as possible. But they also go to places where they feel the Spirit.

If the preacher is good looking, married or not, women will still show up. This is the other side of the issue.

Married preachers are supposed to be off limits, but it doesn’t matter these days.

His outspoken personality is coupled with his wardrobe. His robe or suit could also be used as part of the attraction. His position of power and influence is part of the attraction. Like most animals in the animal world, what they build and how they fight for females is an attraction.

In the pulpit, it is no different.

So how do you avoid this?

Find a local church that lives and preaches the Word of God, preaching and living in holiness, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

If you are single, divorced, or having marital problems, find a church where there is considerable distance from eye contact with a married or single pastor. If you are seeking counseling, you should find a church that have qualified female ministers that can handle your counseling needs.

Should a pastor call you to have you come over to the church, do not go.

Decline the invitation.

If it is just to do church work, never go alone.

Make sure that you bring a friend or relative with you and do not go into places alone with him. Avoid the appearance of evil at all times. Never cross lines that will be regrettable later. The shame and stigma is still applied these days, regardless of how acceptable fornicating or sleeping with a pastor becomes.

Time in the sack is not worth a trip to hell over, for as Paul said, Be not deceived. …..neither fornicators or adulteress……will inherit the kingdom of God.”

If you do not want to be labeled as the church harlot, do what you have to do to avoid the smooth talking demon pastor. 

First, read the statements from Tye Tribbett and then we will look at what the Bible said.

This is from S2SMagazine.com.

“Tye Tribbett shared his views on homosexuality in the April 2014 issue, and he wants to re-address statements made on the controversial issue.

“I don’t condemn homosexuals,” Tye clarified to Sister 2 Sister. “The Bible speaks against [homosexuality], but homosexuals—the person—I don’t condemn.

The award-winning, highly energetic gospel artist received some criticism for the views expressed in his Q&A with S2S Publisher Jamie Foster Brown.

Tye, who equated homosexuality with other things that can come natural to some, like a 2-year-old lying about eating a cookie, said he intended to make a hypothetical comparison.

While some were outraged by Tye’s comments, which many found compassionate towards those with same-sex tendencies, others appreciated his point of view.

Wrote one S2Smagazine.com user: “[T]hank you for your comment. As a BELIEVER, I was delivered from the homosexual lifestyle, also from sexually immoral relationships outside of marriage. YES, we are…calling it love. That is not love. WHY IS EVERYONE so afraid [to say] what GOD says about certain behaviors?”

Let’s be very clear.

The moment we fail to use Scripture, quote Scripture, and apply Scripture, we twist the Scripture to suit our thinking.

First, God is the Author of the Bible.

Jesus is the Word of God, the Author and Finisher of our faith.

Isaiah 55:8-9 says,  “For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways,
And My thoughts than your thoughts.”

So the Lord God is telling man that My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor your ways My ways.”

In other words, you do not accept My thoughts, or My ways.

We accept and push our ways and thoughts and outright reject and suppress His thoughts and ways.

If we did accept His thoughts and ways, then we would quote what His thoughts are and walk in His ways.

Then we would tell others what His thoughts and ways are without hesitation.

Here is the thoughts of God on homosexuality.

Leviticus 18:19-29 “Also you shall not approach a woman to uncover her nakedness as long as she is in her customary impurity. Moreover you shall not lie carnally with your neighbor’s wife, to defile yourself with her. And you shall not let any of your descendants pass through the fire to Molech, nor shall you profane the name of your God: I am the Lord. You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination. Nor shall you mate with any animal, to defile yourself with it. Nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it. It is perversion.

“Do not defile yourselves with any of these things; for by all these the nations are defiled, which I am casting out before you. For the land is defiled; therefore I visit the punishment of its iniquity upon it, and the land vomits out its inhabitants. You shall therefore keep My statutes and My judgments, and shall not commit any of these abominations, either any of your own nation or any stranger who dwells among you (for all these abominations the men of the land have done, who were before you, and thus the land is defiled), lest the land vomit you out also when you defile it, as it vomited out the nations that were before you. For whoever commits any of these abominations, the persons who commit them shall be cut off from among their people.”

Romans 1:18-32 “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because what may be known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead,

so that they are without excuse, because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man — and birds and four- footed animals and creeping things.

Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.

For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil- mindedness; they are whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful; who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them.”

Like Paul Washer said, To those that say “Judge not! I say Twist not!”

Don’t twist the Scriptures to fit what you think because what you think is not consistent with what God said.

The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah is further evidence that God poured His wrath out to underscore His deliberate holiness.

Sin will not go unpunished, otherwise God is not just. Besides, He created us and not we ourselves (see Psalm 100).

The next question that we must ask ourselves is that did God change His mind?

Psalm 119:89 says, “Forever, O Lord, Your word is settled in heaven.”

Malachi 3:6 says, “I am the Lord, I change not.”

Matthew 24:35 says, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away.”

Hebrews 6:17-18 says, “Thus God, determining to show more abundantly to the heirs of promise the immutability of His counsel, confirmed it by an oath, that by two immutable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we might have strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold of the hope set before us.”

James 1:17 says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.”

So because the Bible consistently showed that the mind of the Father and the mind of the Son didn’t change.

So why do we attempt to change God and His Word?

The answer is found in Isaiah 55:8-9.

HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT NATURAL.

Paul, by the Holy Spirit said, “For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.”

If homosexuality was natural, then God would have created males to suit one another in the Garden, and a woman would not have been necessary. Then homosexuals would be exempt from the judgment and wrath of God. They would also be exempt from the Gay Man’s Disease now called HIV/AIDS.

SIN WAS CONDEMNED IN THE FLESH OF JESUS.

Romans 8:3 says, “For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, on account of sin: He condemned sin in the flesh,”

Get this. On account of sin, He (the Lord God) condemned sin the flesh. The wrath of God was poured out on His Son. The Perfect God, took sin and placed sin on the Only Perfect Man able to handle the sin of the whole world.

SINFUL MAN IS CONDEMNED ALREADY.

JOHN 3:18-21 says, “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.

For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”

It is the Scriptures that tell us that man is condemned when they do not believe, therefore, we must tell man that based on this Scripture, because they do not believe on the Lord Jesus, they are already condemned. If they should say that they believe but practice homosexuality, just point them to Matthew 7:21-23 and 1 John 3:6. Sin is lawlessness and the only payment for the penalty of sin is the Body and Blood of Jesus. Then they must repent, be born again by the Holy Spirit, and walk in unquestioned, devoted obedience to the teachings of the commandments of Jesus.

As long as Tye Tribbett fails to use the Scriptures as explained above, he (and sympathizers of sin) do “greatly err, not knowing the Scriptures.”

Pastors? Are you examining your mental and spiritual walk before God? Are you having difficulty in your marriage? If your marriage is fine, are you still lusting for Suzy sitting in the front row of the service? Are you in prayer on a regular daily basis for you and not for sermons? Are you avoiding the easy pitfalls of sight lust? Are you falling for women in the house of prayer instead of falling on your knees in love of and for God? Are you avoiding your accountability partner to have that regular meeting to inspect your heart and mind?

IF any of these questions have bothered you, then it is time for introspection.

Introspection means “the examination or observation of one’s own mental and emotional processes:”

For the women, it’s not always the ones in the red dresses that are the harlots.

I am firmly aware that there are pastors that take advantage of emotionally unstable women, but just because women are vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they have a right to cross the line into sexual sins. Being human is not a good excuse to sin. You just do not throw away God’s righteousness by grace and your personal discipline for immoral sex with any man or woman, let alone, a pastor.

Eternity in hell is too long to think about why you couldn’t discipline yourself.

Note well what Paul said, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.

Flee sexual immorality.

Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

Since the Pastor Juan McFarland debacle, it is safe to say that what Pastor Paul Washer said is true.

There are unregenerate people in the pews and the pulpit.

Jude 4 says “For certain men have crept in unnoticed, who long ago were marked out for this condemnation, ungodly men, who turn the grace of our God into lewdness and deny the only Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Instead of repenting of sexual sins, sexual sins is permitted. This is lewdness. And while doing so, they deny the Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ. In other words, they deem their Lordship null and void. Sin is permissible and God is happy with it because that’s who you are. You teach this to the people and they are happy with it too.

These pastors are posing as if they know the Lord but they practice lawlessness.

There are harlots and perverted pastors that say that they love God, claim to even know the Lord, yet, they practice the very sin that Jesus died on the cross for. True conversion takes place when repentance and obedience to the teachings of the commandments of Jesus is employed.

The harlots are in the house of the Lord.

Proverbs 6:26 says, “For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.”

Strong’s Concordance defines a harlot as “(highly- fed and therefore wanton); to commit adultery (usually of the female, and less often of simple fornication, rarely of involuntary ravishment); figuratively, to commit idolatry.”

In essence, by a prostitute, because the verse above notes, that “a man is reduced to a piece of bread…”

Why?

A foolish man will spend all he has to have sex with a harlot and will only have enough money left to buy a piece of bread.

The older brother of the prodigal son stated plainly that when the younger son went out, he spent his inheritance on prostitutes.

The local churches across the nation has the doors open for the harlots and the pulpits have some perverted pastors.

So it is not all one sided.

They do not represent the church. They represent sinners that never made a deliberate commitment to the Lord. They are servants of the house of satan. When they come to church, their plan is to find a target and trip them up.

Sanctified pastors must quickly identify the harlots. Married pastors must pay attention. Wives of pastors must doubly pay attention. Everything is not as innocent as one thinks. Every subtle, innocent move is designed to get you to drop your guard. Once your guard is down, they will make their move. By the time you feel the blade, it’s too late.

Then there is the porn and masturbating pastor that never entered into deliverance, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. These are the ones that get into trouble and entertain the next step of acting out.

A female or male body.

1. The dress of a harlot.

Proverbs 6:10 “And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.”

There is nothing that is left to the imagination. She could be wearing a simple, but overtly curvaceous dress. Or tight hugging pants. It could be the blouse that is just a bit too revealing or worldly that may cause the eyes to explore the cleavage. It could be the hair. It could be the jewelry. It could be the crossed legs in stilettos on the front pew. It could be a high skirt.

In the OT, the harlots wore items so that they are distinguished.

Harlots are crafty in the heart and plan well in advance what to wear so that it instantaneously catches the prey’s attention. Like mice sniffing for cheese, a man’s eyes will travel to “investigate” because according to Dr. William Struthers, a man is wired for sex. His mind and his eyes are connected. Once he sees what he likes, the mind will further investigate.

How?

Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

The next thing that happens is that the preacher is no longer concentrating on God, but as planned, the bait is too much to ignore. As like with all mice that sniffs out its meal, the next step is to eat. Not all women plan to do this but just watch what the unregenerate women wear each week. If you see a serious pattern, it’s an attempt on your life.

2. A crafty heart.

The craftiness of a harlot is found in Proverbs 6:24-25 “To keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

A pastor must know that for a house harlot, every move is planned.

Their beauty is the bait. The flattery is to disarm you. Her eyelids are accenting her and like Morse Code, they signal sex.

Many pastors, especially married pastors will not see it coming, but the wife does.

That’s why the pastor must learn to run like Joseph and leave his coat in the hand of the harlot.

If Joseph didn’t run when he did, the fate of the nation of Israel would have been jeopardized.

Pastor, if you are having marital problems, solve them quickly. Because it is at this point that the enemy strategically sends the harlot right into the house of worship. The devil sends the harlots even when the marriage is tight.

Pastors, do your “due diligence.”

Do a thorough check up on you walk before God. But you need a set of objective eyes on you that could see if you are not up to par spiritually. It is very easy to mask our lack of personal passion for the Lord. In the pulpit, it is very easy to assume that you have it all together. If you are really honest, you would say that you don’t.

Preaching on fire for God is different than living on fire for God.

3. Learn the art of running.

Genesis 39:11-13 says “But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, “ Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside. And so it was, when she saw that he had left his garment in her hand and fled outside,”

The real lesson begins with never find yourself in compromising positions.

Had he known not to be left alone, it would not have been necessary for Joseph to run. However, he did the next best thing.

He ran.

The dream God gave you is much bigger than an immoral woman.

Learn well Proverbs 11:22.

“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”

When an immoral woman is after you for one thing, just remember this Proverb.

When multiple women are willing to fornicate or commit adultery with their pastor, whether he made sexual advances or you are a temple prostitute, you have been reduced to the gold ring in the snout of a pig and you lack discretion.

So pastor?

Are you in Christ or are you a son of Belial?